Archive for the ‘Living’ Category

I Haven’t Learned That Yet

January 23, 2025

I Guess I Haven’t Learned That Yet: Discovering New Ways of Living When the Old Ways Stop Working, by Shauna Niequist.

How does one deal with the crash and burn of a famous father’s career (dragging down theirs)j along with the body beginning to act in strange and mysterious ways? Add a physical move to a completely different environment and way of life.

Shauna Niequist (NEE-kwist) blends fifty vignettes into a book that explores how she coped with the grief of sudden upheaval of life.

This is an excellent book club read for those groups not too timid to discuss dealing with painful real life.

Maybe you or someone you know currently deals with some shock of life and the resultant emotions and physical reactions. Don’t offer advice or ignore them. Buy this book and simply hand it to them. It would be like giving them a friend to walk along with them on the journey.

But the writing contains neither hopeless nor despair.

Oh, how do you deal with it? One day at a time. Seek out some joy—walking, cooking, gathering with friends over food and wine and conversation. Find a good therapist. In a weird way, it’s a celebration of life over pain.

Small Changes You Can Keep

December 19, 2024

We’ve all seen diets come and go, but the truth about weight loss is simple: it’s not about finding the “perfect” plan; it’s about making small changes you can keep — and eating foods that keep you fuller for longer.

The same is true in our spiritual life. Some people wait for a Great Spiritual Awakening to spring suddenly upon them. Others slide through life wonder if there is a better way.

But, small changes that you can keep—five minutes daily reading from the gospels, five minutes daily in meditation. These add up to a richer spiritual life.

Is There Life Before Death?

December 11, 2024

Pause. Contemplate your time on Earth so far.

Have you been truly alive?

Does the sun warm you to the bone?

Does the movement of wind against your face make you wonder where it’s been and where it’s going?

Do you delight in the touch of another human?

When the spirit of God makes its presence felt within your heart, do you bask in the deep joy and peace it brings?

When someone speaks, do you listen.

Speaking American English, we say hello, and it is merely a greeting. In many languages, the word of greeting connotes a meaning much like, “My soul reaches out to touch your soul.” Our overly rational culture misses out on the richness of being.

Perhaps it would be a good idea to try life.

Virtue

October 31, 2024

The last post discussed people of virtue avoiding sin because it was just the way they lived.

Let us take a look at the Stoics. One of the leading Stoic philosophers, Seneca, wrote essays that sounded so much like Paul that later Christian thinkers thought he was Christian. It’s unlikely that he ever heard of Jesus.

That doesn’t mean we can’t learn from them. Ryan Holliday, today’s leading exponent of Stoic philosophy, writes, “Virtue to them was a way of life. It was pivotal, essential, irreplaceable. It wasn’t something you talked about, it was something you did. Aristotle said that we acquire the virtues the same way we acquire any skill—a carpenter builds, a flutist plays, a runner runs.”

Similarly, a follower of Jesus follows. We don’t go around pointing to other people’s faults instructing them with platitudes. We participate in a way of living involving prayer, meditation, study, service. And virtue.

How Do You Know a Christian?

September 10, 2024

How do you know a Christian? Is there a way to tell who is and who isn’t? Do you quiz them on their beliefs to see how well they line up with the Nicene Creed? Do you ask them if they’ve invited Jesus into their hearts? One answer is to check their behavior. If becoming united to Christ changes us, then one should expect to see those changes lived out in everyday life. A number of the Church Fathers suggested a test like this one, though the specific change they were looking for may come as a surprise.—Cody Cook

The early church grew in spurts when the people around them said, “I want what they’ve got.” How is it going for you?

Slow Down, You Move Too Fast

August 13, 2024

Slow down, you move too fast

You got to make the morning last

Just kicking down the cobblestones

Looking for fun and feelin’ groovy

Paul Simon, 59th Street Bridge Song

I tried getting things done as quickly as possible. I even tried doing two or three things at the same time.

Sitting in meditation during early mornings looking through my study window at the main street through our development, I’m reminded that the 25 miles per hour speed limit isn’t even a target for most drivers. They are in a hurry. 

Surely it isn’t only American culture (actually both urban and rural) where people are always in a hurry.

Let us pause and consider. Do we really need all that hurry? Slow down. Enjoy where you are. One of life’s many paradoxes consists of slowing down a little one task at a time and accomplishing more with less internal stress.

Slow down, you move too fast.

Heaven

June 19, 2024

I had one friend during my high school years. We shared interests in tennis, chess, and electronics. He lived across the street from me with his wife and three kids. He was a superb craftsman. He was also a Seventh-Day Adventist. I read some of Ellen G. White’s books. I cannot explain the theology.

One day we were walking home from the tennis courts as he explained heaven to me. “When we are in heaven, everything is perfect. We will play perfect games of tennis.”

I replied, “How boring that would be!”

I’ve studied the Bible for decades. I have no real clue that would tell me facts about the afterlife.

However, I do know that Jesus’ first message was to announce the Kingdom of Heaven was here, surrounding us, infusing us. In this life. Helping us live with-God.

I find debates about some future heaven tedious. Arguing from assumptions is only an intellectual game. I think I’ll just follow Jesus in the Kingdom of Heaven right now. I hope I can live up to the expectations of being a follower.

Learning To Live With Our Flaws

May 28, 2024

Wabi Sabi contains the meaning of living with inevitable flaws. This Japanese phrase adapts to a method of repairing broken pottery emphasizing the cracks rather than trying to hide them.

Many straight-A students are driven to perfectionism by fear of failure, fear of not being good enough. Often B and C students live better lives, are happier, and achieve greater things. Yet many parents and school systems emphasize the desirability of achieving straight-A status.

Looking to Jesus for advice on how to live, I see how he pokes at the Pharisees’ attempts to both live a perfect life and expect others to live a perfect life. He tended to show what we call grace toward people. He taught a life of constant tuning of the heart. 

I hate to be the bearer of this news for some of you, but perfectionism is not a sustainable lifestyle. We have to accept the little flaws in our coffee mug as well as those little flaws of sometimes saying the wrong thing or failing to help out when we could. Sometimes we are simply not perfect. And that’s OK. As long as we do the right things and have our hearts in the right place.

Being Ordinary

May 15, 2024

Each of us is exceptional in some way. People amaze me with their unique capabilities and knowledge when I talk with them. 

We live in a society that emphasizes being extraordinary. Parents push their kids (or hope their kids) are gifted. That they will meet society’s definitions of success—wealth, power, position.

Sign in the backyard of a house along the Metra rail line into Chicago—I just want to be ordinary.

I have no idea why they put up that sign. But I thought of people like Thoreau who were exceptional in their being unexceptional.

Do truly gifted people have the best lives? Do the richest people or those at the top echelon of the business hierarchy have the happiest lives?

Be who you are. And be comfortable in your skin.

  • Pursue what interests you—whether hobby or profession.
  • Serve others generously.
  • Devise a lifestyle of health and vigor.
  • Pray often.
  • Be kind.

Be extraordinary in your ordinaryness. 

Healthy Faith

May 10, 2024

I picked up these thoughts from Arthur C. Brooks, who wrote Build the Life You Want: The Art and Science of Getting Happier with Oprah Winfrey. He is a devout Catholic and is a friend of the Dalai Lama. After his recent visit, he jotted some notes from their conversation. He says it better than I could.Try living these, not as a checklist but incorporated as a fundamental way of life. Maybe I’ll write these on a PostIt note and put it on my desk as a reminder when I begin my day.

Healthy faith builds on seven truths: 

  • All people are our family; 
  • Life demands gratitude; 
  • Love repays love; 
  • We are made for empathy; 
  • Love is action, not a feeling; 
  • That action is compassion. 
  • Life’s purpose is to uplift and unite others. 

Become a teacher of love. Your classroom is every interaction. Teach through action.