Archive for the ‘Attitude’ Category

Mindset

May 14, 2024

Professor Carol Dweck of Stanford published groundbreaking research about how we see life—what we believe—in Mindset: The New Psychology of Success in 2007. She says, “It’s not always the people who start out the smartest who end up the smartest.”

By what you believe, I don’t mean whether or not you believe in Jesus or God or Spirit. It’s sort of what you believe about yourself. Dweck discovered that some people believe in constantly growing. That their are opportunities in the world to be discovered. That I believe that I can be as healthy and fit as nature allows. It’s called a growth mindset.

We all know people, I pray you are not one who believed that things were always bad, they were going to turn out bad, that there was little hope on earth. There is a negative mindset.

You can change and adapt your mindset. It may be almost natural, something you learned early to adapt to life. It may be something you’ve grown into. 

You can adopt a mindset open to new experiences. You can be open to hearing or feeling the urges that come from God. You can be open to following the ways of Jesus and living in the spirit.

I sometimes sit with my arms crossed because it stretches my shoulders and feels good. But mostly we sit with our arms crossed and maybe our legs crossed as a sort of defensive posture of not wanting to hear what someone else is saying. Try sitting “open.” Upright, Hands open. Eyes open. Let the words of text or from the speaker soak in open to perhaps learning something or at least understanding someone else.

You may find yourself growing emotionally and spiritually.

Soul in the Game

May 3, 2024

How are you in the organizations or groups you serve?

Some people have nothing to lose in the game. They have no skin in the game.

Skin in the game would have been if Elon Musk had sat inside the Cybertruck when they shot at it to show off the bulletproof construction. 

Soul in the game is when you care. Robert Pirisig writing his essay on quality in Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance talked of the mechanic who cared about the quality of his work.

Do you root for something where you have nothing invested? Then what does the outcome really matter?

Are you invested in time or money you could lose? Then you could be hurt by the outcome. You have Skin in the Game.

How much do you really care about the outcome, the quality of service, the people involved? Now you have invested Soul in the Game.

Whittling Down Jesus

May 2, 2024

Maybe it’s just me. When I was taught the stories and sayings of Jesus as a youth, I really believed that Jesus meant what he said. And I believed that as much as was within our power we should strive to do likewise.

Then I came across people calling themselves Christian who seemed to have such a smaller view of Jesus. Judging by words and actions, they seemed to have a smaller version of Jesus. It’s like they whittled him down to make an easier to understand, less demanding version. In the end, following Jesus became doing what we really wanted to do anyway.

We must cultivate the humility to step outside our own opinions and desires and learn from what Jesus actually said and did. 

When he told us to love our neighbor (and gave the example of the “Good Samaritan”), and when he told us to pray for our enemies, we must set aside our prejudices and do exactly that.

When have you (or I) reached out beyond our generation or race or cultural state and helped someone different or prayed for someone outside our circle of comfort? Yes, you “liberal”, pray for the “white supremacist.” And you white supremacist  pray for someone with a different color of skin. Pray for that outcast. Pray for the person possessing great wealth. 

Jesus is big. Let’s treat him as such. 

My Day; My Week

April 26, 2024

I write this on a Friday morning. As I sit in my study in the early dawn staring at the green of the spring grass and flowers bursting forth on trees, I wonder

  • What will I do with this day God has granted me?
  • What good did I do yesterday?
  • What good did I do this week?
  • Was I a good carrier of the blessings God has granted me to be able to be up and around and thinking and feeling?
  • What can I do to make the most good in the next week?
  • Maybe I encouraged several people?
  • Maybe I calmed a few others?
  • Maybe I can encourage new perspectives?

Anger—The Obstacle

April 22, 2024

There is no greater obstacle to the presence of the spirit in us than anger. St. John of the Ladder

Anger hides inside devastating our attitude and love.

Anger explodes causing hurt, embarrassment, division, separation.

On the other hand, sometimes anger expressed clears the air leading to fruitful reconciliation. Sometimes anger motivates us to correct a wrong in the world around us.

Understand  your anger. Manage it. Deal with it.

Our Mind

April 16, 2024

Our mind is the instrument of knowledge, but it is very imperfect and filled with all sorts of ignorance. John Climacus, The Ladder of Divine Ascent

“You think you’re so smart!”

How many times have we heard that? From teachers? Parents? Spouses? Children?

And that is not meant as a compliment, right?

Unless we have other problems, we do think we’re pretty smart.

But, are we really?

When we develop the attitude of continuous learning, then we can overcome that problem of ignorance. Partially, at least. The brain is malleable throughout our life. If we stretch it and use it.

Let us recognize our shortcomings and adopt the attitude of continuous improvement.

Living with Generosity

April 2, 2024

Generosity is not a specific thing that you do. Reaching into your pocket once to give a dollar for a street publication from a homeless person in downtown Chicago may feel good. Sending a payment to some cause you saw advertised may be a good thing. It may be a start. The beginning of a journey.

Generosity is an orientation toward life. You can live a life looking out in order to serve others. You can be intelligent with the way you manage your money. But you are not afraid to help out whenever you can.

The other life orientation is fear. You hoard all your resources from fear of being without. You don’t help because you feel that others are trying to get what you’ve got. 

The amount of wealth you have does not matter. Some wealthy people are generous. Some poor people are fearful. And the other way around. I have seen some “poor” people who are immensely generous people.

You can choose your orientation toward life. Generous or Fearful. Choose well.

Good Friday to Easter-A Journey

March 29, 2024

It is probably a character flaw. 

I wrote that sentence this morning. I could not concentrate. Then we left for lunch. I have no idea where I was going, since I have so many of those “flaw” things.

I know I was contemplating the death of Jesus.

And how some people apply layers of theological thinking to the event.

And how some people enjoy (?) wallowing in the gory details of how a person dies during a crucifixion.

And how some people avoid those negative scenes.

Then, only the shift in time from Friday to Sunday. 

They knew he had died and been buried. But he was missing. Then he appeared and talked with a couple. Then more. Then lots more. Later (we don’t really know how long) he cooked breakfast on the shore of the lake.

Once again, there are those who overlay many layers of theology on the meaning of the events. 

But there were too many witnesses to be ignored. And the story spread faster than any lie (well, today thanks to social media, lies spread instantaneously, but they didn’t have X back then). Within a decade thousands of people found their spiritual searching fulfilled in the person of the Jesus who came back to life.

You can involve yourself in a multiplicity of theological disputes. Or, you can simply say, “I’d like to live with that guy who died and came back to life.” It’s called following Jesus and living with-God every day.

Assumptions

March 28, 2024

A trade magazine trying to drum up subscribers at low cost ran an ad on Facebook. The magazine covers the automation market and featured some sort of robotic agriculture application. I noticed it because I was a co-founder of that magazine although I’ve been gone for 11 years.

A few people commented. I was shocked. Comment on an ad?

The comments immediately took off on “illegal” farm workers losing their jobs and sopping up free unemployment compensation.

We as humans really like to metaphorically take the ball and run with it, don’t we? We assume so many things about other people.

I’ve done that. Still do, in fact. See someone. Make an assumption about them. Then I meet them. Talk with them. Listen.

I’ve met the most interesting people that way. Sometimes opened my eyes to a whole new world.

Want to bet the first Jesus-followers met some of the same attitudes? First, suspicion from those around them. Then, a conversation, perhaps. Then, it was “I want what they’ve got.”

Feeling for Others

March 23, 2024

The woman told me, “People give us nasty looks as we park in a spot marked for handicapped people. However much on the outside my husband looks healthy, he has a heart condition that restricts his ability to walk far and fast.”

Sometimes we criticize people who appear healthy yet have a debilitating illness hidden from our accusing eyes.

Sometimes we must have an experience to nudge us toward empathy.

This past week, I suffered an allergy attack that sapped most of my energy provoked considerable congestion. I am prone to certain attacks from pollen, but seldom this bad this long.

Couple that with an abnormally busy schedule—meeting, early a.m. Blood draw, doctor appointment for regular checkup, dinner meeting, early meeting, breakfast meeting, finally two Zoom calls Friday afternoon to cap the week. It was all good. But when I wasn’t meeting, I was sleeping.

I thought, most people would not know how devoid of energy I was on the inside while meeting on the outside.

Further, I thought, how often am I guilty of judging someone on the outside unaware of the struggles going on deep within?