Archive for the ‘focus’ Category

Managing Projects and Attention

September 7, 2023

My day began poorly. The time management gurus tell you not to check email until late morning. I have had a project that runs first of August until mid-October for 35 years. I assign referees to high school soccer matches. The job is getting harder and harder.

This morning I opened email at 5:45 AM. Dale says, “I am still injured and cannot do tonight’s game.” First thing to do is send an email to my entire list of referees hoping someone will see and respond. Then I leave for my workout, which I miss only in extreme situations. After no one responds by 9:00, I go through my list and cull five people who might possibly be open and send them direct messages. I contact the school’s Athletic Director to alert him. I alert the other official. Meanwhile, I’m trying to finish three games on Saturday.

By 3:00 PM I’ve done all I can and all the kids are going to get to play their games.

Amongst that mental work, I found time out to practice Spanish and German on my Duolingo app. Different sort of mental stress.

Now at 5:00 PM I had taken a walk and a 15-minute power nap. My mind is now focused to write a couple of short essays.

Yesterday I wrote about a to do list as a menu. Some days your time is like choosing from a menu. I have a pretty scripted routine of reading, working out, writing, taking breaks to work on soccer, and so forth.

Some days everything gets turned around. I just have to solve the emergency. Go to the meeting. Whatever the situation may be. Then pause, breathe, and choose from the menu of things to tackle next.

Too many days like this, and the chances of living in chaos increase. But, not to worry. Routine, if established long enough, will return. It’s called resilience. Flexibility. Keys to sanity.

Discipline Means Building Consistency

July 26, 2023

One of the authors of a health and fitness newsletter cited studies that revealed the most important ingredient for fitness training is consistency. He often says to strive for no zero-percent weeks. 

Spiritual disciplines advocates from Dallas Willard and Richard J. Foster to Ignatius and Benedict to Paul the Apostle and Jesus himself show as much as tell the values of consistent practices. Paul often uses athletic metaphors to explain spiritual growth. Athletes have focus and consistent practice in order to succeed. That is true whether 2,000 years ago or tomorrow.

Discipline is the building of a lifestyle of consistency of practice. We read, meditate, exercise, eat well (and not too  much) with no zero-percent weeks.

Direction Not Destination

July 10, 2023

Kevin Kelly, author and writer, observed, “Looking ahead, focus on direction rather than destinations. Maintain the right direction, and you’ll arrive at where you want to go.”

I used to run, or jog, or whatever you call it. This was not so that I could run 5Ks or 10Ks or marathons. It was so I could keep up with play while refereeing soccer. Soccer is mostly sprints and jogs and walks. Going to the park and just going for 3-4 miles was not really enjoyable. 

I noticed that it was a better day when I just focused on the next step plus my breathing. Focusing on the end point bred frustration.

There are people searching for some sort of instantaneous jump from ordinary to heaven.

But life is one step at a time. Daily disciplines of study, prayer, meditation, service, reflection.

Focus on going the right direction. The destination will suddenly appear on the way.

Time–Do We Have Enough?

June 27, 2023

Time. We just don’t have enough of it.

Or, do we.

Perhaps what we lack is focus. Decide on something to work on, work on it.

Perhaps we say Yes too often and need to practice the word No. Or, Sorry, I cannot fit it into my schedule.

On the other hand, perhaps we structure too many things into a day. We have not built in slack time. We have not set aside time to just sit (or walk) and think and relax.

We must set aside eight hours for sleep. We should set aside three hours for eating. Eating slowly helps us consume less and keep our weight down.

That leaves us with 13 hours for work, play, rest, connection. It should be plenty.

Do The Next Right Thing

October 7, 2022

Sometimes we sit at our desk or stand in the middle of the room having just completed a task. We feel lost. What should we do? Where is our task list?

There is a phrase I’ve heard many times. It helps me focus when I’m either at a loss of what’s next or when there are so many pressures that I’m overwhelmed.

Do the next right thing.

This combines the command to do something with the moral imperative to do the right thing.

Now, our mind can operate to focus our attention.

Be Mindful of Your Focus

September 30, 2022

I wrote yesterday of becoming aware of what is surrounding us that we may never notice. These were some thoughts on David Foster Wallace’s commencement address “This Is Water.”

Then I began to think more on this subject.

I once taught people how to become soccer referees. You will begin by focusing on the ball, I’d tell them. You’ll see the player with the ball and the player challenging, but your focus will be on the ball and the feet. Gradually you’ll learn to watch all of both players–elbows, shoulders, hips, feet, ball. Learn, I would say, to broaden your vision. See the play developing. Where players are running from and to. Anticipate the coming collision. Anticipate where the ball will go if the player kicks it.

Perhaps we do this when studying scriptural or spiritual writing. We focus on individual words or phrases. We lift a phrase and make it a rule of life. We should, as we grow in experience and maturity, learn to see vast sweeps of the writing. That sentence in context of the audience the writer was reaching. The letter in context of what had been written before and in context of the lives of those referred to. See the “water.”

We can become trapped with people. We see one act in a narrow context. But we broaden our vision. We see what kind of day it’s been. We see the forces of family or job working on the person putting them in a certain frame of mind. We broaden our view. We see their long-term frustrations and struggles. Eventually we see the “water.”

Some may call this gaining perspective. Or it may be wisdom. Perhaps compassion.

Whatever you call it–work to acquire it.

Why Worry

February 3, 2022

My mom was a worrier. She suffered from anxiety, depression. Even was temporarily hospitalized. She passed that on to her four children. We all dealt with it in our own ways.

If I try, I can remember lying in bed before sleep worrying about tomorrow and next week and next month.

I am an old man and have known a great many troubles, but most of them never happened.

Mark Twain

I soon discovered a truth that Viktor Frankl had uncovered. We humans have the power of choice. We can choose what to think about. While still in my 20s, I discovered the antidote. When thoughts began to dwell on what could go wrong, I would intentionally direct my thoughts to something pleasurable. It works. Between that and a lifetime of meditation, I have almost cut worry and anxiety from my life.

Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes? Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life?

Jesus of Nazareth

Jesus taught that we can zoom out on our focus.

“And why do you worry about clothes? See how the flowers of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendorwas dressed like one of these. If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you—you of little faith? So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.

Jesus of Nazareth

Jesus gives similar advice. Focus our attention on the kingdom of God. That is more profitable than focus on what can go wrong.

The Whole Thing and its Parts

December 29, 2021
Entrance to Lightscape at Chicago Botanic Gardens

We visited Lightscape at the Chicago Botanic Gardens last evening. Various artists transformed groves of plants and trees into light and music experiences.

We had our first significant snow of the year yesterday. Even with temperatures above freezing (38F or 3C) causing some melting, the vestiges of the white snow perfectly enhanced the experience.

The highlight for me was a laser light show across a small lake. Dancing lights to a festive piece of music. In contemplation just in the moment, I de-focused my eyes and absorbed the experience. Yet all the while part of my mind was thinking of the technical intricacies of the lights themselves and the programming required.

Listening to s symphonic orchestra is the same experience. I listen to the whole piece while also noticing the work and movements of each instrument and how the composer and then conductor has brought them altogether for a beautiful whole piece.

Similarly, one should read a great book including Scripture. You must absorb the whole of the main argument of the writer while yet enjoying the parts. One errs by picking out sentences while yet missing the whole thought.

Yet, how often readers of spiritual texts do just that. And not only Christians. Check out how often you also see that trait in the Hindu and Islamic traditions. A human trait, this is, as Yoda might have put it.

And a human trait we can learn to overcome with awareness and practice.

Just don’t think so much that you miss the beauty of the whole.

Frustration

September 16, 2021

I have been trying to find referees for 10 games for tonight. There should be 2 or 3 per game. Six have a single referee and four will probably be cancelled. It’s frustrating to call Athletic Directors and tell them that they have to tell players, coaches, and parents there will be no game tonight.

I feel as if I have failed.

Oh, then this morning another referee wrote an email wondering if anyone was available to take his place. He was sick.

Frustration.

So this morning:

Jon Swanson wrote a prayer on his 300 Words a Day blog to help us deal with frustration.

Ryan Holliday wrote his Daily Stoic newsletter on how the ancient Stoics dealt with frustration.

I just took 15 minutes to disconnect, breathe, relax, and now go back to work.

Frustration leads only to depression.

Breaking the stream, relaxing a bit, refocusing, gets the job done.

The Discipline of Focus

August 25, 2021

“Keep your eye on the ball,” yells the baseball coach to his player.

You cannot hit the ball if you are not focused on it.

Same with golf. Practice the swing enough such that you can just swing naturally. Then put all focus on the ball.

A race car driver once told me that you always focus on the cars in front. Never look at the wall, he said, because you’ll steer right at it.

Take the Hebrew story of Joseph. Yes, the guy with the “multi-colored dream coat”. He landed in Egypt. The king put him in charge of a most important project. Joseph had interpreted a dream that there would be seven years of plenty followed by seven years of famine. Joseph’s job was to focus in the good years on storing lots of grain. I’m sure that given many pressures keeping his eye on the ball was difficult. Then during the seven years of famine, he reaped the benefits of the seven years of discipline.

Pay attention to the words of Jesus, Peter, Paul, James, John and the rest. Stated sometimes and always understood beneath the story lies the foundational teaching of keeping your eye (focus) on God.