Archive for the ‘Trust’ Category

That Complex Relationship With Emotions

August 26, 2022

Once when somewhat stressed and flooded with email requests of my time and energy, I responded to one with some extra comments. I don’t remember the exact topic or words or the exact response from the woman who sent the original–someone I’d known for several years–but her response pricked at a sore point. She said something like, “I know how you are…”

That stung. And 15 years later, I still feel it.

And, god bless electronic media. It’s so easy to delete 2/3rds of your response to an email or entire Twitter or Facebook posts!

I am emotional. I try to keep the emotions in check. I hate emotional movies–I tear up.

This thought from Pema Chodron came my way:

“If you open to all your emotions,

to all the people, to all situations,

staying present and trusting,

that trust will take you as far as you can go,

and you will understand all the teachings

anyone has ever taught.”

– Pema Chodron 

If you pause to consider this little poem, you’ll find complexity and compassion.

Try “open to” as a key word. And then “trust”.

So much of Jesus’s “blessed’s” that I’ve been pondering lately contain these. Open to God, open to yourself, open to others. Trust God.

I need this. How about you?

Virtuous Leaders Do As They Say

December 28, 2020

She taught home economics, as it was called back in those days, at the high school. Half of her days were devoted to teaching healthy meal planning and preparation. One day at lunch a student observed that her lunch did not seem to be very healthy.

“Do as I say, not as I do,” she replied.

That phrase embedded in my memory. At 15, I knew it was wrong. Her education failed to inform her actions.

For we know that an effective leader at any level of leadership from classroom teacher to president of whatever, does what they say. This is called trustworthy.

We hear too many stories of leaders recently who say one thing and do the opposite. Especially telling are those who pretend to be virtuous. They teach virtue. Their private (soon to boil over into public) actions belie their words.

A virtuous leader worthy of following matches words with deeds.