Author Archive

Find Your Hidden Potential

May 30, 2024

Sometimes I come across something important for our (yours, mine, and someone you know) personal development. Hidden Potential: The Science of Achieving Greater Things by Adam Grant is a must-read book. Weaving research, analysis, and stories, Grant takes us through a number of steps and processes to help us find our hidden potential. The value extends beyond ourselves to those we parent, mentor, coach, or teach. Helping others develop is a joy beyond description.

He discusses at one point the value of teaching character traits exceeds the subject matter. I appreciate the validation. I spoke for 30 years about how when training young people to become soccer referees that I was teaching beyond just the Laws of the Game. I taught those 12-15-year-olds how to show up on time, be properly equipped, make decisions, stand up for yourself in the face of the inevitable complainers. I see many of them on Facebook or LinkedIn who are successful engineers, teachers, coaches, and more in their own right. I hope I helped them in my own low-key way.

Adam Grant is an organizational psychologist at Wharton, where he has been the top-rated professor for seven straight years. 

To quote from the description on Bookshop.org:

The #1 New York Times bestselling author of Think Again illuminates how we can elevate ourselves and others to unexpected heights.

We live in a world that’s obsessed with talent. We celebrate gifted students in school, natural athletes in sports, and child prodigies in music. But admiring people who start out with innate advantages leads us to overlook the distance we ourselves can travel. We underestimate the range of skills that we can learn and how good we can become. We can all improve at improving. And when opportunity doesn’t knock, there are ways to build a door.

Hidden Potential offers a new framework for raising aspirations and exceeding expectations. Adam Grant weaves together groundbreaking evidence, surprising insights, and vivid storytelling that takes us from the classroom to the boardroom, the playground to the Olympics, and underground to outer space. He shows that progress depends less on how hard you work than how well you learn. Growth is not about the genius you possess–it’s about the character you develop. Grant explores how to build the character skills and motivational structures to realize our own potential, and how to design systems that create opportunities for those who have been underrated and overlooked.

Many writers have chronicled the habits of superstars who accomplish great things. This book reveals how anyone can rise to achieve greater things. The true measure of your potential is not the height of the peak you’ve reached, but how far you’ve climbed to get there.

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First Impressions

May 29, 2024

The vehicles they drive.

Hairstyles.

Clothes.

Physical size—fit, heavy, obese, short, tall.

Race, skin color, gender.

Have we already judged? Type cast? 

Do we take time for conversation?

Figure out their story?

Could we learn from the Master?

When Jesus met someone, he looked first into the heart.

And he helped according to need.

It’s all about the heart.

Learning To Live With Our Flaws

May 28, 2024

Wabi Sabi contains the meaning of living with inevitable flaws. This Japanese phrase adapts to a method of repairing broken pottery emphasizing the cracks rather than trying to hide them.

Many straight-A students are driven to perfectionism by fear of failure, fear of not being good enough. Often B and C students live better lives, are happier, and achieve greater things. Yet many parents and school systems emphasize the desirability of achieving straight-A status.

Looking to Jesus for advice on how to live, I see how he pokes at the Pharisees’ attempts to both live a perfect life and expect others to live a perfect life. He tended to show what we call grace toward people. He taught a life of constant tuning of the heart. 

I hate to be the bearer of this news for some of you, but perfectionism is not a sustainable lifestyle. We have to accept the little flaws in our coffee mug as well as those little flaws of sometimes saying the wrong thing or failing to help out when we could. Sometimes we are simply not perfect. And that’s OK. As long as we do the right things and have our hearts in the right place.

Reminders

May 27, 2024

Sometimes we need reminders. We forget certain things. Or we need something lying just below the surface to be brought to our attention.

When I pray the Lord’s Prayer (or Our Father in other traditions), sometimes one of the phrases hits me. It reminds me to pay attention and perhaps take some action.

Maybe I need to remember to acknowledge God and all the power that emanates from the Source.

Ah, there are things I need for daily life that I need to thank God for.

Yes, there are things I’ve recently done or left undone for which I need forgiveness.

Perhaps there are offenses someone  has visited upon me that I need to forgive and get it out of my system.

Maybe there’s something on my horizon that I need to feel the healing and leading of the Spirit to get through.

And maybe today I just need to acknowledge that all doesn’t depend upon me because there is a supreme power in the universe into which I can connect if I but acknowledge it.

Paying attention to each phrase, I can get a quick heart status, feel tapped into the Spirit, and refreshed reenter daily life.

When The Ego Gets In The Way

May 24, 2024

I write about practice. I practice Yoga. I practice my guitar (OK, not enough). I have spiritual practices. I encourage you often to intentionally develop practices.

Then I came to this thought from the writer Steven Pressfield, “In other words, when our motivation is grounded in our ego, we do not have a practice.”

Yes, motivation. Do I make that list in order to impress people? Or to make myself feel better? Or, do I want to improve my physical health, develop a skill, and experience God?

Checking where our ego resides becomes an important part of the day. The ego can provide strength. It can also assume power over us negating our practices.

By the way, Pressfield’s The War of Art is a classic for creatives.

I Don’t Understand That

May 23, 2024

I heard something this morning. Then I paused. I don’t really understand what that means. How can I visualize that idea? How can I adopt it as part of my life?

Wouldn’t it be great if we humans were more willing to pause and think, “I don’t really understand what that means” or “I don’t really understand what you mean.” Maybe we could discuss so that I could understand you better and you could understand me better.

Good Feel For People

May 22, 2024

The human resources department of one large company I worked for traveled to the various manufacturing sites leading management seminars. I can still remember one where they put up one of those consultant’s 2×2 matrices. They compared “feel for people” versus “intellectual control of emotions.” Good and Poor. Of course, the top right box was good in each category. 

That is something for which we can strive as leaders of organizations whether non-profit, or profit, or church, or wherever 3 or more are gathered for a task.

I thought of this when I read Axios (one of my two favorite news sources) Finish Line newsletter about the private equity firm KKR. If you don’t know KKR, think the Richard Gere character in Pretty Woman.

The big picture: KKR operates what it calls “Centers of Excellence,” including one focused on human capital. One of its goals is to learn how to identify great leaders, whether current CEOs or future CEOs, for the sake of driving outsized returns. The focus is more on psychological traits than on résumés. Behind the scenes: KKR has discovered that having a genuine sense of empathy might be the key identifier, according to Pete Stavros, KKR’s co-head of global private equity. For example, does the person exhibit a sense of responsibility not only for shareholders and top executives, but also for the most junior of employees? In other words, a North Star of: “My people, my problem.” Other signals could include a company’s safety record or employee engagement scores. The bottom line: This might sound squishy, particularly to spreadsheet obsessives. But private equity might be one of the last industries to recognize the importance of corporate culture — and how that culture can beget capital.

A follower of Jesus should pick this up from his way of life. When he did get angry, it had a purpose. And he certainly had empathy for all except people who put on false masks.

Following Jesus Is a Full-Time Job

May 21, 2024

Yesterday I looked at spiritual practice as a process. Let us consider today and take the thought just a bit further.

Does following Jesus consist of an hour or two on Sunday morning (or, for my Seventh-Day Baptist ancestors, Saturday morning)?

Perhaps it is good enough to just proclaim that one is a Jesus follower? Many people seem to go with that thought. “I said it; that settles it.”

Perhaps we can look at following Jesus in terms of a job. Not something you have to do. Many people take on jobs for the pure enjoyment of the effort and the good product at the end.

Perhaps we should consider following Jesus as a full-time job. We should be kind to everyone we meet. Helpful when we can. Teaching where needed. Praying constantly for joys and concerns.

To Practice is a Process Not An Ending

May 20, 2024

Some people think that Christianity—following Jesus—is a completed state. You repeat the special prayer (and promise to obey all the rules), and that is it.

While yet a youth, I seemed to believe what I read in the New Testament (well, also much of the Old). Jesus taught me that following him was a way of life. It’s something that took practice.

We called Yoga a practice. You didn’t “come to class”; you came to practice. And one would hope that the students went home and practiced on their own what they learned in class.

Practice means to work at the desired behavior or learning repeatedly over time in order to become proficient.

Some call the spiritual disciplines practices. Things like prayer, study, worship, meditation, fasting, simplicity, service are not end points. They are practices. Repeated they develop those “muscles.” 

Like the Yoga class, we attend church or small groups to reinforce our learning and pick up new ideas and enjoy community. But in the end, it’s a practice. And practice doesn’t stop when we leave the group. Practice is something done repeatedly so that we become proficient—not perfect, but proficient.

Pursuit of Wealth or Living a Real Life

May 17, 2024

Nassim Nicholas Taleb—The fact that people in countries with cold weather tend to be harder working, richer, less relaxed, less amicable, less tolerant of idleness, more (over) organized and more harried than those in hotter climates should make us wonder whether wealth is mere indemnification, and motivation is just overcompensation for not having a real life.

Jesus—…but the worries of this life, the deceitfulness of wealth and the desires for other things come in and choke the word, making it unfruitful.

The pursuit of wealth or worrying about wealth of which we may not have enough puts us on an endless treadmill running to nowhere.

It is not too late no matter the season to “have a real life” or to be “fruitful.”

  • Pause and breathe
  • Take slow walks
  • Be kind
  • Practice generosity
  • Serve others graciously
  • Teach someone life skills