Archive for the ‘Wisdom’ Category

Injured

September 26, 2023

I seldom follow American-style football anymore. Maybe part of the reason is that I grew up a Browns fan. They’ve been pathetic for years. Maybe someday an owner will come along who has a clue. Another part of the reason is due to style of play. They stopped tackling in the 80s in favor of the NFL-promoted “big hit.” The career expectation of a running back, for example, is less than six years.

I see guys around town with obvious after-effects of having played football in high school. Let alone college. The injuries place a toll on the body that outlasts playing age.

Of course, injuries can happen in any athletic endeavor. I even tore my quadriceps by doing something awkward following an intense game as a referee.

There were at least two prominent career-ending injuries in the National Football League in the first couple of weeks of this season.

Athletics are not the only human endeavor leading to possibility of injury.

Just today during my brief five minutes on Facebook I saw several instances of intent to injure with words on posts. Do people not take a few minutes to consider the effect of words before hitting send?

When you put yourself in leadership or service you are now open to injuries from unthinking or uncaring or even bad people. I have seen career ending injury through words even in church settings. 

We have also seen injuries caused by church and other organization leaders.

When a player goes down injured in a sporting event, a team of medical experts rush to the player to diagnose, triage, treat the injury. Afterwards there may be a team of people who help rehabilitate and restore.

We need more of those type of people in everyday life to come to the aid of the hurting. Although many times I’m at a loss for how to react. It’s something to continue to learn.

Look Inside For Causes

September 11, 2023

So instead of loving what you think is peace, love other men and love God above all. And instead of hating the people you think are warmers, hate the appetites and the disorder in your own soul, which are the causes of war. If you love peace, then hate injustice, hate tyranny, hate greed–but hate these things in yourself, not in another.

Thomas Merton, New Seeds of Contemplation

Oh, how easy it is to look at others and judge. How difficult to look within and see all the evil residing therein.

Somewhere inside we need a pause button. Like before we speak. Probably every time.

We look at someone and a story about them comes to mind. Usually not a good story. We think the worst.

Maybe if we hit that pause button and then ask a conversation starting (not ending!) question and actually listen. Maybe by listening we hear a story. Almost always that story will change the opinion. We discover people who are hurting just like us (who won’t admit it).

Maybe there is grief in the family. There are many kinds. They hurt.

Maybe they just feel left out. All they needed was someone to greet them and listen to them.

Maybe a recent diagnosis–theirs or family or friend–is weighing on them.

Maybe we pray for peace and justice, but even there we need that pause button and look inside at our attitudes towards other–maybe fear based on our own insecurities, maybe dislike merging with hatred of someone different, maybe rooting for war somewhere.

Pause and look inside. I know. I have. There’s no perfection there. Work remains to be done.

In Pursuit of Virtue

September 8, 2023

The realization hit me squarely in the face. Recent reading seems to return to the theme of virtue. Christian reading. Reading from the Stoics. General reading.

Virtue.

I’d like to believe I lead a life of virtue. Don’t you? Wouldn’t it hurt if someone told us, “What you just did was not virtuous.”

Me, being me, wondered, what does it mean to be virtuous?

One of my bosses told me many years ago that everyone knew who the good teachers in the school were even though you couldn’t quantify it. He was an engineer. That’s an amazing statement from a numbers-driven person.

Perhaps virtue is similar. We all know a virtuous person even if we can’t really define it.

But, that doesn’t help us. When we leave our beds in the morning (or whenever you happen to rise), how are we going to behave starting then in a way that could be described as virtuous?

I’m not a fan of lists. Especially lists of rules we need to follow. Sometimes, though, a list can spur our thinking. Beginning a list of 20 thoughts about a topic can lead to a breakthrough idea. I offer this list from Benjamin Franklin, yes that guy whose face adorns the 100-dollar bill. He was a fan of checklists and introspection. He had a checklist of these virtues that he would use to measure his day every evening.

This list comes courtesy of Wikipedia.

  • Temperance: Eat not to Dullness. Drink not to Elevation.
  • Silence: Speak not but what may benefit others or yourself. Avoid trifling Conversation.
  • Order: Let all your Things have their Places. Let each Part of your Business have its Time.
  • Resolution: Resolve to perform what you ought. Perform without fail what you resolve.
  • Frugality: Make no Expense but to do good to others or yourself; i.e. Waste nothing.
  • Industry: Lose no Time. Be always employed in something useful. Cut off all unnecessary Actions.
  • Sincerity: Use no hurtful Deceit. Think innocently and justly; and, if you speak, speak accordingly.
  • Justice: Wrong none, by doing Injuries or omitting the Benefits that are your Duty.
  • Moderation: Avoid Extremes. Forbear resenting Injuries so much as you think they deserve.
  • Cleanliness: Tolerate no Uncleanness in Body, Clothes or Habitation.
  • Tranquility: Be not disturbed at Trifles, or at Accidents common or unavoidable.
  • Chastity: Rarely use Venery but for Health or Offspring; Never to Dullness, Weakness, or the Injury of your own or another’s Peace or Reputation.
  • Humility: Imitate Jesus and Socrates.

Dream Dreams To Pass On To Others

August 3, 2023

I am not Roman Catholic, but that doesn’t stop me from appreciating Catholic leaders and thought. This from Pope Francis I found especially meaningful. 

The prophet Joel once promised: “Your old men shall dream dreams, and your young men will have visions” (3:1). The future of the world depends on this covenant between young and old. Who, if not the young, can take the dreams of the elderly and make them come true? Yet for this to happen, it is necessary that we continue to dream. Our dreams of justice, of peace, of solidarity, can make it possible for our young people to have new visions; in this way, together, we can build the future.

The challenge for those of us a bit past prime time—what are we dreaming that we wish would have been better? How are we passing those dreams to the new generation?

True Wealth–A Random List

July 24, 2023

I picked up this list from a tweet by one of my favorite modern writers, Nassim Nicholas Taleb. He wrote Black Swan, Fooled by Randomness, among other books. This is one of those lists you can tape above your desk and contemplate often.

TRUE WEALTH (2nd Ed)

  • Worriless sleeping
  • Clear conscience
  • Reciprocal gratitude
  • Absence of envy
  • Foamy coffee
  • Crusty bread
  • Inexperienced enemies
  • Frequent laughs
  • No meals alone
  • No gym classes
  • Gravel bicycling
  • Good digestive functions
  • No Zoom meetings
  • Periodic surprises
  • Nothing to hide: financial and fiscal tranquility
  • Muscular strength & endurance
  • Ability to nap
  • Access to a hammock

Note: That was from a tweet, as on Twitter. By the time you read this, Twitter may be X. Elon Musk seems to think X is a manly character. He says he’s changing the name of the service this week. Some people have more money than sense.

Wisdom Needed

July 13, 2023

The publicist sent an early copy of a book for me to review. Wisdom Factory by Tim Dasey, Ph.D. He is an MIT professor (Massachusetts Institute of Technology) thinking about the future of work. 

I’ve not finished it, yet, but I just waded through a chapter on left brain/right brain physiology. You may have heard about left brain detail-oriented analytical thinking and right brain generalist whole scene thinking. Of course, it’s more complicated than that, but we needn’t delve further.

Dasey’s argument is that we need less detail-oriented analytical thinking (not none, just less) like your typical engineer, I guess and more what he calls wisdom or thinking more generally about why rather than what. Future workers—and not only managers—will need to incorporate more wisdom into their work.

Have you observed the phenomenon of detail-oriented versus big picture amongst people in the religious or spiritual life?

Some people have memorized huge chunks of the Bible, yet seem to have missed the theme. They know lots of “what” and little “why.”

Even worse than missing the “why” is failing to infuse the why into everyday life.

Following the Flock

July 11, 2023

A flock of red-winged blackbirds with a few Brewer’s blackbirds covered the lawns outside my office window this morning. 

As if on a hidden signal, they all took off in flight.

Except for one. I saw a black head pop up above the grass. It looked around for a few seconds. The bird then took off in the same direction as its flock even though the flock was out of sight by that time.

How often we humans are like that. The flock takes off—say they all join an online social network. Those of us not in the main flock look up, wonder where they all went, then take off to join them.

I turned. On the bookcase opposite is a collection of books called the Great Books of the Western World. They are organized along a timeline from the ancient Greeks to William James and Freud. I noticed how some are grouped. There were Platonists/neo-Platonists and Aristotelians. Then the ones who shattered the idea of mind/body divorcing mind from spirit from body to those trying to reconnect. Sort of like following a new flock.

We think we have the final ideas, the final answers, the complete truth. Following a flock. Then the next generation comes along. A new flock that everyone will follow for a while.

Then there are those of us who just don’t feel like part of the flock pursuing new ideas.

Perfection and Imperfection

June 26, 2023

Perfect is the enemy of good.

Perfect is the enemy of done.

Once when I was a vice president of a small company, the engineers had a conversation with me. It involved when to ship a machine we were building. Now, if we didn’t ship, we didn’t get paid. But they didn’t want to ship until the machine was perfect. It was hard to explain to someone with a perfect mindset that the customer couldn’t wait for perfection. They needed a machine that would make the products they needed within the specs. Good was good enough. Perfect was not attainable.

In the spiritual life, we must ask of ourselves–are we waiting for perfection?

Worse, do we now think that we are perfect and have no need for anything further from God?

Have you met Christians (or perhaps people from other religions) who think they are perfect? Did we notice the imperfections that they ignored?

Perfect we may strive toward as long as we don’t develop a psychological disorder such as anxiety or depression.

Imperfect is the human condition. When we accept that in ourselves and in others, then, and only then, can we grow in faith and service.

Smooth Is Fast

June 23, 2023

I heard an interview with a former US Navy SEAL. He left me with a phrase that repeats in my mind.

Slow is smooth; smooth is fast.

This relates to other advice I’ve received and to my life experiences.

Once I rushed through everything trying to do three or four things at once. I was frustrated with progress as well as tired. Driving in traffic, I’d speed up only to be stopped at the next traffic light in the slow lane passed by the cars I’d just passed.

Rushing didn’t get me anywhere faster. Maybe just a speeding ticket.

I’ve not only learned that phrase, I have also learned to embody it.

I concentrate on one thing at a time. That doesn’t mean that a hundred thoughts don’t pop up. They do. But I’ve learned to move past and come back to task.

Don’t rush the conversation.

Allow time to get where I’m going. If circumstances make me late, well, then I’m late. That’s life.

Even eating. Chew more. Swallow less. Slow and smooth.

Even working out. Some things require intensity, but don’t rush through (well, unless you’re doing sprints!). I look at the dumbbells. Select the weights. Raise slowly to extension. Lower slowly and smoothly. Do my sets. Amazingly the workout is done before I know it.

In your spiritual life, it’s the same. When you read–read. When you meditate–meditate. Allow the time. Savor it even.

Why Do We Want That?

June 1, 2023

Seth Godin recently asked on his blog a question I used to pose to my daughter when she was in high school, “How much of what we want, really want, is due to the ideas that culture has given us, and how much is truly what we need?”

It was easy for me to observe her and ask if she, for example, hated cafeteria food at school because the food was bland or tasted bad or if she was just saying what “everyone” was saying.

It is less easy for us to observe ourselves and ask if we believe something because we’ve thought it through or because “everyone” is saying it on social media.

There is probably a reason that even the most ancient wisdom literature teaches that unsubstantiated opinion is the lowest form of thought. Forming an opinion from a combination of learning and experience reflected on is a much higher form. Even better when we are open to someone pointing out the possibility of misinterpreting a source or a thought we may have overlooked.