Archive for the ‘Attention’ Category

Cynicism and Optimism

October 9, 2023

She had me lying face down on the massage table. As her fingers drove deeply into my back, she says, “The world is going to Hell in a Handbasket.” 

I did not want my massage therapist to get worked up enough to press even harder, so I used my calming voice to consider the truth of the opinion.

Of course truth or facts never get in the way of a good opinion. 

The reality is where you decide or default to place your attention.

Turning off CNN or Fox (whichever poison you’ve chosen) is a great start. Then deciding not to continue to line the already bulging pockets of Mark Z or Elon M by letting them capture my attention continues the journey on this correct path.

I know there are events in the world. But I don’t dwell on them. I know there are morons in Congress. Nothing I can do about that.

I also know there are many people doing good work in the neighborhood, city, and world. I work with many smart and  dedicated engineers and business people making the world a better place.

In many ways in most of the world, life is better than ever before. Yet, many people feel bad. Why? Expectations, I guess. Or where they place their attention. 

At the end of the day pause and consider, “Where have I allowed my attention to drift today? Toward the good? Toward the bad?”

Managing Projects and Attention

September 7, 2023

My day began poorly. The time management gurus tell you not to check email until late morning. I have had a project that runs first of August until mid-October for 35 years. I assign referees to high school soccer matches. The job is getting harder and harder.

This morning I opened email at 5:45 AM. Dale says, “I am still injured and cannot do tonight’s game.” First thing to do is send an email to my entire list of referees hoping someone will see and respond. Then I leave for my workout, which I miss only in extreme situations. After no one responds by 9:00, I go through my list and cull five people who might possibly be open and send them direct messages. I contact the school’s Athletic Director to alert him. I alert the other official. Meanwhile, I’m trying to finish three games on Saturday.

By 3:00 PM I’ve done all I can and all the kids are going to get to play their games.

Amongst that mental work, I found time out to practice Spanish and German on my Duolingo app. Different sort of mental stress.

Now at 5:00 PM I had taken a walk and a 15-minute power nap. My mind is now focused to write a couple of short essays.

Yesterday I wrote about a to do list as a menu. Some days your time is like choosing from a menu. I have a pretty scripted routine of reading, working out, writing, taking breaks to work on soccer, and so forth.

Some days everything gets turned around. I just have to solve the emergency. Go to the meeting. Whatever the situation may be. Then pause, breathe, and choose from the menu of things to tackle next.

Too many days like this, and the chances of living in chaos increase. But, not to worry. Routine, if established long enough, will return. It’s called resilience. Flexibility. Keys to sanity.

Keeping Yourself Firmly Grounded

August 1, 2023

Carole King put it, “I feel the earth move under my feet…”

Jimmy Buffet sang, “Earth she’s movin’ under me…”

These are powerful images. We expect the earth to be solid under our feet. When we teach Mountain Pose in Yoga (standing upright), we lead the students to feel their feet firmly grounded as they lengthen their spine yet relaxing their shoulders. Feel strong and grounded like a mountain.

The relaxation meditation I used last night told us to sit in the chair, place our feet flat on the ground, and feel grounded to the solid earth.

We want our emotions grounded. Not like air, moving randomly this way and that.

Building our spiritual, emotional, and intellectual life upon a solid foundation leads to a stable life ready to grow and serve.

Perhaps Jesus had something like that in mind when he told us, To hear my words and do them is like building a house on a solid foundation of rock where the rains, and the storms, and the winds came and yet did not destroy it.

Attention and Distraction

July 4, 2023

I once began reading a book called Distraction. I couldn’t focus due to distractions. Don’t think I finished it.

We live in an attention economy. Companies, politicians, and organizations depend upon capturing our attention for their financial livelihood.

I opened Facebook this morning to check on who among my friends was having a birthday. I wished some old friends a happy anniversary. When I went to the page to log out (never, ever leave Facebook logged in, as it will track everything you do) and realized maybe for the first time how many things they have to try to capture additional attention.

I logged out.

Yesterday I wished to compile my notes from a conference now two weeks past. The notebook open (I take notes with pen in a special notebook), I breathed deeply, sipped my coffee at the coffee house, and focused with intention on my work. It was a marvelous bringing to mind the many good things I learned that week.

The pastor of my church reminds people each week of the space in the bulletin to take notes. He researches to prepare his message. The least we could do is use pen and paper to make notes in order to remember his points. It’s a good strategy. We focus better with fewer distractions while taking notes. We remember more while writing than by typing.

And this morning, I was able to focus for a half-hour on this brief essay. It’s a good thing.

People from all over the world read this blog. Today is called Independence Day in America because it commemorates the  day the delegates to the Continental Congress approved a document we call The Declaration of Independence. It would do us well to read it. I just saw where the President of the Ukraine just quoted it. I long for the day when the ideals expressed in that document come to fruition here in the US—and everywhere. All people are treated as equals, we have not only liberty (some people stop there) but also justice for all.

We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable rights, that among these are life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness. 

Yesterday I wrote the 3,000th post to this blog. It doesn’t seem like that many over the time.

Questions

May 5, 2023

If you were on a long train ride with the smartest person in the world, what would you ask her?

How long would it take before you returned to doom scrolling on your phone?

How long can you maintain thinking without diversion?

What don’t you know that you would like to know?

I knew a teacher of the Bible who would get to a point where there were questions. He would say, “I guess we’ll have to save that one up to ask God when we get to heaven.” What if we had the patience and attention to ask God now and then wait for an answer?

I was taught to express myself as if I knew. These writings are the results of exploring. Searching for answers to many questions. Mostly, how to live in a healthy, positive way with-God. Every day brings a new wonder to consider.

The Gentle Art of Asking Part Two

May 2, 2023

Quite by accident the second edition of “Humble Inquiry: The Gentle Art of Asking Instead of Telling,” by Edgar H. Schein and Peter A. Schein appeared in my mail the other day. Reviewing some older notes, I saw the recommendation. When this book arrived, I discovered I had the first edition on my bookshelf. The second edition was worth the refresher.

Do you know any long-time elementary school teachers? Ever listen to them? Do their questions sound often like a prosecuting attorney going after a criminal suspect?

Do we catch ourselves asking questions to test other people? Or questions where we wish to discover if they are for us or against us? Questions meant to trap us—like often were posed to Jesus?

The gentle art of asking questions instead of telling people reveals true curiosity. We want to know what someone else is thinking—really.

The gentle art draws people in rather than establishing a barrier between people. Its foundation includes trust, sincerity, mindfulness. I would add intention. 

So often we ask, but then we fail to listen to the answer. Listening, that is, that involves our complete attention.

I wrote about this book five years ago. It’s one of those books that requires a reread periodically. It’s brief. Readable. New insights will pop out each reading.

Concentration

March 13, 2023

The word of the day is concentration.

When your mind focuses on the task at hand. When your attention is on the activity, not distracted by fleeting thoughts.

I watched Liverpool and Bournemouth in the English Premier League (football/soccer) Saturday. The week before Liverpool completely outplayed its rival Manchester United 7-0. Saturday they lost to lowly Bournemouth 0-1. One of the best wings in the league passed the ball directly to an opponent three times in the first 10 minutes. One of the best goal scorers in the league missed a penalty. As we would say in the US, he didn’t even kick it in the same zip code as the goal.

They played without concentration. We can’t look into other people’s minds, but we can see their actions. They played as if their minds were at the beach.

I began to think on this phenomenon. How often is our attention on the task at hand? When we are engaged with our spiritual practices, where is our concentration? Our attention? Our focus?

How much does my mind drift from the words on the page when I am studying? When I am engaged in a service to someone or even a “random act of kindness”, am I concentrating on the person whom I am serving? When I am at worship, am I thinking about where I’m going afterwards?

Champions bring their concentration to the game every game.

Should we do no less?

Do Things With Intention

January 25, 2023

When I attended a Baptist church, I noticed a favorite metaphor of the preachers was to divide people into the “lost” and the “found”.

I’ve thought about lost. I observed some neighbors. They were lost. What does a person do when lost, say in the woods. Experts say they wind up walking in circles. Without a map and no idea of direction, they drift.

I’ve observed people just drifting through life. No purpose. No courage. Usually too much alcohol. Not enough discipline to maintain good health or a steady job.

The road to hell is not paved with good intentions. It is paved with lack of intention.”
— Dr. Gabor Maté

I heard this idea quoted on a podcast some time ago. I’ve been pondering it.

How does this apply?

I intend to get up from this chair, walk over to the community clubhouse, exercise with some walking and Yoga, sit in the hot water of the spa (we don’t have a sauna). Then I’ll come back home for breakfast followed by study and writing about technology and strategies used in manufacturing.

Perhaps what Maté (and the words of Jesus and the Proverbs) mean about intention are deeper than that. I approach God with intention. Pray with intention. Serve others with intention.

Light and Dark

December 28, 2022

Last night we visited the Morton Arboretum in suburban Chicago for their annual Illumination event. This park celebrates trees and the illuminations centered on groves of trees. Magnificent and creative.

This morning I am remembering the experience. And I thought of John’s Gospel. My favorite in many ways. It’s more philosophical and theological than the others. Mark is packed with action. Matthew and Luke pack in details. John tells the story weaving the theme of light and dark.

Jesus, of course, was the light. He brought the light. He wanted his followers to be light. Be the light in the world.

An iPhone is a poor substitute for a really good camera (which I didn’t want to carry). But this image captures some of the light and the dark.

Our question today is–how will I be The Light today?

You Probably Need Sleep

December 7, 2022

Sleep is one of the five necessary practices for a healthy life.

Are you getting your quota?

“If you can’t tell what you desperately need, it’s probably sleep.”​— Kevin Kelly

Kelly is probably on to something. Lack of sleep leads to a befuddled brain. Poor concentration. Inattention.

Maybe the best thing for the next hour is a nap.