Archive for the ‘Love’ Category

One Tin Soldier

September 26, 2025

So much hate spills out into our consciousness. Do people think that they can spew hate without consequence? It’s amazing how much energy we expend justifying ourselves.

Ponder this song from my youth:

Go ahead and hate your neighbor

Go ahead and cheat a friend

Do it in the name of heaven,

You can justify it in the end.

There won’t be any trumpets sounding

Come the judgement day.

On the bloody morning after

One tin soldier rides away.

(The Legend of Billy Jack, Peter, Paul, and Mary/Coven; author: peaceluvandbass)

Simple Surrender and Obedience

July 17, 2025

Sort of following yesterday’s thoughts on hate and divisiveness breaking my heart, is this meditation from Dietrich Bonhoeffer.

Humanly speaking, we could understand and interpret the Sermon on the Mount in a thousand different ways. Jesus knows only one possibility: simple surrender and obedience, not interpreting it or applying it, but doing and obeying it…. He does not mean that it is to be discussed as an ideal, he really means us to get on with it.

We waste so much energy arguing and defending some minute interpretation of theology. What would be Jesus’s reaction to all that? Would it be what Bonhoeffer suggested—that we take these teachings from Jesus and actually do something about them?

Perhaps we surrender our ego and greed and fear and pride—and serve our neighbor (see Luke’s telling of the Good Samaritan)?

Every evening before retiring reflect on where we showed kindness and where we were servants.

What Breaks Your Heart?

July 16, 2025

Andy Stanley asked in a recent message, “What breaks your heart?”

Discover that, then act on it.

I read the blog of Rich Dixon. An accident resulted in lower body paralysis. His story of overcoming his self-pity and riding a hand-crank cycle thousands of miles to raise money for a home that rescues children from sex trafficking. Those kids broke his heart enough to energize him to become a great leader.

What breaks my heart currently is the hate and vitriol and meanness of one group toward other groups. Even among people who identify as Christian. (If you think this doesn’t apply to you, then it probably does. Seems to be a human thing.)

 I have some understanding of the emotions that drive some of us to fear or despise people who are not like us. Perhaps even sympathy. But I don’t feel that way. I don’t know why. 

I remember meeting people not like me—or the people I grew up with—for the first time as a freshman at university. They all seemed like people to me. What’s the big deal, I thought.

From For What It’s Worth by Buffalo Springfield

There’s battle lines being drawn

And nobody’s right if everybody’s wrong

Young people speaking their minds

Are gettin’ so much resistance from behind

[Chorus]

It’s time we stop

Hey, what’s that sound?

Everybody look what’s going down

And to the point today:

Paranoia strikes deep

Into your life, it will creep

It starts when you’re always afraid

Step out of line, the man come and take you away

[Chorus]

We better stop

Hey, what’s that sound?

Everybody look what’s going down

Love  Your Enemies

June 5, 2025

Love your enemies. Even the pagans love their friends.—Jesus

I’ve been on vacation in Virginia visiting sites that played roles in America’s formation. Thomas Jefferson’s Monticello. Williamsburg where Virginia’s delegates debated siding with Massachusetts in separating from England. Jamestown, the first permanent English settlement in America. Yorktown, where Cornwallis surrendered to Washington leading to the end of the “Revolutionary War.” Also bringing my wife and her sisters together again.

The trip fed many thoughts into my personal blender. Here is one:

Standing on the pier in the James River at Jamestown, I spotted a T-shirt on an upper-middle-aged man:

If this Fleig offends you I will help you pack.

My first thought—why has the flag become so politically divisive? Only conservatives are supposed to honor the flag? (I should note that our country has done many things of which I’m not proud. But still, it is my country. I hope I’ve done at least a little to support it. No one ever called me conservative.)

A second thought—Why be so pugnacious and in your face? Perhaps I have been too influenced by Jesus. Or, perhaps I’m not “feeling/judgmental” enough on the Myers-Briggs Types Indicator (I’m thinking/perceptive, which must be a minority).

I see this “in-your-face” use of language even from people who purport to be inclusive and loving (any United Methodist bishops reading this?). OK, I probably slip also at times. Feel free to call me out.

There’s a church loosely within my geographical area who had a slogan once, “Love everyone…always.” I’m not sure they did. But that sentiment obviously reflects the teaching we Jesus-followers are supposed to be practicing..always.

Love Grows Here

May 29, 2025

Or, does it, really.

Those flowers won’t grow–they are plastic.

Could this be a metaphor for how we share the love Jesus taught?

Images

May 2, 2025

Two images burned into my consciousness.

A well dressed white man with a large cross made of gold dangling from a gold chain around his neck. His message promoted on social media spread hate toward people who did not look or speak like him.

A man dressed in the garments of a teacher of his first century time with no social media, or even just media, explaining that following God meant loving your neighbor. Asked who was a neighbor, he told a story where the person embodying the neighbor was a man from the most despised social group of the area.

Two images. I know not the name of the first. I know (and follow) the second. Choose which to emulate wisely.

Too Much Complexity

March 28, 2025

The association that oversees development of networking systems met last week in Florida. Not the type of networking where people meet other people, although that is part of the reason I was there. This networking defines technology that allows many devices to connect to each other in an industrial setting.

An engineer from Procter & Gamble spoke at the conference in 2023. He explained how electricians and maintenance technicians install and troubleshoot the network in the company’s plants. “It’s too complex,” he proclaimed, “can’t you do something in your standards development to simplify things for us?”

A retired General Motors engineer spoke this year. He voiced a similar complaint that designing and implementing the network while keeping it secure from hackers was not specified and therefore left too much to chance. Once again, too much complexity.

Do you find the same thing when you read Bible study books or participate in a Bible study group and find that the discussion becomes far too complex?

There have been study groups where the leader suggested just blotting out some of the words to simplify things.

I suggest that you cannot do that.

Better is to say, “I don’t understand.”

A tip for reading Paul—return to the words of Jesus. I am always amazed at how he quotes Jesus writing before the Gospels were written. There is something behind the scenes that we just don’t know.

I many ways I am a “Red-Letter Christian.” (Some Bibles print Jesus’s words in red letters.) I believe that Jesus meant what he said. I believe that he expects us to do what he said we should do. Everything else is a footnote to:

You should love the Lord your God and your neighbor as yourself.

And who is your neighbor? Do what Jesus did for an example—pick someone from the most despised class of people that you know and show love to them.

If you find that complex, then we need to talk.

Love Your Enemies

March 18, 2025

Jesus set such impossible ways of living for us. We try to live according to his teaching. How could we possibly do this?

Love our enemies?

Early venture capital fund director and current executive coach Jerry Colonna stated on a podcast interview about loving even your enemies. While neither he or the interviewer was a Donald Trump supporter, he responded to a question about loving even him.

Colonna replied that he can see the injured little boy trying to live up to an exacting father, and he could love that little boy who was injured for life.

19th Century American writer Henry Wadsworth Longfellow noted, “If we could read the secret history of our enemies, we should find in each person’s life enough sorrow and suffering to disarm all hostility.”

Meditation teachers for most of my life have taught about awareness. Expanding that awareness beyond seeing just me (which many people are not even aware of themselves) to those around me and even far from me.

These practices can help us bring Jesus’s teaching into our lives in order to somehow bring some love even to our enemies.

Valentine’s Day

February 14, 2025

February 14. A day set aside in many countries for couples to express their love—usually taken to mean romantic love.

It began, as many of our holidays, as an early Christian feast day for a Saint Valentine (it seems there was more than one of those in ancient times). 

A chocolatier in 1868 brilliantly conceived packaging chocolates in a red, heart-shaped box.

Love takes many forms. Most of us really don’t need a 2-lb. box of chocolate candy while we deal with our health.

But it might be a good day to acknowledge someone special.

Paying Attention

December 6, 2024

Love begins with paying attention to others. —John O’Donohue

Do we notice the person we serve when we perform an act of kindness?

When holding a door open for someone at the coffee house, pause, make eye contact, smile. Sometimes a smile is a little nudge of love that can perk up a down day.

When giving the person a couple of dollars to buy a StreetWise, looking at the person, acknowledging their existence. A bit of love’s energy flows to someone who needs it.

When someone speaks, listen with attention. 

[Note: StreetWise is a street magazine sold by people without homes or those at-risk for homelessness in Chicago.]