Overcoming Those Quite Habits

February 25, 2013
St. Jerome Studying and Commenting on the Word

St. Jerome Studying

Sometimes you just sort of start doing something without realizing it is becoming a new habit. I rise early so that I can read either from the Word or from writers who can teach me about the Word. Have my coffee. Meditate. Write. And then I’m ready for the day.

But…the first thing I do when coming downstairs is head for the front door and pick up the morning paper. Then I scan the first couple of sections while my coffee is brewing. Then I sit down and finish the paper. Then there went 15-20 minutes. Gone. Most of the “news” is “olds” by the time I read it in the paper. Except maybe for some sports scores. And I read some of the comics. Sometimes I find I’ve read a column or article or two that were just mindless entertainment.

I’ve become distracted. Lost some of my precious time. It’s not that I’m so Puritan that I don’t believe in entertainment. I watch the TV series “Elementary” most every week. Sometimes I watch European soccer–but that’s partly also learning more about the game and how referees manage the game. Partly entertainment and partly learning.

Pope Benedict XVI (What do we call him Friday? Back to Joseph Ratzinger? When you’re not Catholic, it makes for a quandary.) gave a series of talks on the early Church Fathers. Looking at St. Jerome, he quotes:

“It will be difficult for you to correct those things to which you are quietly habituating yourself.”

Those are the most insidious of the habits. You didn’t consciously choose to start that habit. You didn’t consciously choose to keep it up. You just sort of fell into it and then just sort of do it.

But the genius of being human is the power to reflect. If you stop occasionally and look back at your life and habits, you can actually realize what you’re doing and then make that conscious choice to change. To develop a new habit to replace that unconscious one.

What new habit do you need to develop today?

Love Is Something You Do

February 21, 2013

I have growing appreciation for John’s (the apostle) Greek usage. I don’t speak or read Greek, so I rely on experts. A few months ago I learned where John made up a Greek word to describe faith (as “leaning toward”).

This week I was listening to a speaker (now this may have been Jesus’ use of Aramaic, which also I don’t speak) who talked about a command Jesus left us recorded in John where he changed a noun into a verb. “Love one another,” he said.

You are not in love; you do love.

There is an old Christian folk song, “Love is something you do; love is something you do. Not always something that you feel, but it’s real.”

Modern psychological researchers have discovered something that Jesus already knew. In fact, it’s also ancient wisdom. Actions come first, feelings follow. Even if you don’t feel loving, your actions will lead you to be loving.

What cost is a smile? No matter how you feel. When your smile is reflected back to you, your spirits are lifted.

When you serve others–maybe just opening a door for a harried mother, or buying a meal for someone, or giving your coat to a homeless person–that loving feeling follows.

Now let’s go out and live into Jesus’ command. Love others.

Relax Into Focus and Awareness

February 20, 2013
Balance requires focus and relaxation.

Balance, focus, awareness, relaxation

“Try easy.” Have you ever attended a seminar led by one of those self-help, motivation, time management speakers? The first one I ever heard was in the late 70s. This was his mantra.

Yesterday I wrote about focus. Last night as I was teaching Tree Pose (see picture, it’s not me) to some new people at Yoga class, I thought about the paradoxes. New people will be trying so hard to balance. They think it’s very hard to do. They try hard. Where is the foot? Where are the hands? Stare at my spot.

And I was reminded. You have to relax.

Still the mind as you focus on your spot. Use your mind to scan your body (awareness) looking for places where you are holding tension. Release the tension. Make sure your breathing is easy and normal. Count breaths (that’s how you know how long to hold the pose). The key to balance is focus with awareness of your body and relax into the pose.

Sometimes we try so hard that we just cannot succeed. We actually lose focus by trying so hard to focus.

By the way, you don’t have to have the shape of the model in that picture to successfully hold Tree Pose. We have shall we say “larger” men and women who can hold Tree for 10-15 breaths in my class. I have actually learned to hold the pose focusing on my stable spot all the while using peripheral vision to watch all the people in class so that I can go to someone and help if necessary. But I have to achieve the relaxed awareness state of mind.

Try relaxing your mind and body and discover that your focus and attention on the task at hand improves.

 

The Power of Focus

February 19, 2013

The sign on the wall proclaims “Midvale School for the Gifted.” Nerdly looking boy, glasses, pocket protector, lots of books, pushing diligently on the door. Door has sign, “Pull to Open.”

That’s a classic Far Side cartoon. I love it. I speak a little German. Can’t carry a conversation, but I can pick up the gist of a discussion if I know the topic. I know many of the words it takes to get around–buy beer, find the restrooms, get directions. I also know the words for push and pull. But there is this one hotel in particular where I go up to the doors leading to the restrooms and just stare at the sign.

I’ve lost focus.

Anything like that ever happen to you? You  stare at something but nothing sinks in? Or as one joke has it, “the lights are on, but nobody’s home.”

Pope Benedict XVI did a series of discussions on the early “church fathers” collected in a book by Ignatius press, “Church Fathers: From Clement of Rome to Augustine.”

Discussing Origen of Alexandria, he points out when preaching on Jesus’ discourse in Nazareth, when “the eyes of all in the synagogue were fixed on him,” Origen says, “Today, too, if you so wished, in this assembly your eyes can be fixed on the Savior. In fact, it is when you turn the deepest gaze of your heart to the contemplation of Wisdom, Truth and the only Son of God that your eyes will see God.”

The supreme danger of practicing Spiritual Disciplines is exactly that moment when you take your eyes off Jesus and practice just for the sake of practicing.

Focus is the most basic of practices for us to follow. It is essential for your spiritual development. It is essential in business. It is essential for your  personal relationships. Focus on Jesus. Focus on your customers. Focus on the others with whom you are in relationship.

Visit The Spiritual Gym Daily

February 18, 2013

I almost always write these meditations just before I go to the gym for a workout. I run and practice some Yoga strengthening poses. Before all that, I begin the day with some reading and meditation.

So, I hit both the Spiritual “gym” and the physical gym most every day. I dislike the days at conferences when I wind up with days that begin with 7 am breakfasts and end at 10:30 or later after dinner. Well, to be honest, I like the interaction. But it upsets my routines. I didn’t even pack my workout clothes last week. That meant that I could pack everything I needed for 3.5 days in a backpack. But it’s hard to squeeze in the workouts.

My last post discussed strengthening your Spiritual gifts. Reading in Hebrews 12 over the past few days, I was struck by two physical conditioning metaphors within just a few verses.

In verse 1, the writer says, “let us run with perseverance the race that is set before us.” Then in verse 12, “Therefore lift your drooping hands and strengthen your weak knees.”

These are references to athletic events. We are to strengthen our souls as well as our bodies. We do that through the practice of Spiritual Disciplines. Discipline meaning training and instruction for responsible living.

Just as our muscles don’t get toned without regular work outs, so our souls also need regular workouts.

Exercise Your Spiritual Gifts

February 15, 2013

What are your  Spiritual Gifts?

Notice, I didn’t ask “do you have” gifts. The answer to that is “yes.”

Aside from those dear people who know their gifts and are happily using them and from those who simply don’t care, I see two problems. Figuring out what our gifts are. Exercising those we have.

It is difficult for us to know ourselves. There are useful meditation techniques that help us step outside our bodies and give us a glimpse of how we actually are. Sometimes we so lack confidence that we convince ourselves that we have no gifts. Some over compensate for that feeling by forcing a supposed gift that really isn’t. Ever know someone not gifted for leadership who thinks he/she is?

Bill Hybels recently talked about experimenting. If you’re not sure what your Spiritual gift is, but you think it might be X, then go try it. Experiment and see. If it doesn’t feel right, or if you’re not having an impact, maybe that’s not your gift. Try again. Find a test. Ask others. Find your gift.

New Testament writers are fond of using the metaphor of athletic training. That must have been a popular illustration in the Greek of the time. After finding your gift, you must exercise it. But not in the sense of exercising your dog, which generally means just going for a walk. Look at that illustration as one of an athlete preparing for a competition. Test your limits. Do something daily to develop the gift. Read. Ask questions. Try. Then try some more.

It appears that I may be in a situation where I need to build a couple of teams. I’ve been reflecting on this. The important task for me is to determine the types of giftedness that the teams need in its various roles and then to find people with those gifts who are willing to join in the journey.

I’ll say more about those two journeys as they develop.

Meanwhile, what is your Spiritual Gift? What are you doing about it?

Endings and Beginnings

February 14, 2013

Some things come to an end. Some things begin.

I was at the United Club at Washington Dulles airport Monday when I glanced at the TV and saw the “breaking news” that Pope Benedict XVI was resigning. That is a revolutionary move for the Roman Catholic Church–and a bold move. But it is also honest. Some corporations require CEOs to retire at 65, thinking that above that a person is too old for the rigors of travel and decision-making required by the position. Benedict is 85. He has huge responsibilities. Hanging on when the body says it’s time to stop just for the sake of tradition seems heartless and selfish.

I am not Catholic, but over the years I have had many interfaces with the church. One year I taught in a Catholic school (English and history to 7th graders), attended Mass with the class twice a week, actually got to play guitar to accompany a Mass once. It was a great experience.

Benedict has a tremendous mind. He is a great theologian. If you want to read something to begin to understand Jesus, read “Jesus of Nazereth” (published when he was Joseph Ratzinger). That is a book that has greatly influenced me.

Henry Cloud’s recent book is “Necessary Endings.” I’ve taken that book to heart, too. Ended one professional relationship so that I could move on to another growth curve personally. Feels great.

Maybe there is something that you need to end–in order to create a new beginning. Maybe a destructive or unproductive habit. Maybe a career. Maybe a relationship.

A traditional Catholic told me this week, “But the Pope is ‘God on Earth.’ How can he just stop?” Since I’m not in the tradition, I have no answer. But I think the so-called conservative (how he was described in popular media when he was elected) proved to be pretty revolutionary. I have all the respect I can muster for him.

If You Don’t Listen, People Won’t Tell You Anything

February 13, 2013

Andy Stanley recently spoke on leadership and the value of listening. I consider listening a Spiritual discipline. The discipline of listening concerns both listening to God and listening to other people.

“If you are a leader and you don’t listen to others, then you will surround yourself with people who won’t talk.”

I am at a conference this week and am exploring new businesses doing things in new ways. So, after 10 years at one company, I have to first explain what directions I’m considering. Then I listen. In two days, I’ve accumulated more business ideas and potential income streams than I’d have ever imagined just sitting in my office at home. I can’t take notes fast enough.

[By the way, learners are note takers. I take notes everywhere. I always have a small pad or note cards and a pen.]

It’s the same way with God. If you listen, God is talking. Maybe not in a George Burns voice (like the movie), it may be a whisper like Bill Hybels explains. But God is there. Listen and take notes.

It’s the same way with teams you may be leading at church, at your non-profit organization, or at you workplace. If you listen, people will tell you. And you learn many things.

When you listen, listen completely, with your entire attention. In this way, you open yourself to new ideas.

What if Christians Really Followed Teachings On the Poor

February 12, 2013

Jesus taught that we should be feeding the poor. The story of his feeding of the 5,000 (men) appears in all four gospels. Late in Matthew’s story, Jesus said when we fed the poor, we fed him. James taught that if you say you believe and do not act it out in your life, your belief leads to nothing.

I’m in a small group that is discussing service and plotting how to actually serve. In my own life, I’m evaluating service opportunities. But while we were discussing ideas around collecting food for  the poor in our town, I was reminded of some thinking I have done for many years.

What if all the Christian churches followed Jesus’ teaching to feed the poor?

I’m thinking of just the USA right now, but it probably applies generally. If you do the math (number of people on welfare or number of those below poverty line divided by the number of churches), it is not an out-of-bounds thought to say that we could remove the state welfare system and do a much better job of caring for people.

I diverted a year of my life and went to graduate school in political science. Mostly I was interested in political philosophy, but I did a graduate seminar in public administration (or bureaucracy). Bureaucracy is driven by procedures and policies. It is not driven by care for people.

The miracle wouldn’t be feeding the people. The miracle would be all the Christian churches working together!

But, imagine, what if….

Watch Over the State of Your Heart

February 8, 2013

Jesus was always concerned with the state of a person’s heart. “Where is your heart?” he would ask.

Sometimes we form judgements of people, but we don’t really know where their heart is. That is a mistake.

I was thinking about this after lunch with a friend this week. We just sort of happened upon a conversation about the church Fathers. I mentioned Athanasius and his role at the founding of the Church as the official religion of the Roman Empire under Constantine. I had recently read a history of the time and was influenced about his role in the development of the primacy of doctrine over experience.

But my friend, who has studied far more than I, looked puzzled and said, “But St. Athanasius was most concerned about what was in your heart.”

Looks like I have some studying to do. Went against my longstanding belief of learning–study original sources and the original writers before reading about them. When I was in the university, it always seemed like we read about people instead of reading their actual words.

Then I thought we often form judgements about people today based on hearing about them, or seeing how they look. We are influenced by others instead of forming our own judgement based on listening to the other in their own words and determining the state of their heart.

While you are at it, watch over the state of your own heart. Spiritual practices are worthless if your heart is somewhere else. Make sure your own heart is right with God, then you are in better shape to look at others.