Archive for the ‘Humility’ Category

Owning Our Mistakes

May 19, 2026

Perhaps you’ve been there. 

Something goes wrong. The product/service did not satisfy. It fell short of quality.

We recently had dinner at a new place after a concert at the local high school. (By the way, I’m blown away by all the levels of orchestra there. Love to see kids developing talents.)

It’s already late. Server takes order. Later, he must have seen me touching my iPhone checking the time, for he soon stops by and tells us “the kitchen is a little backed up, and our food should be arriving shortly.” Observation, the place is busy, but not packed.

Food comes. They could not verify the accuracy of two orders. Eventually, they take the two orders back to the kitchen. Returning after a few minuted, they place the two orders before us.

The manager stops by. He offers a bland apology, saying, “We have a new line cook, and he assembled the sandwiches improperly.”

Being a nice guy who was hungry, I said nothing. But I thought about it.

Consider this, and reflect if you (and I) have ever reacted thus:

  1. I did not accept the blame, instead deflected it upon a defenseless employee.
  2. I did not acknowledge that it is my responsibility to assure proper training for said employee.
  3. I did not immediately offer some sort of make-good (sent the server later to offer a free desert).
  4. (They thought they pulled one over on us, but I’ll not return) We have reason to believe that they took the meat temperature toothpick from my cooler temp to the more well cooked with the additional extras my companion ordered while overcooking the burger for my companion probably from the sandwich they originally presented to me. We could tell.

There is a manager who needs to find a job within the scope of his abilities.

I wonder, though, how often you and I have taken some short cut and placed the blame squarely upon a defenseless someone else. I as for forgiveness for the times I have slipped.

Humility

March 5, 2026

Some people worry about what other people are thinking about them. Or worry they are watching them.

Surprise! Almost no one is watching. Almost no one cares.

Some people think that the opportunity to talk or speak means they can talk about themselves.

Surprise! Most people aren’t really interested in listening to you talk about yourself. Unless it’s a caring friend or acquaintance who want sincerely to know how you are doing.

The Desert Fathers wrote often about humility. And it’s cousin, pride. They warned that we must be on guard. We must become self-aware. When we notice ourselves beginning to stray into self -absorption or focusing on ourselves rather than the other person, we must pause and refocus.

I write this not because I’m perfect, but because I have once again noticed how I was more focused on talking about me instead of listening.

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My Advice–Humility

February 12, 2026

A student approached Augustine, the Bishop of Hippo, asking for advice. Augustine gave three words of advice.

“The first part is humility; the second, humility; the third, humility; and this I would continue to repeat as often as you might ask direction.”

How about we all try a dose of humility. Probably more than once a day!

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Pride and Humility

January 23, 2026

Like I’ve said before, James does not soft-pedal his message.

You adulterous people, don’t you know that friendship with the world means enmity against God? Therefore, anyone who chooses to be a friend of the world becomes an enemy of God. Or do you think Scripture says without reason that he jealously longs for the spirit he has caused to dwell in us? But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says: “God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.”

John Climacus, one of the more influential Desert Fathers, also spoke boldly.

Pride is the denial of God, an invention of the devil, contempt for men. It is the mother of condemnation, the offspring of praise, a sign of barrenness. It is a flight from God’s help, the harbinger of madness, the author of downfall. It is the cause of diabolical possession, the source of anger, the gateway of hypocrisy. It is the fortress of demons, the custodian of sins, the source of hardheartedness. It is the denial of compassion, a bitter pharisee, a cruel judge. It is the foe of God. It is the root of blasphemy.

Whew!

Stories in our news feeds would shrivel like a dried worm on the street on a sunny day following a rainstorm without prideful people to describe.

More important than observing others, let us turn the microscope on ourselves. Where does pride sneak past our defenses showing up in most unfortunate ways? Avoiding pride requires ever present vigilance. We let our guard down for even a moment, and pride can slither into our being.

Where should we focus to avoid the power of pride? James says:

Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. Come near to God and he will come near to you. Wash your hands, you sinners, and purify your hearts, you double-minded. Grieve, mourn and wail. Change your laughter to mourning and your joy to gloom. Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will lift you up.

I hope he doesn’t mean to constantly walk around in gloom. But when we recognize pride growing in ourselves, time for optimism and laughter is over. In its place enters a dose of humility and turning to God’s grace to restore our souls.

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Two Kinds of Wisdom

January 21, 2026

Who is wise and understanding among you? Let them show it by their good life, by deeds done in the humility that comes from wisdom.

It’s like that song I quoted a few days ago, Love is something you do when Jesus Christ is living in you.

People, including people known as theologians, try to make the simple complicated. I love how James boils things down to the essentials. We don’t need checklists, scorecards, complex psychological formulae. We know who is wise among us. We see it. We sense it. And I love how he adds the ingredient humility into the recipe. Even though that pokes at me.

But if you harbor bitter envy and selfish ambition in your hearts, do not boast about it or deny the truth. Such “wisdom” does not come down from heaven but is earthly, unspiritual, demonic. For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice.

Incessant media coverage infuses our consciousness with stories of Silicon Valley billionaires and miscellaneous politicians whose public persona can best be described with James’s observation about the other kind of wisdom. We may not be as direct as James, but we see that, too. Envy, selfish, ambition. Perhaps these have seduced most of us—large scale or local. It’s so easy to get sucked into the vacuum. It’s worth the pause to reflect on when we may have been so seduced and what we’ve done to push it away.

But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere. Peacemakers who sow in peace reap a harvest of righteousness.

These sound much like the fruit of the spirit of which Paul writes elsewhere. Think about the kind of life we would have living like that. Think of the people you meet—wouldn’t you love for them all to exhibit those characteristics?

It’s long after New Year’s Resolution time. But better than resolutions is to picture oneself living that kind of life. Who are you? I’m the sort of person who is peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere.

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Preparing for Christmas—They Got It Wrong

December 25, 2025

I read Mary’s song of blessing again. My takeaway for us, especially if we are gathering with family—beware pride, practice humility. 

Everyone got Jesus’s birth wrong.

Mary was shocked. And then really pregnant. And escaped the rumor mongers of her hometown.

Joseph was even more shocked. He is almost never discussed again. The mystery man. He just reveals to us what a real man, a spiritual man, would do.

The magi (“wise men”) prepared for a journey, went in a general direction, but still didn’t really know where, and all the imports of the special revelation.

King Herod only thought in terms of the succession to his throne. That sort of reminds us of King Saul trying to protect the succession of his throne from David.

The Gospels record three people contemporary with the event who all saw part of the event but failed to see the full import.

Jewish people during Jesus’s ministry failed to understand the full import of the event and his ministry—until after the resurrection.

His closest friends and followers got it wrong—until they got it right.

I bet that many (most?) people today, even those who claim to follow him, don’t really digest the full importance of the event.

Even so, 2,000 years after the fact, we still have a feast day to remember his birth.

I wish you all a merry Christmas. Put aside pride and differences in order to celebrate with others.

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Humility

December 1, 2025

Let us consider humility. Not a word we can associate with today, living as we do influenced by Silicon Valley’s macho culture. A culture that affects women along with men along with adolescents.

When was the last time you (or I) admitted that you (or I) were wrong about something?

If it’s been longer than 30 days back, perhaps you (and I) have a problem.

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Logical Inconsistencies

September 10, 2025

I guess I enjoy poking at logical inconsistencies of people. Or times when people do a series of things putting themselves in difficult situations and are surprised. I know I’m not immune myself. I just appreciate the humanness of such things.

Like the politician I recently read about who used a logic for a new edict that directly opposes the logic that the politician uses for another position. I can leave it vague. Think of your favorite politician—or your favorite political punching bag.

I like to look to Jesus for guidance. I found upon reflection that he also enjoyed poking at people—especially self-important people. Think of all his comments to the Pharisees and Temple big wigs while he was in a crowd of ordinary people. “You clean the cup on the outside, but inside it is filthy.” “You declare your wealth dedicated to God, so that you don’t have to take care of your aged parents.” 

Reflecting on Jesus’ guidance, I think that I had better become aware of my own inconsistencies cleaning them up.

It’s Not All About Me

August 25, 2025

We are attending an small event to honor or remember someone. We begin to overthink details—what clothes should we wear, how the hair looks, jewelry (for those who indulge), and the like.

This could be what is called using university terms majoring in the minor.

We remember—it’s not all about me.

Just don’t wear or do something to detract from the event and the other.

The major is—it’s all about them. It’s not all about us.

Pope Francis

April 22, 2025

Preparing to write this morning, the news centered on the passing of Pope Francis.

I am not Catholic, but I taught 7th grade at a Catholic school long ago learning a lot about the faith and the organization. I also read many Catholic theologians in my day. My favorite is Pierre Teilhard.

I respected Francis from the first I heard about him in his days in Latin America. As Pope, he represented being a Jesus follower well. He did his best to move a huge, bureaucratic organization into modern times.

His predecessor, Benedict, had a marvelous theological mind. He was, however, the ultimate organization man protecting the organization as best he could.

Francis, rather, tried to deal with past indiscretions, treating people with humility and respect.

The best lesson we can learn from him is just that—living in humility and respect for others.