Archive for the ‘Disciplines’ Category

If You But Observe, There Are Many Good People

June 5, 2017

There is so much tragedy in the news. The focus always seems to be on the evil or angry person.

But good people exist in numbers you would never believe just by consuming news media.

We brought 1,200 young athletes, their parents and grandparents together into a smallish park on the campus of Ohio Northern University in Ada, Ohio. There were fewer than a half-dozen obnoxious coaches. Only a few players. I saw emotions rise during a contest only to come back down to handshakes and apologies after the match.

At the end as thunder storms were washing out the finals, only a couple of teams tried to maneuver around tie breakers or manipulate facts to gamesmanship a trophy.

It is so easy to be disappointed in people. If we but look, we can see many more decent, honorable people.

The Function, or Curse, of Young People

June 2, 2017

Bible Study magazine runs an interview every issue. There have been some really good ones with people from all over the globe. The latest issue features a professor from Hong Kong.

His focus is on building bridges between the “old guys”–church leadership–and young people.

It seems that the younger generation just doesn’t accept teaching from pastors or other older teachers unquestionably. They like to express their thoughts. They like to question things. They are also the first generation in 150 years not brought up under British rule. They are also questioning the Chinese authorities.

He, quite naturally, thinks this is unique.

People said that about my generation, too. That was the 60s. Remember those days? (If you say yes, you weren’t there, so the joke goes.)

Writers from Western Europe and America going back perhaps 200 years  or more also seemed to reflect this questioning of authority before becoming the authority.

Think Luther. Or Thomas Jefferson, Alexander Hamilton, James Madison, and their friends.

I like to reckon that large companies (IBM was famous for this) only hire A students. Why? They are trainable. They are quick to learn new facts and give the facts back.

We poor B students–we were always questioning, looking for a better way, wanting to go our own way. We didn’t get hired by IBM into nice jobs with big salaries. We kept trying to change the world.

(That analysis, by the way, is obviously a crude generalization. But think about it for a minute. Where do you fit?)

So, I applaud those young people in Hong Kong who want to hold their elders accountable–both secular and religious. And I applaud people like this professor who tries to build bridges. Listen to younger people. But then push back on them to force them to think through first opinions and mature as thinkers.

It tells me there is hope for the future of Hong Kong. What is this like in your community and your church? Do you freeze out young people because they ask questions, or do you welcome their questions and meet them honestly?

Do As I Say Not As I Do

June 1, 2017

Do as I say, not as I do.

I’m not sure where I first heard that phrase. Maybe it was a teacher in my high school who taught such things as etiquette who was eating like a slob in the cafeteria.

When I was in college, I often heard students in the Education Department talking about how they didn’t want to be role models. They would just impart “knowledge” intellectually divorced from personality and behaviour. These would have been among the first Baby Boomers–the “Me Generation.”

Unfortunately, they were role models. You cannot escape it.

I was shocked and dismayed by the phrase when I first heard it; and the phrase still makes me sick to the stomach.

That saying also reminds me of the vocal element of American Christianity. They delight in pointing out to others how they should be living. Sort of modern Pharisees. Clean on the outside and dirty on the inside as Jesus pointed out once.

The world is changed by your example, not by your opinion.

Are you a parent? Ever notice how your kids pick up on your bad habits rather than listening to your good advice.

Worse, ever catch yourself doing something that you really disliked when your parents did it?

Picture a protestor who doesn’t like whatever cause the marchers represent. He has speakers on his hat, an amplifier on his back, and a microphone. “JESUS LOVES YOU,” he shouts.

What is the message? Jesus loves them? Or, I hate you and all you stand for?

The writer of the Letter to the Hebrews in the New Testament talks about being surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses. Sometimes I am quite embarrassed.

How about you?

Learning By Osmosis

May 31, 2017

There is the book. It is a key text for study and reference. Let’s say that it’s the Bible.

But wait. It’s still in the box used to protect it during shipping.

Perhaps it now protects it from wearing out by over use.

You place it in proximity to your head and all that knowledge just flows through the membrane from the solution of greater concentration to the solution of lesser concentration (definition of osmosis).

I’m betting that generations of high school and college students have tried this method. Maybe you? Or me?

A book only provides value when you open it.

Just like your mind only receives knowledge when you open it.

Or your heart understanding when you open it.

[Inspired from a meeting where an important book was prominently displayed with several others on the desk–but still in its box. Then I discovered a learning tool for doctors called Osmosis. At that point, I got scared and stopped my research.]

Which Wolf Are You Feeding

May 30, 2017

As the story goes, a grandfather is talking with his grandson about a battle that goes on within all people.

“My son, the battle is between two wolves inside us. One is Fear. It carries anxiety, concern,  uncertainty, hesitancy, indecision, and inaction. The other is Faith. It brings calm, conviction, confidence, enthusiasm, decisiveness, excitement, and action.”

The grandson thought about this for a while and then asked, “Which wolf wins?”

The grandfather replied, “The one you feed.”

We are living in an era where many (most?) leaders are feeding us with fear. Many of us are feeding the Fear wolf.

What you choose to read, what you choose to listen to, whom you choose to follow–what are they feeding you?

It really is our choice. Feeding Fear or Feeding Faith.

Choose wisely.

A Day To Remember

May 29, 2017

My great-grandmother always called today (well actually May 30 back in those days) Decoration Day. It was a day to visit cemeteries where deceased relatives were buried and decorate their graves. Leave a flower or bouquet or something.

Then we called this Memorial Day and turned it into the “official” beginning of summer. Sort of like how Labor Day became the “official” end of summer.

Memorial Day we can still pause and remember generations before us. But we’ve added a special remembrance of those in our military who served and died in our various wars.

I imagine that those of you who read this from many other countries (when you go on the Internet, you are open to the world) have similar days of remembrance.

In my life, I’ve been the little Cub Scout placing flowers on the graves of veterans at our village program. And in the high school marching band playing patriotic marches for the parade and ceremony. Now, I’m quieter.

But, let’s pause…and remember. No matter which country you’re from. We all have had predecessors who should be remembered.

Traveling Light, Agile, Flexible

May 26, 2017

It’s 7:30 am. I’m checking out of the hotel, but I’m not leaving the conference until about 3:00 pm. I ask the person at the desk if there’s a place to leave my baggage.

I hand her my backpack. “That’s all?” Yes, I replied. I’ve learned.

People all the time make travel much more difficult and anxiety ridden than they should. They wrestle with baggage through the airport. When you travel alone, you have to take it all into the restroom stall with you. Ever try that?

Then there’s the worry about overhead space. If you are not among the first 30 or so, will there be space for my baggage?

If weather is bad and you miss a connection, you’re on standby for later flights. Often you’ll be the last one on. No room for the “roll-aboard” luggage.

My backpack fits under the seat in front of me. Unless I’m in a bulkhead seat, I’m fine. Even then, it’s easier to stow a small backpack than a hard-edged suitcase.

“That’s smart,” she said.

How do I do it?

I ruthlessly evaluate everything I carry. I look at size, weight, and utility. After years of travel, you figure out that you’ve carried tons of clothes and other things that you never used. Stop carrying them.

I’m an old man, and I’ve experienced many troubles–most of which never happened.

The baggage analogy is often used in life. That’s because it’s true.

It’s the same in life.

Have too many things? Ruthlessly pare down to the essentials.

Too many people in your past that hurt or disappointed you? Put them behind you. They don’t care about you. Why carry the burden with you?

God has injured or disappointed you? Put that god behind you. Read what Jesus said again with new eyes, devoid of theologies you’ve been taught. What did he actually say. It’s really a simple faith and experience of the Spirit of God.

Like Noel Paul Stookey of the folk group Peter, Paul & Mary wrote in Hymn about attending a church service at offering time

I just had time to write a note, and all I said was I believe in you.

Are We Really Connecting?

May 25, 2017

When you say something to someone, does the message get through?

OK, we already know about kids. How about spouses?

When God says something to you, does that message connect?

I have devoted a good portion of this week learning about a new computer networking standard–a new version of Ethernet–called Time Sensitive Networking. TSN is a hot topic. Perhaps many new people will read my business blog when I write about it.

There are several important new technologies to this standard, and I’ll spare you the gory details. But there is this one–setting a “priority” so that when one device sends a “packet” of data to another, the entire network stops for a nanosecond while that priority packet gets through. It’s like traffic stopping to let an ambulance go by. You have told the network that communication between these devices is a priority and the message must get through.

So, I started contemplating then concept, of course. It’s what I do.

And I thought, when you say something to someone, does their inner dialog network shut down long enough for your message to get throug? Are you being heard?

Or, something you can control–do you intentionally shut down your inner network when someone is talking to you so that you actually receive their message? And in networking, we have what we call data and we have metadata–data about the context of the data. When you listen, do you absorb the entire context? Where they are. What they actually mean. What back story influences the conversation.

Then I thought about prayer.

For many it’s talking to God. Or maybe requesting a package from the Great Vending Machine In The Sky?

Can you shut down your inner networking for a few nanoseconds (or minutes or hours?) to listen for God’s message packet to come through?

Choosing To Live Past Temptation

May 24, 2017


“Choose your temptation.” At first glance, I missed the “breakfast” in the sign’s headline. I’m in queue at the Starbucks at the hotel where I’m staying this week. 

I think, “Interesting. Choose your temptation. I bet Jesus would have fun with that play on words.

I suppose we can choose that which will tempt us.

The real question is how do we recognize and respond to temptation.

I recognized that advertisement as a temptation to overeat. Now that I recognize the emotion as a temptation, I can make another choice. Maybe for health and keeping my waistline down. (I ate a nutrition bar in my room along with my Americano).

Some temptations are more difficult to recognize. It may take a while.

Wisdom is letting experience teach us to recognize temptation sooner.

Or we could pray “Lead me not into temptation.”

Write Things Down

May 23, 2017

The palest ink is better than the best memory. — Chinese proverb

The speaker was discussing being steadfast commenting on a passage from 1 Corinthians. He said something that provoked some thoughts. I need to make a note of that, I thought.

My everpresent notebook was on the floor unde my seat. It was a effort to reach under and retrieve it. Then fish the pen from my pocket. I’ll remember it, I told myself.

Ha!

By the time I remembered that I had something to remember, it was gone.

I was going to write on something related to being steadfast or holding steadfast or something like that.

Write things.

I once made all my notes electronically, except for a small Moleskin that fit in the back pocket of my jeans or slacks. Now I make all notes in a journal. Thoughts. Things to remember. Business interviews. Notes from press conferences. Notes from books and articles. Things I need to do.

When I fill a notebook, I go back through and copy unfinished business into the new notebook. I can sketch ideas graphically. I can draw mind maps. It is much freeer to write with a pen in a journal than to type into the Notes app of an iPhone.

Every few months, I’ll go back and skim through several old notebooks. It’s interesting to see my thinking from a year ago. Or things I’ve never done, yet.

Spiritual discipline? Yep. 

Personal discipline? Yes again.

Growth tool? For sure.

We joke about getting old and losing our memory. Actually, our memory is much worse at every age than we think it is. The worst evidence in a trial is eyewitness testimony.  Write it down.