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Knowing Your Soul

July 8, 2022

Every time there is an incident it happens. For every politician or executive in the news, there it goes again. For when the crazy neighbor complains again on the community Facebook page. For all of these, we (and the crazy media) love to speculate about the psychology, the inner thoughts and fears, the soul (or lack of) within that person.

I picked up this thought from the writer Virginia Woolf, “We do not know our own souls, let alone the souls of others.”

Yes, hubris pops up everywhere. Hubris, that feeling that we know everything about everything. We can psychoanalyze anyone from a distance. We can know the state of someone’s soul by reading about them on social media.

We assume we’re OK. We assume we’re not OK. Either way we are wrong. And right.

Our actions reflect the state of our heart. If we were to step back from ourselves and look at our actions as though we are outside our bodies, what would we see? Would we look like someone who possesses the heart of Jesus? Would we look deranged? Do we really know enough about ourselves to pass judgement on another?

Probably not. There is where our work lies.

Equanimity

July 7, 2022

I found a new word to learn and apply. Equanimity.

This appeared in a book describing characteristics of the various Enneagram types. Evaluations I’ve taken are somewhat conflicting sometimes typing me as a 4 and sometimes a 5. Reading through this latest book, The Road Back To You, I’ve settled on typing myself as a 4 with a strong 5 wing. That may not mean much, but 4s tend to have more mood swings. You can’t always tell mine from the outside, but sometimes this writing reveals them.

So the author, Ian Morgan Cron, brings out this word for 4s–equanimity. “Fours need to cultivate what’s called equanimity, a sorely ignored virtue in the Christian tradition. Equanimity refers to the ability to remain emotionally composed and steady regardless of what’s going on around us.”

People almost everywhere in the world live on a diet of social media and biased TV news specifically designed to unbalance us emotionally. We too easily get sucked into the vortex of hyped up emotions. Some people thrive (emotionally and financially) on being perpetrators.

We, the recipients, must cultivate this virtue called equanimity. We need a daily (hourly?) reminder.

Emphasize How We Are Alike

July 6, 2022

More people recognize the dangers and evils that lie in divisiveness. They talk about it more often in public. That in itself is a triumph. Trolls are everywhere to swamp your comments with, well, divisiveness.

Why I wonder do we devote so much effort emphasizing how we are different from one another. And why those on the other side of the dividing line are evil, bad, very unlikable versions of humans.

Our wish to feel superior to others forms the substructure of this attitude.

Christians specialize in dividing themselves from those who are not. But also so do those of other faiths–Islam, Hindu, Buddhist, nothings, and on and on.

Even within Christianity love divisiveness, there are liberals, mainstream, evangelical, reformed, Roman Catholic, Orthodox, Pentecostal (if you haven’t spoken in tongues, are you even saved?)–I think I could probably go on.

Christians who worship in all manner of forms and who hold some tenets stronger or weaker all have one thing in common–Jesus. Thinkers have devoted way too much time figuring out just who or what Jesus was. But at least all agree he existed. That’s a start.

Thomas Merton (one of my spiritual heroes) found common ground of contemplative Christianity and Buddhism. And, after a lifetime of experience, I agree with his path. He was on to something.

I bet that if we tried that we could find more common ground. But we would have to lay aside our pride, and our fears, and open our eyes and hearts. That’s not impossible. But it’s hard.

Freedom Is The Prize

July 5, 2022

Seneca thought deeply and wrote on Stoic philosophy. His letters to a friend are a great read. He was also caught in a “golden cage.” He was sucked into the inner circle as an advisor to the Roman Emperor Nero. As he accumulated wealth and power and prestige, he found he could not leave. Even had he wished.

I’ve seen a letter he wrote compared to a letter the Apostle Paul wrote. They are so alike you could think one was copied from the other (probably not). They were so alike that later generations of Christians in the first four hundred years of the church actually thought Seneca was one of them.

Seneca was also a favorite of many of the founders of the US.

He wrote, “Freedom is the prize we are working for, not being a slave to anything—not to compulsion, not to chance events.” Then he said, “show me a man who isn’t a slave.” 

Americans, especially, like to proclaim individual freedom. Many think that means they can do whatever they want whenever they want to whomever they want. Thinkers like Seneca (and Paul, and others) call a time out on that thought.

Maybe we’re a slave to compulsion or to chance events. Maybe those mean whatever false and misleading, but tempting, thing we see on social media or on our chosen favorite TV “news” source. Maybe we dance to someone else’s music who can rile our emotions such that we lose our path.

Calling it a “prize we are working for” implies that we must always work for our freedom. What that usually means is freeing ourselves from our own shackles of living by the whims of our emotions or the leading of those who merely try to raise our emotional temperature.

Freedom and Responsibility

July 4, 2022

We in the US celebrate Independence Day today in commemoration of the adopting and signing the Declaration of Independence of the British colonies in part of North America from British rule.

This advice fits as well for all the international readers of this blog as for citizens and sojourners here: take some time to slowly and carefully read the actual Declaration of Independence, the Constitution of the US, and the Federalist Papers.

Digest these words from the Declaration–We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the Pursuit of Happiness.

For me “all men” means, well, all men. Also for me (as endowed later in the Constitution), all men means all humans. Yes, even women. And I am shocked and dismayed that after all these years of the movements of the mid-60s for civil rights and rights for women we still have not reached the goal. Actually, not even for all white men, either.

It seems to be a birthright of Americans to talk loudly about freedoms. It has always been my role to point out (not original with me, just read what the founders had to say!) the importance responsibility plays as the companion of freedom bringing it to its full flourishing. Seth Godin wrote today on responsibility–Demand responsibility.

I’d like to add one other idea I picked up from Andy Stanley this morning during my brisk walks around our ponds. Integrity. We have so many leaders at all levels of society lacking integrity. And that includes only the ones we hear about. Integrity belongs alongside responsibility as requirements for true freedom.

Which begs the question–where am I on the scale of responsibility and integrity? And you?

And if you’re American–celebrate well and safely. Today you can eat that hot dog and potato salad and apple pie without nutritional guilt! 😉

Digging Beyond the Hype

July 1, 2022

Someone choosing to tell you where you’re wrong says, “[insert people group they don’t like] are supposed to be subordinate to white men because [insert favorite snippet of Bible writing].”

You open Facebook (heaven forbid) and see someone you sort of know citing a “fact” that you know is way off. My lord, have I seen some very wrong or misused statistics there.

Someone cites a “fact”…

Do you ever stop to ask how they got that? Could you ask them five times nicely in order to probe more deeply, “How do you know that?” Or, “Where did you get that?”

Do you know how to find and evaluate the context and language of that quote?

Do you know how to evaluate a “study”? How to look beyond the published “statistics” at the structure of the questionnaire, the types of questions, what was the population, are they only using averages?

I am reminding myself as much as you about asking questions, digging beyond the glib and superficial. Go beyond the hype into understanding.

Solitude

June 30, 2022

Drawing away from people to be alone is another of the spiritual disciplines little discussed today.

I don’t mean to suggest becoming like my heroes, the Desert Fathers of the second through fifth centuries. Some of them went a bit overboard with the solitude thing.

I can actually find solitude at a local coffee house. People and commerce and noise surround me. Yet, I know no one. I am alone in my little corner contemplating or writing. There is an energy for an introvert being around activity but not being part of it.

Alternatively, I pack a coffee and laptop and head for a park. Alone. Surrounded by trees and creatures (hopefully no larger than a raccoon or opossum). A few hours there refreshes the soul and my outlook on life.

I have been told of Catholic monasteries that will accept people who are not Catholic for a period of solitude and reflection. That’s something I’ll have to try someday.

However you can withdraw for a bit on a regular basis, do it. Your soul needs that as part of the rhythm of being alone and serving with others.

Life Is Like Running a Marathon

June 29, 2022

When I was training as a soccer referee, I liked the sprint part of the training. I didn’t like the distance part even though it wasn’t really that long.

Sprinting you see the finish line just ahead. You spring off the line, work up to full speed as quickly as possible, maintain that top speed for the distance.

The 2,400 meters, or even running a 5K, took a mental toll. You can’t think of the finish. You must focus on the next step. One step at a time to finish the course.

Both the Apostle Paul and the anonymous writer of the letter to the Hebrews used running and training as metaphors for life. Throw off every yoke that keeps you down and run the race set before you.

I’ve known for many years that life is more like that distance running than sprinting.

The first requirement is to see the course in long term and set out in the right direction. Changing directions comes at a heavy cost.

Then it’s one step at a time. The next decision. The next relationship. The next task. You go forward with intention. Make decisions for the long term, not for short-term enjoyments. What stupid risks are you taking? What habits detract from the goal?

Run the race a step at a time. And keep going forward.

Silence

June 28, 2022

Silence is one of the spiritual disciplines.

The second year of university I had changed schools. I lived at home to save much money. I knew no one. It was a silent year. I don’t think that is a discipline.

I can attend a reception or gathering, stand aside, and say nothing. I don’t think that is the discipline. [Although if someone asks a question of a topic with which I’m knowledgeable, I can talk for a long time.]

I come to my chair, cushion, or walking path intending silence in order to hear God. And I do this with a degree of regularity—that is the discipline.

If I’m on social media or at a gathering and someone spouts strong political or social views and I restrain my fingers or tongue from responding, that is a discipline.

Intention. Strength. Listening.

Christ Abhors Vagueness

June 27, 2022

It is easy enough to write and talk about God while remaining comfortable within the contemporary intellectual climate. Even people who would call themselves unbelievers often use the word gesturally, as a ready-made synonym for mystery. But if nature abhors a vacuum, Christ abhors a vagueness. If God is love, Christ is love for this one person, this one place, this one time-bound and time-ravaged self.

Christian Wiman

I read this thought and loved a couple of things in it. It’s easy for anyone to use the term God. Christ abhors vagueness.

It reminds me of an old Peanuts cartoon where Linus proclaims, “I love mankind.” But then he adds, “I can’t stand people.”

We can see this in general society. We see it in evangelical churches. Probably other churches as well.

I hope we don’t see it within us.

Jesus taught us that love is specific. His stories told of specific people loving specific people. He healed specific individual people. He taught us to do the same.

When I leave this desk to go out into the community around me, can I show some act, however small, of love toward each person I meet?

That is the test.