Archive for the ‘Spirituality’ Category

Share Your God Experience Through Listening

January 16, 2013

Last weekend I heard a speaker who gave two presentations on sharing God with others.  Those who have read this blog for a while know that I consider listening a Spiritual discipline. He didn’t go that far, but as he talked about sharing with people, that point came through.

Someone said, how do you start a discussion on Spiritual topics. There didn’t seem to be a formula. I have not found a formula. But sometimes asking a question such as “how are you” and listening to the reply is a great starter. You can ask a follow up “why is that” type of question. Then “how does that make you feel”.

There are some keys. No matter to whom you are talking, it is important not to be condescending or judgmental. That will just turn people away and build a wall.

You build a conversation and watch for the appropriate opening. One thing I’ve found is not to give advice–exactly. But you can share what you’ve experienced. If people have been hurt or are cynical about “religion” just talk about the essentials. It’s not about religion. It’s about your life. How you live. What’s its purpose. Meeting the right sort of friends. Caring. Being cared for.

It’s not religion–it’s life.

Someone asked about different religions. When I was growing up, the different religion we worried about was Roman Catholicism. My, times are different. But I have friends who are Muslim and Hindu. Doesn’t matter to me. I can still simply talk about the Spirit and what it means in my life. People are interested in the spirit. If I can just encourage that, I’ve done them a great service.

It all starts with listening. With your heart. No agenda. Except to share what you have for where they are in their life.

Don’t be afraid. It’s fun.

Detox Your Soul

May 16, 2012

Detox. That word these days can conjure images of “New Age, hippy food obsessions.” It can also mean recognizing the toxic things that enter our lives and interfere with our ability to live a with-God life.

In fact, I often view Spiritual practices as a means to help re-focus my life when some of these influences infiltrate my defensive perimeter.

I read the blog of Michael Hyatt, the recently retired CEO of Thomas Nelson Publishing. Recently he promoted a book by Craig Groeschel, pastor of LifeChurch.tv. Hyatt says that in his new book, Soul Detox: Clean Living in a Contaminated World, he outlines various threats.

I have not read this book, but it has gone on my book list. (Do you keep a books-to-read list? It’s a good practice.)

Here are the things he discusses. Good list to measure your inner life by.

Toxic Behaviors

* Our personal lies
* Our false beliefs
* Our lethal language
* Our hidden sins

Toxic Emotions

* Bitterness and resentment
* Envy and comparison
* Anger and rage
* Fear and worry

Toxic Influences

* Materialism
* Culture
* Unhealthy people
* Religion

Jumping to Conclusions

March 14, 2012

I love travel–well, mostly. It breaks my habits. Sometimes I get confused. I got up a little late today and just took a walk down Des Plaines River Road (O’Hare area of Chicago) to both get some exercise and to meditate. Trouble was, I was meditating on the sequel to this post–only I hadn’t posted it yet.

Mr. Johnson was the Superintendent of Schools in my hometown. He also taught some math classes. When he taught plane geometry, he told us that what he was really teaching was how to think. And he did–in my case, at least.

What we learned was how to prove theorems. It was an exercise in logical thinking. That concept is so deeply ingrained in me, that I cannot proceed without it.

So, a few weeks ago I was leading a class in the study of Romans. I introduced the concept of the logical development of Paul’s thought as he leads us in an exercise of spiritual formation. But as soon as I started the logical progression, someone wanted to jump ahead and latch on to the one thing that speaks to him from the letter. And the way he expressed it sounded almost vindictive. You know how some people sound accusatory even if they say they don’t mean to be? It’s one of those “I’ve got it, you don’t” sort of statements.

But I wondered a couple of things. First, can we have the patience to slow down and go through the logic of Biblical writers rather than grab a thought and cling to it without context? Then, can we be open to the leading of the Spirit as It guides us toward further spiritual formation?

Are You Spiritually Fed

January 10, 2012

I just heard someone talking about moving from one church congregation to another because “we weren’t being fed.” So I got to thinking, what does that mean? And just whose responsibility is it to feed you?

Does being fed mean that I don’t like the senior pastor’s sermons? Maybe I don’t agree with the theology? Or speaking style? Or maybe the type of worship service? You know, some people like a more formal service, and some people like something more up-tempo and lively. That’s the thing in America, we have so many “cultures” that you can literally go across the street and find an entirely different style of worship. And then again.

What really struck me about the phrase this time was the passive voice (if you remember your grammar lessons)–“being fed.” That means someone else is the actor. The picture I have is that of these adults as babies with mommy and daddy feeding them.

Paul talks about being a baby in the faith and then growing up. I’m thinking that if they had said they prefer guitars to organs, I could understand. If they said I don’t like the preacher’s style, I could understand. If they said we don’t have any friends or small social group in the church, I could understand–a little. With the last one, though, the individual person could take some initiative to invite people to a small group.

But back to feeding. As we mature, we learn to hunt and gather for our food. OK, so hunting these days is mostly at the super market, but still, we take the initiative. Is it someone else’s responsibility to figure out what I want and provide it to me–spoon-fed if you will? Or, is being spiritually fed my responsibility? Should I pursue study, prayer, meditation on my own? Should I seek out others to share with?

God’s grace is funny that way. It’s always available. But God expects you to seek it.

Are you being fed? Or are you assuming adult responsibility to seek your food and consume it?

How I Can Find God

September 9, 2011

I am at a technical conference in St. Louis. Last night as we gathered after the keynote address for a late snack and beverage, I found myself in three conversations that are not an unusual experience at these conferences.

The women beside me talked about the manufacturing software business and marketing in that arena. Across the table and to the right from me was a well-known MIT graduate and inventor who was talking particle physics, energy and combating cancer without chemotherapy. The man across the table and to my left was discussing how the failure of organized religion had destroyed his belief in God.

I never find it amazing that dinner conversations broach into spiritual discussions. Almost everyone I meet is seeking for spiritual nourishment–even those who think it will never happen.

Since almost all of us were scientifically trained, I approached him from the standpoint of science. Seems logical to me, even common sense, although some of you may be offended to a greater or lesser degree. That’s OK. I never said you had to agree with me. And I always welcome a reasoned and reasonable comment.

Back to the point. I told him I could prove God exists–actually, I went on, I won’t prove it, he will. But I won’t prove God’s existence with a rational, logical argument–the kind of reasoning you may have been taught in geometry class when you learned to . People much smarter than I have tried that–and failed.

The essence of science is that you observe something. You record the methods which led up to the observation. You write the entire process and publish so that others can do that. Other people follow the method and observe something (or not). Over time, a truth is established.

Over millennia, seekers have discovered ways to find God. By pursuing spiritual disciplines, you will become closer to God and discover Him. The basic disciplines (which really means a habit that you choose to do) include study (Bible and other spiritual writings), meditation, prayer, service, celebration and worship. There are others, but if you develop a daily habit of these things, you will feel closer to God.

So, yes, I can use science to prove God’s existence. But it’s just one human at a time. To those who would argue it’s just a hallucination, I’d answer “you don’t know, because you’ve not done it.”

A word of warning. It seems to be the human condition that you just cannot feel the warmth of God at all times. Sometimes God just doesn’t seem here. The Willow Creek Community Church foundation conducted a massive survey. One question was have you ever felt stuck in your spiritual life. Almost 2,000 answered yes. A follow up question was how did you get “unstuck.” The answer was (not necessarily in these exact words) to return to the disciplines–study, prayer, meditation and so on.

Rooted or Restless in the Spirit

September 1, 2011

Are you restless in your mind and soul? Are you unable to sit quietly? Focus on a book? Focus on prayer?

When I teach a Yoga class–which is mostly for strength and flexibility, but also for focus and calm–I end  with several minutes of quiet relaxation. It’s interesting to watch the class and see who can achieve quiet and rest and who is restless.

Psalm 1 introduces the Psalms. It talks about how to approach the collection of prayers. It talks of meditating on them. And how people rooted in God will get closer to God but how many people are restless. These are like chaff–empty shells that are blown by the wind first one way then another.

I look around and see a restless world. Herman Hesse was said to be the first “modern” writer in the sense that the protagonist of Steppenwolf could not sit in his room quietly. The first thing he did when he got to his room was turn on the radio (radios were new at the time Hesse wrote).

Our society (especially American and Western Europe, but spreading quickly everywhere) is predominantly restless, unsettled, not rooted in value–like empty shells first blown this way then that. We require diversions. We require noise. We have many desires–but always just for ourselves. We want what’s ours, and we want it now. But when we get something there is no contentment. No resting in God. We just move on to the next desire that appears in our mind.

We need to stop for a time every day and contemplate on the unchanging fruits that come from God. With your roots reaching deeply into God, you can become a being that produces the fruits of love, patience, joy, peace, gratitude, service. I like to be around rooted people. How about you?

Planting Good From Your Heart

August 26, 2011

Not only my own experience, but from the witness of many spiritual seekers before me, I see it is necessary to understand the bad that dwells within you. I can’t find the source of the quote right now, but someone said that awareness is the first step toward confession and redemption. Covering up your guilt is not healthy.

On the other hand, we are not all bad. Well, at least most of us. As you study the Bible and meditate on God, you can also see where God is leading you. That you are forgiven the bad. There is a hope. That God is there. I’ve had subsequent experiences in meditating on God and His Word where I’ve experienced God. It’s a vision to nurture. A reminder when life hits you with setbacks. Or when you are tempted to grow bad fruit rather than good.

As you meditate on your heart, it’s good to visualize the fruits of the spirit growing from it. That gives you a guide for the day. Spread some joy and peace where you go. It’s one of those things that the more you give away, the more returns to you.

Peace.

If your heart were planted like a seed, what plant would grow

August 25, 2011

At the end of a Yoga class, we spend about five minutes in “final relaxation.” We lie on our backs in “corpse pose” and focus on slow, rhythmic breathing. For many people this is the highlight of the hour. Often I give the class something to meditate on. Sometimes it’s good to meditate on nothing–just focus on breath and clear your mind. Other times I’ll have them visualize lying on a beach or in a meadow or something.

There is one meditation that I like to give. Lie quietly, focus on slow, rhythmic breathing, then meditate on the question, “If your heart were planted, what would grow?”

There is more to this question than might meet the eye. Have you ever looked inside yourself? Do you know you, or do you know the you that you think you are? This may come as a shock to some, but you may not be the perfect person of your dreams.

Once when I was deep in meditation, I had an experience (some would call it a vision) of entering a basement room and seeing all manner of evil. Murder, adultery, specifics that I don’t really remember. What I remember is thinking that deep inside I really am capable of committing sin–maybe even grievous sin.

I remember this vision to this day even though it happened many years ago. It reminds me that I’m not perfect. I am in need of God’s grace (a later experience–probably first you have to realize you are sinning and capable of much more before you can really receive God’s grace).

So, where are you in life? What would grow. Are you living with God, and the fruits your heart would grow are love, peace, grace? Or are you still enmeshed in lust, self-love, materialism, greed, hate? Realizing where you are helps you focus on becoming what God would like you to be.

Control Your Emotions

July 12, 2011

I just spent a week mostly off the grid. I did some work but mostly watched and played with my grandkids–who are 4 and 2. I love kids. You can often find me at family gatherings with the kids–especially reunions at parks. I’ll take the kids to the play areas.

They are usually inquisitive and show unbounded joy. If they like something, you know it. If they don’t, you know it.

On the other hand, they are quite demanding. Especially at this young age, they are still in the worldview that they are the world. They only gradually realize that other people and things are not an extension of them. And, they want your undivided attention.

Jesus taught that you can be a slave to your emotions. Kids show that. They are controlled by their emotions. They can be happy; they can be angry. They also learn early to be “drama queens.” You should have seen the look the 2-yr-old gave me when she suffered a slight touching by her brother and started screaming and I told her that she could just stop the drama, that it wasn’t that bad. I think she knew what I meant.

A big part of parenting–and the community of faith with kids–is to help them grow past the view that everything revolves around them and that they need to put their emotions under the control first of their intellect then their soul.

We also need reminding. Kids bring out a variety of emotional responses in adults. We need to remember our focus on Jesus and not react to the kid’s emotional outbursts with those of our own. And, oh, what hard work that is. But it’s part of our own growth.

How can we be true disciples of Jesus, and disciple-makers in our own right, if we are continually buffeted by our emotions? And if we are entirely self-centered?

Benefits of Meditation

June 27, 2011

I got into a brief conversation on mediation based on this post from a week ago or so. Beyond the initial response, this discussion caused me to think a little more deeply about the situation.

Many people, even Christians, are suspicious of what has been called spiritual enlightenment. They are more rooted into everyday life and prefer the physical realm. Not a criticism–it’s just the way people are wired. Often Christians are worried about creeping “New Age” mysticism infiltrating churches. This worry is not without justification. I’m amazed at the number of New Age books in bookstores these days–and at the number of middle-aged women buying them.

But–there are two aspects of meditation that will change your life if you practice it.

There is first of all a physical side. Apart from the histories of Christian, Buddhist or Hindu meditation, there is mounting scientific evidence that the mere physical acts associated with meditation have beneficial effects upon your health. When I teach Yoga, I don’t teach Hindu theology. But I teach mind-body awareness. That’s the first step toward feeling better. Long-term practice of meditation (simply sitting quietly in silence for a period of time even as brief as 10 minutes twice a day) will help slow your pulse, reduce high blood pressure, lower stress, make you calmer.

Think of the deeply spiritual people you have met. Don’t they live a combination of calmness and energy? This sounds contradictory, but it isn’t. They actually go together.

Further than the physical benefits are the spiritual ones. Rather than sitting quietly and concentrating on your breath or a sound, you can read a passage from the Bible as the source of contemplation. As you sit quietly, allow God to talk to you through that scripture. You will be amazed at the insights you will receive. Your knowledge and spiritual growth and maturity will ever expand.

Skeptical? Even professional soccer referees are taught the value of pausing a moment and taking one or two deep breaths before confronting an angry coach or player. Your actions will be something you won’t be embarrassed watching on TV replay. Same with you.