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Be Like Jesus?

September 23, 2025

I know a guy whose T-shirt reads, “Jesus took naps; be like Jesus.”

I can go with that.

Someone recently told me that his favorite divisive political commentator was like Jesus for he “tells it like it is directly.”

I wouldn’t compare any politician (choose your flavor) to Jesus. His message was to turn Roman culture on its head. Instead of every relationship being based on power, Jesus based relationship on love. Not sentimental love. Not necessarily tough love. But love all the same.

People who spread hate and divisiveness (choose your flavor) could use an infusion of Jesus’ type of love. 

Can you disagree without being disagreeable?

Can you live without hate?

Can you accept that people are different from you?

I know it’s hard. Nobody said following Jesus was easy.

People are People

September 22, 2025

I know, logicians would be driven crazy by the logic of that title. Bear with me.

We are in an age where the natural human tendency to divide people into different groups is exacerbated by social media.

My undergraduate years were marked by the rise of a certain type of “feminism.” The theory was that females are innately better at certain things, say leadership, then males. Even though another part of the theory seemed to hold that biologically there was no meaningful difference. (I was confused in the late 60s—but maybe it was the times.)

Come to find out that people are people. Some people, male and female, can develop and lead organizations respecting and uplifting people; some people, male and female, cannot.

I have had the privilege of interviewing and meeting CEOs of multi-million dollar and even billion dollar companies. I worked with maintenance technicians who barely left high school with a diploma. I was pretty much as impressed with one group as the other. Each group had very smart people. Each group had people full of hot air. 

I just left a software developer company conference. The place was full of engineers with a few marketing and business leaders thrown in. Everyone was gracious, patient, very smart. My conversations were enlightening and enlivening.

Think (and act) on these words of wisdom from the Apostle James:

“My brothers and sisters, do you with your acts of favoritism really believe in our glorious Lord Jesus Christ? For if a person with gold rings and in fine clothes comes into your assembly, and if a poor person in dirty clothes also comes in, and if you take notice of the one wearing the fine clothes and say, “Have a seat here, please,” while to the one who is poor you say, “Stand there,” or, “Sit at my feet,” have you not made distinctions among yourselves, and become judges with evil thoughts? Listen, my beloved brothers and sisters. Has not God chosen the poor in the world to be rich in faith and to be heirs of the kingdom that he has promised to those who love him? But you have dishonored the poor. Is it not the rich who oppress you? Is it not they who drag you into court? Is it not they who blaspheme the excellent name that was invoked over you?

You do well if you really fulfill the royal law according to the scripture, “You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” But if you show partiality, you commit sin[…]”

Whose Discipline?

September 19, 2025

Far too many publicists have my email addresses. Some for my technology blog and some for this blog.

One publication publicist sent notice of a book on disciplines. Something like, Be Disciplined…Whose Disciplines? 

It’s as if someone is forcing you to be disciplined. Or to follow disciplines.

The foundation of this writing builds from Spiritual Disciplines, or sometimes I say Spiritual Practices, because the word discipline can have a negative connotation. Like that book title.

We don’t talk about being forced to practice the Spiritual Disciplines. Now, if you decide to enter a monastic order, you have decided to follow the disciplines of that order.

But for you and me, it’s a choice. We get up in the morning and decide to sit in meditation and read from spiritual writing—or we decide to roll over and go back to sleep—or have a coffee and donut at the local donut shop and waste the morning.

The monastic example aside, you decide on your daily disciplines. Good night’s sleep, rise and meditate and read, exercise, eat a healthy breakfast, and so on. If someone tries to force you, it won’t work. If it’s your work or organization or church, leave. But listen to mentors and coaches who have your best interests in mind.

I encourage you to find your inner discipline. Don’t feel like a slave. Feel like someone who chooses to be healthy in spirit and mind and body.

Celebrate The Smallest Victories

September 18, 2025

We want to lose 50 lbs. We want to be fit. We want the spiritual formation of a saint. 

We want a lot, and we want it now.

I only lost a pound this week. How am I going to lose 50? Well, a pound a week for a year will net that 50 lbs. And that will signal a lifestyle change that will keep it off. Celebrate that pound a week.

I want to be fit, yet I can barely get out of my chair and walk across the room. Go outside and walk to the end of the drive and back. Every day. Then to the end of the block and back. Then pick up some beginning resistance training exercises. Not a lot, but a little a week. Maybe today you lift 5 lbs. By adding a little at a time, in a year, you could be lifting 20 lbs. or more. Celebrate each small victory.

I want to be one of those knowledgeable and spiritual people. Begin with 5 minutes a day. Open a Bible and read a paragraph. Meditate on that paragraph. Perhaps over the course of a month or two you can do 30 minutes a day. And everyday you find one little act of service for someone. Soon you’ll realize that you are a kinder and deeper person. Celebrate each small victory along the way.

Small victories that accumulate lead to changes of life. We become what we practice.

Social Media, Enough Is Enough

September 17, 2025

These posts are always 300 words or fewer. I’ve thought so much and read so much on this topic that I’ve written more of an essay than thought.

Wisdom from my friend James (the Apostle) who writes words of wisdom.

“You must understand this, my beloved: let everyone be quick to listen, slow to speak, slow to anger;”

And again, 

“How great a forest is set ablaze by a small fire! And the tongue is a fire. The tongue is placed among our members as a world of iniquity; it stains the whole body, sets on fire the cycle of nature, and is itself set on fire by hell. For every species of beast and bird, of reptile and sea creature, can be tamed and has been tamed by the human species, but no one can tame the tongue—a restless evil, full of deadly poison.”

I have read much and thought long about the event and aftermath of the shooting of political influencer Charley Kirk. I had no idea who he was having decided not to follow these political influencers of any ideology. I understand what happens inside me when my emotions are stirred. I prefer a broad and reasoned approach to learning.

Two people whose works I read published blurbs about a side of Kirk not aligned with his public persona. But it’s the public persona that counts. I have learned through study of history and through observation that people who exist by inciting base emotions in followers seldom end well.

But today we have something previous decades, centuries, and indeed millennia didn’t—the ability to spread opinions and videos widely and almost instantaneously.

Cal New port earned a PhD in computer science, has written several best selling books found on my bookcase (Deep Work, Digital Minimalism, Slow Productivity), and is faculty co-founder of the Georgetown University Center for Digital Ethics. He’s been writing on this topic for several years.

His recently  released a newsletter addressed many concerns that many have (including me).

Many of you have been asking me about the assassination of the conservative commentator Charlie Kirk earlier this week during a campus event at Utah Valley University. At the time of this writing, little is yet known about the shooter’s motives, but there have been enough cases of political violence over the past year that I think I can say what I’m about to with conviction…

This isn’t a one-off. It’s a situation encompassing some time.

Those of us who study online culture like to use the phrase, “Twitter is not real life.” But as we saw yet again this week, when the digital discourses fostered on services like Twitter (and Bluesky, and TikTok) do intersect with the real world, whether they originate from the left or the right, the results are often horrific.

He’s not pulling his punches here. And what do we learn?

This should tell us all we need to know about these platforms: they are toxic and dehumanizing. They are responsible, as much as any other force, for the unravelling of civil society that seems to be accelerating.

Since we know the evils of these platforms, why do they remain popular?

They tell a compelling story: that all of your frantic tapping and swiping makes you a key part of a political revolution, or a fearless investigator, or a righteous protestor – that when you’re online, you’re someone important, doing important things during an important time.

But the reality is…

But this, for the most part, is an illusion. In reality, you’re toiling anonymously in an attention factory, while billionaire overseers mock your efforts and celebrate their growing net worths.

What can we do?

After troubling national events, there’s often a public conversation about the appropriate way to respond. Here’s one option to consider: Quit using these social platforms. Find other ways to keep up with the news, or spread ideas, or be entertained. Be a responsible grown-up who does useful things; someone who serves real people in the real world.

To save civil society, we need to end our decade-long experiment with global social platforms. We tried them. They became dark and awful. It’s time to move on.

Enough is enough.

Arnold Newsletter

One of my sources for fitness and nutrition coaching comes from a team Arnold Schwarzenegger has assembled following his term as California’s governor. They publish the Pump Club newsletter and have an app. I use the app to track resistance training and nutrition.

Germane to this topic of social media is the carrier of said media—the smartphone.

They head one of the articles on this newsletter:

Having your smartphone nearby—even if you’re not using it—can reduce your brainpower.

Think that evil little thing is innocuous just lying on your desk?

Researchers examined if our phones drain more than just our attention when they buzz or light up. To test this, they conducted two experiments with nearly 800 smartphone users. Participants were asked to complete tests that required full attention and cognitive capacity—like problem-solving and memory tasks. The twist? Some participants had their phones placed on the desk, some had them in their pocket or bag, and others had them in another room.

I like the newsletter and app partly due to their reliance on real science.

Scientists found that the closer the phone was, the worse the performance. Those with their phones on the desk showed significantly reduced cognitive capacity compared to those whose phones were in another room. Even having the phone turned off and face down was not enough to prevent the drop.

It’s time for all of us, one-by-one, to leave the (un)social media behind. I deleted my Facebook and X (Twitter) apps a few years ago. I visit Facebook one time per day on my computer to wish friends a happy birthday and to see what’s happening in my community. I deleted the LinkedIn app. It’s getting almost as bad. I visit it once a day just to check in briefly—also on my computer.

We can all also be aware of the consequences of what we say—perhaps being a little kinder, more understanding, less vicious in our remarks.

Transactional or Relational

September 16, 2025

How do you interact with others?

Some people are transactional. They may be sales or management professionals. They may just be looking for something from others.

Some people are relational. They seek a deeper connection with others. Varying degrees of deep, of course. But something longer lasting.

Unanticipated Benefits

September 15, 2025

The Law of Unanticipated Results states that taking an action often yields results in an entirely different area.

Trying to be happy results in less happiness. Pursuing an activity that consumes your focus and creativity results in happiness.

The purpose of a beehive is not to make honey. Honey is a sweet unanticipated benefit of a healthy hive.

Intentionally pursuing a church growth strategy may build numbers (usually not). But it won’t make “honey.” A community excited about growing and serving attracts others who wish to grow and serve in an exciting community. 

How To Be

September 12, 2025

How to be kind, practice kindness.

How to be more spiritual, practice spiritual disciplines.

How to be more like Jesus, practice loving your neighbor.

When we choose our actions, we choose who we seek to become.

As we act, so we become.

(Still thinking about how Paul led us into forming our spiritual life in his Letter to the Romans.)

Living While Continuously Forming and Reforming My Spirit

September 11, 2025

Thinking over the weekend following my wrap up of Paul’s Letter to the Romans studied not from a theology point-of-view, but as a guide to our spiritual life.

Paul is not Jesus. There are times I disagree. I’d love to be able to sit over coffee or dinner and discuss what he was actually thinking at times. But Paul’s writings perhaps were published before any other New Testament writing. Some scholars believe that early drafts of the gospels circulated before the finished documents were published. I am continually amazed at how Paul quotes phrases from Jesus never having met him in life, probably only meeting the apostles. Yet, there he is, Jesus, with words that echo the writings of the gospels.

Paul had a few views of great concern:

  • Assure that weird theologies did not gain a footing detracting from the essential gospel message
  • Guide his followers into how to live a spiritual life
  • Help the small forming churches learn to govern themselves in the new freedoms without going so far as to draw ire of the Emperor

He taught spiritual formation often using analogies from athletics. Running a race or boxing. He talked about discipline. Intention. Practice.

Looking at Romans, for example, he did not stop with advising us to simply meditate on God’s grace saying we believe in Jesus.

He took literally Jesus’ commands about loving our neighbor by, for example, drawing a picture of the way people following Jesus actually live. Every day. Serving others. Being kind. Showing (not just feeling) love.

Where are you in your spiritual practices? Do you study daily? Pray and meditate daily? Find ways small and large to serve others every day?

Is it time for us to reflect at the end of each day how we did on those topics? Just like on our physical exercise and nutrition.

Ignatius of Loyola and Benjamin Franklin, to pull examples from totally disparate people, advised such a daily practice.

That would be good for me to be more regular. How about you?

Logical Inconsistencies

September 10, 2025

I guess I enjoy poking at logical inconsistencies of people. Or times when people do a series of things putting themselves in difficult situations and are surprised. I know I’m not immune myself. I just appreciate the humanness of such things.

Like the politician I recently read about who used a logic for a new edict that directly opposes the logic that the politician uses for another position. I can leave it vague. Think of your favorite politician—or your favorite political punching bag.

I like to look to Jesus for guidance. I found upon reflection that he also enjoyed poking at people—especially self-important people. Think of all his comments to the Pharisees and Temple big wigs while he was in a crowd of ordinary people. “You clean the cup on the outside, but inside it is filthy.” “You declare your wealth dedicated to God, so that you don’t have to take care of your aged parents.” 

Reflecting on Jesus’ guidance, I think that I had better become aware of my own inconsistencies cleaning them up.