Archive for the ‘Love’ Category

Talking People Out Of Hate–Part 2

December 24, 2025

The post yesterday looked at a man unafraid to face people who hate him only because of his skin color. A black jazz musician named Darryl Davis who found a type of ministry engaging in conversations with white men who are active neo-nazis or ku klux klan members.

Shortly after posting that, a video popped up on my fitness and nutrition app (called the Pump Club founded by Arnold Schwarzenegger, it guides me in my resistance training). I have to admit that I never had posters of Arnold in his prime doing muscle poses. If I had lived in California, I’m not sure I’d have voted for him to be the “Governator.” I’ve only see two of his movies, and only one intentionally. But I’ve come to respect his nonprofit work, especially building the fitness and esteem of young people.

He directly addresses hate in this YouTube video. It is a powerful message.

If you haven’t guessed it yet, I believe that spreading hate and divisiveness is the polar opposite of the message we should be living as Jesus followers. We should be reconciling people as much as we can. Being always successful? Not likely. But we aren’t graded on success. We are graded on where our heart is.

In this Christmas season, in fact this publishes on Christmas Eve, let us dedicate ourselves anew to the Prince of Peace.

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Curbing Your Tongue

December 22, 2025

As I have turned from inward toward outward during Advent (since I have never been an Advent sort of person), I have been thinking about how each of us interacts with others. If we call this the “Christmas season” rather than Advent, then we consider the themes of peace and joy with perhaps a pinch of anticipation tossed in.

One form of peace enters our experience through how we treat  others, how others treat us, and how we observe interactions of others at some distance.

I listened recently to an interview with a kindergarten teacher on what it’s like to be one. She said at one point, “Kindergarteners are so cute. They say whatever comes into their minds.”

And I thought about the general discourse in society today. Especially where I hear some people (who have an especially amplified voice thanks to the insidious spread of social media) who became angry feeling they were forced into civilized discourse rather than being able to say whatever comes to mind. 

But what is cute in 5-year-olds sounds much differently when it comes from adults. With maturity comes the ability to speak with a civil tongue. Especially for those who claim to be following Jesus.

Let us consider the teaching of James, the brother of Jesus, an early leader of “The Way,” and a profound wisdom teacher. 

When we put bits into the mouths of horses to make them obey us, we can turn the whole animal. Or take ships as an example. Although they are so large and are driven by strong winds, they are steered by a very small rudder wherever the pilot wants to go. Likewise, the tongue is a small part of the body, but it makes great boasts. Consider what a great forest is set on fire by a small spark. The tongue also is a fire, a world of evil among the parts of the body. It corrupts the whole body, sets the whole course of one’s life on fire, and is itself set on fire by hell.

All kinds of animals, birds, reptiles and sea creatures are being tamed and have been tamed by mankind, but no human being can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison.

With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse human beings, who have been made in God’s likeness. Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers and sisters, this should not be. Can both fresh water and salt water flow from the same spring? My brothers and sisters, can a fig tree bear olives, or a grapevine bear figs? Neither can a salt spring produce fresh water.

What is James telling us at the end of his analysis? What we say is a reflection of the status of our hearts. What was Jesus’s top concern—the status of our hearts. And where should our hearts be resting? Upon God. Which then has the effect upon us of loving other humans. 

So, we tie the inner and the outer together. As we consider the themes of peace and joy during this season (and the year following), let us consider how we use our “tongues,” whether vocally or through our fingers on a keyboard. Let us put a metaphorical bit in our mouth. 

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One Tin Soldier

September 26, 2025

So much hate spills out into our consciousness. Do people think that they can spew hate without consequence? It’s amazing how much energy we expend justifying ourselves.

Ponder this song from my youth:

Go ahead and hate your neighbor

Go ahead and cheat a friend

Do it in the name of heaven,

You can justify it in the end.

There won’t be any trumpets sounding

Come the judgement day.

On the bloody morning after

One tin soldier rides away.

(The Legend of Billy Jack, Peter, Paul, and Mary/Coven; author: peaceluvandbass)

Simple Surrender and Obedience

July 17, 2025

Sort of following yesterday’s thoughts on hate and divisiveness breaking my heart, is this meditation from Dietrich Bonhoeffer.

Humanly speaking, we could understand and interpret the Sermon on the Mount in a thousand different ways. Jesus knows only one possibility: simple surrender and obedience, not interpreting it or applying it, but doing and obeying it…. He does not mean that it is to be discussed as an ideal, he really means us to get on with it.

We waste so much energy arguing and defending some minute interpretation of theology. What would be Jesus’s reaction to all that? Would it be what Bonhoeffer suggested—that we take these teachings from Jesus and actually do something about them?

Perhaps we surrender our ego and greed and fear and pride—and serve our neighbor (see Luke’s telling of the Good Samaritan)?

Every evening before retiring reflect on where we showed kindness and where we were servants.

What Breaks Your Heart?

July 16, 2025

Andy Stanley asked in a recent message, “What breaks your heart?”

Discover that, then act on it.

I read the blog of Rich Dixon. An accident resulted in lower body paralysis. His story of overcoming his self-pity and riding a hand-crank cycle thousands of miles to raise money for a home that rescues children from sex trafficking. Those kids broke his heart enough to energize him to become a great leader.

What breaks my heart currently is the hate and vitriol and meanness of one group toward other groups. Even among people who identify as Christian. (If you think this doesn’t apply to you, then it probably does. Seems to be a human thing.)

 I have some understanding of the emotions that drive some of us to fear or despise people who are not like us. Perhaps even sympathy. But I don’t feel that way. I don’t know why. 

I remember meeting people not like me—or the people I grew up with—for the first time as a freshman at university. They all seemed like people to me. What’s the big deal, I thought.

From For What It’s Worth by Buffalo Springfield

There’s battle lines being drawn

And nobody’s right if everybody’s wrong

Young people speaking their minds

Are gettin’ so much resistance from behind

[Chorus]

It’s time we stop

Hey, what’s that sound?

Everybody look what’s going down

And to the point today:

Paranoia strikes deep

Into your life, it will creep

It starts when you’re always afraid

Step out of line, the man come and take you away

[Chorus]

We better stop

Hey, what’s that sound?

Everybody look what’s going down

Love  Your Enemies

June 5, 2025

Love your enemies. Even the pagans love their friends.—Jesus

I’ve been on vacation in Virginia visiting sites that played roles in America’s formation. Thomas Jefferson’s Monticello. Williamsburg where Virginia’s delegates debated siding with Massachusetts in separating from England. Jamestown, the first permanent English settlement in America. Yorktown, where Cornwallis surrendered to Washington leading to the end of the “Revolutionary War.” Also bringing my wife and her sisters together again.

The trip fed many thoughts into my personal blender. Here is one:

Standing on the pier in the James River at Jamestown, I spotted a T-shirt on an upper-middle-aged man:

If this Fleig offends you I will help you pack.

My first thought—why has the flag become so politically divisive? Only conservatives are supposed to honor the flag? (I should note that our country has done many things of which I’m not proud. But still, it is my country. I hope I’ve done at least a little to support it. No one ever called me conservative.)

A second thought—Why be so pugnacious and in your face? Perhaps I have been too influenced by Jesus. Or, perhaps I’m not “feeling/judgmental” enough on the Myers-Briggs Types Indicator (I’m thinking/perceptive, which must be a minority).

I see this “in-your-face” use of language even from people who purport to be inclusive and loving (any United Methodist bishops reading this?). OK, I probably slip also at times. Feel free to call me out.

There’s a church loosely within my geographical area who had a slogan once, “Love everyone…always.” I’m not sure they did. But that sentiment obviously reflects the teaching we Jesus-followers are supposed to be practicing..always.

Love Grows Here

May 29, 2025

Or, does it, really.

Those flowers won’t grow–they are plastic.

Could this be a metaphor for how we share the love Jesus taught?

Images

May 2, 2025

Two images burned into my consciousness.

A well dressed white man with a large cross made of gold dangling from a gold chain around his neck. His message promoted on social media spread hate toward people who did not look or speak like him.

A man dressed in the garments of a teacher of his first century time with no social media, or even just media, explaining that following God meant loving your neighbor. Asked who was a neighbor, he told a story where the person embodying the neighbor was a man from the most despised social group of the area.

Two images. I know not the name of the first. I know (and follow) the second. Choose which to emulate wisely.

Too Much Complexity

March 28, 2025

The association that oversees development of networking systems met last week in Florida. Not the type of networking where people meet other people, although that is part of the reason I was there. This networking defines technology that allows many devices to connect to each other in an industrial setting.

An engineer from Procter & Gamble spoke at the conference in 2023. He explained how electricians and maintenance technicians install and troubleshoot the network in the company’s plants. “It’s too complex,” he proclaimed, “can’t you do something in your standards development to simplify things for us?”

A retired General Motors engineer spoke this year. He voiced a similar complaint that designing and implementing the network while keeping it secure from hackers was not specified and therefore left too much to chance. Once again, too much complexity.

Do you find the same thing when you read Bible study books or participate in a Bible study group and find that the discussion becomes far too complex?

There have been study groups where the leader suggested just blotting out some of the words to simplify things.

I suggest that you cannot do that.

Better is to say, “I don’t understand.”

A tip for reading Paul—return to the words of Jesus. I am always amazed at how he quotes Jesus writing before the Gospels were written. There is something behind the scenes that we just don’t know.

I many ways I am a “Red-Letter Christian.” (Some Bibles print Jesus’s words in red letters.) I believe that Jesus meant what he said. I believe that he expects us to do what he said we should do. Everything else is a footnote to:

You should love the Lord your God and your neighbor as yourself.

And who is your neighbor? Do what Jesus did for an example—pick someone from the most despised class of people that you know and show love to them.

If you find that complex, then we need to talk.

Love Your Enemies

March 18, 2025

Jesus set such impossible ways of living for us. We try to live according to his teaching. How could we possibly do this?

Love our enemies?

Early venture capital fund director and current executive coach Jerry Colonna stated on a podcast interview about loving even your enemies. While neither he or the interviewer was a Donald Trump supporter, he responded to a question about loving even him.

Colonna replied that he can see the injured little boy trying to live up to an exacting father, and he could love that little boy who was injured for life.

19th Century American writer Henry Wadsworth Longfellow noted, “If we could read the secret history of our enemies, we should find in each person’s life enough sorrow and suffering to disarm all hostility.”

Meditation teachers for most of my life have taught about awareness. Expanding that awareness beyond seeing just me (which many people are not even aware of themselves) to those around me and even far from me.

These practices can help us bring Jesus’s teaching into our lives in order to somehow bring some love even to our enemies.