Archive for the ‘Disciplines’ Category

Clear Your Mind For Better Meditation

May 30, 2013

Ancient traditions have taught the value of emptying your mind. Before you can sit down to meditate, pray or study, your mind must be clear and receptive to new thoughts. It must be clear for you to focus.

Jesus seemed always to have a clear mind and ultimate focus. Peter, on the other hand, did not seem to reach that level of maturity until later in life. He seemed always to be in a jumble of thoughts and questions.

So, how do you clear your mind so that you can turn your attention to the task at hand? Here are some thoughts.

  • Write. Yes, always have paper or note cards and a pen. If “mom” is on your mind, there must be a reason. Write down the action you must take (buy present, call her, send a note, etc.). There. It’s out of your mind. When your mind is full of “stuff” that you must do, write them down, then make a to-do list. It’s out of your mind, and you can concentrate on what matters at the moment.
  • Breathe. OK, we breathe naturally all the time (or you wouldn’t be reading this!). How are you breathing? Short, shallow breaths? Focus on your breath (in ancient Greek, same word as spirit, the ancients knew this). Take slow, deep breaths.
  • Word. Sometimes repeating a word helps focus. It can be just a sound, such as , “ahhh” or “ohhh.” I used to repeat the Jesus Prayer (Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God, have mercy on me). Then I just shortened it to “God.” I like one syllable. Some people like spirit or Jesus. Some of you may have heard of the Sanskrit word from the Hindu tradition, “Om” (pronounced sort of “ahoooommmm” with the m sound more like a vibration). The idea is not magic. It’s to focus the mind and clear out all the rambling thoughts.
  • Relax. You can meditate lying on your back, sitting in a chair or on the floor or walking. But the three practices above should help you relax so that you’re receptive to murmurings of the Spirit.

What Does Love Require of Me

May 21, 2013

Jesus called people to follow him. He attracted people to follow him. He called them disciples. He said there would be a way that people outside the mission would know the people inside the mission. They would be known because of the way they loved one another.

They wouldn’t be known because they had more status than others. Or because they had more political or organizational power. But because of the way they treated others.

The way they treated others was revolutionary. When they met together, they left titles, social status, wealth status at the door. They greeted one another as brothers and sisters. This was so powerful that they attracted thousands into the mission. In fewer than 300 years, they toppled the empire thought to be invincible. The empire that was thought to last forever.

Stop and ask

To translate that to today, it’s a powerful question to ask of yourself in any situation that you face.

What does love require of me?

Many years ago I was taught that a great question for a leader to ask his followers (business, non-profit, church, whatever) is, “How can I help you?” That is one of the manifestations of the “what does love require of me” question.

Some philosophers have studied that pause before action. The ability to stop before speaking. To pause before acting. And to ask, what does love require of me. How can I help? How can I meet the need of the person I’m interacting with? What should I say? Should I just listen?

What does love require of you just now?

Being a Disciple

May 20, 2013

The other day during a conversation about time management and to-do lists and the like, I mentioned that I was a disciple of David Allen, who wrote “Getting Things Done.” Followers of Allen’s method are known as “GTDers.”

As soon as I said the word “disciple” I felt challenged. That is a strong word.

To be a disciple means I found a teacher who has something important to teach. The teacher shows a better way to live and provides guidance toward living it. I follow the teachings and the teacher. I do what the teacher says. I try to model the teacher.

That’s a challenge. I am a GTDer, but I don’t always follow the method. Then I compare back to the original thoughts and re-orient myself.

Jesus taught an entirely new way of living. A new way of relating to God. A way that subverted both the ruling Jewish leaders and the ruling Roman leaders. He gathered people around him. He called them disciples. They called themselves disciples. They tried to do what he taught. They tried to model themselves after the teacher.

It took them a while. They say new habits can be formed in about 21 days of doing a new practice. With the first disciples, it was more like 21 months. Or more.

But they did it. And passed it on. And now almost 2,100 years later, there are still disciples.

Disciples became known as “Christians.” But, as Andy Stanley has been emphasizing in his current series, that was a term used by those outside the group to describe the movement. It was not used by those inside–at least to start with. “Christian” is not defined in the Bible. But we know what a disciple is–and it entails hard work and commitment.

When someone asks if I’m a Christian, I prefer to say I’m a disciple of Jesus.

[Note for the curious–or those who would like to “get things done”: In brief, the GTD methodology entails writing everything down, emptying your mind, and putting the notes in a trusted place. Could be file folders or electronic. I use a program called Nozbe (affiliate link). Then you review all your notes every week and compile to-do lists. There’s more than that. If you’re challenged about getting things done, get the book and the Web app.]

Lost and Found

May 15, 2013

Do you ever think deeply about “lost” people? The church of which I’m a member has as one mission to “find the lost”.

Jesus was at a dinner party one evening. He had just invited Levi (Matthew) to leave his job as a tax collector for the Roman government and join his group of disciples. In fact, Matthew went on to become one of the inner circle of 12 and then to write about his experiences.

At the party were a bunch of Pharisees. These were the people who thought they had already earned God’s grace through their good works (meaning obeying laws and rituals, not meaning helping people).

Also at the party were a number of “tax collectors and sinners.” Notice in the Gospels that these are always two groups. Matthew was not just a sinner, but a special kind of sinner–a tax collector.

Now these two groups of people did not like each other. In fact, they probably rarely ever socialized together. Read the Gospel of John and see how much John didn’t like the Pharisees! Anyway, imagine the grumbling of the “righteous” about Jesus’ associating with the not-so-righteous.

So Jesus, recognizing the tension, tells three stories. They are all about the celebration when something that is lost is found.

The third story is the story of the man and two sons. The man (God) loves his two sons. But they are very different. The elder son (Pharisees) always does the right thing. He’s always there. The younger son (Sinners and Tax Collectors–or, in reality, us) doesn’t do what’s right. In fact, he expresses the wish that his father were dead so that he could collect his inheritance and quit working.

You know the story. He gets his wish, goes away, spends everything, lives with the pigs (really revolting to a Jew), and finally comes home intending to just be a servant.

At this point, probably both groups at the dinner party were with Jesus. They recognized the elder/younger distinction. And that the elder inherits first. And that the younger son who was so offensive is going to get his just retribution (we’d say today thrown into Hell).

But…

The man throws a big party, restores the son to his place in the family and consoles the elder son who feels the lack of “justice.”

But the man said, your brother, who was lost, is now found.

Lost means not with the family. The kid wasn’t just wandering around in the wilderness with no sense of direction–physically. Only metaphorically. He was lost not being in the family. Found is returning to the family.

Just so with us and our fellow humans. God loves each and every one of us. He wants us to be in the family. He’ll celebrate every individual who returns to the family. So should we.

On of our tasks in life is to be, not like the elder brother pointing our finger in condemnation of others, but like a guide helping people return to the family.

Take Your Cue To Form Powerful Habits

May 13, 2013

Jesus went to the synagogue as was his habit.

The Gospel writers were not like today’s mass media reporters. They didn’t miss the big picture and report on mundane little things in Jesus’ life. Sometimes they did offer glimpses. A few times, they refer to a habit.

I just listened to Charles Duhigg, author of “The Power of Habit,” interviewed by David Allen, author of “Getting Things Done.” I am not only a disciple of Jesus, I’m also a disciple of “GTD.”

As we form our Spiritual Practices into habits, there are a few essentials. Often I refer to a blog by Leo Babauta, “ZenHabits.” I guess he’s run out of ways to talk about habits, because he doesn’t update often anymore. But then I discovered Duhigg.

He talks about cue, routine and reward.

A cue, for example, may be to lay out your exercise clothes before you go to bed so that when you get up, you put them on and are mentally prepared for your workout. Perhaps you place your Bible or other current reading by your morning chair, so that when you get up and make your cup of coffee, your book is inviting you to sit, study and meditate for a time.

I have practiced the power of cue for years without realizing its power. But it helps the routine. And that is the one thing missing when I travel and find myself on odd schedules. Guess I’ll try that on myself Wednesday when I wake up in Cleveland (a conference on machinery failure prevention–sure to be exciting).

What cues do you use? Or have you even thought about using a cue to trigger your desired habit?

Living With Intention

May 10, 2013

Intention. Are you just sleep-walking through life? Or do you get up in the morning intending to do something or be somebody?

A friend advises, “Pray with intention. Pray specifically that God will bring someone into your life that answers a need or fits a mission you have.”

Another advisor talking about becoming a morning person advises getting up in the morning with intention.

I think that they mean that you do things “on purpose.” You’ve thought it out. Planned for it. Expect good things to happen. Consciously brought God into the situation.

During the past three or four months that this advice has been on my mind, story after story pops up about amazing things that happened while praying with intention. Both in my life as I decided to change some direction, and in the lives of others I’ve met.

To live an intentional life, consider these attributes:

  • Awake
  • Aware
  • Conscious
  • Planning for
  • Focus

Try it. You’ll like it.

Helping Others By Getting Out of the Way

May 9, 2013

It seems to be a human fault. Telling others how to fix their problems.

I often have counseled husbands–just listen to your wife’s complaints. Don’t start offering suggestions about how to fix things. They just want someone to listen to them. As in really listen. If they want to fix the situation, they will try. Mostly, I think they don’t really want to fix it. Just talk about it.

Same way with when we try to help others through our missions. We try to tell people what to do to fix their problems as we have defined their problems.

Ernesto Sirolli discussed this situation in his TED Talk. When most well-intentioned aid workers hear of a problem they think they can fix, they go to work. This, Sirolli suggests, is naïve. In this funny and impassioned talk, he proposes that the first step is to listen to the people you’re trying to help, and tap into their own entrepreneurial spirit.

Bill Hybels, founder and senior pastor at Willow Creek Community Church, talked about his own epiphany–and that of his team–regarding this same issue. In his talk last week, he discussed how the church used to send checks to organizations. Then they started checking up on the organizations. Visiting locations.

Eventually they discovered that partnering with a local church, someone who knew the needs of the local people and could relate to the local people, was much more effective.

Once again, I think what works personally, works corporately. Listen first. Then act appropriately.

I have trouble sometimes with the listening part. How about you?

Are You Getting Better

May 7, 2013

There was a small group of men at one place I worked who considered themselves perfect. They couldn’t get any better because they had been “saved.”

Not sure where they got that idea. It doesn’t fit with 2,000 years of theology and practice. Oh, and none of the rest of us thought they were particularly perfect.

For the rest of us who don’t belong to small churches that take off and run with one idea, life is more of a practice of “sanctification.” That’s a big word that simply means becoming mature in faith.

We decide at some point in our lives that we are going to follow Jesus. As far as our daily lives go, that’s not the end. It’s the beginning. Spiritual life is a journey. Our goal is to live like our Teacher and become closer to perfect.

I recently heard Andy Stanley talking about getting better before getting bigger. He was talking about churches. In a sense it works corporately as well as personally.

Almost every pastor in the US wishes to build one of those mega-churches. Dreams of thousands coming every week to hear his messages. Reads the sociologists of church growth–build by an expressway, have a huge parking lot, don’t have any religious symbols, play loud music.

Business people have the same wish. They want their business to grow to huge proportions.

The strategy should be to get better first. As a person. As an organization.

Ask every day:

  • “Am I better today?”
  • “What am I (or are we) doing better today?”
  • “How can I (we) be better today?”

Sustain Your Gains

May 6, 2013

Some of the best ideas for both business and church come to you during a church service.

It is said that after the Procter & Gamble Co. accidentally invented a soap that floats, the marketing geniuses tried to find a name. I forget whether it was Procter or Gamble, but one of those men was in church when the pastor read something that had the word “ivory” in it. Supposedly, he got up, said, “that’s it” and left to go to the office.

I don’t know what the pastor said yesterday that triggered the idea, but there it was, fully formed.

“Why do we try these really cool things that get people all charged up–and then nothing happens to sustain it?”

Probably it was a reference to a big church-wide small group experience that will fizzle out unless there is sustaining drive. I’m afraid of wishful thinking on the part of leadership.

This same thing happens in our personal development. We call them “New Year’s Resolutions.”

It’s a great idea. But then we have trouble putting them into practice as a matter of daily routine.

It should be our leadership skill development (whether we’re leading a big organization or just ourselves) to plan for sustaining the idea or program.

  • What will the life of the organization or our own life look like when we adopt this new action?
  • How can we incorporate this new thing into our daily life?
  • Make a plan to complement the vision.
  • Communicate to ourselves and to the group daily about what this new life will look like.
  • Live into this new life.

Don’t let it drift away into the rubbish heap of forgotten dreams.

Energy As The Flow of Grace

April 26, 2013

 

Cycle of Grace

Cycle of Grace from Acceptance to Work from Claypotchronicles

Of all the sciences I studied when I was young, I preferred physics. Thinking in the biological sciences has come a long way and I now appreciate the thinking of connectedness and networks biologists are studying. Chemistry? Well, I guess I’m glad they have it.

Physics is very much the empirical study of an ancient concept–energy. Ancient people contemplated the energy that flows throughout nature and from God to humans.

I think visually and associatively. So when I think of God’s Grace, I visualize it in terms of energy.

John Ortberg recently talked about a concept new to me called the Cycle of Grace. It comes from a book by Frank Lake (that I couldn’t find quickly). It dealt with burnout among pastors and missionaries. As a matter of fact, I lifted this image from claypotchronicles.com, where it seems that he starts with work. Ortberg started with acceptance.

You start the cycle knowing that you are loved and accepted by God. You didn’t earn that. God just says he loves you. Sustenance is what I often talk about here. It comprises the Spiritual Disciplines and practices that deepens and enriches your understanding and relationship. Next is significance, or why are you here? What is the work God called you to do? Finally is accomplishment (called work complete in the diagram).

If you start with work and try to gain acceptance, your efforts will be futile. That has often been the case with religious people. Check out Jesus’ debates with the Pharisees. But if you start with God’s Prevenient Grace, the fact that God loved you before you were you, then you have the foundation for great work.

Dallas Willard put it in terms that I can understand with my study of energy. He said that it now becomes God’s Grace flowing through you. I visualize that as a form of energy. We know people who give us energy when we meet them. Unfortunately we know those people who seem to drain the very energy right out of your soul when you meet them.

It is much better to be a channel of God’s Grace to others. A transfer of energy from God to another through you. That is the proper foundation for service.