Patience and Anger Cannot Cohabit

August 29, 2018

“For the Lord lives in patience, while the devil lives in an angry temper.”

I’m reading in another very early Christian text, The Shepherd of Hermas. This teaching talks about how one substance can corrupt another. And how unfortunate it is for a person to have patience but also allow anger to also live within.

How do we apply this?

I’m working on a project. It involves dealing with about 200 people on one side and many teams and schools on the other. It’s my annual job of assigning referees to soccer games.

There are as many variables as there are personalities.

This year I had 65 openings one week into the season. Thanks to storms rolling through at inopportune times, people deciding not to certify at the last minute, injuries, and more, two weeks into the season I now have 75 openings.

Someone calls and can’t make it to a game. I have two choices. I could become angry. Or, I could suck it up and add it to the list of project tasks.

Another application. I look at the project. It appears insurmountable. How do I tackle it? One game at a time.

How do I accomplish any project? How can you accomplish any project?

Remember, the Lord lives in patience. One step at a time. Then you look up, and you’re there.

Reformers and Resisters

August 28, 2018

Two of my favorite mentors from history are St. John of the Cross and St. Teresa of Avila. They were contemplatives–and reformers. Contemporaries in the chaotic times of the 16th century.

The life of a reformer is always difficult. There is so much underlying resistance to change. Even if the flow of tradition is corrupt or based upon fallacies.

I often contemplate the lives of the early Christians.

They gathered together to celebrate the resurrection of Jesus. Without that central fact, they had no religion, no hope.

But they were well known, in the times when it wouldn’t cost them their lives to be well known, as people who lived differently from the way society around them was arranged.

There was just something different, better, in the way they treated each other and their neighbors.

We, on the contrary, get so wrapped up in gathering with our kind and giving out names to others not our kind. Homosexuality just hit the headlines again. A significant group of people who call themselves Christians call these people sinners and outcasts.

Putting aside other arguments, let’s just pause a moment. To whom did Jesus minister? Whom did he love? Whom did he dine and party with?

Read the gospels and the answer is clear. Sinners and outcasts.

The irony would be amusing were it not so hurtful. For we are taught that everyone, even us within the organizations, are sinners. To try to classify two types of people sinners and us (implied not sinners) is simply wrong. We’re all caught in a trap. But we can get out. (Sorry Elvis.)

The spiritual discipline of worship (implied that you’d be gathering with your friends) must inevitably lead to the spiritual discipline of service–loving sinners and outcasts. Which is why I love mentors like John and Teresa.

Enjoying the Fall Of A Big Man

August 27, 2018

What do you feel when you read about a “big man”, an important leader, a rich guy falling?

Be honest looking at yourself.

What story headlines do you click on when browsing the Web? What things to you repost and pass along while on Facebook?

Don’t we all feel a little touch of satisfaction or pleasure at the misfortunes of others–especially those who are larger than life?

Conspiracy: Peter Thiel, Hulk Hogan, Gawker, and the Anatomy of Intrigue by Ryan Holiday keeps you spell bound as he weaves the story of Nick Denton, the founder of a suite of gossip websites under the name of Gawker media and millionaire, Peter Thiel, founder of PayPal, billionaire, famous now as a Trump supporter, Hulk Hogan, the now disgraced wrestling star.

Gawker made its money paying young writers next to nothing for churning out whatever dirt they could get on anybody. They hid behind the First Amendment, perverting its intent and shirking responsible discourse.

And its headlines were specifically designed to entice people to click. And click they did. To the tune of hundreds of thousands per article.

But they got caught not just skating around the law but actually violating it. They published secretly recorded video of Hulk Hogan in a setup. That’s illegal. They were sued. They are now no more.

The question for us and our own personal ethics lies in the privacy of us and our computing device. What do we click? Do we support the nastiest of discourses? By clicking or by reposting we are actually supporting someone. They may be the Russian government trying to sow the seeds of discord in an enemy. They may be cynical businesses plying the spectacular for eyeballs consuming advertising.

It all comes back to my dictum. What you fill your mind with is what you become.

I recommend the book. I also recommend watching what we feed our minds.

There Are Two Ways

August 24, 2018

There are two ways, one of life and one of death, and there is a great difference between these two ways.

So begins The Didache (The Teaching of the Lord to the Gentiles by the Twelve Apostles–pronounce did-a-key), a very early Christian document teaching about discipleship.

“Now this is the way of life: First, you shall love God, who made you. Second, you shall love your neighbor as yourself; but whatever you do not wish to happen to you, do not do to another.”

The teaching continues by describing a person who is humble, not angry; giving not covetous; speaks truthfully; peaceful.

“But the way of death is this: first of all, it is evil and completely cursed; murders, adulteries, lusts, sexual immoralities, thefts, idolatries, magic arts, sorceries, robberies, false testimonies, hypocrisies, duplicity, deceit, pride, malice, stubbornness, greed, abusive language, jealousy, audacity, arrogance, boastfulness.”

And he is just getting started.

Just as when I read John Climacus originally expecting to learn about how to experience God through meditation and learned about overcoming all my evil desires and emotions and how to cultivate the good ones, here I read the teachings about Jesus by the twelve apostles and learn (just as from reading the four Gospels) how to live my life beginning with love–first love God. Not belief. Lots of people believe all manner of things. It’s love. And then spreads from love to everyone we meet along the way.

Is that the missing ingredient in your life?

Nobody Listens To Me

August 23, 2018

The president of the small company sits at his desk. He is holding his head in his hands as he leans over the desk. I enter. He looks up in an obviously morose mood. “Gary, nobody listens to me.”

But we have all been there. Nobody listens to us–at times.

Today’s news included an item about Apple’s Air Pods. You have them hanging from your ear. People around you assume you are listening to music, a podcast, or a phone conversation. You can listen to conversations around you surreptitiously.

Real listening is a “full-contact” sport.

First, we stop talking.

We stop thinking about what to say next.

We focus our eyes and attention on the other person.

We hear with our ears and watch posture and eyes of the other person.

We take in context.

We embody this simple little maxim–Speak only when it improves upon silence.

Back to the president of the company. I needed to break the mood. “Huh?” I asked. “No one listens to me,” he replied. “Huh?” I repeated. It took three times for him to break out of the self-pity.

Sometimes we have to get their attention before we can listen.

Those Were The Days

August 22, 2018

The first, second, and even third century Christians lived in such a way that people from the outside community at large were attracted to the Way.

They were attracted despite the periodic oppression by civil authorities that could lead to anything from penal servitude to (literally) being fed to the lions.

Reading the Didache, perhaps the oldest teaching document we have aside from the New Testament, which begins with the first commandment–love God and love your neighbor. Then it talks about giving gifts. And how to live a humble life.

Then in the fourth century the church became legal and by the fifth century Christianity became a “church” religion where most people were expected to go and listen to priests.

A question for us in the twenty-first century, especially in America–are we living in a way that attracts people or repulses people? Are we attracting people by our love or repulsing away the undesirable sinners? Or spending time trying to enact laws to force people to behave the way we think they should?

It’s all about the attitude of our heart. Our discipline is to practice prayer, meditation, study to open us to people rather than to fence us in to keep people we don’t like out.

A Different Sort of Lord

August 21, 2018

When Luke described Jesus as “King of Kings and Lord of Lords” and also “Prince of Peace”, he borrowed the phrase. He took an existing title and applied it in an entirely new and different way.

The title was used by the reigning head of state, the emperor of Rome, Augustus.

But early Christians took the bold step of saying there exists a Lord (the person who decides for us, the Master in a relationship) above the lords of the secular state. The Jews asked for dispensation from certain Roman worship rules based upon ethnic identity. Early Christians asked for the same dispensation, but not by ethnic identity but by a common community based upon faith in God and the resurrection of Jesus.

We are in danger of reading the New Testament overlooking the immense power of Rome and how Jesus turned everything Rome stood for on its head.

We forget at our own peril that Jesus was a different sort of lord. A different sort of ruler. Not one who demanded “lip service.” After all, he said, “Not everyone who calls me Lord will enter into the kingdom of heaven, but those who do the will of my Father.” No, he wants your heart to be changed.

Jesus said his kingdom was a different kind of kingdom and he was a different kind of Lord. If we live there, then we’ll live a different sort of life. We will spread peace and justice wherever we go rather than discord and divisiveness.

Jesus turned Rome on its head. It’s not all about power; it’s all about love.

Serve Someone

August 20, 2018

Sound business advice: Serve others.

Sound personal advice: Serve others.

Sound spiritual advice: Serve others.

The last one came directly from The Teacher (as many called him) who washed his disciples’ feet before dinner as a courtesy. He told (not suggested) us to do likewise.

We don’t wash feet in our culture. We can listen. We can buy someone a cup of coffee with a smile–thanks for the idea Jon Swanson. We can help lift a burden. We can do a random act of kindness.

Yes, serving is a spiritual act. Just like praying, or meditation, or worship, or belief.

There Is This Sowing and Reaping Thing

August 17, 2018

There’s a guy proclaiming some political opinions. Another guy disagrees. OK, so far, normal American discourse.

Then the second guy offers his opinion of the speaker’s IQ number–otherwise known as “flipping the bird” or “giving him the finger.” For sowing his opinion, he reaps a punch in the face.

Not liking that result, he complains. About getting punched. That’s what made it to national news. And I’m going like, “Dude!!! What did you expect? You engage in a vulgar and offensive gesture to a person and expect him to, like, change his mind and love you? I don’t think so.”

We’ve probably all been there. “What were you thinking?”

In my reading this morning, I was reminded of the little book from Brother Lawrence, The Practice of God’s Presence.

What if, instead of these hateful reactions to people’s comments and opinions, we actually practiced God’s presence.

After all, we are taught, if we but have eyes to see and ears to hear, that God is present everywhere.

What if we acted as if we are in the presence of God? What if we practiced bringing the temperature of the situation down–maybe to something like “you have an opinion, I have an opinion, I know yours, you know mine, now let’s go have a beer and discuss higher matters like how are the Red Sox winning so many games or like how do we practice the presence of God”?

Instead of sowing hate, maybe we sow peace?

The Prudent Person Hears What They Don’t Want To

August 16, 2018

I pay attention when several sources of learning come together into a common thread.

Yesterday I was thinking about a couple of articles I’d read about cognitive biases. How sometimes we just don’t see the obvious because we’re predisposed to look for something else.

Last night I was reading through my current notebook looking for themes for today’s business podcast and spotted a recent entry from an Andy Stanley teaching.

He said, “Prudent people hear what they don’t want to hear.” He was thinking of the Proverb, “When the prudent see danger, they take refuge.”

On the other hand, the simple (Proverbs is so blunt about character types!) either don’t see or don’t care to see, “The simple keep going and pay the penalty.”

Pay attention in your leadership roles. Does someone come to you with a disturbing message? How do you react? Brush it off? Or see it as smoke that could be leading to a fire? Maybe you should change directions (“take refuge”).

Perhaps you are on the board of an organization or church council or personnel committee. Are you perceptive to approaching danger? Do you ignore the warning hoping it will go away?

When the same message comes from multiple sources, this should be taken as a signal. Either to sharpen my knowledge or seek discernment to read the danger signs.

Then have the courage to act.