Archive for the ‘Awareness’ Category

Empathy

April 16, 2025

Dialectic reasoning in philosophical reasoning contrasts two views that lead to a new level of thought.

Try these:

The fundamental weakness of Western civilization is empathy.—Elon Musk

The death of human empathy is one of the earliest and most telling signs of a culture about to fall into barbarism.—Hannah Arendt

I tutored a fellow student in German in the university so that he could graduate and accept a good job back home. He did. His wife gave me a big, grateful hug. I was happy for him.

During a session we discussed the two professors of German at the university (it was one of the many small, quality Liberal Arts universities that Ohio is known for—Ohio Northern), I remarked about how one came from Vienna and wound up in small Ada, Ohio. “I don’t care,” he replied. And he didn’t. He lacked empathy.

I’ve met many since then who have an emotional gap where empathy should have been living.

Have you? Or are you missing that emotion?

Empathy doesn’t mean agreeing with. It’s sort of feeling with. When you meet someone, you can feel what they feel in the sense of understanding where they are coming from.

Looking at my guide, Jesus seemed always to find that empathy toward everyone he met. Then he knew how to interact with each individual person. He could be kind and understanding; he could point out flaws in thinking or living without any obnoxious arguing; he could guide people into a better and deeper understanding.

We would be wise to emulate him.

Order from Chaos

April 4, 2025

I sit in meditation. Thoughts chaotically tumble through my consciousness. Focus and awareness are lost.

I scan news or social media. Everything in the world seems complete chaos.

I ponder the creation story. It tells me that God created order from chaos.

What does the creation story tell us about God?

Where can I turn to God to help me sort through my chaos? How can God help me find order in my awareness? How can I find trust in God to bring order out of the chaos around me?

God, help me turn my awareness toward you. Let me sit in calm awareness allowing your spirit to infuse me.

Why Do I?

March 27, 2025

A flock of blackbirds populates the leafless tree of late winter.

One, for no observable reason, flies away.

The flock follows.

Why?

Likewise, why do I sometimes get up and move later wondering where I was going?

Why do I spontaneously say awkward things?

Why do I make a spontaneous unnecessary purchase?

Why did I grab that doughnut at the last meeting?

Some people say they just want to be left alone to do their own thing.

Are they consciously exercising rational free will?

Or, do we fly off like the flock of blackbirds spontaneously following some unknown leader?

Jesus Facing Conflict

March 25, 2025

So many psychologists and other assorted experts have been writing about the many interpersonal conflicts within our society right now (as if that’s a new thing!), that I thought I’d take a look at how Jesus dealt with conflict. If I maintain that I am a follower, then I must look to him and learn from him.

I have outlined a short book or pamphlet on the subject and have begun the thinking and writing. I’ll probably outline ideas here. Feedback with other ideas is always welcome. My teachers both in academia and corporations taught me to write as if I know what I’m talking about. Many times it’s really current thinking that is always open for something new that can expand it.

Chronologically, the first conflict that Jesus dealt with according to the Gospels (Matthew and Luke) was with the person identified as the Tempter, the devil, Satan. I think if we applied this to ourselves, we would identify it as our inner demons, dark thoughts, emotions.

In the literature of spiritual development, a first spiritual “high” always precedes a time in the “desert” facing temptations.

Just so, Jesus follows his baptism and hearing of God’s blessing with 40 days of fasting in the wilderness. He was then faced with three temptations.

One was food. He had been fasting, that is, intentionally going without food as a spiritual practice to help one become open to God’s word. He was tempted to use his power (which we lack) to turn stones into bread. This was followed (Matthew and Luke differ on the order of temptations) by the lust for power. The Tempter offers him temporal power over all the kingdoms. The other temptation was immortality—jumping from a high building into the ravine below trusting God to save him.

Jesus calmly evaluated each situation. He turned the story from himself to God. He quoted from God’s word to refute the temptation.

I’m guessing that most people reading this do not think they are Jesus. How do we translate these into something meaningful for us in this era of conflict with friends, family, social networks?

We first become aware that we are facing an adversary—those thoughts and emotions that well up from deep in our gut. We must pause and consider. Are these things emphasizing bodily pleasure, lust for power, or prodding our desires to be like God?

We must pause. Then we can look to our teachers or our Teacher. He taught us to look first to God. What is God’s desire for our life? Can we muster the courage to turn our backs on temptations letting them wither and die for lack of support? Can we return to the practices that bring us closer to God and lead us to serve our fellow humans (and other creatures)?

Unprecedented Move

March 20, 2025

A long, long time ago in a galaxy far, far away I took a year between undergraduate and graduate school to earn some money to pay off debts and prepare for the next step. During that year I met a young woman who became my wife.

We moved from Ohio to Louisiana where I had an assistantship to work on a Masters degree. Halfway through that year, the faculty voted to disband the program. I had a job offer back in Ohio, so we moved back to my home area of western Ohio. The temporary job turned into a permanent (well, as permanent as anything really is) position. We stayed in the area.

One day, my wife asked, “How much do you think we could get if we tried selling our house again?” Two weeks later we had sold the house. Now, where to move. Well, our family resided in the Chicago suburbs.

Five years ago today I met the moving van at what was no longer our house. They loaded up everything. I pushed (with my neighbor’s help) the last of perhaps 2,000 pounds of excess stuff we’d accumulated to the street for the rubbish pickup.  And, poof, we were gone.

That entire process was six weeks. On March 23, I met the moving van at our new house along with the cable guy bring me an internet connection.

That was also the first day of the Covid lockdown. Covid plus a new environment and loss of our fitness center and church did have an impact. 

I guess all that should have been traumatic. I think we survived quite well.

Sorry for the autobiography, but five years is a milestone.

What Matters Now

March 14, 2025

That is actually the title of a book discussing business leadership and strategy by Gary Hamel. I opened my eyes following meditation staring at that title.

It’s a wonderful thought for the day.

One of the many things that annoy me about almost all media that’s shoved at us these days (even my favorite news sites fall into this trap) is speculation. This might happen!! Or What if this??

These only lead to emotions such as worry or anxiety. Publishers wish to invoke those emotions so that you’ll come back for more…oh, and by the way, look at the ads. 

I understand the need to forge an income. My other blog has a sponsor. Most of my business life found me figuring out ways to serve customers or shave costs in order to make enough profits to pay us and enable the organization to survive.

The key for us on the receiving end lies in the daily (hourly?) reflection on What Matters Now. 

I cannot solve the leadership crisis in countries or the wars and destruction ongoing in our world. I can find ways to serve others in my communities. I can find ways to grow intellectually and emotionally. I can find what matters now that I can work on—and then do it.

Theological Inconsistencies

March 11, 2025

There are people (churches, denominations) who claim Wesleyan, yet only acknowledge half of John Wesley’s teaching.

Again, there are people (churches, denominations) who claim Calvinism, yet only acknowledge parts of John Calvin’s teaching.

Worse than those are the people who claim the Christian Bible, yet pick and choose pieces of it as their guide.

They may say, you need to take out a black magic marker and just blot out these certain passages. They are inconvenient. I don’t agree. And so forth.

Author and professor Tony Campolo wrote Red Letter Christians as a challenge specifically to evangelicals about living out the words of Jesus. (In some Bibles, direct quotes of Jesus are printed in red letters.)

There may be thoughts in the New Testament with which I disagree. Perhaps in meditation I would prefer to argue with Paul or John or James or, even, Jesus.

I find two things helpful either reading the New Testament or John Wesley (whom I prefer over Calvin, but that’s just me). The first step is to admit to myself that I just don’t understand. That launches both debate and inquiry. 

The best next step entails reading the words of Jesus (red letter Christian!). What did he actually say? With that context, interpreting other New Testament writers and later thinkers becomes clearer.

I may still not agree. I think arguing with God is just fine. Certainly throughout the Hebrew Scriptures people argue with God all the time. And God argues back. (Hint—God wins.)

People perplex me in their inconsistencies. Looking in the metaphorical mirror, I resemble that remark. But that gives us something to work on.

Learning and Self-Esteem

February 28, 2025

My parents left a legacy, unintentionally as all such legacies are, of low self-esteem and worry. My three brothers and I all coped differently. I went into business management and was drilled on sounding self-assured. It’s a mask. I’ve recently seen studies revealing how my father approached ordering me to get better grades at school actually achieved the opposite result.

Despite all that, I was, and remain to this day, insatiably curious. The trouble with curiosity appears when you learn something new that contradicts long-held beliefs. That does not boost self-esteem.

Psychiatrist Thomas Szasz noted, “Every act of conscious learning requires the willingness to suffer an injury to one’s self-esteem. That is why young children, before they are aware of their own self-importance, learn so easily; and why older persons, especially if vain or important, cannot learn at all.”

It’s why the ability to say, “I don’t know” remains one of the most powerful tools to growth. These days I’m often consulting claude.ai or Google when I run into something I don’t know. The more I learn, the older I get, the less I know.

Finding Your Center

February 27, 2025

Oliver Burkeman writes The Imperfectionist newsletter. “Imperfectionist” alluding to his writing about how trying to execute everything in your life perfectly is detrimental to one’s mental and physical health.

His latest effort discussed how our psychological centre of gravity must be in our real and immediate world. We must live in the world of family and friends and neighborhood, our work and creative projects. Trying to live in the far-off world of presidents and governments and social forces and global emergencies leads to distress.

This reminds me of the early days of the Internet in the early to mid 1990s. I joined several Usegroups. These were online forums organized around a single topic. I remember being on comp.realtime and comp.C+ and a few others. These were civil discussions with tips and tricks and news. I first joined Facebook to keep up with family and a  few close friends and acquaintances. Then it went downhill rapidly.

The first two years of Twitter gave me a great communication tool with like-minded people discussing industrial automation. Then it slid into news, then algorithms, then just trash.

You might intentionally visit the outer world at times. You need to remain grounded locally.

Jesus gives us many pre-internet clues. He was aware of political and religious structures of the time. He knew about political power and religious/political power. He spoke directly at times about the Jewish religious/political power structure. 

His actions were unmistakably local. When he was somewhere, he was present there. He dealt with real people in the present moment.

Interestingly, while never really addressing the Roman power structure, his message of love as the opposite of Roman crude power wound up upending Rome by the early 300s.

Just being present where you are with whom are around you is the most powerful thing you can do to change worlds.

What To Leave Undone

February 18, 2025

“Besides the noble art of getting things done, master the noble art of leaving other things undone. Life wisdom also involves the elimination of nonessentials.” -Lin Yutang (early 20th Century Chinese philosopher)

Think of obsessive people you know who are trying to get too many things done, while accomplishing little of note and antagonizing others along the way.

Then look into the metaphorical mirror. Perhaps you can say with the cartoon character Garfield, “I resemble that remark.”

Author and podcast host Tim Ferriss recently revived work on a book on the power to say no.

Wisdom from ancient times tells us that only an empty container is useful. If you are filled with many tasks, many worries, many places to go, then you have no room for being and for doing the important work.

If this post seems a rerun of something I wrote a few days ago, perhaps God places certain reading in my awareness to send a message. I pay attention when similar thoughts appear within a short time period. Gotta be a message there.