Archive for the ‘Disciplines’ Category

Look Inside For Causes

September 11, 2023

So instead of loving what you think is peace, love other men and love God above all. And instead of hating the people you think are warmers, hate the appetites and the disorder in your own soul, which are the causes of war. If you love peace, then hate injustice, hate tyranny, hate greed–but hate these things in yourself, not in another.

Thomas Merton, New Seeds of Contemplation

Oh, how easy it is to look at others and judge. How difficult to look within and see all the evil residing therein.

Somewhere inside we need a pause button. Like before we speak. Probably every time.

We look at someone and a story about them comes to mind. Usually not a good story. We think the worst.

Maybe if we hit that pause button and then ask a conversation starting (not ending!) question and actually listen. Maybe by listening we hear a story. Almost always that story will change the opinion. We discover people who are hurting just like us (who won’t admit it).

Maybe there is grief in the family. There are many kinds. They hurt.

Maybe they just feel left out. All they needed was someone to greet them and listen to them.

Maybe a recent diagnosis–theirs or family or friend–is weighing on them.

Maybe we pray for peace and justice, but even there we need that pause button and look inside at our attitudes towards other–maybe fear based on our own insecurities, maybe dislike merging with hatred of someone different, maybe rooting for war somewhere.

Pause and look inside. I know. I have. There’s no perfection there. Work remains to be done.

Christ Living In Us

September 5, 2023

Thomas Merton expressed what I’ve tried to say for years. “For Christianity is not merely a doctrine or a system of beliefs. It is Christ living in us and uniting men to one another in His own Life and unity.” (New Seeds of Contemplation)

One can tell, often at first meeting, whether the other person is filled with the spirit or filled with other stuff. Except for the gullible among us (which at times can be all of us), we have a built-in BS detector. There exists occasional charlatans who manage to defeat that detector in some or many of us. 

I’m more concerned with me. And you. Not that we can detect when people are false and manipulating us. No, it’s more that we develop the practices that bring the spirit of God within us. And we can express that spirit through the kind of service that brings people together.

The easy path leads to spouting off words designed to set us apart. Designed to provoke emotions in the other.

The harder path is to express the spirit living within that brings healing and unity and joy to others.

Two Kinds of Disciples

August 30, 2023

Then Jesus came to them and said, “All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to me. Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.”

Jesus’s last instructions to his disciples. They can believe what he told them. They need to go and do. And they can rest assured in his continual presence.

I am a contemplative. I have found sitting in meditation life changing. Did Jesus tell me (through them) to sit in meditation? No.

I love to study. Learning has been a lifelong joy. Did Jesus tell me to learn more? No. Well, not exactly. There is the teaching part. That is the last part of the instructions.

There are two kinds of disciples. One knows and can explain. One lives out the instructions in everyday life.

Meditating may center me. Learning may enrich me. But, Jesus requires more out of me (and you). 

The first instruction is Go—into all nations.

Next is Make—disciples. (Not people who agree with my particular theology, but disciples, followers, learners.)

Next is Baptizing.

Next is Teaching—everything he has commanded.

There are two kinds of disciples—those who think and those who do. Jesus preferred the doers.

Go Take a Hike

August 29, 2023

I don’t know if that phrase continues to be used in the sense of “I don’t want to hear any more stuff from you.”

That is actually great advice.

Yesterday I wrote about how sleep and fitness allow us to maintain mental focus while we are getting tired. The tradition in Yoga maintains it was developed to give spiritual seekers the strength and stamina to sit in meditation for longer periods of time.

One easy way for most of us is to get out of the chair and walk. (I realize that some people cannot walk. I have no advice in that case.) The 10,000 step “rule” was a made-up number. 5,000 works. 7,000 is good. Benefits seem to peak about 8,000 steps. I throw all those numbers out to perhaps get you over obsessing about a number. 

Get some steps.

Take a break a few times a day getting out of the chair to walk around. Even if it’s just around the house or the office building. 500 steps here and another 500 there begin to add up.

Add a backpack with some weight. It’s called rucking. Maybe not going as far as fast, this added resistance adds strengthening to the walk.

My daughter and her husband have a discipline of going to a forest preserve or natural park to hike for a couple of hours every Saturday. Something a little more strenuous than a walk around the block.

Being out in nature is an added benefit with walking. I take in the sunrises and birds, the occasional otter or muskrat. Sometimes a coyote returning after a night’s foraging. Exercise for body, mind, soul.

Oh, go take a hike!

Practice or Discipline?

August 23, 2023

Some teachers, not wanting to scare people with the word “discipline”, chose to water the term to spiritual practices. I saw the pool guy yesterday afternoon. We usually meet 2-3 days a week when I’m in the hot tub following my workout, and he’s doing whatever the pool guy does with chemicals and equipment. He asked how I was doing and then said, “You’re quite disciplined.”

When I get the Yoga mat out I am practicing Yoga. When I do it three days a week most weeks, then I have a discipline. Discipline is not a “four-letter-word.” It’s simply a part of my life.

People get on diets to lose weight. Pretty much all diets will cause you to lose weight. That’s not the point. The writers in one of my nutrition and fitness newsletters recently wrote, “The common denominator of all successful diets is how long you can stick to the plan. And that means following a plan that gives you the best chance to stay consistent for many months, and, ideally, years.”

He wrote about some research, “In the study, diet breaks were not associated with faster or more significant fat loss. But that’s only half the story. Even though one group took a one-week break every 2 weeks, they still lost the same amount of fat as those people who dieted without any time off.”

Our nutrition discipline, our physical training discipline, and yes our spiritual disciplines all benefit from a few simple things:

  • Do something that you can stick to for the long term
  • Don’t be afraid to modify along the way to keep it interesting
  • If you need to take a break for travel or life, don’t sweat it
  • When the break is over, have that discipline ingrained such that you fall right back into it

People try to meditate like the pictures of the beautiful model sitting in lotus with fingers touching looking over the waves of an ocean. Maybe somebody told them 20 minutes twice a day. Some say you need to light candles and burn incense.

Nonsense. Don’t make it so hard. Find a solid chair. Sit upright with good, but not tense, posture. Take a deep breath. Exhale slowly and relax. Focus on your breath. Inhale. Exhale. If thoughts come, heck when thoughts come, don’t worry or force them out. Just let them come and go. You have 2 minutes. That’s a great start. Maybe next week 5 minutes is easy. Most of us just can’t sit still. That takes practice. After a couple of weeks, the practice becomes a discipline. Ha! You have sneaked up on a spiritual discipline. Hopefully one that continues for the long haul.

In The Spirit and Doing Good

August 21, 2023

An ancient observation, about 4,600 years old:

One of complete virtue is not conscious of being virtuous.

One of whole virtue does not need to do anything in order to be virtuous.

This is similar to what the Apostle Paul tried to explain many times as he taught about those living in the spirit of God as followers of Jesus and those who tried to avoid God’s anger by obeying each and every one of the 600+ laws of the Hebrew tradition.

If we are truly living in the spirit, living a life with-God, we just naturally live good (maybe not exactly perfect but good) lives. We are kind, empathetic, helpful, virtuous. We have peace and joy and hope. We don’t even realize it. We just are.

Yet, so many read Paul in order to find more rules (laws) to add to the 600+ Jewish laws. They unfortunately miss the point.

So many of us miss the point. Missing out on the sort of life that God wishes for us.

Self-awareness begins the journey. Focus and attention—not on ourselves but first on God then on others. Or, maybe first on others then we realize the God part comes along. We can change, otherwise Paul wouldn’t have written all those letters to guide us.

Seeking Proper Alignment

August 18, 2023

I got up this morning with a very stiff lower back muscle. That feeling is rare. I’ve had to bend a few times to loosen it.

It could be my mattress. Most likely the cause stems from a new exercise in my weight lifting routine. I’m thinking about alignment. If I don’t have my body perfectly aligned with my arms raising in the proper alignment and my breath just right, sore muscles will occur.

We teach proper alignment constantly in Yoga. One misalignment holding a pose can cause pain somewhere.

A person I’ve just met asked me about calming her soul. I told her 60 years of meditation dealt with much of my emotional and anger issues. She had heard too much about all the postures, things to do with hands, chants or mantras. I told her it is easy. Don’t stress. Just sit in a solid chair. Relax arms. Eyes closed or open. Don’t care. Thoughts fly through the brain like a flock of blackbirds in autumn. Don’t care. Just align breathing intentionally. In…Out… Thoughts come and go. I told her I can do 2 hours in corpse pose in bed. But 5 minutes a day is sufficient. Heck, even 2 minutes to begin. It’s like an old cola commercial…”the pause that refreshes.”

We align our soul with our breath.

That helps us align our soul with our life leading to a better, more appropriate response to what life brings to us.

The human condition. We think too much. We worry too much. We are anxious about being perfect too much.

Relax. Take a deep breath. Then another. Then tackle life’s challenges one thing at a time as we align our flow to the situation.

Now What?

August 17, 2023

I once shared an office with the president of the county anti-abortion organization. No, I’m not going to debate this issue here. Rather, I asked him:

Now that you have “saved” a baby’s life, Now what?

It is now in a home where most likely the mother is poor and single and the baby is not wanted. Now what?

I don’t know if that question provided the impetus, but the organization did do some things to help mothers.

A friend was focused on “saving” people. I think that meant getting people to say that they “accepted Jesus into their life.” And I asked that friend:

Now what?

Do you just leave that person adrift while you try to add another notch on the belt?

Or, do you develop a relationship that leads the person into experiencing peace, joy, hope, calmness, and so forth? Is it a numbers game? Or a life game?

“I did this.” 

“Now what?”

Process Control, Quality In, Quality Processing, Quality Out

August 11, 2023

Two conversations this week involved process control. One involved coffee beans and the other scrap steel. One discussed why the direct trade coffee (from the Chavarria farm in Nicaragua) tastes so much better than the big chain brands. The other conversation with the CEO of a software company discussed achieving high quality steel products from the raw material input of assorted scrap steel.

A couple of takeaways.

The quality of the feedstock, the raw material the process begins with, impacts the process and the final product.

Adjusting the process to allow for variations of feedstock impacts the quality of the final product.

Just so in our own development.

What is the quality of the feedstock with which you fill your attention and mind?

How do you process, that is, reflect on, the stuff filling your attention and mind?

Let Jesus Do The Talking

August 10, 2023

During a tour of the sites Louise Penny popularized in her detective novels featuring Chief Inspector Armand Gamache, the tour guide gave us identifying wrist bands saying What Would Gamache Do? This brought back memories from years ago when the popular fashion accessory was a rubber wrist band emblazoned with WWJD (what would Jesus do).

Jon Swanson gave me an idea today when he wrote about how sometimes we decide what Jesus would say (and do). That resonated with much of my thinking.

My wish is that we who identify either as Christians or as Jesus-followers would actually read, digest, infuse his actual words and deeds instead of making up stuff or taking at surface-value what others have said about him.

Rather than What Would Jesus Do, perhaps better is What Did Jesus Do and Say and how do we incorporate that into our every day lives?

I like the word infuse. I approach spiritual disciplines with the idea of infusing Jesus’ teachings into my very being reflected in the way I behave.