Archive for the ‘Intention’ Category

What Your Mind Believes

June 6, 2024

I became curious about how people came to believe ideas. People I knew could hold fast in a belief beyond all evidence to the contrary. When it came to religion, say Judaism and Christianity, people could read the same words (albeit in different languages which presents a problem) and hold opposite beliefs.

So, I read deeply in psychology and then in the burgeoning field of brain/body physiology. Discoveries poured forth in the late 80s and 90s.

I learned about the complex interconnectedness of electrical signals in the brain and nervous system and the various chemicals secreted in the gut. We continue to learn more of this interconnectedness.

Two takeaways presented themselves.

First, your brain will believe whatever you tell it to believe, especially when it is reinforced. Now, if that belief is connected to strong feelings emanating from the gut, here comes one of those firm beliefs. And we know how hard it is for people to change their minds.

This leads us to the inevitable conclusion that we must be intentional about what we feed the mind. A steady diet of our favorite news TV—what is that doing to our brain? Even more reason to study reputable spiritual writing.

Second, let us consider the interconnectedness. As Paul wrote about how the church is one body made up of many parts, he had no clue about how deep that interconnectedness goes in our bodies. So, our churches and communities need to be even more intentional about how we are and should be interconnected.

When The Ego Gets In The Way

May 24, 2024

I write about practice. I practice Yoga. I practice my guitar (OK, not enough). I have spiritual practices. I encourage you often to intentionally develop practices.

Then I came to this thought from the writer Steven Pressfield, “In other words, when our motivation is grounded in our ego, we do not have a practice.”

Yes, motivation. Do I make that list in order to impress people? Or to make myself feel better? Or, do I want to improve my physical health, develop a skill, and experience God?

Checking where our ego resides becomes an important part of the day. The ego can provide strength. It can also assume power over us negating our practices.

By the way, Pressfield’s The War of Art is a classic for creatives.

Are You a Planner or a Doer?

May 7, 2024

Arnold Schwarzenegger forged a career from body builder to actor to “governator” of California. Preaching fitness for everyone has been a consistent concern throughout his life.

Writing this week in his daily newsletter Pump Club, he discusses how so many of us plan to do things but then never get around to actually doing.

In more than 50 years of my fitness crusade, I cannot count how many times I’ve heard people say they are planning on starting to train or planning on starting a diet. It is always a plan to start on Monday, or the first of the month, or next year. It is never a plan to start now. I see it in the comments of the Pump Club app, in the replies to our daily emails here, and I even hear it from people in the gym. Always planning. Everybody who plans has good intentions, but let’s be honest about what it really is. Planning means you’re not taking action. You’re choosing to avoid getting started. Doing takes effort. Choosing to work on yourself is hard. You know it will be uncomfortable. Changing the status quo is never easy. So you plan. You research. You spin your wheels until you say you wish you could be healthy. And then you start all over, planning and wishing. You wait and wait.

This sounds so familiar. The change you wish may be to lose weight. Or maybe start getting physically fit. Or maybe spiritually fit—I will start studying the Bible Monday or I will have a prayer and meditation session every early morning some day.

Back to Arnold:

I spoke to the annual convention of thoracic surgeons last month. When I sat down to talk to some of my cardiologist friends for coffee after my fireside chat, it was clear most people wait until the choice is made for them — or until it’s too late to make any choices at all.

Will it take a crisis of soul to divert us from the easy path to a life of intentional spiritual practices? Don’t wait for next Monday. Begin today. Right now.

Time for a Change?

May 6, 2024

The Christian life, the spiritual life is all about change. 

I was that sort of person. Now, I am becoming this sort of person. Maybe gradually or maybe suddenly. Maybe I learn a little every day. Maybe something is revealed to me a little at a time. Maybe an event happens opening my eyes to what I’ve been and what I could be.

A preacher used to turn to his right and motion a direction and then turn to his left and motion a direction. That’s repentance, he said, I was going that way, and now I’m going this way.

I’m writing this at 6am on a Monday morning. I have a busy week this week and will be meeting many people—both in person and over the Web. 

What will I learn from these encounters? Will I see or hear something that nudges me a bit along the way? Something that opens my eyes just a little? Or a lot?

If I am open to God’s presence for another week, what will happen?

Intention Determines Direction

April 12, 2024

Race car drivers—Don’t ever look at the wall, for that is the next place you’ll be.

Intention determines direction. Where you look, where your thoughts dwell, that is where you’re going and what you’ll become.

Or stated the other way,

The road to hell is not paved with good intentions. It is paved with lack of intention.

Determine each day “what good will I do today?” Therein lies intention.

First Things

January 17, 2024

Physicists talk of first principles. The basic laws or principles of nature. You can jump from a second-story window and hope you won’t fall and break some bones, but you will fall. Gravity is a law. 

One of my mentors when I was learning mechanical design told me, “You can’t violate the laws of physics.”

Another first is what you do.

Suggestion:

Put first things first.

What is your first thing, your first principle? Or your next first thing?

God? Work? Family? Yourself? Your image? Your addiction?

Better sort out what the really important first thing is. Then put it first. Use intention. Don’t drift into it. Or, you may drift into violating a law of nature and wind up with fractured health or relationships or life.

The Power of Keeping Your Mouth Shut

October 19, 2023

Dan Lyons, technology reporter, came to awareness of a glaring fault while sitting alone in an apartment while his wife and children were still living at home.

His problem—he talked too much. When he got started, his kids would talk about “Danalogues.” The problem is so prevalent in our society that it has a name—“overtalking.”

Some people never stop. My mother-in-law was a sweet lady, but she never met a silence that shouldn’t be filled. Maybe you know people like that. Even worse are those in such a rush to talk that they constantly interrupt and talk over others. Now we’ve gone from gently amusing to greatly annoying. If any of this resembles you, you may be a “talkaholic.” In that case, this book is for you.

His book is Stfu: The Power of Keeping Your Mouth Shut in an Endlessly Noisy World. There is a little analysis tool in the beginning that will help you discern your talkativeness.

“Speaking with intention,” he says in the introduction, “that is, not just blurting things out, improves our relationships, makes us better parents, and can boost our psychological and even physical well-being.”

Lyons not only describes the malady in graphic detail, he also offers five tips to STFU

  1. When possible, say nothing.
  2. Master the power of the pause.
  3. Quit social media.
  4. Seek out silence.
  5. Learn how to listen.

If you read nothing else in the book, do the first chapter on the problem and the last chapter on listening. Most people hear noise, but most people don’t really listen.

I can enter a room and quietly listen and observe and be happy. But if someone asks me a question, I’m capable of a half-hour exposition on the topic. I needed the book! I once taped a small note to the top of my notebook that said only STFU. (That means shut up, if you don’t get the initialism.)

Try it. You’ll like it.

In Pursuit of Virtue

September 8, 2023

The realization hit me squarely in the face. Recent reading seems to return to the theme of virtue. Christian reading. Reading from the Stoics. General reading.

Virtue.

I’d like to believe I lead a life of virtue. Don’t you? Wouldn’t it hurt if someone told us, “What you just did was not virtuous.”

Me, being me, wondered, what does it mean to be virtuous?

One of my bosses told me many years ago that everyone knew who the good teachers in the school were even though you couldn’t quantify it. He was an engineer. That’s an amazing statement from a numbers-driven person.

Perhaps virtue is similar. We all know a virtuous person even if we can’t really define it.

But, that doesn’t help us. When we leave our beds in the morning (or whenever you happen to rise), how are we going to behave starting then in a way that could be described as virtuous?

I’m not a fan of lists. Especially lists of rules we need to follow. Sometimes, though, a list can spur our thinking. Beginning a list of 20 thoughts about a topic can lead to a breakthrough idea. I offer this list from Benjamin Franklin, yes that guy whose face adorns the 100-dollar bill. He was a fan of checklists and introspection. He had a checklist of these virtues that he would use to measure his day every evening.

This list comes courtesy of Wikipedia.

  • Temperance: Eat not to Dullness. Drink not to Elevation.
  • Silence: Speak not but what may benefit others or yourself. Avoid trifling Conversation.
  • Order: Let all your Things have their Places. Let each Part of your Business have its Time.
  • Resolution: Resolve to perform what you ought. Perform without fail what you resolve.
  • Frugality: Make no Expense but to do good to others or yourself; i.e. Waste nothing.
  • Industry: Lose no Time. Be always employed in something useful. Cut off all unnecessary Actions.
  • Sincerity: Use no hurtful Deceit. Think innocently and justly; and, if you speak, speak accordingly.
  • Justice: Wrong none, by doing Injuries or omitting the Benefits that are your Duty.
  • Moderation: Avoid Extremes. Forbear resenting Injuries so much as you think they deserve.
  • Cleanliness: Tolerate no Uncleanness in Body, Clothes or Habitation.
  • Tranquility: Be not disturbed at Trifles, or at Accidents common or unavoidable.
  • Chastity: Rarely use Venery but for Health or Offspring; Never to Dullness, Weakness, or the Injury of your own or another’s Peace or Reputation.
  • Humility: Imitate Jesus and Socrates.

One Little Comment Makes A Difference

July 12, 2023

It was my first week at elementary school. An older kid made a comment. It was probably one of those weak joke comments kids (and adults) sometimes make. That comment influenced a behavior during my next 10 years at school. And decades later I still recall the scene.

Take care with what you say. A word of encouragement can change a life. One derogatory comment can also change a life.

Which would you rather receive, even today?

Which would you like to say?

Be one who encourages at all times. Don’t be the person who destroys dreams.

Living Mindlessly

April 24, 2023

Have you ever been in the shower and suddenly wonder whether you’ve done the shampoo part or not?

Has it happened more than once?

With me, it happens often. My mind is far away from what I’m doing.

I guess I’ve always been that way. We were married in June and were temporarily living in my small home village. I was a total social nerd. One of my exceptionally nice aunts pulled my wife aside for tea or something females do. I guess my aunt told my unsuspecting bride that I wasn’t always aware of people around. “I believe he’s always thinking about something.” She was perceptive. Even as a teen, my mind was lost in the world of ideas.

How many times have we been around others and unaware of the signals they are sending? How many thoughtless things have we said without thinking? Our mind was in ourselves not them?

This morning, these thoughts came to me as I brewed coffee. But I was aware also of the coffee in the early morning. And now my chair and the laptop perched on my thighs and the early spring scene outside my window with the robins hunting and the mourning doves calling. It’s been a long process to live mindfully, to concentrate on the minute and the experience at hand, to act intentionally. In a paradox, it slows me in order to speed me.