Archive for the ‘Attitude’ Category

Are You Polite or Kind?

December 13, 2024

Think on the various conversations Jesus participated in as recorded in the various Gospels.

The rich young man, Nicodemus, the Syrian/Phoenician woman with a sick daughter, the Samaritan woman at the well. And more.

He was strong, but kind, with the rich young man who was a perfectionist regarding keeping the laws of the religion. But Jesus saw his heart. He pointed out to the man where he needed to grow.

Nicodemus, a religious leader, came with questions. Jesus answered directly, but also by giving him something to think about.

I love the way he bantered with the Syrian/Phoenician woman before telling her of healing.

The Samaritan woman, opposite of the rich young man who thought he did everything right, went to the well for water when the other women would be gone so as not to face them. Jesus did not pat her on the back (metaphorically) and tell her things could be worse. He saw also the condition of her heart, confronting her with how to grow becoming healthy.

Being polite is withholding feedback in order to make someone feel good today. Being kind is being candid about how they can get better tomorrow.

Let us ponder on how to be candid, yet kind, like Jesus.

Advent—Anticipation

December 5, 2024

[Updated to finish sentence] Elizabeth and Zeccharia lived an entire married life in anticipation of a baby. One didn’t come—until it did.

The last thing Mary wanted was a baby. She was anticipating a big wedding day. Then God said, you’re pregnant.

Luke writes of people who lived their entire lives anticipating a special kind of leader. They saw a baby and knew their prayers were answered.

Writings from the time around 2,100 years ago in the Palestine region of the Roman empire, indeed even further abroad, show an even more general attitude of spiritual awakening and anticipation.

I’m writing this during the first week of Advent. I wonder, what is my anticipation? What is our anticipation? Are we in an era of spiritual awakening? Or, are we in just another era?


Rather than “we,” what about “me?” Or you? Are we living with anticipation of a spiritual awakening?

How Easy To Be Critical

November 22, 2024

We drove through some back roads in the central south of Kentucky. A Baptist church of one flavor or another seemed to appear at every crossroad. We crossed over into Tennessee. Now Churches of Christ of various flavors appeared.

My tradition is Methodist. I am quite Wesleyan in outlook.

I thought about how the Baptists in town were skeptical that Methodists were really Christian. Joe, the pastor of First Christian Church (Disciples of Christ), used to say he led the only Christian church in town. (It was a joke. I think.) Let us not even mention the Protestants and the Catholics.

But I pondered all those varieties of churches we passed.

What if each brought the peace of God and a community to the people who attend? Do we all need to go to the same place to worship? Are there not varieties of style that speak to the individual souls?

I like the formality and mystery of Catholic Mass, yet a dose of the “rock concert and a TED Talk” style is motivating at times. My wife likes the typical Protestant liturgy with familiar songs.

Why criticize others? We should be all on the same track. Just tasting different varieties of the tea.

Relax. Follow your path faithfully. Why worry about others? Life is too short (he says writing this the day after yet another birthday).

Principles

November 11, 2024

My feeble attention requires frequent reminders of my core principles.

Peace and Justice.

Peace is an action word. It’s not the Eagles’ “Peaceful Easy Feeling.” Rather practice peace through reaching out with love toward those who are hurting (which is everyone).

Justice without mercy is simply revenge dressed up. Rather practice justice through discovering others’ needs and helping.

Yes, there is a political component. In practice, it’s an attitude of individuals acting in community.

Life Goes On

November 7, 2024

The election is finally over in America. Sometimes I like the parliamentary system where political campaigns consume seemingly endless time, money, and attention.

Maybe, just like in most of the rest of the world, your candidate one and you feel satisfied. Or maybe your candidate lost and you feel discouraged and worried. (Just as in all of my election history, some of mine lost and some won.)

Remember what Jesus said about this. Oh, wait, Jesus said nothing about politics. Jesus told us that we live best when we live in another kingdom—God’s kingdom.

Regardless of outcome, today is another day when life goes on. We must continue to follow Jesus first, loving God and loving others.

That never changes. That always satisfies.

Holding On

November 6, 2024

The idea burrows through the conscious mind to the unconscious one. Sometimes we know not the source of the idea.

Ideas resonate with an emotion and stick.

Henri Nouwen wrote a little book on prayer called With Open Hands.

He thinks about how opening our hands opens us to God in prayer.

Have you ever become aware of clenched hands? You are trying to go to sleep. You realize your hands are closed into fists.

The very act of intentionally opening your hands brings immediate relaxation.

The same with our minds.

The very act of opening our minds opens our eyes to new possibilities. New ideas can bring us to a new level of awareness. 

We can leave the fixed mindsets of prejudice, opinion, bitterness, cynicism behind.

Open now to hearing Jesus’s voice calling to a better way of life.

Love Over Opinion

November 5, 2024

I saw this on Rich’s Ride blog

Our love will change the world, not our opinions.

This worked once a couple of thousand years ago. Followers of Jesus walked a different way such that they changed the world.

Today is election day in America. I hope all who are citizens are voting today—for my candidate, of course. 🙂

Oh, I guess I didn’t mention who that was. Oh, well…

I went to graduate school with an idea of earning a PhD in Political Science. Things happened. I wound up back in technology with a side of philosophy. Much better off. But I donate to candidates I like and will vote. And hopefully the months-long low level anxiety will leave. And my email folder and messages folder will grow strangely silent.

Paraphrasing John Mellencamp, Oh, yeah, life goes on, long after the thrill of the politicking is gone.

Attitudes

November 4, 2024

It’s way easier to be negative, sarcastic, and cynical. It’s much harder to be hopeful, positive, and proactive.

Everywhere we look, we see words meant to instill fear, uncertainty, and doubt.

That is the easy thing for media to write. Mainstream media and influencers alike. It generates likes and views.

It is much harder to analyze the good with the bad. The think of hopeful, positive, and proactive.

People are cynical. Oh, but think about the many people you know who are kind. Who will carry a bag for you, open a door, smile and say Hi.

Many good people exist. Also many good and helpful services to which we can contribute.

Should we find ourselves mired in negativity and fear, we can take small steps to change. We can change our information sources. We can look for just one positive thing in the next person we meet. We can notice beauty. We can take one step toward generosity.

Joy

October 28, 2024

True, real joy always comes to us only as a present. It originates in God. Human joy is a share through grace in the joy of God, in God’s nature, which is nothing but the sphere of supreme joy. The sources of true joy, therefore, are found where the creature waits for God.—Ladislaus Boros.

Joy must be differentiated from pleasure. It is deeper and more lasting. 

Joy also differentiates from happiness, something transient, nice while it’s here, sad when it wafts away.

What is Faith?

October 17, 2024

It is not a speculative, rational thing, a cold, lifeless assent, a train of ideas in the head; but also a disposition of the heart.

Somewhere a person exists who lives almost totally within the mind. Religion is a set of rules. Politics is a set of opinions. Other people either agree with their ideas or they are lost, ignorant, disregarded.

We probably know one of these people. Most likely more than one. And I’m not talking about on TV. Maybe they exist in your local church or pub or fitness center.

The quote that provoked my reflection is from John Wesley. I think he is reflecting the life and teachings of Jesus when he says that it’s all about a disposition of the heart.

How is our (my) heart disposed today? How can we better reflect the heart Jesus sought to instill in us? What am I going to do today to reflect life rather than “lifeless assent”?