Archive for the ‘Living’ Category

Are You An Important Person

February 27, 2018

Are you an important person?

According to this article in Big Think, “the answer you give may indicate to psychologists how narcissistic you are. And on a societal level, the answer people give is changing. In 1963, when adolescents were asked if they considered themselves important, only 12% answered affirmatively. 30 years later, that percentage had risen to 80.”

“Narcissfism is on the rise in modern Western societies and scientists are trying to figure out why. Some hypothesize that individual narcissism follows from the culture someone lives in: the more individualistic the culture, the more narcissistic people tend to be.”

A chance to study the effects of culture came with the reunification of Germany. Researchers questioned people from each side of the Wall.
“The results showed that the participants from former West Germany scored higher on narcissistic grandiosity compared with the participants from former East Germany, even after controlling for gender and age. Interestingly, however, individuals from former East Germany had higher self-esteem than those from West Germany. This demonstrates that narcissism and self-esteem are not the same thing.”

The researchers point out that:

Self-esteem, defined as global evaluation of the self, is related to narcissism. However, recent data provide evidence that narcissism differs from self-esteem in various domains. Narcissism and high self-esteem both include positive self-evaluations, but the entitlement, exploitation, sense of superiority, and negative evaluation of others that are associated with narcissism are not necessarily observed in individuals with high self-esteem.

I observe narcissistic behavior often. In others, of course. 😉 There are ways we can improve ourselves. “Developing mindfulness, honoring your promises, respecting other people’s space, needs and desires, as well as facilitating the process of self-acceptance and forgiveness are all good practices to start with.”

Don’t Rest On Your Laurels

February 12, 2018

Søren Kierkegaard–The path of an honest fighter is a difficult one. And when the fighter grows cool in the evening of his life this is still no excuse to retire into games and amusement. Whoever remains faithful to his decision will realize that his whole life is a struggle. Such a person does not fall into the temptation of proudly telling others of what he has done with his life. Nor will he talk about the “great decisions” he has made. He knows full well that at decisive moments you have to renew your resolve again and again and that this alone makes good the decision and the decision good.

Who have been people older than you that you respect?

Probably not people full of pride. Nor people who boast of supposed accomplishments.

Nor is there retirement from a life spent living with-God.

Kierkegaard was a precursor to the people we knew as existentialists. At university perhaps my favorite was Albert Camus, the French writer who gave us The Rebel. Playing off fellow French writer Descartes (“I think, therefore I am.”), Camus said, “I rebel, therefore I am.”

They saw humans as defining their lives through their major decisions–or maybe even decisions that we may have thought were minor but turned out to be major. “I’ll just have one little drink…”

There is no one decision and then coasting–an idea easily picked up from certain theologies. Life is a never-ending series of challenges and opportunities forcing us to make yet another decision.

But that is not Sisyphus continually pushing a stone. It’s life with-God.

God Is Not Hidden Nor Does He Hide His Wisdom

February 1, 2018

I have not spoken in secret or kept my purpose hidden. I did not require the people of Israel to look for me in a desolate waste. I am the Lord, and I speak the truth; I make known what is right. Isaiah 45:19, TEV

James, the brother of Jesus and the wisdom writer of the New Testament, advised us that we can just ask God for wisdom and he will provide.

Can it really be that easy? We don’t need a special spiritual guide to initiate us into a secret society where the hidden truths are finally revealed?

Digest the words from Isaiah. God didn’t (doesn’t) hide from us. We don’t have to search in remote places. No, we don’t have to go to Sedona, AZ at the right phase of the moon to find God.

We just need the intention–we ask with intention for wisdom. It is best to ask also for discernment so that we can apply wisdom correctly.

If we but ask God daily for guidance, we can perhaps avoid the problems and wasted life of Solomon. He who asked God for wisdom and had it granted, failed to live his life as a wise man would. I’ve just finished my annual reading of his wisdom sayings, the Proverbs. But look at his reflections of his life in Ecclesiastes. All was meaningless, he said, because he failed daily to follow God.

God was not hidden. He’s right here beside us willing to enter our life. We can have wisdom and live a life of wisdom if we but just open ourselves.

“I am the Lord, and I speak the truth; I make known what is right.”

Fill Your Mind And Your Life With the Good News

September 21, 2017

I return often to the teaching of what you fill your mind with will determine what sort of person you will become.

Therefore, I do not fill my mind on sensationalism in news or news with an agenda. Those are only designed to get your emotions worked up so that you’ll stay on channel and watch the ads. (I’m in the media, I know how it works.)

But I do fill my mind with good teaching. One of my favorites is John Ortberg. He is teaching on the Sermon on the Mount. A few months ago I spent some time in those early chapters of Matthew recently. Powerful teaching.

Ortberg asked where you get your news. It was a trick question. For Jesus told the people that he brought the Good News. And what was the Good News (gospel)?

The Kingdom of God was here.

We could, if we so chose, to live in the Kingdom of God. Right now. Right here.

Check out the Lord’s Prayer–“thy kingdom come, they will be done, on earth, as it is in heaven.”

This was not the kingdom of “things you gotta do to get to heaven.” It is the kingdom of how to live. Starting now. Even starting before you understand who Jesus is.

The Gospels teach us over and over how to live that life in the kingdom of God.

Yet, we over the centuries have perverted and turned upside down Jesus’ simple teaching. 

Say, “I’d like to live in the Kingdom of God and be a follower of Jesus.” Read the Sermon on the Mount. Try to live that kind of life that Jesus describes. 

You’ve switched citizenship from the world to God. And that’s a good thing. Even the Good News.

Think Of It As a Way of Living

September 19, 2017

Listening to a couple of guys chatting on a podcast about productivity sent me into my library to scan a good book I’ve read a couple of times–Essentialism by Greg McKeown.

The book is sort of an evangelistic message for helping us become more productive, more effective, and less stressed while doing it.

He talks about some classic things like learning to say no, focusing on what’s important, eliminating extraneous tasks and effort, watching your health, and the like.

But McKeown dropped this little gem on me:

Think of it as something you are. It is a different way–a simpler way–of doing everything. It becomes a lifestyle. It becomes an all-encompassing approach to living and leading. It becomes the essence of who we are.

I thought about this for a while.

Isn’t being a follower of Jesus like that?

It is not politics.

It is not singing a few songs with people we know and listening to a preacher once a week–most weeks.

It is not proving I’m better than someone else.

It is not about separating the sheep from the goats before the final judgement.

On the other hand…

It is following Matthew 25–feeding the hungry, healing the sick, visiting the prisoner.

It is like the “Good Samaritan.”

It is living out our spiritual gifts every day.

It is treating everyone we meet with respect and the love of God.

It is going the second mile.

It is becoming one with God just like our teacher was.

It is a way of life.

So That You May Lead Lives

September 13, 2017

“For this reason, since the day we heard it, we have not ceased praying for you and asking that you may be filled with the knowledge of God’s will in all spiritual wisdom and understanding, so that you may lead lives worthy of the Lord, fully pleasing to him, as you bear fruit in every good work and as you grow in the knowledge of God. May you be made strong with all the strength that comes from his glorious power,”
Paul writes these thoughts to the Colossians. 

In our rush to parse through the Bible in a rush to pull out rules that make us different (better) than others or in a rush to apply to politics, we miss the “so that.”

Why do we study, pray, meditate, grow in knowledge, spiritual wisdom and understanding?

So that, we may lead lives worthy of the Lord. What kind of life? Pleasing to God, bearing fruit in every good work, strong in character able to withstand those who are against us.

Thinking of descriptions such as compassion, joy, kindness, humility, patience.

What we know is only a foundation or a guide to living a better life. Paul, Jesus, James, Peter, the whole lot of them stretching back to Moses and all the prophets explain what that better way of living is. 

Yet, so many Christians miss that point. It is so sad. They miss the joy in the midst of their anger or pride.

For years I have made it my prayer that from the time I get up in the morning or when I leave the room after a study group that God will guide me to living a life pleasing in his sight.

If Only You Paid Attention To My Commands

August 14, 2017

If only you had paid attention to my commands, your peace would have been like a river, your well-being like the waves of the sea. Isaiah 48:18, NIV

We have been discussing Jesus’ discussion/debate with “the Jews” as John called the group of adversaries in the Temple.

Jesus kept telling them that God sent him and that what he had been teaching was directed by God. And Jesus said his truth would set us free.

So, I asked, what is free?

Free did not mean libertarianism–that I can do whatever I want, whenever I want, to whomever I want. That would be sort of an American response, right? I am free from constraint.

However, we would be hard pressed to prove that from Jesus’ words. He immediately begins talking about sin.

We can be free from a life as a slave to sin. Drifting from whim to whim, emotion to emotion. A life of feeling guilty and trying to drown that guilt with drugs, alcohol, sex, whatever.

We can be free to live with “peace like a river” and “well-being like the waves of the sea.

So, I asked, what is truth?

It’s not a proposition that I agree with and force others to agree with. It is a relationship with the living Jesus who lived, who died, who lived again.

We keep forgetting about living with God in relationship, not in fear of a God of eternal punishment if we don’t measure up to his rules.

An email came this morning with this quote from Isaiah. I like that thought. Sounds just like something Jesus said. Sounds like something I can live with.

And you?

Looking For God In All The Wrong Places

June 27, 2017

I am a Bible student. I don’t have, nor want, any advanced degrees in Bible. On the other hand, I’ve extensively read a variety of scholars over many years.

What am I reading for, you might ask. Good question.

While studying in the Gospel of John recently, this verse seemed printed in bold italics to me, “You search the Scriptures because you think that in them you have eternal life; it is these that testify about Me.”

Some traditions take the verse about keeping it on your mind so literally that they print the verse, but it in a little container, and strap it to their head so that it is “on their mind.”

Some people can quote the words of the scriptures extensively. Perhaps in that way, “the word is on their minds.”

I am sitting here in my hotel room at another conference writing this and trying to recall one time when Jesus quizzed someone about the words of Scripture. Perhaps the discussion about which is the greatest commandment.

Jesus seemed most interested in the condition of the heart. And he was concerned about how we live. He didn’t say, go and quote scriptures at people. He said, go and sin no more. Paul later tried to explain this in various ways be describing good behaviour or bad behaviour or listing for us the fruit of the spirit.

John wrote his gospel so that we could know who Jesus was.  It’s all about choosing the correct person to follow and then following well. You should search the gospel of John not to be able to quote, but to be as impacted by who Jesus was as John was.

For me, studying deepens my spiritual maturity. But it all began with experiencing God a long time ago. Why study? It’s one of the disciplines which all help us point toward the experience of God so that we may live a life freed from sin.

When The Power Goes Out

May 15, 2017

Very unusual in this part of the world–I awakened to more darkness than customary. Hmm, the power was out. No electricity.

My small electronic devices were OK. Cellular service was still functioning.

But no coffee.

No lights to read the newspaper by.

I could check some news. Post the day’s message to Facebook about the local coffee shop.

But I started thinking about power.

In physics, power is the rate of doing work. It is the amount of energy consumed per unit time.

It would be trite to start talking about God and power, I suppose.

But power is related to energy.

Our energy must be continually replenished.

How?

Connection with the spirit?

Proper rest?

Proper nutrition?

Enough exercise?

So far today, for me, it’s check, check, check. Time to go out and get moving.

Living In An Always On Video World

May 12, 2017

You lose your emotional balance. Start yelling and screaming at someone. You do it long enough for at least one person, perhaps more, to point their smart phone and click video / record. One Facebook post later, and 2 million people see what a jerk you are.

You step outside, and someone could be taking your picture. If you have caused anger in your significant other, even in your house you could be the subject of a new “film at 11” on the Web.

You would think that all this surveillance would make us behave better.

I wonder if Biblical writers such as John, who often wrote about light and dark and things we do in each, or James, or Paul even in their nightmares could envision the public exposure extending their thoughts about doing good.

The problem is that we see one video over and over and our brain starts to think this is a common occurrence. It isn’t. I just completed two trips–two continents, 10 different flight segments, five airports. Not one thing worth videoing. Darn, I’m not going to be famous (he said facetiously).

Someone asked me last night, wouldn’t it have been better for the person shooting the video to step up and try to be part of the solution? Sometimes we can’t. But I bet most of the time we can.

What if someone videoed us doing an act of kindness? Of being a calming influence when tempers start to kindle? Of preventing a friend or neighbor from becoming the next Internet Star?