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Arguing

June 5, 2024

We must love arguing over doctrinal differences. For we do it enough. Doctrines are a dime a dozen. Almost anyone can dive into their Scriptures, find some fitting sentences, and build a doctrine. Then, they can argue about it.

What would Jesus say about that?

Perhaps to get off your “I’m holier than you” platform and go out and serve others.

The Gospel of Mark (chapter 10) records how two of the most intimate friends of Jesus asked for special privileges in the Kingdom. Then the other 10 heard about it (it’s hard to keep secrets in a small group). They all began arguing with Jesus.

He stopped them. “Whoever wants to be great in the Kingdom,” he said, “must be the servant of others. For even the Son of Man came to serve others and to die for them.”

Maybe we should take a hint.

Choose Your Tasks

June 4, 2024

Kevin Kelly, founding editor of Wired magazine and author of several good books, offered this advice, “Don’t aim for better ways to do your tasks. Aim for better tasks that you never want to stop doing.”

Where are you doing things that fail to bring joy?

What tasks bring nothing to yours or others well being?

What is the one thing, or the few things, that bring joy to your soul and serve others?

Throw out the meaningless tasks. Focus on what matters.

Unplug It

June 3, 2024

I’ve had the pleasure of trouble-shooting computers and automation equipment during my career.

First question I asked was always is it plugged in? Does it have a power source?

Follow up if yes, unplug it, count 20, plug it back in. (Turn it off, then turn it back on.)

That latter just fixed a glitch in my iPhone.

It’s the same with us.

Are we connected with a power source?

Think God.

Are we stressed, unfocused, frustrated?

Unplug for a bit. Probably longer than a count to 20, but you get the idea.

Maybe we only need to unplug for a few minutes several times a day. Maybe we need a week to unplug, refresh the mind, do something different. Then we can plug in again full of power and energy.

The Right Time or the Best Time

May 31, 2024

My usual condition goes something like this—I face a project, I think about the project, I foresee all the steps involved, I see the difficulties and obstacles, then I realize the project is past due. Then I go to work.

Waiting for the right time to get to work is never the right time.

Right now is the best time to begin.

Find Your Hidden Potential

May 30, 2024

Sometimes I come across something important for our (yours, mine, and someone you know) personal development. Hidden Potential: The Science of Achieving Greater Things by Adam Grant is a must-read book. Weaving research, analysis, and stories, Grant takes us through a number of steps and processes to help us find our hidden potential. The value extends beyond ourselves to those we parent, mentor, coach, or teach. Helping others develop is a joy beyond description.

He discusses at one point the value of teaching character traits exceeds the subject matter. I appreciate the validation. I spoke for 30 years about how when training young people to become soccer referees that I was teaching beyond just the Laws of the Game. I taught those 12-15-year-olds how to show up on time, be properly equipped, make decisions, stand up for yourself in the face of the inevitable complainers. I see many of them on Facebook or LinkedIn who are successful engineers, teachers, coaches, and more in their own right. I hope I helped them in my own low-key way.

Adam Grant is an organizational psychologist at Wharton, where he has been the top-rated professor for seven straight years. 

To quote from the description on Bookshop.org:

The #1 New York Times bestselling author of Think Again illuminates how we can elevate ourselves and others to unexpected heights.

We live in a world that’s obsessed with talent. We celebrate gifted students in school, natural athletes in sports, and child prodigies in music. But admiring people who start out with innate advantages leads us to overlook the distance we ourselves can travel. We underestimate the range of skills that we can learn and how good we can become. We can all improve at improving. And when opportunity doesn’t knock, there are ways to build a door.

Hidden Potential offers a new framework for raising aspirations and exceeding expectations. Adam Grant weaves together groundbreaking evidence, surprising insights, and vivid storytelling that takes us from the classroom to the boardroom, the playground to the Olympics, and underground to outer space. He shows that progress depends less on how hard you work than how well you learn. Growth is not about the genius you possess–it’s about the character you develop. Grant explores how to build the character skills and motivational structures to realize our own potential, and how to design systems that create opportunities for those who have been underrated and overlooked.

Many writers have chronicled the habits of superstars who accomplish great things. This book reveals how anyone can rise to achieve greater things. The true measure of your potential is not the height of the peak you’ve reached, but how far you’ve climbed to get there.

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First Impressions

May 29, 2024

The vehicles they drive.

Hairstyles.

Clothes.

Physical size—fit, heavy, obese, short, tall.

Race, skin color, gender.

Have we already judged? Type cast? 

Do we take time for conversation?

Figure out their story?

Could we learn from the Master?

When Jesus met someone, he looked first into the heart.

And he helped according to need.

It’s all about the heart.

Learning To Live With Our Flaws

May 28, 2024

Wabi Sabi contains the meaning of living with inevitable flaws. This Japanese phrase adapts to a method of repairing broken pottery emphasizing the cracks rather than trying to hide them.

Many straight-A students are driven to perfectionism by fear of failure, fear of not being good enough. Often B and C students live better lives, are happier, and achieve greater things. Yet many parents and school systems emphasize the desirability of achieving straight-A status.

Looking to Jesus for advice on how to live, I see how he pokes at the Pharisees’ attempts to both live a perfect life and expect others to live a perfect life. He tended to show what we call grace toward people. He taught a life of constant tuning of the heart. 

I hate to be the bearer of this news for some of you, but perfectionism is not a sustainable lifestyle. We have to accept the little flaws in our coffee mug as well as those little flaws of sometimes saying the wrong thing or failing to help out when we could. Sometimes we are simply not perfect. And that’s OK. As long as we do the right things and have our hearts in the right place.

Reminders

May 27, 2024

Sometimes we need reminders. We forget certain things. Or we need something lying just below the surface to be brought to our attention.

When I pray the Lord’s Prayer (or Our Father in other traditions), sometimes one of the phrases hits me. It reminds me to pay attention and perhaps take some action.

Maybe I need to remember to acknowledge God and all the power that emanates from the Source.

Ah, there are things I need for daily life that I need to thank God for.

Yes, there are things I’ve recently done or left undone for which I need forgiveness.

Perhaps there are offenses someone  has visited upon me that I need to forgive and get it out of my system.

Maybe there’s something on my horizon that I need to feel the healing and leading of the Spirit to get through.

And maybe today I just need to acknowledge that all doesn’t depend upon me because there is a supreme power in the universe into which I can connect if I but acknowledge it.

Paying attention to each phrase, I can get a quick heart status, feel tapped into the Spirit, and refreshed reenter daily life.

When The Ego Gets In The Way

May 24, 2024

I write about practice. I practice Yoga. I practice my guitar (OK, not enough). I have spiritual practices. I encourage you often to intentionally develop practices.

Then I came to this thought from the writer Steven Pressfield, “In other words, when our motivation is grounded in our ego, we do not have a practice.”

Yes, motivation. Do I make that list in order to impress people? Or to make myself feel better? Or, do I want to improve my physical health, develop a skill, and experience God?

Checking where our ego resides becomes an important part of the day. The ego can provide strength. It can also assume power over us negating our practices.

By the way, Pressfield’s The War of Art is a classic for creatives.

I Don’t Understand That

May 23, 2024

I heard something this morning. Then I paused. I don’t really understand what that means. How can I visualize that idea? How can I adopt it as part of my life?

Wouldn’t it be great if we humans were more willing to pause and think, “I don’t really understand what that means” or “I don’t really understand what you mean.” Maybe we could discuss so that I could understand you better and you could understand me better.