Archive for the ‘Attitude’ Category

Walk Your Way to Health

November 18, 2025

“Above all, do not lose your desire to walk: Every day I walk myself into a state of well-being and walk away from every illness; I have walked myself into my best thoughts, and I know of no thought so burdensome that one cannot walk away from it.”​— Søren Kierkegaard​.

Kierkegaard was a Danish theologian whose thought I admire.

Need to lose a few pounds and feel more fit?

Trying to solve a vexing problem?

Looking for ideas for that essay or meditation you’re writing?

Feeling anxious?

Need to connect with God?

Take a walk.

No air pods. No headset. No music. No podcast. Just nature…or life. Maybe a small notebook and pen in your pocket with which to record ideas. OK, I cheat. I use the Notes app on my phone with the microphone and dictate thoughts.

It’s great for physical health, mental health, spiritual health. Get outside and go.

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Notes on Being a Man

November 3, 2025

Observing the growing diversity of genders and races at engineering conferences over the past 20 years has been gratifying. I’ve been a “perp” at times over the years. When I had leadership responsibilities, I promoted unlikely people into strategic roles looking at their skill sets and social maturity. I had a female project manager and a sales engineer in the 1980s when many men were uncomfortable with that. They were good.

Melinda French Gates (Bill’s ex) recently appeared on a podcast. While celebrating the advances women have made, she noted the importance of bringing men along. I applaud the setting aside of an “us vs. them” mentality. I’m with Martin Luther King, Jr. when  he asked that we judge people by the strength of their character, not by external factors.

I have watched for years how some boys and men have not been brought along with the progress of women, people of color, and privileged white men. I would see the woman of the family driving the car, going into the bank to do business, running other errands, while the guy sits slumped in the car playing a video game.

Sometimes parents have not been a help. Sometimes no coach or teacher or neighbor has come forward to offer guidance. They’ve heard that if you don’t go to college, you’re nothing. And their talents are not in that direction.

My last podcast discussed building a workplace that respects people. We need to help bring everyone along for the ride. We cannot sit back and expect other to do this.

[Note: the linked blog post contains language and situations that some will find offensive. The message is clear, though.]

Tim Ferriss writing about Scott Galloway on his blog discusses disturbing statistics about young (and a little older now) men. They need guidance. OK, maybe sometimes a metaphorical kick in the pants. Check out Tim’s post and the discussion about Galloway’s new book.

What can we do either individually or through business to help bring these disaffected people along—all the while not forgetting to enable everyone?

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See More Clearly

October 31, 2025

John Fischer wrote recently in his The Catch newsletter, “Your job is not to shout louder. But to see clearer… Eyes wide open. Heart tuned in.”

People trying to communicate with someone who speaks a different language invariably speak more loudly as if volume would overcome the language barrier.

People living within different political or religious systems also have this trait. If you don’t seem to understand me, I’ll just scream louder.

Hot tip: that does’t work.

Fischer talks of seeing clearer. That is part of the equation. Better is seeing the other more clearly. And listening. And deciding not to assume the other is simply stupid or ignorant or cynical.

Reminds me of this wonderful song from Godspell, Day by Day.

Oh Dear Lord

Three things I pray

To see thee more clearly

Love thee more dearly

Follow thee more nearly

Day by day

Explore and Experiment

October 28, 2025

The book lies before me on the desk,

I’ve often read those chapters of the famous sermon.

In the spirit of those before me,

I open and scan the pages with an explorer’s mind.

Open, curious, I know nothing, 

Exploring the story, thoughts, teaching, responses.

I experiment, trying my thoughts against the text.

Explore, experiment. Finding nuggets of gold

In the stream of words from The Teacher.

This, then, forms the foundation of study.

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Who Are You?

October 24, 2025

No, I’m not leading into the song by The Who.

You sense a desire to change.

Perhaps you looked into a mirror and thought you wanted to look better. Lose weight. Be more fit.

Perhaps you look with envy at those people who look so happy serving at a food pantry or making meals for people in shelters or just being kind and generous.

You make a list of habits that you will certainly develop.

It fails.

Better this.

I am an exerciser.

I am a person who exercises portion control at meals.

I am a meditator.

I am a generous person.

I am kind.

Decide with intention who you are. You will find that you do the things that come naturally to that sort of person.

And you won’t have Pete Townshend and Roger Daltrey asking who are you!

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Because They Want To Live Like That

October 20, 2025

The early gatherings of Jesus followers grew in numbers and influence because people around them saw the way they lived and wished to live like that. They saw people kind and generous. When plagues rolled through the cities, they saw Jesus followers out ministering to the sick and grieving.

I picked up this thought from an Arnold Schwarzenegger newsletter, “When your actions consistently align with your principles, you don’t need to convince anyone of who you are. You become the evidence. That’s why the most powerful teachers rarely lecture; they live in a way that makes people want to follow. Integrity isn’t built in speeches — it’s built in habits, sacrifices, and how you treat others.”

I write this and convict myself. At what points to I embody my principles of peace and justice and being kind and generous? And at what points do I fall short? How can I do better?

Perhaps you need to ask these of yourself.

The Less I Know

October 16, 2025

George Bernard Shaw said, “The trouble with this world is that the ignorant are cocksure and the intelligent are full of doubt.”

A later interpretation of Shaw is the Dunning- Krueger Effect—the less you know about a subject, the more certain you will be that you are correct.

Jesus once said, “Unless you change and develop minds like children, you will never enter the Kingdom of Heaven.” This thought exists in many wisdom traditions. It’s called more simply (and I like simply) “beginners’ mind.”

Unless we empty our minds and soak up learning like children, we become fixed in our beliefs. And these beliefs could, and probably will, be completely wrong.

Journeying on the path to deeper learning, we will encounter friends and acquaintances who have not progressed beyond the beliefs and opinions of childhood. Certainly there exists a small, but thriving, online community that continues to believe the earth is flat.

Encountering such people, which we will daily, our only real response is compassion. Arguing is counterproductive only leading to strained relationships. Acquiescing is not being true to ourselves. Compassion, reflecting the frequent response of Jesus, becomes the way to health.

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Sleep—The Long Game

October 13, 2025

What stories do you tell yourself when trying to find better sleep. We’ve been told way too often about how beneficial good sleep is. And to get 6-8 good hours of sleep every night.

I’ve been a fan of Kevin Meyer, who writes at Evolving Excellence, for years through his honest and insightful manufacturing and Lean Thinking writing. He’s retired and pursuing new avenues of thinking.

He had told himself the story that a glass of wine before bed would be relaxing and slide him into deep sleep.

Not so.

He eliminated alcohol for 3-4 hours before bedtime immediately realizing a sleep improvement.

My wife needs almost total darkness for optimum sleep. I don’t think that I notice. Meyer invested in a quality sleep mask creating a dark environment. It helped him.

I am a creature of routine. Intentionally. I am in bed plus/minus 15 minutes of 10 pm and up at 5:30 am unless we’re at a concert or traveling. Consistent timing helps the body prepare for both sleep and wake. The only times I use an alarm are when I have an early car to the airport.

We sometimes have a light snack about 2 hours prior to bed time. Meyer also found ceasing eating 2 hours or more prior to bed to be helpful.

I have taken a number of supplements for years. I have not yet taken magnesium l-threonate for relaxation and sleep. Meyer finds the research is compelling with his personal results aligning with the clinical findings.

Trust and Openness

September 30, 2025

Trust and Openness

You meet a person

She casts a suspicious glance,

A guarded posture.

And another,

His furtive glance,

Filled with distrust.

You look at a mirror,

Perhaps it’s me,

Not them.

Perhaps if I smiled

With my eyes

As with my lips.

Projecting kindness and caring

Reflects back

Fading the suspicion and distrust.

Laws and Hearts

September 29, 2025

I’ve read the New Testament—the story of Jesus and the beginnings of his movement. Many times.

One of the many lessons I learned from Jesus’ story was the futility of changing people’s hearts through laws.

Think through the stories of his interactions with religious people of his day. He would poke at the religiosity of their following their myriad of laws, yet the hollowness of their lives. Think of the cup brilliantly clean on the outside yet dirty inside.

The Civil Rights Movement of the early 60s formed my social and political thinking. Martin Luther King, Jr.’s  speech about judging people by the strength of their character and not the color of their skin struck a harmonic chord with my early lessons about Jesus. It’s what’s inside that counts most—for me as well as you.

The Movement led to many necessary changed laws in the US.

Observing today’s social environment, the changed laws led to very few changed hearts.

The other day I observed that if all the spiritual study in the world doesn’t change the way you live, then that time was wasted.

What does it take to change a person’s heart?