When Our Blessings Are Another’s Curse

May 30, 2019

“Those tornados last night were destructive.”

“Yes, we were blessed by the Lord that they didn’t hit us.”

“I don’t think the people who were struck would appreciate hearing that.”

–Conversation overheard at a coffee shop.

We were indeed fortunate that the series of tornados struck 35 miles west of us and others 35 miles south.

But to say we received a special blessing of God implies that those other people, who are every bit as Christian as we, are cursed by God.

Some sensitivity to others before turning everything into “all about me” comes from taking a pause before making an uncaring comment.

We do this so easily in prayers. We pray for God to bless us, or support us, or protect us. But in so doing, we unwittingly are praying the hurt, destruction, and even death of others.

Developmental psychologists can describe for us at what age we should be outgrowing the self-absorption we had at 2 years of age. But we struggle into and through adulthood to broaden our view beyond ourselves.

We, in our location, were quite fortunate not to have destruction visited upon us. Others were not so lucky. We need to reach out in aid. For, the next time the tables may be turned.

The Work Set Before Us

May 29, 2019

The key words of Jesus’ final instructions to his followers–Make disciples of all the nations.

We have our task laid out before us. It’s not glamorous. It’s hard.

Maybe we think of the honor and glory of preaching to thousands.

Maybe we have the hubris to try to lead political movements.

But Jesus said, go and make disciples.

That means doing the hard work of one on one teaching, leading, counseling, sharing.

It means firstly looking to our own spiritual development. After all, children only lead other children into mischief. We must continuously grow in order to help others grow.

Maybe it means bringing people into a church. Those can be good institutions. But often they are gatherings of like-minded people prone to ego and constant argumentation.

Beware of ego and pride. Solomon asked for, and received, wisdom. Yet, his life was a shambles.

How many leaders have made themselves into a household name first for preaching and then for the inevitable fall when ego and pride have sunk their talons deep into the soul.

Pray to God today that he brings someone into your life for you to disciple and to teach to disciple others in turn.

Putting Forth An Effort

May 28, 2019

When complimented on an athletic skill exhibited during a contest, the child asked, “How did I do that?” The answer returned, “Because you practiced it again and again.”

Do you want to run a 5K, 10K, or marathon? Better buy a good pair of shoes, get yourself outside, and start running. There is no alternative. Running the race in your head while sitting in your comfortable chair will not build the strength and endurance you need.

Heed these words from Pope Saint John Paul II–Some Christians think they are able to do without constant spiritual effort because they do not heed the urgency of confronting themselves with the truth of the gospel. So as not to disturb their way of living, they attempt to empty, and make innocuous, words such as: “Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you” (Luke 6:27).

How many people do we know or read about who are still in their spiritual infancy? They may speak as if they are mature. They exhibit none of the marks of one who has done the real work of spiritual formation.

Maybe because that takes effort.

There is no substitute for serious reading, thinking, praying, meditating, and service.

At the beginning of the day, think–God, provide one enemy today for me to love. Provide one neighbor in need for me to serve.

At the end of the day, reflect–where were all the opportunities God placed before me and where did I do the work and where could I do better?

Faith and Grace

May 27, 2019

A person meets with a priest. “Father, can I confess a sin to you?”

“You can confess to me, but I merely help you to confess to God.”

“But I just want to confess to you. I don’t believe in God.”

“That’s OK. I still just serve as an intermediary between you and God.”

“It’s OK that I don’t believe in God?”

“Wouldn’t it be worse if God didn’t believe in you?”

Part of a conversation I read.

Is faith first; or is grace? Do we need faith to confess our wrong actions and thoughts? Or maybe we practice confession as a spiritual discipline. And grace opens the door to faith.

After all, few, if any, of Jesus’s followers believed in him until after the resurrection. They had to witness God’s grace and practice spiritual discipline until the Ah Ha moment when it all came together.

We practice confession, meditation, prayer sometimes just as seekers, not as gurus. It’s like that man told Jesus, “I believe! Help me in my unbelief.”

Yes, it would be worse if God didn’t believe in us.

Becoming Aware

May 24, 2019

Have you ever taken a walk with a small child who stops and studies everything along the way?

Better still, do you remember being a child and stopping to observe things with wonder and amazement? An insect making its way across the blades of grass. The pattern of veins in a leaf. The formation of clouds in the sky.

The American writer Henry Miller put it this way, “The moment one gives close attention to anything, even a blade of grass, it becomes a mysterious, awesome, indescribably magnificent world in itself.

Here we step into awareness. We are not trapped within an unfeeling, uncaring shell. We shatter the shell and bring such wonder and amazement into our experience.

We expand awareness to include other people. For so many of us, other people are an intrusion, an annoyance.

Pausing to become really aware of others, their feelings, desires, hurts, wisdom. There is so much to be learned and experienced.

During the Psychedelic Sixties many songs were sung about blowing your mind. They probably referred to chemical substances in one way or another.

Awareness blows your mind in a completely different way. At this very moment, I’m looking at the intricate arrangement of petals on the flower of a rhododendron. Beauty in fragility with multi-shades of pink.

The handiwork of God in everything.

Let Your Light Shine

May 23, 2019

I saw this quote in my daily dose of Plough.

Madeleine L’Engle

How often we children have been unwilling: unwilling to listen to each other, unwilling to hear words we do not expect. But on that first Pentecost the Holy Spirit truly called the people together in understanding and forgiveness and utter, wondrous joy. The early Christians, then, were known by how they loved one another. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if people could say that of us again? Not an exclusive love, shutting out the rest of the world, but love so powerful, so brilliant, so aflame that it lights the entire planet – nay, the entire universe!

We humans seem to like to gather in our tribes of people who are like us. Same skin color, beliefs, adornment preferences, whatever.

But that wasn’t God’s idea. Jesus blew up that model. It would be really something earthshaking if our churches behaved like L’Engle’s vision. Like the example of the first hundred years or so after Pentecost.

But where do we see the light today? How much comes from us?

Humans Are Of One Type

May 22, 2019

A friend who comes from a south Asian religious tradition asked me why it is that there are so many types of Christians. “There are Catholics, and there are others, and they all seem to fight with one another. Why is that?”

I guess Christians just like to argue.

To outsiders, or as evangelicals love to say “non-Christians”, the arguing points are relatively minor. But what is minor to some is life-threatening, faith-shaking to others. Many times I have heard someone say that this or that sentence in the Bible is crucial to their faith. “My whole faith rests on that one thought,” they’ve said.

How sad.

Faith is so much deeper than that. Or, it can be.

But, back to humans. There are not two types–Christian and non-Christian. Or Catholic and protestant. Or light skin and dark skin. Or even male and female.

As soon as we begin to divide and argue, then our own heart will become hardened.

It’s like the song said, “Nobody’s right if everybody’s wrong.”

Signs, Signs, Everywhere a Sign

May 21, 2019

Sign, sign, everywhere a sign 
Blockin’ out the scenery, breakin’ my mind 
Do this, don’t do that, can’t you read the sign? (Five Man Electric Band)

Focus on orange, diamond-shaped sign in the middle of the road. ROAD CLOSED.

Broaden focus. Car sits past the sign in water up to the door windows.

Ignore the sign, and you put yourself, your passenger, and rescue workers all at risk.

He did. He was ticketed. His car is done. Crashed into a hole left by a washed out culvert caused by rushing water from heavy rains. Lucky to be alive.

The Five Man Electric Band sang of adolescent rebellion against restraint. I sympathized–when I was in college. And some signs are ridiculous, to be sure.

But signs are a warning.

Road signs inform us of pending danger ahead. Ignore them not only at your own risk, but also at the risk of rescuers who come to help the foolish out of their predicament.

We receive many other warning signs–that we ignore.

Signs of coming medical problems. We could take corrective action, but we don’t.

Signs of physical problems. We could start an exercise routine. But, we ignore the signs.

Job problems, relationship problems, emotional problems. If we read the signs, we can do something about avoiding them.

But in our youthful rebellion that rides along with us until old age, we prefer to ignore the signs in some vague hope that we are the exception.

Read the signs. What are yours?

The Coaching Role

May 20, 2019

I’m still reflecting on Trillion Dollar Coach plus three weekends of youth sports. Most executives don’t even have coaches, even though they could really use one. The variety of coaching skill and ability at the youth sports level is staggering. So many coaches need coaching at that level. That’s the role of the leadership of a good club. Often doesn’t happen.

What makes for a good coach.

Begin with empathy and trustworthiness. If the coach lacks these character traits, then anything further is hopeless.

A coach must have a set of knowledge and values. Good coaches have experience, but they are seldom the greatest. They are the ones who have been there but had to reflect on their development and experiences. They’ve studied the game and know the skill sets required for success.

A coach is observant. This ability means a coach can see each player or client, their strengths, and their weaknesses. They can pick out the next skill each player/client needs to develop to succeed at this level in order to progress.

A coach can teach skills. Of course, the player/client must be teachable. It is a two-way interaction.

A coach can devise practice for student to repeat until learned. This is the same idea for a 9-year-old beginner or a 29-year-old pro. Knowing you need to move slightly to the left more or knowing how to field a ground ball does nothing without the drill to make the skill part of “muscle memory.”

A coach provides appropriate feedback. This makes practice more valuable and helps adjust skills to the situation.

The end result consists of increased confidence and character development.

Coaching is not only for sports or for executives. We need coaches for spiritual formation and life development, too. A good coach is a most valuable asset.

Active Not Passive

May 17, 2019

“I’m pretty sure there is an 8th habit of highly effective people,” said Adam Grant in a New York Times article. “They don’t sit around all the time just reading the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.”

I think James, the writer of the wisdom letter found in the New Testament would agree. Early in his letter he writes, “But be doers of the word and not hearers only, deceiving your own selves.”

Jesus certainly did spend time alone with God. The derisive people would call it “contemplating his navel.” But that was for his spiritual formation and foundation. We only read that he would go out to a mountain or just be alone. No details. But his daytime life was full of action. We read about how he was constantly interacting with people–teaching, healing, guiding, helping.

He didn’t spend his time yelling at other people to behave like he thought. He didn’t go to the ruling authorities and try to get more laws passed. In fact, he pointed out that the whole passing laws and following them wasn’t working out so well for the Pharisees.

When asked what it meant to love your neighbor, he answered with a story. The story defined neighbor, but it also defined love. We call the story The Good Samaritan.

Or, as I used to ask the leader of the anti-abortion group in the county, “So, you’ve talked a woman into giving birth. Now what? Do you just leave her to fend for herself? Or, do you take an active part in helping her cope?”

It’s one thing to talk and yell and moralize. It’s another to take an action to help someone like Jesus told us. Like James instructed. Like Adam Grant alluded to.

Be a doer of the word. You may not get headlines in the local newspaper. But I’m pretty sure that you get a pat on the back from Jesus.