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Unity

November 20, 2024

A protestant church denomination spends time and effort to convince other congregations to join it, since they are right and others are wrong. Should not a Christian organization be spending its time and energy toward mission and ministry?  Doing the work of Jesus in the world?

America just held an election. Each side hyped up the evils lying in wait if the other side won. Anxiety rose throughout the land. Should not we have been more concerned about how we build a society based upon our founding principles?

What we have here is a failure to listen.

I mean, really listen, to other people.

If I can convince you to listen to one podcast this month no matter where in the world you live, listen to this Guy Kawasaki podcast interview with Tonia Israel on The Science of Political Unity.

Dr. Tania Israel is a distinguished professor at UCSB and author of Facing the Fracture. Kawasaki’s new book is Think Remarkable.

Dr. Israel isn’t just another voice in the crowded space of political commentary; she’s a pioneering researcher and practitioner in the art of bridging divides. Her work at UCSB has positioned her at the forefront of understanding how we can heal America’s growing political fractures, and her insights have never been more crucial than they are today.

In this episode, we dive deep into the heart of political polarization, exploring how our media consumption, social bubbles, and cognitive biases shape our views of ‘ the other side.’

Dr. Israel challenges conventional wisdom about empathy and reveals surprising truths about how even the most empathetic people can contribute to polarization. Her practical strategies for engaging across political divides offer hope for meaningful dialogue in an increasingly divided world.

Hint: Ask deep questions, perhaps sincerely ask how did you come to believe that.

Oh, I should add that this is not the first election in US history with this level of polarization. Somehow we seem to have survived even if once we had to go to war.

The Pursuit of Happiness

November 19, 2024

I love it when modern social science discovers ancient wisdom. Reading in Adam Grant’s excellent book, Think Again: The Power of Knowing What You Don’t Know, “Psychologists found that the more people value happiness, the less happy they often become with their lives.”

We can read in almost any ancient wisdom literature, such as the Proverbs in the Hebrew scriptures, this same wisdom.

Unfortunately, we seem to be living out the philosophy developed by Jeremy Bentham in the late 18th century and later publicized by John Stuart Mill, “it is the greatest happiness of the greatest number that is the measure of right and wrong.”

Bentham pushed for many good social advancements that once adopted has made life better for many. He got this wrong. 

But look around. Perhaps you, yourself, are captured by this idea and certainly many people around you, who think that life is all about the pursuit of happiness.

Happiness will not be found that way.

Happiness is a byproduct of pursuing a life of service to others. Service that is performed through a spiritual alignment with God regardless of your particular brand of faith.

Are You a Good Listener?

November 18, 2024

Researchers studied the interaction of managers and their employees. Among managers rated as the worst listeners by their employees, 94% of them evaluated themselves as good or very good listeners. (Source: Adam Grant, Think Again)

Are you a good listener?

Pause. Think again.

Now seriously, are you a good listener.

The person we find easiest to fool is ourself.

Focus on the other person, not what you are going to say next.

Think of questions to probe deeper, that places the focus on the other.

Perhaps repeat what they said asking if you understand.

Practice as often as possible.

Forgiveness, For Myself

November 15, 2024

Yesterday I wrote, “And I wondered, what holds us back? What negativity, cynicism, bitterness, or even pride and ego cover our innate vibrant self? What do we need to start shedding in order to show our true colors?”

Thinking this over, I realized what I missed. 

Forgiveness.

Not for others. Many sermons are preached about forgiving others (surely that is important). Mostly we need to forgive ourselves.

Be kind to everyone—including yourself.

Forgive—including yourself.

Your life will be better for it.

What’s Holding You Back?

November 14, 2024

We recently drove about 2,500 miles on various trips from Illinois to Tennessee to Ohio to Illinois to Missouri. It was the middle-to-end of October. The deciduous trees were in full color.

Golds and reds blended with some green holding on to summer painting a beautiful landscape in the hills.

People who study these things say that the colors are always there. The green from chlorophyl hides the colors while the tree’s growth stage needs the sunlight energy converted by the green.

When the green fades away giving way to a new stage of life, the vibrant colors become exposed.

And I wondered, what holds us back? What negativity, cynicism, bitterness, or even pride and ego cover our innate vibrant self?

What do we need to start shedding in order to show our true colors?

Taking Myself Too Seriously

November 13, 2024

Everything depends upon me.

I must bring healing to that grieving family.

If I don’t show up to lead, the work will never be done.

Maybe…

The work to be done is important. We should be serious about it.

Perhaps not so serious about ourselves. Such focus leads to pride. Which leads to a fall.

Relax. Let the spirit flow through you to do the work. Chuckle at your shortcomings. Try easy.

Prayer Mantra

November 12, 2024

The little book The Way of the Pilgrim tells the story of a Russian peasant in the 19th century who takes to heart Paul’s advice to pray without ceasing. He adopts the “Jesus Prayer” praying it constantly during his wanderings around Russia.

“Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God, have mercy on me” has formed the spiritual foundation for probably millions of spiritual seekers.

I have used it as part of my daily meditations for at least 30 years.

Musician Jon Batiste recently appeared on Tim Ferriss’s podcast. He mentioned his prayer mantra. I like this one, too. I’ve begun using it as a way to do something different in order to not be in a rut.

“Be still and know that I am God.”

It reminds me first to be still. That is so hard for us.

Next is know. Not “I think” or some other weak verb. I know.

Finally, “I am God.” The object of my knowing.

Principles

November 11, 2024

My feeble attention requires frequent reminders of my core principles.

Peace and Justice.

Peace is an action word. It’s not the Eagles’ “Peaceful Easy Feeling.” Rather practice peace through reaching out with love toward those who are hurting (which is everyone).

Justice without mercy is simply revenge dressed up. Rather practice justice through discovering others’ needs and helping.

Yes, there is a political component. In practice, it’s an attitude of individuals acting in community.

Choosing Sides

November 8, 2024

We’re back from two weeks of travels. A car at one parking lot sported a bumper sticker “Jesus Is (insert your particular politics)”.

Jesus, in fact, never directly addressed that particular statement.

I understand the deep need to feel that God is on our side.

Maybe I pray that God will support Liverpool to win and Manchester City to lose. Or, to use an American analogy, the Kansas City Chiefs to win and the San Francisco 49ers to lose. Perhaps the other side prays the same thing only in reverse.

Does God really pick these sides? Can we really constrain the God that created the universe and everything within it to fit our desires?

I can see praying for the spirit to infuse my body and soul with healing power. To provide me strength and wisdom to make the wise decisions. To fill me with capacity to love others—even those I feel like not loving.

Let us ponder questions such as these. What kind of life did Jesus live? If we are living like Jesus, would we plaster a divisive bumper sticker on our car? Maybe instead a bumper sticker that said simply “Love Others Always.”

Life Goes On

November 7, 2024

The election is finally over in America. Sometimes I like the parliamentary system where political campaigns consume seemingly endless time, money, and attention.

Maybe, just like in most of the rest of the world, your candidate one and you feel satisfied. Or maybe your candidate lost and you feel discouraged and worried. (Just as in all of my election history, some of mine lost and some won.)

Remember what Jesus said about this. Oh, wait, Jesus said nothing about politics. Jesus told us that we live best when we live in another kingdom—God’s kingdom.

Regardless of outcome, today is another day when life goes on. We must continue to follow Jesus first, loving God and loving others.

That never changes. That always satisfies.