Celebrate The Smallest Victories

September 18, 2025

We want to lose 50 lbs. We want to be fit. We want the spiritual formation of a saint. 

We want a lot, and we want it now.

I only lost a pound this week. How am I going to lose 50? Well, a pound a week for a year will net that 50 lbs. And that will signal a lifestyle change that will keep it off. Celebrate that pound a week.

I want to be fit, yet I can barely get out of my chair and walk across the room. Go outside and walk to the end of the drive and back. Every day. Then to the end of the block and back. Then pick up some beginning resistance training exercises. Not a lot, but a little a week. Maybe today you lift 5 lbs. By adding a little at a time, in a year, you could be lifting 20 lbs. or more. Celebrate each small victory.

I want to be one of those knowledgeable and spiritual people. Begin with 5 minutes a day. Open a Bible and read a paragraph. Meditate on that paragraph. Perhaps over the course of a month or two you can do 30 minutes a day. And everyday you find one little act of service for someone. Soon you’ll realize that you are a kinder and deeper person. Celebrate each small victory along the way.

Small victories that accumulate lead to changes of life. We become what we practice.

Social Media, Enough Is Enough

September 17, 2025

These posts are always 300 words or fewer. I’ve thought so much and read so much on this topic that I’ve written more of an essay than thought.

Wisdom from my friend James (the Apostle) who writes words of wisdom.

“You must understand this, my beloved: let everyone be quick to listen, slow to speak, slow to anger;”

And again, 

“How great a forest is set ablaze by a small fire! And the tongue is a fire. The tongue is placed among our members as a world of iniquity; it stains the whole body, sets on fire the cycle of nature, and is itself set on fire by hell. For every species of beast and bird, of reptile and sea creature, can be tamed and has been tamed by the human species, but no one can tame the tongue—a restless evil, full of deadly poison.”

I have read much and thought long about the event and aftermath of the shooting of political influencer Charley Kirk. I had no idea who he was having decided not to follow these political influencers of any ideology. I understand what happens inside me when my emotions are stirred. I prefer a broad and reasoned approach to learning.

Two people whose works I read published blurbs about a side of Kirk not aligned with his public persona. But it’s the public persona that counts. I have learned through study of history and through observation that people who exist by inciting base emotions in followers seldom end well.

But today we have something previous decades, centuries, and indeed millennia didn’t—the ability to spread opinions and videos widely and almost instantaneously.

Cal New port earned a PhD in computer science, has written several best selling books found on my bookcase (Deep Work, Digital Minimalism, Slow Productivity), and is faculty co-founder of the Georgetown University Center for Digital Ethics. He’s been writing on this topic for several years.

His recently  released a newsletter addressed many concerns that many have (including me).

Many of you have been asking me about the assassination of the conservative commentator Charlie Kirk earlier this week during a campus event at Utah Valley University. At the time of this writing, little is yet known about the shooter’s motives, but there have been enough cases of political violence over the past year that I think I can say what I’m about to with conviction…

This isn’t a one-off. It’s a situation encompassing some time.

Those of us who study online culture like to use the phrase, “Twitter is not real life.” But as we saw yet again this week, when the digital discourses fostered on services like Twitter (and Bluesky, and TikTok) do intersect with the real world, whether they originate from the left or the right, the results are often horrific.

He’s not pulling his punches here. And what do we learn?

This should tell us all we need to know about these platforms: they are toxic and dehumanizing. They are responsible, as much as any other force, for the unravelling of civil society that seems to be accelerating.

Since we know the evils of these platforms, why do they remain popular?

They tell a compelling story: that all of your frantic tapping and swiping makes you a key part of a political revolution, or a fearless investigator, or a righteous protestor – that when you’re online, you’re someone important, doing important things during an important time.

But the reality is…

But this, for the most part, is an illusion. In reality, you’re toiling anonymously in an attention factory, while billionaire overseers mock your efforts and celebrate their growing net worths.

What can we do?

After troubling national events, there’s often a public conversation about the appropriate way to respond. Here’s one option to consider: Quit using these social platforms. Find other ways to keep up with the news, or spread ideas, or be entertained. Be a responsible grown-up who does useful things; someone who serves real people in the real world.

To save civil society, we need to end our decade-long experiment with global social platforms. We tried them. They became dark and awful. It’s time to move on.

Enough is enough.

Arnold Newsletter

One of my sources for fitness and nutrition coaching comes from a team Arnold Schwarzenegger has assembled following his term as California’s governor. They publish the Pump Club newsletter and have an app. I use the app to track resistance training and nutrition.

Germane to this topic of social media is the carrier of said media—the smartphone.

They head one of the articles on this newsletter:

Having your smartphone nearby—even if you’re not using it—can reduce your brainpower.

Think that evil little thing is innocuous just lying on your desk?

Researchers examined if our phones drain more than just our attention when they buzz or light up. To test this, they conducted two experiments with nearly 800 smartphone users. Participants were asked to complete tests that required full attention and cognitive capacity—like problem-solving and memory tasks. The twist? Some participants had their phones placed on the desk, some had them in their pocket or bag, and others had them in another room.

I like the newsletter and app partly due to their reliance on real science.

Scientists found that the closer the phone was, the worse the performance. Those with their phones on the desk showed significantly reduced cognitive capacity compared to those whose phones were in another room. Even having the phone turned off and face down was not enough to prevent the drop.

It’s time for all of us, one-by-one, to leave the (un)social media behind. I deleted my Facebook and X (Twitter) apps a few years ago. I visit Facebook one time per day on my computer to wish friends a happy birthday and to see what’s happening in my community. I deleted the LinkedIn app. It’s getting almost as bad. I visit it once a day just to check in briefly—also on my computer.

We can all also be aware of the consequences of what we say—perhaps being a little kinder, more understanding, less vicious in our remarks.

Transactional or Relational

September 16, 2025

How do you interact with others?

Some people are transactional. They may be sales or management professionals. They may just be looking for something from others.

Some people are relational. They seek a deeper connection with others. Varying degrees of deep, of course. But something longer lasting.

Unanticipated Benefits

September 15, 2025

The Law of Unanticipated Results states that taking an action often yields results in an entirely different area.

Trying to be happy results in less happiness. Pursuing an activity that consumes your focus and creativity results in happiness.

The purpose of a beehive is not to make honey. Honey is a sweet unanticipated benefit of a healthy hive.

Intentionally pursuing a church growth strategy may build numbers (usually not). But it won’t make “honey.” A community excited about growing and serving attracts others who wish to grow and serve in an exciting community. 

How To Be

September 12, 2025

How to be kind, practice kindness.

How to be more spiritual, practice spiritual disciplines.

How to be more like Jesus, practice loving your neighbor.

When we choose our actions, we choose who we seek to become.

As we act, so we become.

(Still thinking about how Paul led us into forming our spiritual life in his Letter to the Romans.)

Living While Continuously Forming and Reforming My Spirit

September 11, 2025

Thinking over the weekend following my wrap up of Paul’s Letter to the Romans studied not from a theology point-of-view, but as a guide to our spiritual life.

Paul is not Jesus. There are times I disagree. I’d love to be able to sit over coffee or dinner and discuss what he was actually thinking at times. But Paul’s writings perhaps were published before any other New Testament writing. Some scholars believe that early drafts of the gospels circulated before the finished documents were published. I am continually amazed at how Paul quotes phrases from Jesus never having met him in life, probably only meeting the apostles. Yet, there he is, Jesus, with words that echo the writings of the gospels.

Paul had a few views of great concern:

  • Assure that weird theologies did not gain a footing detracting from the essential gospel message
  • Guide his followers into how to live a spiritual life
  • Help the small forming churches learn to govern themselves in the new freedoms without going so far as to draw ire of the Emperor

He taught spiritual formation often using analogies from athletics. Running a race or boxing. He talked about discipline. Intention. Practice.

Looking at Romans, for example, he did not stop with advising us to simply meditate on God’s grace saying we believe in Jesus.

He took literally Jesus’ commands about loving our neighbor by, for example, drawing a picture of the way people following Jesus actually live. Every day. Serving others. Being kind. Showing (not just feeling) love.

Where are you in your spiritual practices? Do you study daily? Pray and meditate daily? Find ways small and large to serve others every day?

Is it time for us to reflect at the end of each day how we did on those topics? Just like on our physical exercise and nutrition.

Ignatius of Loyola and Benjamin Franklin, to pull examples from totally disparate people, advised such a daily practice.

That would be good for me to be more regular. How about you?

Logical Inconsistencies

September 10, 2025

I guess I enjoy poking at logical inconsistencies of people. Or times when people do a series of things putting themselves in difficult situations and are surprised. I know I’m not immune myself. I just appreciate the humanness of such things.

Like the politician I recently read about who used a logic for a new edict that directly opposes the logic that the politician uses for another position. I can leave it vague. Think of your favorite politician—or your favorite political punching bag.

I like to look to Jesus for guidance. I found upon reflection that he also enjoyed poking at people—especially self-important people. Think of all his comments to the Pharisees and Temple big wigs while he was in a crowd of ordinary people. “You clean the cup on the outside, but inside it is filthy.” “You declare your wealth dedicated to God, so that you don’t have to take care of your aged parents.” 

Reflecting on Jesus’ guidance, I think that I had better become aware of my own inconsistencies cleaning them up.

Spiritual Formation

September 9, 2025

For those who checked out my series on Spiritual Formation through following the outline Paul used in his letter to the Romans, did that help you gain awareness of an intentional path for deepening your spiritual relationship to God? What resonated? These were brief comments with no discussions in this format. What would you like to see explained? Would you do sessions on zoom to discuss?

Spiritual Formation from Romans Concluding Words and Thoughts, Part 7

September 8, 2025

Read Romans 15:14-16:33

Are you curious about the first followers of Jesus? Perhaps a little bit about the organization of the ekklesia (the small house church fellowships that formed as the gospel spread)?

It’s always worth noting the people whom Paul acknowledges. It almost always begins with women leaders. The list inevitably includes slaves and slave owners. Jews and Greeks.

For example, check out the beginning of Chapter 16:

I commend to you our sister Phoebe, a deacon of the church at Cenchreae, 2 so that you may welcome her in the Lord, as is fitting for the saints, and help her in whatever she may require from you, for she has been a benefactor of many and of myself as well.

A deacon is a church leader. In this case, a woman. When he wrote in other places that in Jesus there is neither Jew nor Greek, male nor female, he must have meant it.

Pause and reflect on this list of special people in the movement. Think of a gathering of such people. Compare to your own gatherings.

Greet Prisca and Aquila, my coworkers in Christ Jesus, who risked their necks for my life, to whom not only I give thanks but also all the churches of the gentiles. Greet also the church in their house. Greet my beloved Epaenetus, who was the first convert in Asia for Christ. Greet Mary, who has worked very hard for you. Greet Andronicus and Junia, my fellow Israelites who were in prison with me; they are prominent among the apostles, and they were in Christ before I was. Greet Ampliatus, my beloved in the Lord. Greet Urbanus, our coworker in Christ, and my beloved Stachys. Greet Apelles, who is approved in Christ. Greet those who belong to the family of Aristobulus. Greet my fellow Israelite Herodion. Greet those in the Lord who belong to the family of Narcissus. Greet those workers in the Lord, Tryphaena and Tryphosa. Greet the beloved Persis, who has worked hard in the Lord. Greet Rufus, chosen in the Lord, and greet his mother—a mother to me also. Greet Asyncritus, Phlegon, Hermes, Patrobas, Hermas, and the brothers and sisters who are with them. Greet Philologus, Julia, Nereus and his sister, and Olympas, and all the saints who are with them. Greet one another with a holy kiss. All the churches of Christ greet you.

Pay attention to these final instructions.

I urge you, brothers and sisters, to keep an eye on those who create dissensions and hindrances, in opposition to the teaching that you have learned; avoid them. For such people do not serve our Lord Christ but their own appetites, and by smooth talk and flattery they deceive the hearts of the simple-minded. For your obedience is known to all; therefore, I rejoice over you, but I want you to be wise in what is good and guileless in what is evil. The God of peace will shortly crush Satan under your feet. The grace of our Lord Jesus Christ be with you.

Then he finishes with a benediction. I offer it for you.

Now to God who is able to strengthen you according to my gospel and the proclamation of Jesus Christ, according to the revelation of the mystery that was kept secret for long ages but is now disclosed and through the prophetic writings is made known to all the gentiles, according to the command of the eternal God, to bring about the obedience of faith—to the only wise God, through Jesus Christ, to whom be the glory forever! Amen.

New Life in Christ, Spiritual Formation Part 6

September 5, 2025

What happens after God declares you righteous? 

Several people in a Bible study class I led were fixated on “the decision.” Just say you believe in Jesus, and that’s it. 

Me, being me, asked, “What comes next?”

Blank stares greeted my question.

Paul answers that question specifically in this letter in chapters 12-15:13. Paul lays out a story or picture of what someone living in grace acts like.

I appeal to you therefore, brothers and sisters, on the basis of God’s mercy, to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, which is your reasonable act of worship. Do not be conformed to this age, but be transformed by the renewing of the mind, so that you may discern what is the will of God—what is good and acceptable and perfect.

John Wesley thought on these things. He described this as a manifestation of living in God’s grace.

Sanctifying Grace – This grace works in believers after justification to gradually transform them into the likeness of Christ. Wesley emphasized that this is an ongoing process of spiritual growth and moral purification that continues throughout the Christian life.

Let us think on this outline. Think about how much of it sounds like Jesus. I am amazed at how much Paul writes that sounds just like Jesus.

  • Living sacrifice
  • Genuine love
  • Hate evil
  • Love one another, etc.
  • Subject to authorities
  • Love your neighbor
  • Don’t judge
  • Don’t make another stumble
  • Please others before yourself
  • Jews & Gentiles (again)

Reading these thoughts periodically will refresh us and restore us to a proper way of life. We can try living in the spirit.