Contempt Spoils The Discussion

April 18, 2024

Some of the best meetings I’ve experienced occurred while creating something. Spirited. Opinionated. Initial disagreements.

These generated some of the best businesses of my career.

And the same in some non-profit or church-based initiatives.

The key was a small group in which trust was the foundation and an outcome was anticipated.

The meetings where participants (or at least a few) held others in contempt never proceeded to fortunate outcomes.

Trust v Contempt.

Read the room. Run when contempt causes dissension.

Leave the Library

April 17, 2024

When Jesus invited people to follow him, he never led them to a library.

I watch the society of various birds from my study window. How the robins bicker over territory and the geese in formation and the blackbirds swarm. A true ornithologist cannot sit in a library and read books all day. She must go out into the woods and fields and observe and note and think.

Yet, how many Christians think that following Jesus can be done from a library filled with books or at a conference room table discussing books? How many theologians spend too much time in the library and not enough time with God?

Jesus took his followers out amongst people. And he taught his new message. And healed. And advised. And ate and drank with a variety of people. And associated not only with his own kind—Jewish males—but with Romans and women and Samaritans and Syrians and common people.

Study is a spiritual discipline. But so is service. And worship. Getting out from the library and meeting people.

Our Mind

April 16, 2024

Our mind is the instrument of knowledge, but it is very imperfect and filled with all sorts of ignorance. John Climacus, The Ladder of Divine Ascent

“You think you’re so smart!”

How many times have we heard that? From teachers? Parents? Spouses? Children?

And that is not meant as a compliment, right?

Unless we have other problems, we do think we’re pretty smart.

But, are we really?

When we develop the attitude of continuous learning, then we can overcome that problem of ignorance. Partially, at least. The brain is malleable throughout our life. If we stretch it and use it.

Let us recognize our shortcomings and adopt the attitude of continuous improvement.

Sacrifice

April 15, 2024

Arnold Schwarzenegger told of a time when he was Governor of California attending the funeral of a war hero. Also attending was the local State Senator, who spoke eloquently of the sacrifice of the young man for the greater good.

Following the service, Arnold spoke to the legislator. “We have an important piece of environmental legislation coming up for vote. We need your support.”

“I cannot vote to support the bill even though I think it’s right,” came the reply. “It would be political suicide.”

On the one side he praised the courage of a war hero; on the other side he intentionally rejected the courageous act of his own.

We can sit here in judgement of that legislator.

Or…

We can reflect on the story. Place ourselves in the protagonist role. When have we chosen not to do the right thing because we might suffer an embarrassment or hurt or loss of stature or job?

Pointing fingers at others does no good. Jumping on social media to berate another human does nothing but instigate hurt. Being convicted of our own shortcomings and vowing to change our life’s pattern toward doing the right thing—priceless. 

Intention Determines Direction

April 12, 2024

Race car drivers—Don’t ever look at the wall, for that is the next place you’ll be.

Intention determines direction. Where you look, where your thoughts dwell, that is where you’re going and what you’ll become.

Or stated the other way,

The road to hell is not paved with good intentions. It is paved with lack of intention.

Determine each day “what good will I do today?” Therein lies intention.

Prayer

April 11, 2024

There is an ancient meditation technique from India that identifies “primordial” sounds with energy centers in the body. You sit quietly. Regulate breathing. Then inhale deeply. While exhaling slowly say one of these sounds. The A sound is like ahh; the O sound is like Ohh.

From base of spine upward to top of head:

  • Lam
  • Vam
  • Ram
  • Yam
  • Ham
  • Sham
  • Om

Within Christianity there is a simple prayer, called the Jesus Prayer, that Christian monks, nuns, and recluses have repeated since at least the second century.

Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God, have mercy on me, a sinner.

You sit in meditation just as above. I would say the first phrase on inhale and the second one on exhale. I used the word “say” in both instances. Actually, you can repeat aloud or silently.

Over much time, I shortened the prayer to just the word “God” which focuses me on the entire sentence.

The apostle Paul said once that we should pray without ceasing. That was it. One sentence of a suggestion or command or something.

A marvelous little book called The Way of the Pilgrim tells the story of a 19th century Russian peasant who met with tragedy where his house burned to the ground and his family was lost. His only possession was a Bible. Recovering, he could only think of the command to pray without ceasing. He decided to wander the land of western Russia repeating the Jesus Prayer. The story tells of his adventures meeting various people who helped him on his way.

The power of a mind focused on prayer. The power of prayer itself.

Try it. First thing in the morning. When I exercised at a Y, I sat cross-legged in the sauna after exercise and prayed it for 15 minutes almost every day. When you’re standing in the queue to check out at a store. When you are stopped by a traffic light.

Many opportunities present themselves for us to pause and say this little prayer. It helps us remember who we are.

Stubbornness Meets Jesus

April 10, 2024

I’m sure that you, like I, have met people who are kind of in your face with, “I can do what I want, when I want to do it, with whomever I wish to do it.” (Except they wouldn’t say “whomever”)

I’ve met many. A stubbornness about getting their own way and doing their own thing.

The thought struck me—what if they met the risen Jesus and had a conversation?

I thought about the answer—consequences.

What we do has consequences. For us. For others. For our future selves. For our future families.

When God created everything, he seemed to have baked in a certain if…then logic. Read the Hebrew prophets. Most of their warnings were of the if…then variety. If you keep doing this, then you will once again be a slave.

Jesus frequently said something to the effect of if you will follow me, then you will experience life. When he used the term eternal, he didn’t mean someday. He meant from now on.

Maybe you think you are entirely free to do whatever you want. But, no, you’re not. Someday there will be consequences. Paradoxically, you give up that supposed freedom to follow Jesus and find real freedom.

Life is weird sometimes.

Discretion

April 9, 2024

I was at coffee with a few others and announced, “Discretion is the word of the day.”

But I was in error.

It may be my word of the month. Or even the word to ponder for 2024.

An early leader of the Christian church, John Cassian, wrote this about discretion and the Desert Father Anthony the Great (St. Anthony in the Roman and Eastern traditions).

We believe that discretion is the true light of the body. It is our sole guidance for life. We call it our divine council. Like a city that has its walls destroyed and is not fenced in, so is a man who does anything without council. Our inward house cannot be built without discretion. Herein lies wisdom, intelligence, and understanding. A house is built with wisdom, and again it is set up with intelligence. With understanding, the storehouses are filled with all the precious riches and good things. The blessed Anthony maintained that discretion leads us in stages to God. It is the mother of all virtues.

Wisdom.

Intelligence.

Understanding.

Some would add discernment—the ability to see subtle differences and choose wisely.

Reflecting on life’s experiences and on what we’ve be taught or have read yields wisdom. Thinking about what we perceive develops our intelligence. Eventually we come to understanding. And our inner house is built.

Pen-and-Ink Theologians

April 8, 2024

I was a “straight-A” student in philosophy and theology at university. But my heart was never really in it. I still read philosophy and theology. I have subscribed to theology journals for short bursts to see what the discussions are. 

But all this theorizing and arguing in the abstract for all its apparent depth seems shallow.

I saw a comment on Ryan Holliday’s Daily Stoic blog about the Stoics not being “pen-and-ink philosophers.” Philosophy to them meant finding the best way of living.

The so-called “desert fathers” of early Christianity were much the same. Perhaps that’s why I am drawn to studying their lives. They fled to the deserts of Egypt and Syria and other places to escape the theological waves of controversies and persecutions of the 300s to the 600s. 

No “pen-and-ink theologians”, they tried to live out a spiritual life. They didn’t want to argue. They wanted to find God.

They were seekers. And not ashamed of it. And those of us today whose desert may be a bench in the park and who are seeking God need not be apologetic. We’re not in search of all the answers of the theologians. We’re in search of God.

Move The Ego Out of the Way

April 5, 2024

Why do we practice spiritual disciplines? Sit in meditation? Strain our mind in study? Try to focus on prayer? Go out of our comfort zone to practice bits of service to others?

Is it so that we can tell people at the next social gathering (or on our social media page) how good and dedicated we are?

Would that be our ego talking?

Ego gets in the way. Move it out of the way, and we can…

Sit with calm mind in meditation for many minutes or even hours;

Engage our curiosity to discover new meanings in our study;

Converse with God in a give-and-take conversation, talking and listening, called prayer;

Just help someone without thinking why—even a random act of kindness.

The comedian Flip Wilson had one of his characters often say, “Get behind me, Satan.” Adopt that phrase, “Get behind me Ego. Just let me be me, a seeker and a servant.”