What’s Your Big Thing for 2013?

February 7, 2013

Andy Stanley recently spoke on “what’s your big thing for 2013.” For the past year or so, I’ve been increasingly sensing a call for change. Seems like so much of my reading has been evolving in that direction. Especially Henry Cloud’s “Necessary Endings.”

There are things I want to create and new ideas to explore–both within the writing I’ve been doing here, which I wish to expand and in the profession that pays my bills. Not to mention I’ve had on my heart a sense of needing a new ministry of some sort.

So, last month I decided that it was time. After 10 years with the magazine I helped start, it was time to change. I needed a new focus and time to create. So, I have “retired” from active management. I’ll be pursuing some new ideas–some of which I hope will pay my bills 😉

A friend kept advising me to pray intentionally for people to enter my life. Amazingly, within 24 hours three people called me with ideas! So, I teach you all to pray in this site, then I do it myself. Teach the teacher.

I can now devote a little larger part of the day to developing this publication. Notice right away that I finally got around to mapping my domain name to the site. You can still do the “faithventure.wordpress.com” thing, but I now have a standalone name on the Web, “faith-venture.com”.

Now–onward to actually writing the book I’ve been outlining in my head for a year. And more conversations with all of you. That’s my big thing for 2013. What about you?

Excellence Is A Habit

February 6, 2013

“You are what you repeatedly do. Excellence, therefore, is not an act but a habit.” The Greek philosopher Aristotle wrote that 350 years before Jesus.

I started thinking about this thought in relation to Spiritual practices. Part of the idea of learning the different practices (study, prayer, meditation, service, celebration, worship and so forth) is to bring them into your life and make the practice of them a habit. Something you do regularly without stopping to wonder what you do next.

One of my small groups has been studying the letter to the Hebrews. That writer is most concerned about people who join the fellowship and then gradually slip away. The Willow Creek Association conducted a massive research project (we live in the scientific age, after all) that discovered that people get themselves out of the spiritual doldrums through developing an intentional Spiritual practice–most often beginning with immersing themselves in the study of the Word.

The writer of Hebrews said, “Do not, therefore, abandon that confidence of yours; it brings a great reward. For you need endurance, so that when you have done the will of God, you may receive what was promised.”

What habits have you slipped into this year, so far? Have you begun getting up a little earlier so that you can read and meditate? Have you been intentional looking for ways to serve? Is it time to develop a new habit?

I think Aristotle assumed that we would develop good habits that lead to excellence. I keep working on mine.

Trust Is Key Leadership Practice

February 5, 2013

Would you follow the leadership of someone who is consistent, has a consistent message, who keeps confidentialities? Or a micro-manager who manipulates, cannot make a decision, is emotionally volatile?

The second (and last, really) good point Simon Sinek makes in his book “Start with Why” is the value of trust.

He uses two stories from the airline industry–Herb Kelleher of Southwest Airlines and Gordon Bethune of Continental (now United). He also uses the examples without the irony of time.

Kelleher posited the notion “that it is the company’s responsibility to look after the employees first. Happy employees ensure happy customers, he said. And happy customers ensure happy shareholders–in that order.”

Bethune shared that notion. When he became CEO in 1994, he said, “I could see Continental’s biggest problem the second I walked in the door. It was a crummy place to work. You can’t have a good product without people who like coming to work.”

And Bethune succeeded. (Note: I fly Continental/United, in fact I’m Premier Platinum this year.) The company’s performance improved dramatically and it was a good enough place to work that a loyal passenger like me noticed.

But… The board of directors eventually decided that they needed a cost cutter CEO and moved Bethune to retirement and brought in a finance guy (I call them “bean counters”) Larry Kellner. It didn’t take an entire year for him to begin to reverse all the policies and attitudes that made Bethune successful. He was succeeded by a mergers and acquisitions attorney Jeff Smisek when the board moved toward a merger/acquisition with United–a failed airline that was as bad as Bethune’s “crummy place to work.” And Smisek drove employee attitudes further down. Although neither could succeed in making it as bad as United.

Trust takes time to build. It can be destroyed in an instant.

When you are building a team in your church, parish or organization, better to study Bethune and Kelleher (same story with Sam Walton and his successors, by the way).

And for Biblical inspiration, study Nehemiah. He was a leader.

Why Do You Work For God

February 4, 2013

Great leaders inspire by communicating why the organization exists. So says Simon Sinek in his book, “Start With Why: How Great Leaders Inspire Everyone To Take Action.” Actually the book is surprisingly poorly written–should have been an article, rather than a book. Or, yet, it’s better as a short talk–as his appearance at the TED Talks generated millions of views.

His idea is insightful. Why do you work in the church? In fact, why do you work anywhere? If you are a leader in your church, why does your function exist?

I was reflecting on Paul’s letters–yep, all of them. He was the consummate organizer. Think about it. He had a “why”.

Micromanaging kills enthusiasm. Just filling a spot in a program kills enthusiasm. Just heard a story about a many who was moved by guilt and other manipulative tactics to take on leadership of a children’s class at church. He really didn’t like working with kids. He really wasn’t a teacher. Although a successful businessman, he failed miserably as a children’s teacher. He didn’t have a “why”, just a “what” that was filling a spot and reading the curriculum.

This week, define your why. If it doesn’t inspire, find something that does.

Pray With Intention

February 1, 2013

We talked about praying to God with concerns without giving Him the solution. We need to trust that God knows the solution. He just needs us to lay out the concern. Focus our attention in the Spirit on the need.

A small group I participate with when I’m in town is studying James. We just hit chapter 5 where James talks about praying for others and ourselves.

One of the guys, who has also shared with me alone the same thought, brought up about praying with intention. We talk about being able to share in Spiritual conversations wherever you may be whenever the door opens. He had decided to visit a local bar and prayed with intention for God to bring someone into his life with whom to share a Spiritual conversation.

And, so it happened.

Interesting. There are several things happening in that story. There is trust in God. There is the vision to actually ask God. Then there is the response–he actually had to get up out of his easy chair, tell his wife he was going to a local bar (that could be the end of it for me–just kidding), and have the courage to sit there and then respond to someone’s need.

As he encouraged me, I prayed with intention for God to just bring people into my life. I’m looking at some life changes, so it seemed timely advice. Amazing. I had two conversations the other afternoon in the space of three hours where two people came into my life with answers to things that had burdened my heart for months.

Why wait so long? It is true. As part of your daily (or three-times-a-day) prayers, concentrate on asking God to bring people into your life. Of course, then you have to be open to these people. And you may have to go to work.

Why Do We Work For Something

January 31, 2013

You volunteer to work for an organization–say a church or charity. You work somewhere to earn money to live. If you are a leader, especially of a church or charitable organization, you find yourself constantly recruiting to fill positions.

One of the talks I listened to while working out this week was by a senior pastor of a large church. He was talking about some techniques a pastor might use to recruit people to fill positions in the church. He might use guilt, for example. Or peer pressure.

Then I had another conversation this week about church leadership. She told me that she’s discovered that church leaders must begin with a foundation in the Holy Spirit. Only then can you feel called to serve. She was on to something. Manipulation only works in the short term and eventually breeds an environment of people doing what they don’t want to do only out of a sense of being talked into it. Not much moving of the Spirit there.

I have begun reading Simon Sinek’s book, “Start With Why: How Great Leaders Inspire Everyone To Take Action.” I’ve watched his TED Talk. It’s powerful. Last night I read, “There are a few leaders who chose to inspire rather than manipulate in order to motivate people.”

His emphasis seemed to be on “a few” as in “not many” or “not nearly enough.”

Manipulation may be conscious or it may be just a person’s life orientation. Maybe the leader doesn’t know why, either. Sinek talks about What an organization does (which most people know), How an organization does What (which many people know), and Why an organization exists (which few people seem to know and can articulate).

A friend of mine recently wrote on his blog asking why people join professional associations.

I’d ask in this context, Why do you volunteer for church or charity work? When you recruit and lead, do you know Why your organization does what it does? Can you be passionate about doing what you do if you don’t know Why?

Adding Structure to Your Life And Your Kids

January 30, 2013

Structure is very important to how I live. I organize myself around it. That’s why I appreciate the Spiritual Disciplines (or Spiritual Practices). That’s why I practice rising early every morning and encourage others to do the same.

I often discuss structure in the life of kids. Beginning from just days old, kids need structure. They need to know boundaries. They need to know “yes” from “no”. They need a certain regularity. My daughter is a therapist who works with kids. She deals with the result of lack of structure many times a day.

Here is another TED Talk. Chris Anderson, the founder of the TED Talks, calls them “Ideas worth sharing.” I agree, so I’m sharing this talk from Colin Powell, “Kids Need Structure.” He’s the retired Army general and former US Secretary of State. He rose from rebellious kid to the top of his profession. Worth 10 minutes of your time. And if it causes you to help a kid grow, then it’s priceless.

Just Let God Know the Need

January 29, 2013

One of the many things I read every day is 300 Words a Day by Jon Swanson. He is really grounded in daily life with interesting insights. The other day he wrote about someone coming to him with a problem–logistics about a church program. He wrote:

“I needed to separate the need she had from the solutions she offered. Once the need was clear, the best solution would come. I suppose this could be a lesson about teamwork and collaboration. but for me it’s a lesson about prayer. Too often I tell God the solution, and wonder why I don’t get my way. When I let him know the need and wait, solutions I never imagined appear.”

He is so right. Don’t we all have this problem of praying to God for a specific solution? I’ve been attempting to just lay out the situation for God in my prayers. I’m pictorial in thinking (even though I write for a living, go figure). So, when I am praying for others or for me, I just enter quietly into God’s presence and picture the person or event. Just lay it out there for God.

And, yes. I have received many solutions–and still am today. About lots of stuff. And I’ve seen changes in the lives of people that I lay before God–not praying for a solution or even that “cop out” phrase according to your will. I know that God will work in the situation and the proper solution will happen.

The coolest thing is that I rest in the confidence that God knows the solution. I don’t have to be his boss.

Story of Ending Domestic Violence

January 28, 2013

In this TED Talk, Leslie Morgan Steiner describes what it’s like to be in an abusive relationship and how she ended it. Share this with anyone you think may be in such a relationship, or who may know someone who is in such a relationship. Obviously, it will be hard for someone to become close to God while living in such circumstances.

Leslie Morgan Steiner, Why Domestic Violence Victims Don’t Leave

Causes Have Effects On Our Lives

January 25, 2013

Paul wrote in his letter to the Romans, “The wages of sin is death.”

When I hear that, my mind pictures one of those hardhearted, judgmental types of people who aggressively invade your space and tell you you’re going to Hell.

Actually, I think he was trying to say that “what we sow, therefore shall we reap.” Jesus taught also about causes and effects in our lives.

We could call it the eventual burning in Hell with images evoked from Dante or Renaissance paintings. Better to think of it as the hell we live in if we don’t pay attention to causes and effects.

In America, many writers are exploring the increasing income divide  between rich and middle class-to-poor people. I wish to discuss neither economics or politics. Rather, I recently saw a talk where a graph was displayed showing the correlation of the decline of marriage and growth of economic inequality.

The decline of stable marriages with two partners pulling together has had disastrous effect on the quality of many lives. Life becomes a struggle, which you have to face alone–or with children mixed in a family where each have different parents. Years of political and economic policies along with business decisions to drive down wages makes it mandatory to have two incomes to live a middle class lives. Saw this coming in the late 80s. Now we have it full on.

I remember still being a rebellious adolescent. “You’re not going to tell me what to do. I don’t need those conservative structures.”

It’s not about conservative or liberal. We grow and observe with increased clarity. What  we sow, so shall we reap. Some confuse freedom–much like the so-called prodigal son. He squandered his inheritance–in the Greek his essence, his very being.

Responsibility, marriage, commitment. These are not conservative words. They are not slavery words. They are growth words. Only from a strong foundation can we grow into the peace of Christ. I think that this is a Spiritual practice that helps us toward ultimate freedom of a with-God life.