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Curiosity Is A Skill

July 29, 2025

This is becoming a mini-series on curiosity.

Let’s see…a student for 17 years, teacher for one, school board member for eight, wife taught in elementary school for 35.

Some people dislike public schools (meant to provide a common education for everyone in a democracy) because they want to see teachers’ salaries reduced. Some because they don’t teach political or religious philosophy they espouse.

I side with Seth Godin. He calls it the industrial-education complex. Schools, public and most private ones (and most universities) exist to churn humans through the system such that they can provide bodies in industrial-type jobs. Not thinking or creative jobs. Assembling things, entering data/writing rote reports, attend meeting after meeting (sort of just like school).

In this post called Why and How from a couple months ago, Godin tackles science non-education. (Interesting that my copy of Burn Math Class arrived today. I’ve had the same feelings about math class as science class—and I like both things.)

Let’s get rid of science class in school.

Instead, beginning in kindergarten, we could devote a class to curiosity and explanation.

A class that persistently and consistently teaches kids to ask why and to answer how.

The unacceptable single-word answers are “because” and “magic.”

Curiosity is a skill, and it can be taught.

I learned biology when my parents bought a microscope, and I began exploring. I read about planets, and relativity, and dinosaurs. I learned electronics math while learning how to assemble and analyze circuits. I bought a 22-scale log-log slide rule (still have it) and an electronics math slide rule in the early 60s while in high school.

I was frustrated by chemistry. I kept wanting to ask Why. He kept saying to memorize the balance equations or whatever. The only math class than kept me interested was geometry. The teacher said what I’m really going to do is teach you to think. And he did. Solving proofs for theorems was pretty cool.

Everything in school could be taught as an outgrowth of curiosity instead of ramming down a curriculum devised by people far away who haven’t seen a classroom for decades.

Turn the teachers and kids loose and let education happen.

(By the way—works for spiritual topics, too. Curiosity led me to mediation, which led to studying the “mystics” and Desert Fathers, which led to studying the Christian thinkers and leaders of the first 300 years of the movement, which led to deeper understanding of the New Testament, which led to deeper meditation awareness…)

Be Curious, Not Judgmental

July 28, 2025

For Jarrod and my Ted Lasso-loving friends.

Axios Finish Line evening newsletter always brings a brief, insightful nugget into my inbox—sort of like the cherry atop the sundae of the day. Axios is one of my two main news sources. They are journalists and a business, so they do drop into click-bait headlines at times and have too much “he said, she said” reporting with occasional speculation rather than strictly reporting facts. Even so, they are brief and even handed. Finish Line tops off the day.

CEO Jim VandeHei riffed off one of the best scenes in TV history from the Ted Lasso show. This is the dart contest scene (Oh, I forgot I was left handed). As Ted explains to (villain) Rupert, “If you were curious instead of judgmental, you would have asked if I had ever played darts.”

Lasso quotes Walt Whitman (not exactly accurately sourced), “Be curious, not judgmental.”

VandeHei writes, “Those four words can radically shift how you think and feel about politics, social media posts, your employer, and even friends and family.”

It’s natural to react emotionally or defensively when people do or say things you think are wrong — or flat-out bonkers. But try the opposite approach for a week: Be genuinely curious why they do or say those things. Worst case: You’ll burn less and learn more.

He offers four possible arenas to test drive. I’ll offer a glimpse. Click the link above for the full thought (short read).

1. Politics: Stop assuming the “other side” is corrupt, inept or dumb.

2. Social media: Never in history have humans wasted more time getting more worked up over more topics than when doom-scrolling. Instead of taking the bait, take a break.

3. Workplace: One of the smartest things we did when founding Axios was to be extremely transparent about the business and our beliefs. This demystified things internally — dramatically reducing the gossiping and wonderment about what we really think.

4. Family & friends: Almost every time my wife, Autumn, is pissed at me, it’s because I didn’t take the time to ask one simple thing: Why do you feel that way?

Try asking and listening rather than judging and talking. 

Curiosity, Key To The Good Life?

July 26, 2025

I haven’t missed two posts in a row in a very long time. We vacationed in Scotland for over a week. We returned from 67-70 deg F temperature to 92 deg F with high humidity and lots of pollen. I was congested, mistakenly took some Benadryl which enabled me to sleep all day Friday. I need to pitch that stuff from my medicine cabinet.

Yes, Scotland should be on your list of places to visit. Considering that the forts close to where I grew up were remnants of wooden outposts along the Ohio/Indiana border built by General “Mad” Anthony Wayne in the 1790s, walking through a Roman fort (OK, in England) built around 200 AD, multiple abbeys built around the year 1000, and accounts of the rich history of Scotland were memorable.

Also that the tour guides unanimously voted thumbs down on Braveheart. One guide generously allowed that Mel Gibson in no way was trying to be historical. For one thing, Lowlanders did not wear kilts in the time of William Wallace. And “Braveheart” referred to Robert the Bruce who died on a pilgrimage. It seems that they cut his heart out, put it in a box, intending to send it to (I believe) Jerusalem to finish the pilgrimage. The heart didn’t make it there. Was found some years later. They called it Braveheart.

You’re wondering about curiosity?

I may have mentioned before that I am almost infinitely curious. If curiosity killed the cat, as the saying goes, I’ve been burned. But I still want to know a lot about a lot of things. We are privileged to be able to make these trips. We began 2025 in New Zealand, have visited Nova Scotia, and now Scotland. In between we were in Charlottesville and Williamsburg, Virginia. Later we’ll have a vacation in Hilton Head.

Another bit of privilege—our son is a United Captain flying 757s. He flew our flight to Scotland.  That’s also pretty cool.

Philosophers from ancient times have written about what constitutes a good life. I love it when modern science validates ancient wisdom. This link points to a report about a study that suggests having a life of curiosity, perspective-changing experiences leads to a well lived life. Certainly working with people from many countries and visiting more than 20 other countries changed a socially inept country boy into a slightly less socially inept, but more understanding, adult. It’s been good.

Be curious, not judgmental. (See the next post.)

What We Are Responsible For

July 23, 2025

Dan Millman in Peaceful Warrior Newsletter – July 2025

It wasn’t until I met the Sage (Dr. David K. Reynolds) that I fully understood that neither I nor anyone else has direct control over arising thoughts or passing emotional weather — and therefore, no responsibility for random thoughts or emotions. (We can only be responsible for what we can control.)   In fact the only thing over which we have a good bit of control is our behavior — how we move; the actions we take. And we are responsible for our actions whether or not we happen to feel inspired or motivated or fearful or angry or sad.

Wisdom resides in our understanding of what we cannot control and must therefore live with and understanding what is in our control and working on it.

Are You Really Free?

July 22, 2025

I have a paper laying dormant that would have been a Master’s thesis on freedom. I think of it at times. It’s why I like the Letter to the Galatians above all of Paul’s writing. It’s about freedom.

Some people (many?) think freedom means to be without restraint. That may be a definition, but it’s not an attitude that will take you very far in life.

Ryan Holliday has carved a career as the premier writer on Stoicism today. These thoughts came from his newsletter, The Daily Stoic.

In Rome at the time, many people believed that only free people were capable of being educated. But the indisputable truth that Epictetus saw every day in the moral disorder and dysfunction of Nero’s court, where his master served as a high-profile secretary, was that it was in fact the opposite. Only the educated, he said, were free. 

This is something Seneca points out about that same period in Rome—how profoundly unfree many of the richest and most powerful people are. This is true twenty odd centuries later too: Most people are enslaved and controlled and directed by their ignorance. Their impulses. Their temper. Their desires and delusions.

People think they are free when in reality they are slaves to something not of their choosing—power, money, stuff, alcohol, sex, all of the above.

Epictetus’s definition of education would be different from ours. The point remains. Being educated in philosophy, theology, literature, psychology can inculcate an understanding and sympathy to live a life of freedom within our constraints. Like what Paul was trying to express.

Giving Permission

July 21, 2025

My “virtual friend” Jon Swanson wrote in his newsletter, Finding Words in Hard Times, Do what you can. It’s enough.

He told this story:

Yesterday at the hospital, a couple came up behind me. The guy put his arm around my shoulder. I asked why they were there. It was a different person than usual that they were visiting, worrying about. I looked into her eyes and said, “Go home. Get rest. There are people here to watch by night.” And then I said, “Most of what I do is give permission. To stop. To breath. To not work so hard to measure up. To stop expecting so much.”

Our church had a weak leader once upon a time. I was on a committee but assuredly not a “leader” of the congregation. For some reason people would come to me with ideas for a ministry. I didn’t have any power, but I simply told them, “Just do it.” Like a presentation from General Colin Powell I had, “It’s easier to ask forgiveness then to ask for permission.”

I give you permission—to be kind, to be generous, to start that ministry. Just do it.

What We Believe

July 18, 2025

Pondering “Everyone believes very easily whatever they fear or desire.”​— Jean de La Fontaine

Our mind will believe what we tell it to believe—or what we allow others to tell us to believe.

That means we all must pause periodically and perform a “gut-check.”

Are our current beliefs congruent with our real values? Are we on the path we should be following?

Thinking of Adam Grant’s Think Again.

Simple Surrender and Obedience

July 17, 2025

Sort of following yesterday’s thoughts on hate and divisiveness breaking my heart, is this meditation from Dietrich Bonhoeffer.

Humanly speaking, we could understand and interpret the Sermon on the Mount in a thousand different ways. Jesus knows only one possibility: simple surrender and obedience, not interpreting it or applying it, but doing and obeying it…. He does not mean that it is to be discussed as an ideal, he really means us to get on with it.

We waste so much energy arguing and defending some minute interpretation of theology. What would be Jesus’s reaction to all that? Would it be what Bonhoeffer suggested—that we take these teachings from Jesus and actually do something about them?

Perhaps we surrender our ego and greed and fear and pride—and serve our neighbor (see Luke’s telling of the Good Samaritan)?

Every evening before retiring reflect on where we showed kindness and where we were servants.

What Breaks Your Heart?

July 16, 2025

Andy Stanley asked in a recent message, “What breaks your heart?”

Discover that, then act on it.

I read the blog of Rich Dixon. An accident resulted in lower body paralysis. His story of overcoming his self-pity and riding a hand-crank cycle thousands of miles to raise money for a home that rescues children from sex trafficking. Those kids broke his heart enough to energize him to become a great leader.

What breaks my heart currently is the hate and vitriol and meanness of one group toward other groups. Even among people who identify as Christian. (If you think this doesn’t apply to you, then it probably does. Seems to be a human thing.)

 I have some understanding of the emotions that drive some of us to fear or despise people who are not like us. Perhaps even sympathy. But I don’t feel that way. I don’t know why. 

I remember meeting people not like me—or the people I grew up with—for the first time as a freshman at university. They all seemed like people to me. What’s the big deal, I thought.

From For What It’s Worth by Buffalo Springfield

There’s battle lines being drawn

And nobody’s right if everybody’s wrong

Young people speaking their minds

Are gettin’ so much resistance from behind

[Chorus]

It’s time we stop

Hey, what’s that sound?

Everybody look what’s going down

And to the point today:

Paranoia strikes deep

Into your life, it will creep

It starts when you’re always afraid

Step out of line, the man come and take you away

[Chorus]

We better stop

Hey, what’s that sound?

Everybody look what’s going down

Finding the Simple Path

July 15, 2025

We had a vision of a ministry to support people who had certain needs.

Simple. We copy from other ministries that people knew. We listened to someone with myriad ideas, powerful personality, a well thought out, yet complexly structured, ministry.

Not so simple.

We began soon discovering life doesn’t fit complex theories.

We found the path, the simple path, the path that led some toward health.

Isn’t that like our lives? We try to live by following complex theologies or philosophies. It really doesn’t work. We still haven’t found a life imbued with the fruit of the spirit. 

Love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.

Aren’t these the qualities of life we seek? Not through following complex theologies and philosophies. It’s the simple life in the Spirit.

Maybe pick one for the day. Perhaps try to intentionally be kind to yourself this morning and then to everyone and everything you meet along the way.