Focus

August 7, 2025

Philosopher Arthur Shopenhauer observed, “If a large diamond is cut up into pieces, it immediately loses its value as a whole; or if an army is scattered or divided into small bodies, it loses all its power; and in the same way a great intellect has no more power than an ordinary one as soon as it is interrupted, disturbed, distracted, or diverted.”

When you pray, pray.

When you study, study.

When you meditate, meditate.

When you serve someone, serve them.

When you rest, rest.

Doing two things simultaneously accomplishes neither.

Working With Stressful Emotions

August 6, 2025

I remember the date, place, people with me, and cause the last time my anger overcame me. To be honest, anger was often lurking just below the surface looking for a trigger event to take over. From the time I was a youth, I could flip from quiet to not quiet, so to speak.

Ancient wisdom tries to teach us about becoming the master of our emotions. 

Science meets wisdom. In a recent newsletter on health and fitness, Arnold Schwarzenegger writes:

When stress hits, most people think they need to shut down their emotions to stay in control. But real control isn’t about avoidance—it’s about awareness.  Emotions are messengers, not marching orders. The goal isn’t to feel nothing. It’s to learn how to feel without losing yourself. If you’ve ever been told to “just let it go” when you’re stressed or upset, you probably rolled your eyes. But there’s actual science showing that accepting difficult emotions — instead of fighting them— rewires how your brain works. Accepting your emotions activates completely different brain networks than trying to suppress them, leading to less rumination and self-criticism.

Some people let go—much to their later recriminations. Realizing that expressing that emotion may not be appropriate, we try to suppress it. Schwarzenegger paints this picture:

Think of it like this: suppression is like holding a beach ball underwater—it takes constant effort and energy. Acceptance is like letting the ball float on the surface—no struggle required, and your brain can redirect that energy elsewhere.

I often turn to the wisdom of ancient Christians. In this case, the master of psychology, John Clymacus, aka St. John of the Ladder, who wrote The Ladder of Divine Ascent.

He says:

The first step toward freedom from anger is to keep the lips silent when the heart is stirred. I say, Amen to that, brother. The next, to keep thoughts silent when the soul is upset; the last, to be totally calm when unclean winds are blowing.

Achieving this calm can only come if we have practiced becoming calm through meditation and intentional prayer.

And another thing from John—All anger and bitterness disappears before the fragrance of humility.

Humility may be a tough path for us Americans. Maybe for other humans, as well. Yes, another practice—putting others before ourselves.

Health Public Service Announcement

August 5, 2025

I am willing to pay for services, especially health and nutrition, that provide valuable information. Examine.com is one. Their latest newsletter shatters some current myths referring to actual research. 

Here’s a teaser:

Have you heard about granulated beet extract (GBE)? So hot right now!

Moderate doses improve mood by activating the mesolimbic dopamine pathway. And unlike many supplements, GBE’s bioavailability is off the charts! This is due to its dual use of SGLT1 and GLUT5 transporters.

Oh by the way, granulated beet extract is also known as table sugar. You may very well have supplemented with GBE this week because 55% of table sugar (sucrose) produced in the U.S. comes from beets.

As GBE illustrates, names hold great power. Would you trust my scientific acumen more or less if, instead of Kamal Patel, my name was Booger von Simpleton, Attorney at Law?

Hurry, Hurry, Hurry

August 4, 2025

My Uncle Doyle, mom’s younger brother, loved the comic strip Pogo by Walt Kelly. I remember his introducing me to it and reading it as a child. Kelly was a master at condensing a thought into something meaningful.

“Having lost sight of our objectives, we redoubled our efforts.” Pogo

Shall we pause and reflect?

Once I hurried through everything. Even before I learned the Navy SEAL mantra from the firing range—Slow is smooth; smooth is fast—I learned the value of slowing. Focusing on the task and slowing down actually helps me accomplish more. Leaving stress behind.

Perhaps it’s time to stop, look around, recall our objective, and try easy.

Religion of Words

August 1, 2025

Someone recently told me the problem with Judaism, Islam, and Christianity is that they are religions of words. Learning words, hearing words, reading words, repeating words.

Too often the journey begins and ends with words.

Words divide us while uniting some of us.

Somewhere along the journey we lose the spirit of the words. The spirit behind and encompassing the words.

I think my friend’s observation was only partially correct. That is, they only saw part of the situation.

We read in the letter of James, the apostle, church leader, and brother of Jesus (1:27), “True Religion—Religion that is pure and undefiled before God the Father is this: to visit orphans and widows in their affliction, and to keep oneself unstained from the world.”

Anyone can memorize and regurgitate words.

It takes a true disciple of Jesus to get off one’s backside and go out to serve.

Shall we find true religion?

Words Matter

July 31, 2025

While on vacation in Scotland last week, I saw news that crossed my technology professional side regarding Artificial Intelligence with my spiritual formation professional side about being able to say any hateful thing without repercussion. (I really don’t know the whole “woke/anti-woke” non-debate. I really don’t want to know! Being me, I would probably not endorse either camp.)

When politicians speak, I use a translator like the Babel fish in Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy. Some people call it a BS filter. That’s a little different. I use that often listening to marketing people.

But something I do know—because of long, hard, bitter experience. Words matter.

Used properly they build up, heal, guide. Otherwise they spread hate, hurt people, demotivate.

It’s easier to slow down and choose the right ones than it is to try to take the wrong one back.

At least four books have come my way recently about the importance of holding civil conversations with people with whom you may disagree.

Most would go along with my previous post about Be Curious, Not Judgmental. Ask questions and listen—honestly, really, listen. Not to argue. But to understand. It’s not noises in the ear canal. Engage brain, engage heart, focus on the other.

Kindness, care, gentle spirit, accepting (even if not agreeing).

Like the Youngbloods sang in 1967, “Come on people now, smile on your brother, everybody get together try to love one another right now.”

[Note: The Babel fish is a small, bright yellow fish, which can be placed in someone’s ear in order for them to be able to hear any language translated into their first language. Ford Prefect puts one in Arthur Dent’s ear at the beginning of the story so that he can hear the Vogon speech.}

Constraints Are Required For Creativity

July 30, 2025

Poets across centuries and cultures have developed structures for their poems. Haiku, ballad, sonnet.

Poets especially in the 1950s and 1960s explored something called free verse—that is, no outside structure.

The teacher of poetry writing at university explained how easy it is to get lost in free verse. The poet must discover an internal structure to effectively express themselves.

Some people have expressed that they wish a life totally free from constraints. “That is freedom,” they proclaim.

Just like the early free verse poets (ever tried to read Allen Ginsberg?), total freedom so easily drifts into meaninglessness. One becomes subject to whim, suggestion, cravings. No purpose. No value.

Some constraints actually allow for creativity and true freedom to live a fulfilled life. I’ll try to start your thinking.

  • Consistent sleep times
  • Consistent exercise
  • Regular (for you) work times
  • Ability and courage to say no
  • Solid moral foundation

Can you add more?

Curiosity Is A Skill

July 29, 2025

This is becoming a mini-series on curiosity.

Let’s see…a student for 17 years, teacher for one, school board member for eight, wife taught in elementary school for 35.

Some people dislike public schools (meant to provide a common education for everyone in a democracy) because they want to see teachers’ salaries reduced. Some because they don’t teach political or religious philosophy they espouse.

I side with Seth Godin. He calls it the industrial-education complex. Schools, public and most private ones (and most universities) exist to churn humans through the system such that they can provide bodies in industrial-type jobs. Not thinking or creative jobs. Assembling things, entering data/writing rote reports, attend meeting after meeting (sort of just like school).

In this post called Why and How from a couple months ago, Godin tackles science non-education. (Interesting that my copy of Burn Math Class arrived today. I’ve had the same feelings about math class as science class—and I like both things.)

Let’s get rid of science class in school.

Instead, beginning in kindergarten, we could devote a class to curiosity and explanation.

A class that persistently and consistently teaches kids to ask why and to answer how.

The unacceptable single-word answers are “because” and “magic.”

Curiosity is a skill, and it can be taught.

I learned biology when my parents bought a microscope, and I began exploring. I read about planets, and relativity, and dinosaurs. I learned electronics math while learning how to assemble and analyze circuits. I bought a 22-scale log-log slide rule (still have it) and an electronics math slide rule in the early 60s while in high school.

I was frustrated by chemistry. I kept wanting to ask Why. He kept saying to memorize the balance equations or whatever. The only math class than kept me interested was geometry. The teacher said what I’m really going to do is teach you to think. And he did. Solving proofs for theorems was pretty cool.

Everything in school could be taught as an outgrowth of curiosity instead of ramming down a curriculum devised by people far away who haven’t seen a classroom for decades.

Turn the teachers and kids loose and let education happen.

(By the way—works for spiritual topics, too. Curiosity led me to mediation, which led to studying the “mystics” and Desert Fathers, which led to studying the Christian thinkers and leaders of the first 300 years of the movement, which led to deeper understanding of the New Testament, which led to deeper meditation awareness…)

Be Curious, Not Judgmental

July 28, 2025

For Jarrod and my Ted Lasso-loving friends.

Axios Finish Line evening newsletter always brings a brief, insightful nugget into my inbox—sort of like the cherry atop the sundae of the day. Axios is one of my two main news sources. They are journalists and a business, so they do drop into click-bait headlines at times and have too much “he said, she said” reporting with occasional speculation rather than strictly reporting facts. Even so, they are brief and even handed. Finish Line tops off the day.

CEO Jim VandeHei riffed off one of the best scenes in TV history from the Ted Lasso show. This is the dart contest scene (Oh, I forgot I was left handed). As Ted explains to (villain) Rupert, “If you were curious instead of judgmental, you would have asked if I had ever played darts.”

Lasso quotes Walt Whitman (not exactly accurately sourced), “Be curious, not judgmental.”

VandeHei writes, “Those four words can radically shift how you think and feel about politics, social media posts, your employer, and even friends and family.”

It’s natural to react emotionally or defensively when people do or say things you think are wrong — or flat-out bonkers. But try the opposite approach for a week: Be genuinely curious why they do or say those things. Worst case: You’ll burn less and learn more.

He offers four possible arenas to test drive. I’ll offer a glimpse. Click the link above for the full thought (short read).

1. Politics: Stop assuming the “other side” is corrupt, inept or dumb.

2. Social media: Never in history have humans wasted more time getting more worked up over more topics than when doom-scrolling. Instead of taking the bait, take a break.

3. Workplace: One of the smartest things we did when founding Axios was to be extremely transparent about the business and our beliefs. This demystified things internally — dramatically reducing the gossiping and wonderment about what we really think.

4. Family & friends: Almost every time my wife, Autumn, is pissed at me, it’s because I didn’t take the time to ask one simple thing: Why do you feel that way?

Try asking and listening rather than judging and talking. 

Curiosity, Key To The Good Life?

July 26, 2025

I haven’t missed two posts in a row in a very long time. We vacationed in Scotland for over a week. We returned from 67-70 deg F temperature to 92 deg F with high humidity and lots of pollen. I was congested, mistakenly took some Benadryl which enabled me to sleep all day Friday. I need to pitch that stuff from my medicine cabinet.

Yes, Scotland should be on your list of places to visit. Considering that the forts close to where I grew up were remnants of wooden outposts along the Ohio/Indiana border built by General “Mad” Anthony Wayne in the 1790s, walking through a Roman fort (OK, in England) built around 200 AD, multiple abbeys built around the year 1000, and accounts of the rich history of Scotland were memorable.

Also that the tour guides unanimously voted thumbs down on Braveheart. One guide generously allowed that Mel Gibson in no way was trying to be historical. For one thing, Lowlanders did not wear kilts in the time of William Wallace. And “Braveheart” referred to Robert the Bruce who died on a pilgrimage. It seems that they cut his heart out, put it in a box, intending to send it to (I believe) Jerusalem to finish the pilgrimage. The heart didn’t make it there. Was found some years later. They called it Braveheart.

You’re wondering about curiosity?

I may have mentioned before that I am almost infinitely curious. If curiosity killed the cat, as the saying goes, I’ve been burned. But I still want to know a lot about a lot of things. We are privileged to be able to make these trips. We began 2025 in New Zealand, have visited Nova Scotia, and now Scotland. In between we were in Charlottesville and Williamsburg, Virginia. Later we’ll have a vacation in Hilton Head.

Another bit of privilege—our son is a United Captain flying 757s. He flew our flight to Scotland.  That’s also pretty cool.

Philosophers from ancient times have written about what constitutes a good life. I love it when modern science validates ancient wisdom. This link points to a report about a study that suggests having a life of curiosity, perspective-changing experiences leads to a well lived life. Certainly working with people from many countries and visiting more than 20 other countries changed a socially inept country boy into a slightly less socially inept, but more understanding, adult. It’s been good.

Be curious, not judgmental. (See the next post.)