Life As A Journey Toward Becoming

October 1, 2012

When I was a young adult, an essay in a faith magazine influenced me deeply. An influence that has lasted my whole adult life. I loaned the magazine to a student in the high school group I was leading and never got it back. I remember the argument, but not the details.

The writer put forth the idea that life in faith is a journey and used the metaphor of a mid-19th Century wagon train heading west. Some are scouts. Some are leaders. And so forth. The magazine, and the organization that published, it was Faith-at-Work. I have been so influenced by it that I still send a donation to the group, now known as Lumunos.

Some people think that you only have to “accept Jesus in your heart” and your life will be OK. But I’ve seen many people who accepted Jesus, but remained the same people they always were–except that now they go to church on Sunday. Have you ever seen people addicted to something who change addictions–now they are addicted to Jesus rather than alcohol, drugs, sex or whatever. There is no change of personality toward embodying the fruits of the Spirit.

Andy Stanley just drove the point home talking about dating during a recent talk. He told the story of a woman who had gone through a bitter divorce and hit the bar scene. Then she met a Christian guy who embodied all the traits of a deeply spiritual person. As she gushed to her mom about how great he was, her mom said, “But honey, you’re not the type of person he will want to go out with.”

Stanley’s point was that you need to become the type of person that the other person would want to be with. It’s about becoming.

I guess that has been my view of spiritual formation for more than 40 years. I’m still becoming. How about you?

Learning Patience and Gratitude

September 28, 2012

This has been one of those trips. Trying to juggle way too much, and the airlines are not cooperating. It’s 5 am where I am. Supposed to be on a plane headed to Houston. It’s not leaving until 9 am. Missed connection. Rebook. Lose first class seat. Now in middle seat in coach.

Same thing happened Sunday. Delay. Missed connection. Delay.

As the airlines cut back flights and pack airplanes, choices shrink. Delays cause other problems. In my case, had it worked out for my wife to pick me up at an airport to drive home from vacation together (her’s). Now I’ll be 2.5 hours late. Means getting home after midnight. Or one more night in a hotel.

A woman I know always says, “Don’t pray for patience. The Lord will provide you with many opportunities to practice it.” Well, this trip has been one.

I wrote the other day about how I only saw one couple vent on the gate agent. It’s remarkable. I’ve been places where they had to call in deputy sheriffs to contain irate passengers.

But I can be  grateful for the people who helped me rebook. They were calm, professional, helpful. I can learn to get over the disappointment quickly, figure out what my new alternatives are, pick the best and go with it. When I’m not in control, then I just have to do the best I can.

I guess that’s just the way life is. Go forward with gratitude and patience. Things work out.

Seeking Wisdom

September 27, 2012

In Proverbs 4, the teacher says the beginning of wisdom is: get wisdom, and whatever else you get, get insight. The rest of the chapter discusses pursuing wisdom or the path of the wicked.

What do you fill your mind with? What do you read? What do you watch on TV or movies? Music?

Where you turn your attention and focus, there your mind goes. It occurred to me after writing a piece a few days ago about thinkers that most of the time when I’m reading theology or spiritual writers, they tend to be seekers. They are seeking God. And they write about their search. And their discoveries. I read some “theology” where people think they have discovered a previously unknown fact in the Bible and build a new theology. I see where they are going, wonder what translation they’ve discovered from the Greek or Hebrew that 2,000 years of scholars have missed, and go on.

I also listen to good teachers whom I’ve vetted as trustworthy. I prefer my theology to be traceable to ancient sources. Not some new age or literalist thinker.

It’s political season. Are you filling your mind with CNN or Fox? Do you realize that they exist solely to get you emotionally involved so that you’ll keep watching? And they can keep feeding you ads?

Other people have one spiritual teacher they follow. It is good to seek many in order to balance your learning and assure that you are not going off chasing squirrels.

Ancient wisdom held that as you think you shall become. Earl Nightengale put it “you become what you think about.” You can fill your mind with angry emotion and become a surly, angry person. Or fill your mind with wisdom, and become a reflection of the fruits of the Spirit–love, joy, peace, and the others.

Your choice.

Leadership for Yourself

September 26, 2012

Sorry I missed the Tuesday installment. Only had a couple of reprimands, though. With all the travel I do, I am never able to achieve a good routine. It was a great day for my professional side, though.

I’m thinking again about the post I wrote from <a href=”http://www.northpoint.org/podcasts”>Andy Stanley’s latest leadership podcast</a>. He was talking about leadership through change in an organization. These ideas also fit us on a personal level.

Remember he talked about having a mission/vision, model and doing or outcome. In our personal life, as well as organizational leadership, we need to cultivate these things.

Do you have a personal mission? A vision of what you want to be when you grow up? As crazy as this may seem, from my youth I had a vision of myself growing old gracefully. Achieving a level of fitness. Keeping mentally sharp and perpetually curious. Add some darn good genes, and few people meet me and suspect my age (which I’m not sharing). I have others. Always wanted to write. I do that. Help others, especially young people and older people. Anyway, you get the idea. What’s yours?

I once heard a story about modeling. Just as I’ve been talking lately about how Paul describes what a good church looks like, we need to describe to ourselves what we should be like in our thoughts and actions. There is a story about a top football (American style) athelete, Herschel Walker. He was a fabulous running back in both college and in the pros. Athletes watch lots of videos. At the high levels–of themselves. Often with coaches criticizing how they performed. In Walker’s case, he watched only his good runs. They were then thoroughly embedded in his mind so that when he was called on to perform, his brain was progammed to do the right thing.

Just so, we need to program our minds and bodies to do the right thing so that when the opportunity arises for us to act, think and talk, we can do so in an appropriate way.

People Really Are Nice

September 24, 2012

I’m traveling again. Driving last Thursday night, brief stop to sleep, and on to Myrtle Beach for a couple of days. Flew out of Charleston, SC through Charlotte, NC to Orlando yesterday–and today. Sort of officially “flights from hell.” Yes, not one but two flights delayed by mechanical problems.

They kept pushing back the estimated time of my 4 pm flight until it finally took off at 7:30. Missed my 8 pm to Orlando. By the time that I knew that was going to happen, I called the United premier access hot line. But, I was flying on a partner Star Alliance company (US Airways) so United couldn’t help me. <sigh> So now I’m standing in line for 30-45 minutes. Poor gate agents have to rebook all of us. Something like 80 people on the commuter flight.

One woman in line with me was going to miss part of a meeting plus spend the night in a hotel with all her toiletries in her checked bag (which would stay checked). Another woman was getting to Denver a day late. One guy had a 7am training session in Seattle, so he had purchased Monday Night Football tickets. He just cancelled out. They couldn’t get him to Seattle early enough (he gave his tickets to his brother–hint).

The entire time I was in line (or queue for my European readers) there was just one difficult woman and one couple who needed to vent. Otherwise, we were all disappointed, but just worked the best we could. Goes to show that despite ideas you might form from reading newspapers, by and large people are basically nice.

I was close to the end. The gate agent was frazzled from the pressure. She helped me tremendously (I’m in Orlando, after all). I just smiled and thanked her and said, “Just take a deep Yoga breath and then help the next person (the Seattle guy).” And she relaxed a little and smiled.

Hey, that’s all you can do. Help people who are helping you.

Change Leadership Means Changing What We Do

September 20, 2012

In Andy Stanley’s latest leadership podcast, he discussed leading through change. Many of you are involved in leadership roles at work. His thoughts are just as valuable there as in your leadership roles within your faith community.

He always goes back to lessons learned from Nehemiah. Leadership can be studied in three phases. Mission/vision, model, product/program. The leader must be on a mission with a vision of the objective. The leader will communicate that vision. Then the product or program must be worked on to achieve the vision.

The key question as you are working down from vision to doing is “What is the best way to …?”

Stanley is very bright, but he may be perhaps a bit optimistic about the business world. He said that in business it’s pretty simple. If it doesn’t sell, they quit selling it. They move on to something that will sell. Sadly, I’ve experienced businesses that stubbornly cling on, trying to sell something that the market doesn’t want. Just like the church leaders he discusses who, when a program doesn’t seem to be working, seek to blame it on external forces rather than changing the program to something that works better.

That’s where Stanley says you’ll run into the most resistance to change. At the “doing” level. When you ask people to change what they do every day, they get resistant and can fall back into old habits. We don’t have people signing up for the mission to women in Tijuana? Some say let’s keep trying. Others say, we need to do it differently. The ministry to youth doesn’t seem to be clicking? Instead of saying, “It’s just kids today,” say, “What would be a better way?” But then people have to change what they do during the preparation and “class” times.

People really won’t change how they do things until they are shown that there is a better way. Getting some small successes along the way reinforces the new “habit” and progress happens.

Communicate your vision. Lead people into changing the way they do things. Move your organization forward.

Jesus Taught About Entitlement

September 19, 2012

The other day, I was thinking about how so many in our world have a feeling of being entitled to what they have and what they want. I know many people who want something for nothing. Others think the world revolves around them and cannot understand it when other people don’t see that.

Bill Hybels, teaching on Proverbs, said that if you want to be a leader in your organization, you must add value. It’s not who you are or how many years you’ve managed to hang around. It’s how diligently and honestly you work. How many sales have you made? How have you organized your area? How much more responsibility can be entrusted to you?

Jesus’ friends James and John were about to go on to do great things. From what I can glean from the Scriptures, they were not poor fishermen–a picture often foisted upon us. Yes, they owned a fishing business. But they also were tapped into Jewish leadership. I think they revealed an entitlement mindset when they approached Jesus and asked about sitting on his right and left hand in the kingdom.

At that time, they really didn’t comprehend what the kingdom was. Then on the night he was betrayed, Jesus took off his outer clothes, put a towel around his waist and washed the feet of his friends. It was a scene of great humility. The room must have become eerily silent.

Here was the most entitled of all humans performing the work of a servant. This is the example. Go and do likewise.

What a Spiritual Legacy We Have

September 18, 2012

It is just fascinating to me. Our faith goes back at least 4,000 years to Abraham. He came from a tribe in probably from around the area now known as Iraq. I’ve been reading Proverbs lately along with Paul. It’s interesting enough that Paul goes back 2,000 years, but Proverbs goes back at least 600 years before that.

And the interesting thing to me is that people had the same problems back then that we have today. And we think we’re so advanced.

Bill Hybels is teaching on Proverbs right now. His interesting point is that people always say, “Next time, I’ll get it right.” But Proverbs is one book that tries to teach us to do it right this time. And those thoughts are at least 2,600 years old.

Let your mind scan back through the thousands of years. The stories that have been passed down to us. I’m in awe of the history and the people who have gone before.

I’ve had the “next time” moments. Bet you have, too. This time, I’ll get it right.

Overcoming Our Sense of Entitlement

September 17, 2012

Paul said it. James emphasized it. Our tongues can create all manner of troubles–both for us and for others.

YouTube is great, isn’t it? Just like once you had to have access to the limited number of publishers to have your writing published, once you had to have access to the limited number of TV networks or movie companies to get your video published.

Now we have publishing platforms such as WordPress (where this blog is published) or SquareSpace (where my business blog is published) and photo sites such as Flickr where you can see my photos under “Garytheeditor”. Now YouTube is the new TV. And it can get you international attention in an instant.

I’ve been listening to a discussion in another area about Americans’ sense of entitlement. Not just recipients of U.S. government “entitlement programs” (which is probably most of us if you really analyze it), but an attitude that many have that they are entitled to things. We’re entitled to getting stuff. We’re entitled to voice our opinion even if we don’t think about what we say before we say it.

It’s a little like the driver I saw yesterday as I was driving on the freeway. She was entering the freeway along the entrance ramp. What’s the purpose of the entrance ramp? It’s to allow you time to match the speed of traffic and fit in. What was she doing? She set her speed and just expected others to get out of her way. The 18-wheeler couldn’t and didn’t. She wound up stopping (fortunately this was rural interstate so there was space off the travel lanes).

Just so, even we as Christians often feel entitled to just spout out any half-formed opinions and others can just get out of our way. But we can put them on YouTube. They can hurt people. Our words have reach far beyond our close circle.

Freedom requires responsibility. Responsibility is maturity. We’re not entitled to much of anything. God’s grace is for us even though we don’t deserve it. A little humility and gratitude in our attitude helps get us over that feeling of entitlement. It’ll help us avoid the dangers Paul and James warned us about.

Anger Saddens My Soul

September 14, 2012

Today’s headlines shouted out fear and anger. I should know better than read the morning newspaper while I’m making coffee. I’d be much better off continuing my new study of Proverbs and finishing thoughts from Paul’s pastoral letters.

Some in the Muslim world have risen violently in anger sparked by the promotion of an anti-Islam film publicized I guess by that publicity-seeking guy in Florida. Sorry. I didn’t even know the thing existed until yesterday. But with today’s technology, news spreads in an instant. So even the smallest, out-of-the-way person or event can have global repercussions.

Some people just love to provoke other people. Some people lie in wait for an opportunity to be provoked. So here we go with another round.

I just feel sadness in my soul that 2,000 years after Jesus taught us so much about how to live, we still have trouble. So many of “my generation” are all about rights and nothing about responsibility. James and Paul taught us the folly of speaking without thinking. We need to contemplate that.

I’m sad for all the people around the world who think it’s all about whose doctrine is superior instead of entering into a life-changing experience with God. Jesus showed us the way. The fruits of the Spirit are ripe and waiting on the tree for us to pick. And we ignore them at our own–and others’–peril. Instead of provoking arguments, why don’t we try showing how God teaches us to live.

The early church grew because they actually lived differently from their neighbors. And it was attractive and magnetic. And when people asked, they said it was all about this life changing experience with Jesus. We would do well to do the same.