Getting in touch with God

August 16, 2011

The Willow Creek Community church in South Barrington, IL recently conducted a large survey of Christians. During a message from a couple of weeks ago (I listen to podcasts of the messages, you can subscribe through iTunes or go here) the teaching pastor made the comment that out of 80,000 people who responded to the survey, many thousands acknowledged becoming spiritually stuck.

I bet that happens to lots of us. There are times, especially after experiencing a “God moment” when God seems to be distant. Prayer life seems sterile or non-existent. Worship is a drag. You can’t seem to connect. Obviously I’ve been through some of those times. Sometimes even experiencing what John of the Cross called The Dark Night of the Soul.

Willow Creek didn’t stop with that question, though. They asked how they become unstuck. Many thousands answered that question. The overwhelming answer was Re-engage Spiritual Practices. In other words, it is intentional. A matter of attitude. You want to connect to God. Wonder why you’re not. Maybe your habits slipped. So you intentionally return to consciously forming the habits of study, prayer, worship and the like. And one or more of these practices helped you re-connect to God.

If you live close to Sidney, Ohio, I’m teaching an introduction to practicing Spiritual Disciplines this fall. This will actually be one of my disciplines because the Fall is one of my busiest times between the work I do with soccer programs and my business. But teaching is an important calling. I’ll just touch on a few of the basic disciplines including study, prayer, meditation, worship, celebration, fasting and a few more.

If you are interested, send me a message.

God to Us Can You Hear Me Now

August 12, 2011

In the exchange Jesus had with people at the Temple in John 8 where he leads them in a discussion of who their father is, he tells them that if God were their father, then they would hear Him. It is even more interesting when you couple that with John 9 where he basically tells them they can’t see God, either.

Those Temple leaders eventually caught on to what Jesus was saying and replied “God is our Father.” But Jesus said to them that they certainly didn’t act like they’ve ever heard God. They were still thinking genealogy. Jesus was talking about a living relationship. How can you say that God is your father when you’ve never heard Him?

Listening for most of us is something to be learned. You have to practice it. Do you listen to your spouse? Your children? Your boss? If you can’t hear what people say within your physical presence, then how can you hear what your spiritual Father says?

You have to stop the busy train you’re on, relax your mind and body, then give God some attention. You have to become observant. God’s voice isn’t always voices in your head. Sometimes people or events speak God to you. I guess the other thing you have to be is open to receiving when God is talking.

When I read Jesus’ words, I also get the idea that hearing means more than listening. It means acting on what you hear. Hearing and doing God’s word is almost always coupled. I guess that’s what always makes me slightly uncomfortable. Am I really doing what God’s telling me?

 

Who’s Your Father

August 11, 2011

I’ve been thinking about Jesus and the Father for weeks. I’m reading John’s gospel (again) remembering why it’s my favorite. There’s a theme that most commentators on the text don’t emphasize as a theme–the Father.

Jesus makes a big deal (or at least John really emphasizes the fact) of his Father (not Joseph, but God). He comes from the Father. The Father is in him. He is in the Father. He and the Father are one. What does this mean?

People obviously had trouble figuring it out. He was talking to a group of Jews (probably Pharisees) when he told them that his words were truth and truth would set them free. They said they were Abraham’s children and had never been slaves. Aside from the fact that their knowledge of history was a little bit lacking, they were talking about biological genealogy.

Jesus turned the question into a spiritual issue. If they were really Abraham’s children, they would follow Jesus. Then he tells them that their real father is the evil one (whom we call Satan these days). But his father is God.

Later, as he is giving his last instructions to his inner circle, he says that he is about to go to the Father. Not understanding, Philip asks where the father is and can they go, too. Jesus says, not that kind of father and he’ll discover eventually.

These episodes point out what I’ve been trying to teach for 30 years or so. You really need to read the Bible with spiritual eyes. That’s what Jesus taught. We all have biological fathers. We may also have adopted fathers. This refers to physical family. You don’t have a choice in the matter–especially the biological one.

But Jesus taught and showed that there is a Father whom you can choose. A spiritual Father. And not a remote god who is not approachable except under special circumstances by special people. This Father is revealed in relationship. You live with Him. He lives within you. He’ll guide you if you listen. He’ll listen if you talk. He’ll help you put your spiritual life together. This leads to putting your emotional life together. And your physical life.

And it’s simple. You get to choose. You begin by just deciding you want to live with the Father. Then you practice ways of developing your relationship.

Thinking about people or a person

August 8, 2011

I spent last week at a very technical conference. Lot of talk about programming for industrial applications. You’ll have to bear with me a little for the analogy to develop. Anyway, I got to thinking about abstraction–that is a way of thinking where you ignore the details and focus on generalities.

The company whose user conference I attended has developed software that allows programmers to handle complex programming tasks with greater success and ease. It’s a process called abstraction. Instead of concentrating on lines and lines (sometimes thousands of lines of densely worded text called code), the code is abstracted into small pictures that can be “wired” together. In this case, abstraction works to great benefit.

Then on the plane ride home watching the TED Talks videos on my iPad, I saw a talk given by a marvelous teacher. Then I thought about much political debate (and many people’s thoughts) over the past decade or longer about teachers. Get the distinction? One teacher or a group known as “teachers.”

Where is our focus? Do we think of people in terms of a group? Or individuals? It’s easy to make villains you hate about a group when you know many  individuals in that group whom you admire. In this case, abstraction from the individual to the group is not productive.

I can’t think of a time when Jesus dealt with groups as an abstraction. He dealt with individuals. John, in his Gospel, makes some abstractions (he often talks of “the Jews”), but John is also full of irony. He makes a comment about the Pharisees (the group) but also has talked about an individual Pharisee (Nicodemus). John likes that kind of contrast.

But I have concern when we try to reduce everyone to groups and fail to see the individual. The pastor yesterday talked about meeting a “weird” guy and then discovering he was a pastor. He went from abstraction to individual. That is much more beneficial in our lives. Instead of getting ourselves all worked up and stressing ourselves over abstracted groups that disagree with us, perhaps we could see individuals who are fellow seekers. Who have different ideas for now as they are puzzling out the same things we are–how to live with God.

Don’t look at “them.” Look at her. Look at him.

Know Where Your Heart Is

August 2, 2011

Ignatius Loyola, medieval contemplative and founder of an Order, said your heart lives either in consolation or desolation. Never make decisions when your heart is in desolation.

I don’t think he was talking about bi-polar disorder where you have wild mood swings between “manic” and “depressive” states. There are pharmaceuticals for that. If you have that, see a psychologist. But if we look honestly at ourselves, we’ll notice that sometimes we seem close to God (consolation). Everything, if not great, looks like there will be a positive outcome. I feel at peace. Sometimes God seems far away (desolation). Despair captures the soul. You feel unloved and alone.

Loyola was right. Be aware of your own feelings. If you are in desolation, don’t make a big decision. Don’t decide to quit your job and become a hippie poet. Don’t leave your spouse. Whatever. Tomorrow is another day. You will balance. Of course, if you notice you are in desolation for longer periods, seek help. See a friend, pastor, counselor. Don’t live in despair.

I have been studying John’s gospel for some time. In the middle of it (around chapters 14-16), Jesus is giving his close friends and chosen leaders instructions about the changes their lives will experience after he is gone. He said that they were contented today, but tomorrow they would be scattered and depressed. But then shortly afterwards, they would be overjoyed.

He also said they wouldn’t understand until it happens.

Sure enough. In a few hours Jesus was arrested, taken before various authorities, condemned to death and hung on a cross. And those friends of his scattered. All were in despair. It happened so quickly that they could not remember Jesus’ words or see the big picture.

Then came the resurrection. They were back in consolation–that is in peace with God. Then they made wise decisions. We are the descendents and recipients of the fruits of those decisions.

It’s not so much “don’t despair.” It happens to us all at times. It’s really about recognizing what state our heart is in and then knowing what to do about it.

Christianity as a Culture

July 29, 2011

Once again someone has gone off into a world of his own and murdered people in the name of his religion. In this case, the religion is Christianity. The murdered people were suspected of nurturing a rival religion–Islam. This was in Norway–a country that usually makes news only in relation to oil or fjords.

Jon Swanson has an interesting analysis in his blog 300 Words a Day. He looks at Christian evangelicalism and Christian fundamentalism. But he took the time to read some of the murderer’s manifesto. The point is that the killer looked at Christianity as a culture. Belief doesn’t matter. It’s about the culture.

It’s easy for us–especially those of us who grew up in small town Midwest USA where everyone was the same–to slip into Christianity as a culture, a practice. Small town people the world over are suspicious of outsiders. We’re suspicious of people who act differently, speak differently, dress differently, believe differently. If we brood on those differences, our hearts can grow hard (compare to the soil parable).

I’m developing a short course to introduce people into the practice of spiritual disciplines. Perhaps the hardest thing will be to get them to realize that this isn’t an intellectual exercise. Also it’s not a forced habit. Spiritual disciplines are practices that you cultivate that will bring you into a closer, deeper relationship with God.

It’s not culture, but it is how you live your life. How cool it would be if we lived like those Christians in Acts who lived so differently that people were attracted to “The Way”–as Christianity was called in those days.

Check out Jon’s thoughts. Ponder the question, “Am I living in a culture, or am I living in a close relationship with God?”

Good Soil Goes Bad Hardening Your Heart

July 22, 2011

This spring was cool and very wet in western Ohio. You had to mow the grass twice per week to keep up. The soil was moist and fertile. This morning I’m on the patio reading and meditating. I notice the ground is hard, dry, unsupportive of life.

Thinking back to the parable of the soils and the talk I heard a few weeks ago about how you can improve the soil by clearing, cultivating.

But it works the other way. How easy to harden your heart. You start, maybe, by becoming suspicious of someone. Or you get hurt. Or you think someone is getting something you’re not. Soon you’re shutting out people. You become more alone. Your thoughts are dark and brooding.

This is a danger that is real. It can happen to us all. And it’s insidious. It can sneak into your life and be there before you realize it. Just like the soil here became hard and the grass started going into dormancy and the garden had to be watered before the realization sunk in that we have gone from flood to drought.

I see this effect in our political life where hearts are hard and battle lines drawn. I see it in relationships all the time. I can see it happen to me on occasion.

Just like any change, you first must recognize it. Then you have to water your soil. In your life you do it through reading the Bible (and letting it sink in slowly). Through positive relationships you can nurture. Through prayer.

Search for Justice

July 21, 2011

I’m not sure where this post is going. I’m beginning without an end in mind, because this incident is a tragedy.

While I was in Florida, the Casey Anthony case was coming to a close. She is the young woman accused of causing her 2-yr-old daughter to die. I think the entire population of the state watched the trial on TV. The jury voted acquittal after almost no deliberations. The one juror who spoke (probably the leader of the small group) hung her vote on a comment the defense attorney made at the beginning–that since there was no way to know the cause of death, there was no way to convict her of first-degree murder.

The facts as I got them were that Anthony was a terrible mother. She fed the little child prescription drugs to make her sleep so that she could go out partying. After the girl died, she hid the body until decomposition set in such that it was impossible to conduct an autopsy, all the while saying the baby was at the nanny’s (there was no nanny).

To take the jurors’ side (which is difficult for me), the trial was in Orlando, but they brought the jury in from Tampa. They were housed in a hotel together with no outside contact for the duration of the trial. One juror was booked on a cruise that left the Thursday after the Fourth. His motivation was hardly justice. It was getting out.

Meanwhile, Anthony has been offered $1 million for her story. And she is now free–at least of jail.

What kind of society do we live in? My disgust with lawyers reaches the same height as my disgust with politicians. But the sensationalist media makes both of them look like amateurs.

I keep asking myself, where would Jesus fit into this story. What a tragedy that no one stepped in to guide Anthony into a responsible life. What a tragedy that the parents first went along and then turned on her, but never provided tough love and guidance. What a tragedy that a little child dies and there is no criminal justice.

But I can pray that somehow the tragedy breaks through Anthony’s shell; that the tragic results of her lifestyle brought nothing but grief to her and her family become clear to her and that she is shown a better life. Many people have overcome tragedy to become Christ followers with great effect. We can pray that the same happens to her.

Is It All About Me

July 15, 2011

On my drive to Chicago yesterday, I passed a car with this bumper sticker:

“I only have time enough today to think about one person. And I choose…me!”

They probably bought that and put it on their vehicle because it seemed to be cute. But what you think is cute reveals much about your thinking–whether you intend it or not.

Let’s think about that phrase. First, how many people do you know of whom you can say, “It’s all about her (him)”? Can you say that about yourself? How often do you think about your own wants, needs, desires, cravings?

There are times in your life where “stuff” happens, and you need to devote a lot of thought to your situation. But is that your normal thought pattern? Maybe I should step back a little and ask, do you ever think about what’s on your mind? It’s a growth exercise.

Let’s take another look–at your heart. Really? Is your heart so small that you can only think about yourself? If you know someone whose heart is that small, would you want a relationship with him (her)?

Who are some of the people you know whom you would most like to emulate? Aren’t they people whose heart is so large that they can love and care about many people while not neglecting themselves?

I’m positive that in my life I would be much wealthier if I thought more about myself than the task or job or others. And I am far from perfect in this regard. It’s always a challenge for me to remember others when I pray or in my thoughts.

Several months ago I was invited to an intimate dinner whose guest of honor was a published MIT professor. During the conversation, he was asked about today’s students. He recommended a book (which I finally got around to buying) “The Narcissism Epidemic.”

You remember Narcissus. He’s the guy who of ancient Greek myth (those marvelous psychologists), who saw his reflection in a pond and fell in love with himself. Look around. What do you see? Is there a way we can open up all those hearts to encompass others and avoid the tragic fate of Narcissus? I hope so.

Work out your faith

July 13, 2011

At a church team meeting this week, I related about the post I made regarding spiritual disciplines as “work.” And how someone was upset with the idea of working. Now, I took the comment to be from someone like some people I know who think work (as in expending energy doing something) as a bad thing. “Boomers” as a generation bought into the idea 30 years ago that work was something you did to make as much money as possible so that by 50 you could stop working.

Of course the pastor took the word in its theological context of “works”–as in “you are saved by grace, not works.” (Ah, you gotta love those theologians.)

Jesus argued that the Jewish religion he grew up in had tried the “salvation by works” thing and it didn’t work (oops, bad pun, try “succeed”). People were not closer to God simply by obeying the rules. In fact, many who played by the rules were far from God.

Jesus taught there was another way–it was easy, but it was also hard. He said all you had to do was believe. To us, that sounds easy, because we take that word believe to mean that we say agree with the proposition that “Jesus saves us from our sins” and that’s it. And in America, that’s easy. Not so easy in China, even today. Or many other places around the world. But still easier.

Faith to Jesus was more than saying a few words or even an emotional feeling. Jesus said, if you believe in my words you will love one another. Love (agape) once again is an action verb, not a feeling. Or, Jesus said, you will go and make disciples. Paul said, we must work out our faith in fear and trembling, and in another place, you will be equipped for all good work.

Obviously, we must not just sit around discussing what the Bible says. We must “be doers of the Word, not hearers only.”

I’m still studying John and just came across one of my favorite metaphors–“I am the vine and you are the branches.” Spiritual disciplines are sort of like consciously chosen habits. The habit (or discipline) of prayer can be pictured as being a branch and finding all our nutrients coming from the main vine. The habit (or discipline) of service can be pictured as the branch growing a bunch of grapes (bearing fruit).

Now, the question is, are you better at one discipline than another? Should you be consciously cultivating another habit to get you into that flow of life from Jesus into a new disciple? I’m better at prayer and study. Weaker at service. That means I need to cultivate a service.

It’s not complicated. Just requires you to get up and get going.