Archive for the ‘Living’ Category

Slow Down, You Move Too Fast

August 13, 2024

Slow down, you move too fast

You got to make the morning last

Just kicking down the cobblestones

Looking for fun and feelin’ groovy

Paul Simon, 59th Street Bridge Song

I tried getting things done as quickly as possible. I even tried doing two or three things at the same time.

Sitting in meditation during early mornings looking through my study window at the main street through our development, I’m reminded that the 25 miles per hour speed limit isn’t even a target for most drivers. They are in a hurry. 

Surely it isn’t only American culture (actually both urban and rural) where people are always in a hurry.

Let us pause and consider. Do we really need all that hurry? Slow down. Enjoy where you are. One of life’s many paradoxes consists of slowing down a little one task at a time and accomplishing more with less internal stress.

Slow down, you move too fast.

Heaven

June 19, 2024

I had one friend during my high school years. We shared interests in tennis, chess, and electronics. He lived across the street from me with his wife and three kids. He was a superb craftsman. He was also a Seventh-Day Adventist. I read some of Ellen G. White’s books. I cannot explain the theology.

One day we were walking home from the tennis courts as he explained heaven to me. “When we are in heaven, everything is perfect. We will play perfect games of tennis.”

I replied, “How boring that would be!”

I’ve studied the Bible for decades. I have no real clue that would tell me facts about the afterlife.

However, I do know that Jesus’ first message was to announce the Kingdom of Heaven was here, surrounding us, infusing us. In this life. Helping us live with-God.

I find debates about some future heaven tedious. Arguing from assumptions is only an intellectual game. I think I’ll just follow Jesus in the Kingdom of Heaven right now. I hope I can live up to the expectations of being a follower.

Learning To Live With Our Flaws

May 28, 2024

Wabi Sabi contains the meaning of living with inevitable flaws. This Japanese phrase adapts to a method of repairing broken pottery emphasizing the cracks rather than trying to hide them.

Many straight-A students are driven to perfectionism by fear of failure, fear of not being good enough. Often B and C students live better lives, are happier, and achieve greater things. Yet many parents and school systems emphasize the desirability of achieving straight-A status.

Looking to Jesus for advice on how to live, I see how he pokes at the Pharisees’ attempts to both live a perfect life and expect others to live a perfect life. He tended to show what we call grace toward people. He taught a life of constant tuning of the heart. 

I hate to be the bearer of this news for some of you, but perfectionism is not a sustainable lifestyle. We have to accept the little flaws in our coffee mug as well as those little flaws of sometimes saying the wrong thing or failing to help out when we could. Sometimes we are simply not perfect. And that’s OK. As long as we do the right things and have our hearts in the right place.

Being Ordinary

May 15, 2024

Each of us is exceptional in some way. People amaze me with their unique capabilities and knowledge when I talk with them. 

We live in a society that emphasizes being extraordinary. Parents push their kids (or hope their kids) are gifted. That they will meet society’s definitions of success—wealth, power, position.

Sign in the backyard of a house along the Metra rail line into Chicago—I just want to be ordinary.

I have no idea why they put up that sign. But I thought of people like Thoreau who were exceptional in their being unexceptional.

Do truly gifted people have the best lives? Do the richest people or those at the top echelon of the business hierarchy have the happiest lives?

Be who you are. And be comfortable in your skin.

  • Pursue what interests you—whether hobby or profession.
  • Serve others generously.
  • Devise a lifestyle of health and vigor.
  • Pray often.
  • Be kind.

Be extraordinary in your ordinaryness. 

Healthy Faith

May 10, 2024

I picked up these thoughts from Arthur C. Brooks, who wrote Build the Life You Want: The Art and Science of Getting Happier with Oprah Winfrey. He is a devout Catholic and is a friend of the Dalai Lama. After his recent visit, he jotted some notes from their conversation. He says it better than I could.Try living these, not as a checklist but incorporated as a fundamental way of life. Maybe I’ll write these on a PostIt note and put it on my desk as a reminder when I begin my day.

Healthy faith builds on seven truths: 

  • All people are our family; 
  • Life demands gratitude; 
  • Love repays love; 
  • We are made for empathy; 
  • Love is action, not a feeling; 
  • That action is compassion. 
  • Life’s purpose is to uplift and unite others. 

Become a teacher of love. Your classroom is every interaction. Teach through action.

Stubbornness Meets Jesus

April 10, 2024

I’m sure that you, like I, have met people who are kind of in your face with, “I can do what I want, when I want to do it, with whomever I wish to do it.” (Except they wouldn’t say “whomever”)

I’ve met many. A stubbornness about getting their own way and doing their own thing.

The thought struck me—what if they met the risen Jesus and had a conversation?

I thought about the answer—consequences.

What we do has consequences. For us. For others. For our future selves. For our future families.

When God created everything, he seemed to have baked in a certain if…then logic. Read the Hebrew prophets. Most of their warnings were of the if…then variety. If you keep doing this, then you will once again be a slave.

Jesus frequently said something to the effect of if you will follow me, then you will experience life. When he used the term eternal, he didn’t mean someday. He meant from now on.

Maybe you think you are entirely free to do whatever you want. But, no, you’re not. Someday there will be consequences. Paradoxically, you give up that supposed freedom to follow Jesus and find real freedom.

Life is weird sometimes.

Lessons for Life

April 3, 2024

Some Wednesday thoughts during an April (snow) shower.

Eating:

Emphasize vegetables over meat

Vinegary foods over salt

Whole fruit over juice and sugar

Chew more and swallow less

Eat food that looks like food and fewer ultra processed snacks

Health:

More sleep, Worry less

Laugh often, reduce anger

Act more, talk less

Give generously, reduce wants

Take long walks in nature

Walk more, ride less 

Resistance train, less time for social media

Read more good books, less time for social media

More good conversations over coffee

Slow Down, You Move Too Fast

January 10, 2024

Apologies to Paul Simon and his 59th Street Bridge Song:

Slow down, you move too fast

You got to make the morning last

Just kicking down the cobblestones

Looking for fun and feeling groovy

Paul Simon, 59th Street Bridge Song

We have laptop on the lap. Amazon is so easy. Instead of getting off our butts and going to a store like millennia of shoppers, we click and buy. Next day, delivery.

I cannot for the life of me fathom why a 55-and-older community has so many people in a hurry. But as I go out for morning exercise, I cannot believe the number of speeding cars who also have not enough time to stop at a stop sign.

I just listened to an interview with Michael Easter, author of Scarcity Brain: Fix Your Craving Mindset and Rewire Your Habits to Thrive with Enough. He talked about staying for a while in a monastery and again staying with natives in the Arctic. He learned to slow down. Then he felt much better—mentally and physically.

Once I rushed everything I did. Perhaps it was Chicago traffic that helped cure that inner urge to rush. If you can’t go anywhere faster than 5 mph, then you just turn on some good music and chill.

Paul Simon had an image of just kicking down the cobblestones on the approach to the 59th Street Bridge in New York. We all need an image of slowing, taking it easy, feeling groovy. We can get our work done without raising a cloud of dust—and anxiety.

Deliver Us From Evil

November 17, 2023

…Deliver us from evil (or deliver us from the evil one). — Jesus on prayer

I was in high school thinking through my newfound stance on pacifism encouraged by my reading of the words of Jesus. I have a fuzzy memory of sitting on the front porch of the house of a couple of girls I knew. Probably I was there to talk to one of them. But I was a socially awkward geek. My memories are of talking with their mother. She asked pointed questions probing the various ramifications of a pacifistic life orientation. We had to my mind great and meaningful conversations. 

Some who adopt an orientation toward peace forget that Jesus tells us, as if we couldn’t figure it out on our own, that evil exists.

He told us to ask God to deliver us from the grasp of evil.

Most of us can manage to wander through life without coming face-to-face with evil. That is a blessing. Many cannot. It can intrude at the most unexpected times and places. Maybe from friends and neighbors we have known for years.

We can debate theology, but that leads nowhere. The foundation question concerns how we respond. Do we let evil become our master and respond to evil with evil? 

Maybe we allow God to deliver us—maybe by providing the extra strength we need to confront evil and conquer it.

When we are living with God perhaps we are infused with trust that we can respond to each situation as God would have us—seek peace, confront with strength. And also ask for discernment so that we don’t mistake someone’s angst for evil and respond wrongly.

Giving and Receiving Grace

November 6, 2023

I have been able to discern through the practice of many spiritual disciplines that God comes to us through grace, or maybe more understandable (less theologically laden) we can say kindness. Some say forgiveness. I like kindness. God extends it. We humans can accept it, or not.

Accepting it, we can begin living with-God. Jesus called it living in the Kingdom of Heaven. It starts with the realization and acceptance that there is a God, and that God offers a better way to live. No rules, no judgement. God tried that rules thing (614 plus additional ones in the Hebrew Bible and Jewish 1st century practice?). 

Sounds simple. Why do we complicate it?

Unfortunately for us, it doesn’t stop there. It’s not all about you (and me).

Living with-God having accepted God’s grace, we must extend that grace to others. Responding to those who are injured and hurting; giving with a generous heart; having conversations with (not at) people showing care; practicing active listening. 

Thinking we can live within God’s grace and not share it is like that light hidden under a basket or being salt without savor. Pretty much worthless.

Perform a thought experiment. What would your household, neighborhood, community, nation, world be like if even half of us practiced sharing grace?