Archive for the ‘Attitude’ Category

The Right Attitude For Reading Spiritual Writing

June 27, 2024

The Desert Fathers were weird in many ways. Especially to our modern, materialistic minds. Most of us have never met a recluse seeking spiritual insight.

So many of us are partially university trained into an excess of criticality.

I picked up this thought in my reading this week:

“If we wish to understand the sayings of the Fathers, let us approach them with veneration, silencing our judgments and our own thoughts in order to meet them on their own ground and perhaps to partake ultimately—if we prove able to emulate their earnestness in the search, their ruthless determination, their infinite compassion—in their own silent communion with God.”

Yes, we can rush so quickly to judgement without first checking our attitudes at the door. We pick up the books with open hands and open hearts to let some drop of wisdom touch the tongue of our mind.

An understanding of the thoughts can come later.

Calm Is Contagious

June 25, 2024

Calm is Contagious

So is Fear.

Which do you choose?

Make It Work

June 21, 2024

We recently vacationed in Québec City. Our tour guide on a walking tour explained the history of the city from the coming of the first French explorers to politics in the 1960s and again in the 1980s. You may recall that the country held two referendums in Quebec to find the sentiment of the people toward staying in Canada.

The first vote was not close, but a second vote a decade later tallied almost a 50/50 split. This told the rest of Canada that something must be done.

Politicians worked out a compromise making Quebec sort of a “nation within a nation.” It does not have embassies or passports, but it does have some special prerogatives within the nation.

The guide had two phrases. The first was, “it means nothing.” The notion of the “nation within a nation” isn’t exactly true. But his second phrase is something that could be used within American (and many other countries) politics, as well as within the general Christian movement in the world—We make it work.

In so many areas of life stubbornness, tempers, lack of empathy, closed minds get in the way of working things out.

We should also be able to say, “We make it work.”

Good Feel For People

May 22, 2024

The human resources department of one large company I worked for traveled to the various manufacturing sites leading management seminars. I can still remember one where they put up one of those consultant’s 2×2 matrices. They compared “feel for people” versus “intellectual control of emotions.” Good and Poor. Of course, the top right box was good in each category. 

That is something for which we can strive as leaders of organizations whether non-profit, or profit, or church, or wherever 3 or more are gathered for a task.

I thought of this when I read Axios (one of my two favorite news sources) Finish Line newsletter about the private equity firm KKR. If you don’t know KKR, think the Richard Gere character in Pretty Woman.

The big picture: KKR operates what it calls “Centers of Excellence,” including one focused on human capital. One of its goals is to learn how to identify great leaders, whether current CEOs or future CEOs, for the sake of driving outsized returns. The focus is more on psychological traits than on résumés. Behind the scenes: KKR has discovered that having a genuine sense of empathy might be the key identifier, according to Pete Stavros, KKR’s co-head of global private equity. For example, does the person exhibit a sense of responsibility not only for shareholders and top executives, but also for the most junior of employees? In other words, a North Star of: “My people, my problem.” Other signals could include a company’s safety record or employee engagement scores. The bottom line: This might sound squishy, particularly to spreadsheet obsessives. But private equity might be one of the last industries to recognize the importance of corporate culture — and how that culture can beget capital.

A follower of Jesus should pick this up from his way of life. When he did get angry, it had a purpose. And he certainly had empathy for all except people who put on false masks.

Pursuit of Wealth or Living a Real Life

May 17, 2024

Nassim Nicholas Taleb—The fact that people in countries with cold weather tend to be harder working, richer, less relaxed, less amicable, less tolerant of idleness, more (over) organized and more harried than those in hotter climates should make us wonder whether wealth is mere indemnification, and motivation is just overcompensation for not having a real life.

Jesus—…but the worries of this life, the deceitfulness of wealth and the desires for other things come in and choke the word, making it unfruitful.

The pursuit of wealth or worrying about wealth of which we may not have enough puts us on an endless treadmill running to nowhere.

It is not too late no matter the season to “have a real life” or to be “fruitful.”

  • Pause and breathe
  • Take slow walks
  • Be kind
  • Practice generosity
  • Serve others graciously
  • Teach someone life skills

Virtue

May 16, 2024

I’ve been thinking on a concept almost unheard of today—virtue.

Virtue is what I do when no one is looking.

Virtue is when the income number I show the tax collector is greater than the income number I would show my neighbor.

Virtue is when I follow through on what I say I will do.

Virtue is when I am kind to someone for no apparent reason.

Virtue is when I help someone who cannot repay.

Virtue is when I shine the light on someone else rather than hogging the spotlight.

Mindset

May 14, 2024

Professor Carol Dweck of Stanford published groundbreaking research about how we see life—what we believe—in Mindset: The New Psychology of Success in 2007. She says, “It’s not always the people who start out the smartest who end up the smartest.”

By what you believe, I don’t mean whether or not you believe in Jesus or God or Spirit. It’s sort of what you believe about yourself. Dweck discovered that some people believe in constantly growing. That their are opportunities in the world to be discovered. That I believe that I can be as healthy and fit as nature allows. It’s called a growth mindset.

We all know people, I pray you are not one who believed that things were always bad, they were going to turn out bad, that there was little hope on earth. There is a negative mindset.

You can change and adapt your mindset. It may be almost natural, something you learned early to adapt to life. It may be something you’ve grown into. 

You can adopt a mindset open to new experiences. You can be open to hearing or feeling the urges that come from God. You can be open to following the ways of Jesus and living in the spirit.

I sometimes sit with my arms crossed because it stretches my shoulders and feels good. But mostly we sit with our arms crossed and maybe our legs crossed as a sort of defensive posture of not wanting to hear what someone else is saying. Try sitting “open.” Upright, Hands open. Eyes open. Let the words of text or from the speaker soak in open to perhaps learning something or at least understanding someone else.

You may find yourself growing emotionally and spiritually.

Soul in the Game

May 3, 2024

How are you in the organizations or groups you serve?

Some people have nothing to lose in the game. They have no skin in the game.

Skin in the game would have been if Elon Musk had sat inside the Cybertruck when they shot at it to show off the bulletproof construction. 

Soul in the game is when you care. Robert Pirisig writing his essay on quality in Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance talked of the mechanic who cared about the quality of his work.

Do you root for something where you have nothing invested? Then what does the outcome really matter?

Are you invested in time or money you could lose? Then you could be hurt by the outcome. You have Skin in the Game.

How much do you really care about the outcome, the quality of service, the people involved? Now you have invested Soul in the Game.

Whittling Down Jesus

May 2, 2024

Maybe it’s just me. When I was taught the stories and sayings of Jesus as a youth, I really believed that Jesus meant what he said. And I believed that as much as was within our power we should strive to do likewise.

Then I came across people calling themselves Christian who seemed to have such a smaller view of Jesus. Judging by words and actions, they seemed to have a smaller version of Jesus. It’s like they whittled him down to make an easier to understand, less demanding version. In the end, following Jesus became doing what we really wanted to do anyway.

We must cultivate the humility to step outside our own opinions and desires and learn from what Jesus actually said and did. 

When he told us to love our neighbor (and gave the example of the “Good Samaritan”), and when he told us to pray for our enemies, we must set aside our prejudices and do exactly that.

When have you (or I) reached out beyond our generation or race or cultural state and helped someone different or prayed for someone outside our circle of comfort? Yes, you “liberal”, pray for the “white supremacist.” And you white supremacist  pray for someone with a different color of skin. Pray for that outcast. Pray for the person possessing great wealth. 

Jesus is big. Let’s treat him as such. 

My Day; My Week

April 26, 2024

I write this on a Friday morning. As I sit in my study in the early dawn staring at the green of the spring grass and flowers bursting forth on trees, I wonder

  • What will I do with this day God has granted me?
  • What good did I do yesterday?
  • What good did I do this week?
  • Was I a good carrier of the blessings God has granted me to be able to be up and around and thinking and feeling?
  • What can I do to make the most good in the next week?
  • Maybe I encouraged several people?
  • Maybe I calmed a few others?
  • Maybe I can encourage new perspectives?