Archive for the ‘Disciplines’ Category

What Or Who Is Your Savior

July 6, 2017

You know the song about the guy standing on a corner in Winslow, Arizonza, right? I stood on that corner once. No girl in a flatbed Ford, though.

C’mon baby, don’t say maybe, I gotta know if your sweet love is gonna save me.  — The Eagles

Rolla May, psychologist and author of a number of books including Love and Will and Power and Innocence, wrote that throughout history men have harbored the idea that a beautiful woman will be their salvation. 

They all didn’t understand the thought of that social philosopher from the early 60s, Jimmy Soul, who sang, “Never make a pretty woman your wife…she does things that causes his downfall.”

Think of the things you think will save you.

Everything will be alright if I can just get seven figures in my bank account, or if I just had that house in that neighborhood, or if I just had that car, or if I could have had that guy (or girl).

This isn’t new thinking.

More than 4,000 years ago a guy named Abraham had conversations with God. It wasn’t belief–he continued doing things that revealed a lack of complete trust in God. But he had those conversations where God spoke and he spoke back. It didn’t seem to surprise him that this special god spoke with him. 

But he’d slip into these moments when he thought his own ingenuity would save him rather than dependence upon God.

Think of all the other heroes in the Bible–Adam, Samson, David, Solomon, King Saul–who failed at crucial times.

Is it time for a gut check? What thing or person have you been focusing on for salvation? Time for a change in focus?

We Just Disagree

July 5, 2017

So let’s leave it alone, cause we can’t see eye to eye

There ain’t no good guy, there ain’t no bad guy

There’s only you and me and we just disagree

–Dave Mason, We Just Disagree

We can’t just disagree and let it go.

We have to score points. Crush the opponent.

Split a nation. Split a church. Split a family.

People putting philosophy or theology above people.

We forget the basics–Love God, Love your neighbor.

In our hubris and narcissism we think we have all the answers.

We don’t. 

Happy Independence Day

July 4, 2017

To my American readers–Happy Independence Day.

Before the family and food and fireworks–you might sneak off for 30 minutes or so and read the Declaration of Independence and the US Constitution. With a little more time, you might read through the Federalist Papers to see the thinking behind the Constitution.

We tend to forget things we don’t review. I bet a reading of the first 10 amendments might surprise you with what you thought but were wrong!

Do Not Be Like The Hypocrites

July 3, 2017

Many times I have lost money in business dealings with self-proclaimed Christian business men. They wore religious jewelry, placed religious tracts in the reception area, and they talked the language of the religious–“Christianese” as I recently heard two men in a conversation put it.

On the other hand, I’ve dealt with many people whom I know were Christian–but I knew it because of their behavior. Ethical, moral, plain-spoken

Michael McCausland described the difference in a podcast with John Fischer as the difference between a Christian business and a Kingdom business. In one they say all the right things; in the other they do the right things.

As Jesus said:

And when you pray, do not be like the hypocrites, for they love to pray standing in the synagogues and on the street corners to be seen by others. Truly I tell you, they have received their reward in full. (Matthew 6:5)

And again he said:

9 He also told this parable to some who trusted in themselves that they were righteous and regarded others with contempt: 10 “Two men went up to the temple to pray, one a Pharisee and the other a tax collector. 11 The Pharisee, standing by himself, was praying thus, ‘God, I thank you that I am not like other people: thieves, rogues, adulterers, or even like this tax collector. 12 I fast twice a week; I give a tenth of all my income.’ 13 But the tax collector, standing far off, would not even look up to heaven, but was beating his breast and saying, ‘God, be merciful to me, a sinner!’ 14 I tell you, this man went down to his home justified rather than the other; for all who exalt themselves will be humbled, but all who humble themselves will be exalted.” (Luke 18: 9-14)

So much relates to attitude. The rest relates to values. 

It is a choice. It is also a discipline and a habit. How do we build our daily lives including our business lives?

June 30, 2017

What one thing could you do today, this week, this month, this year that would have the more impact on yourself, your company, your organization?

“One of the most empowering moments of my life came when I realized that life is a question and how we live it is our answer.” So states the theme of The ONE Thing: The Surprisingly Simple Truth Behind Extraordinary Results, Gary Keller with Jay Papasan.

Jim Truchard, known as Dr. T within National Instruments the company he cofounded, recommended this book last May when I was down in Austin at the company’s conference.

The journey toward the ONE Thing begins with a question. Keller says, “Voltaire once wrote, ‘Judge a man by his questions rather than his answers.’ Sir Francis Bacon added, ‘A prudent question is one-half of wisdom.’ Indira Gandhi concluded that ‘the power to question is the basis of all human progress.’ Great questions are clearly the quickest path to great answers.”

Keller calls this the focusing question. What are you trying to solve? Where do you want to go in life? What sort of person do you wish to be?

Find your question.

Understand and believe it . The first step is to understand the concept of the ONE Thing, then to believe that it can make a difference in your life. If you don’t understand and believe, you won’t take action. Use it. Ask yourself the Focusing Question. Start each day by asking, “What’s the ONE Thing I can do today for [whatever you want] such that by doing it everything else will be easier or even unnecessary?” When you do this, your direction will become clear. Your work will be more productive and your personal life more rewarding. Make it a habit. When you make asking the Focusing Question a habit, you fully engage its power to get the extraordinary results you want. It’s a difference maker. Research says this will take about 66 days. Whether it takes you a few weeks or a few months, stick with it until it becomes your routine. If you’re not serious about learning the Success Habit, you’re not serious about getting extraordinary results.

Keller talked about habits, something I’ve discussed regarding Charles Duhigg’s book, The Power of Habit. Or as Keller puts it, “People don’t decide their futures. They decide on their habits. Their habits determine their future.”

What one big thing will double my sales next year?

What one big thing will stabilize financing for my nonprofit?

What one big thing will be the service that defines our organization?

I have the habit of rising about 5:30 am or a little before and writing these meditations. I didn’t make it yesterday. There had been a conference in Boca Raton and the flight home took me through Chicago’s O’Hare airport. The pilot tried valiantly to get us out to the runway before the storm hit. He didn’t make it. We rode out about 2.5 hours of storm delays in the plane on the taxiway inching our way toward takeoff.

Got to say, the two flight attendants (we were on one of those little regional jets) were fantastic. There were many children on board. Naturally they all had to use the lavatory at some point. The flight attendants worked with them to get them there during breaks when the plane was stopped. Kept everyone settled. The crew had had a long day and they were tired, but they kept everything calm. 

We can’t always choose our situation, but we can always choose our reaction to it. The crew and my fellow passengers were all outstanding. Oh, and I got home at 3 am. No getting up at 5:30. I chose to sleep.

Father, Son, and Holy Bible

June 28, 2017

The Trinity for many of us–Father, Son, and Holy…Bible.

Have you ever talked about spiritual things with Christians with any of a variety of “literalist” beliefs and seen them become quite uncomfortable? Or a spiritual world? Or a spiritual life?

Steve Carter, teaching pastor at Willow Creek Community Church, had been speaking about his upbringing with emphasis on the Bible and no mention of the Spirit. I stole the title of the post from him.

He is teaching a series called Cultivate, and its theme seems to be cultivating the Holy Spirit in our lives.

I blame a lot of the emphasis on strictly Bible reading (see yesterday”s post pondering a statement of Jesus about searching the scriptures in vain for eternal life) on the rise of rationalism in 17th Century Europe. The East has its own tradition of rationalism.

Emotionalism is not the answer. Any psychologist will tell you that giving in to emotions and living a life on an emotional roller-coaster is self-destructive.

But life in the spirit. The fruit of which are love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.

What is to be feared by living like those describe?

Looking For God In All The Wrong Places

June 27, 2017

I am a Bible student. I don’t have, nor want, any advanced degrees in Bible. On the other hand, I’ve extensively read a variety of scholars over many years.

What am I reading for, you might ask. Good question.

While studying in the Gospel of John recently, this verse seemed printed in bold italics to me, “You search the Scriptures because you think that in them you have eternal life; it is these that testify about Me.”

Some traditions take the verse about keeping it on your mind so literally that they print the verse, but it in a little container, and strap it to their head so that it is “on their mind.”

Some people can quote the words of the scriptures extensively. Perhaps in that way, “the word is on their minds.”

I am sitting here in my hotel room at another conference writing this and trying to recall one time when Jesus quizzed someone about the words of Scripture. Perhaps the discussion about which is the greatest commandment.

Jesus seemed most interested in the condition of the heart. And he was concerned about how we live. He didn’t say, go and quote scriptures at people. He said, go and sin no more. Paul later tried to explain this in various ways be describing good behaviour or bad behaviour or listing for us the fruit of the spirit.

John wrote his gospel so that we could know who Jesus was.  It’s all about choosing the correct person to follow and then following well. You should search the gospel of John not to be able to quote, but to be as impacted by who Jesus was as John was.

For me, studying deepens my spiritual maturity. But it all began with experiencing God a long time ago. Why study? It’s one of the disciplines which all help us point toward the experience of God so that we may live a life freed from sin.

Helping The Poor As A Mission Discipline

June 26, 2017

My grandfather used to tell me about an incident during the Depression when a train derailed in town. His step-father, along with half of the town, ran down to the train that night and helped themselves to loads of “free” coal. It was the depression. Many people. Were out of work. It gets very cold in Ohio. It was like a gift from God.

News from Pakistan at the end of last week. A gasoline tanker truck wrecked and fuel was spilling out. Hundreds of poor people ran to save some of that fuel. Gasoline is a flammable. Catches fire easily. Yes, this spill ignited. A hundred people died.

A gospel that preaches “We’ll save your soul if you wish, but you are on your own for food, clothing, and shelter” isn’t the gospel of Jesus.

Jesus talked often about the responsible use of money. Paul collected money from his churches to return to Jerusalem to feed and clothe women and children left in poverty by their joining the community following Jesus.

It baffles me that we (the collective rich country “we”) cannot devise an economic system that shares something of the wealth of the economy with such poor people. There are so many people who are so focused on “I want my share…and more; and I want to keep it for me”. That emotion is driving an awful lot of worldwide politics these days.

I’m not talking politics, though. Politics won’t solve any problems.

I’m talking mission and service as a discipline. And how if every Christ-follower who has any financial means contributed, so much good could happen. 

  • Fresh drinking water to help eradicate diseases
  • Investment in businesses large enough to hire people providing jobs and dignity
  • Medicine and access to health professionals
  • Investment in agriculture, aquaponics, and other technologies where people could feed themselves
  • Investment in communication and transportation infrastructure 

Update

I’m still amazed that at least in the US we can’t treat women better. But some little progress and awareness seems to be hitting the “bro-land” of Silicon Valley. After denying and obfuscating for a long enough period to complete a funding round, the VC leader finally stepped down and apologized for his treatment of women and said he’d seek counseling. Hope that works out better than the “counseling” that NFL players get.

How much counseling do you need to stop reaching under the conference room table and feeling up a woman’s leg during a meeting? Maybe we need to bring back the slap in the face or something?

And Uber now is looking for a CEO, COO, CFO, VP of Engineering, and other top staff after cleaning house due to the frat house culture they enabled.

Remember when boys grew up and became men?

What Is It About Sex, Or Is It About Sex?

June 23, 2017

The CEO of Uber is pushed out of his position, along with many of his lieutenants in part because of promoting and allowing a culture of sexual advances on women. And not just employees, customers, too. 

After years of silence, women are beginning to speak out against people in power in Silicon Valley who use their positions to force sexual activities. New allegations have become public about a Venture Capitalist.

It’s called the “bro” culture. Short for “brother” as in a fraternity. It’s like the worst fraternity movies gone wild. Men say, “that’s just the way it is.” Women on the other hand seem not to like it. 

Other news popping up relates to men (although sometimes its women, but quite rare) in positions of trust and authority forcing sexual advances on children (or perhaps girls who look adult but are still children).

I’ve read psychologists who say the root cause is not the sexual emotion itself but instead the drive to power. Although maybe it’s also adolescent boys driven by testosterone more than intelligence becoming 35 and unchanged.

This is an ancient problem. Read Paul’s letters carefully. Get past today’s buzz words, and you will discover that Paul hated giving in to our passions. Jesus said that more than the physical act of adultery it is the interior act of thinking about it.

We become what we dwell on in our hearts. We become what we think about.

Our discipline is to choose to think about the higher things. As Jesus-followers, we are also to guide other people along the same path. If we can save but one person from going down that path, think of all the lives not shattered in the future that would have been.

It Is Not Our Achievements That Matter To God

June 22, 2017

You pay your dues, work the extra hours, make the extra trip. You become president of the company or famous or a star.

Is God happy with you?

I don’t know. Depends.

Jesus moved easily from conversations with the rich and powerful to conversations with the poorest. He healed the children of Roman officials. He healed lepers.

He never seemed impressed by achievement or lack of achievement.

Jesus was always concerned with the heart.

How often did he say go and sin no more? Or your sins are forgiven?

Sin is a condition of the heart. It is where our attention is focused. Do we live our lives from minute to minute concerned about ourselves and our pleasures? Or, do we live in the Spirit–the type of person who is at peace, and helpful, and looks out for others?

It is not our achievements that matter to God. He does want us to use our talents well. What matters is what sort of person we are becoming.

It’s not what you are; it’s who you are.