Archive for the ‘Disciplines’ Category

Share Your God Experience Through Listening

January 16, 2013

Last weekend I heard a speaker who gave two presentations on sharing God with others.  Those who have read this blog for a while know that I consider listening a Spiritual discipline. He didn’t go that far, but as he talked about sharing with people, that point came through.

Someone said, how do you start a discussion on Spiritual topics. There didn’t seem to be a formula. I have not found a formula. But sometimes asking a question such as “how are you” and listening to the reply is a great starter. You can ask a follow up “why is that” type of question. Then “how does that make you feel”.

There are some keys. No matter to whom you are talking, it is important not to be condescending or judgmental. That will just turn people away and build a wall.

You build a conversation and watch for the appropriate opening. One thing I’ve found is not to give advice–exactly. But you can share what you’ve experienced. If people have been hurt or are cynical about “religion” just talk about the essentials. It’s not about religion. It’s about your life. How you live. What’s its purpose. Meeting the right sort of friends. Caring. Being cared for.

It’s not religion–it’s life.

Someone asked about different religions. When I was growing up, the different religion we worried about was Roman Catholicism. My, times are different. But I have friends who are Muslim and Hindu. Doesn’t matter to me. I can still simply talk about the Spirit and what it means in my life. People are interested in the spirit. If I can just encourage that, I’ve done them a great service.

It all starts with listening. With your heart. No agenda. Except to share what you have for where they are in their life.

Don’t be afraid. It’s fun.

Achieve a Simple and Pure Life

January 14, 2013

” ‘Tis a gift to be simple, ’tis a gift to be free.”

That’s a line from an old Shaker hymn known as “Simple Gifts.”

One spiritual practice that doesn’t always land on the charts up there with prayer and study is the practice of simplicity.

Clutter in your environment is a distraction. It impedes or prevents focus on what’s important. It is good in the beginning of a new year to take the time to clear out the accumulated clutter of the past year.

Some of that clutter may be physical. You may have too much stuff. We tend to buy things and add them to a room. It becomes like the metaphor of boiling a frog–if the water temperature is raised a little at a time the frog won’t notice when danger is upon it. Just so, a little at a time we add clutter until our living space is no longer simple and pure.

We can also clutter our minds and souls with clutter. Memories that need to be released. Poisonous relationships that need to be purged. Too much thinking, not enough doing. Focus and clarity must be our guides.

Matthew reports that Jesus said, “Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God.” Pure means not mixed. Not an alloy. Nothing added. This can be related to simplicity. Unadorned. Uncluttered. Focused.

Jesus was most concerned about the state of our hearts. Keep it simple and pure. You shall see God. Maintaining simplicity as a practice helps us on our way to God.

Pray With a Listening Heart

January 11, 2013

The most important book for my spiritual development that I’ve read in the last couple of years is titled simply “Jesus of Nazareth” written by Joseph Ratzinger, who is now Pope Benedict XVI. This was written from his personal quest to discover who Jesus is. Despite the fact that he is a fantastic scholar, this book is not a dense scholarly  tract, but a very readable tour through the gospels in search of Jesus.

Lately I’ve been discussing practical advice on starting the new year by starting new patterns of our lives. Firstly, by getting up early to study and pray. This lays a foundation for the day to keep us organized and focused rather than a day characterized by rushing from one crisis to the next mostly caused by our failure to focus and plan.

Ratzinger said something interesting while discussing the Lord’s Prayer (the Our Father in Catholic tradition, I guess). When we pray “Thy Kingdom come,” he says, we should pray with a listening heart. After all, the Kingdom is a relationship with Jesus. We should be listening, right? He knows more than we. He saw the face of God.

As you prepare your day by arising earlier, studying and praying, pause and listen. It may only be five minutes. I’ve gone as long as a couple of hours, but I can’t do that every day and still do my day job.

What is God trying to tell you today?

Practice Prayer As a Conversation

January 10, 2013

Funny thing about Jesus. He came as a human. He related as a human. He encouraged his followers to trust in him as in a relationship. He did not proclaim himself son of god, lord of lords, prince of peace (all titles Augustus Caesar gave himself). He reflected God because he had seen God face to face just as Moses and the prophets had foreseen.

When we come into the the practice of prayer, we come into a conversation with a person. We are not merely pleading with a distant, foreboding entity–on on the graces of the political ruler trying to make himself God. We are just in a conversation.

Sometimes in a conversation among friends, one of the people does all the talking. The other listens. One would hope practicing “active listening,” that is, actually paying attention to the speaker. God, we trust, always listens. We can do the talking.

Then a point of the conversation occurs when you stop talking. Then you listen. Sometimes the other can merely offer empathy. Maybe that’s all you need–someone to listen. Other times the other may ask a question designed to make you take a deeper look into why you feel that way. Maybe you mistook a comment to mean one thing when it was meant as another and you became angry or disappointed. Again other times the other may offer guidance.

Jesus says many times that we are to trust in him just as in our very best friend. Sometimes he just listens. Sometimes he asks a question. Sometimes he gives advice and direction.

Practicing prayer means finding regular times in a day (Jesus went up on a mountain side to pray evidently every evening; Daniel went to his room three times a day) to have a conversation. With a friend.

Listening is part of having a conversation. Sometimes I listen first, talk later. Sometimes all I do is listen. Usually I will concentrate on people whom I know that have needs and bring them into the prayer silently.

The hard part of faith is that I trust that God is there even when there is no answer. It’s not a matter of answered prayer. It is a matter that I trust God to be there.

As You Act, So Shall You Become

January 9, 2013

Yesterday, I talked about determining who you want to be. Before that I talked about getting up early to read, meditate, get ready for the day.

Say you woke up this morning and said, I’d like to be a more spiritual person. Except for a rare few, it doesn’t just happen. It’s really a journey. The journey starts with behaviors that become the pattern of your life.

It starts with getting up early. It’s quiet. You can study, meditate and pray. And it really only needs to be 30 minutes or so. If you can get in an hour, that’s great. In some ways it’s easier for me, because I don’t have small children at home. But when I visit my son’s family, the little ones know I get up early. So I don’t have as much time. But I have my cup of coffee and quiet time. When they get up, they know I’ll be downstairs and we can have some quiet time watching the sun rise and chatting.

I talked about changing your story–that idea you plant in your brain that says “I’m not a morning person.” But let’s change some behaviors.

It starts with getting prepared the night before. Do some of the things you might rush around doing in the morning–pack your (and your kids’) lunch; lay out your clothes; set your alarm. Plan out how many hours of sleep you need and go to bed earlier if necessary. Maybe that means you DVR your 10 pm TV shows (if you are still addicted to that thing) for later viewing. Make you to-do list the night before. That gets it off your mind.

Get up, turn on lights. Fix a cup of coffee or tea. Have your book already out by your favorite chair.

Commit to doing it for 21 days. After that time, it should become a habit.

Oh, and do it weekends, too. Don’t sleep in until 8 for two days and expect to get back into it. Maybe you’re up a half-hour later, but don’t sleep in.

As you act, so shall you become. If you begin to act in spiritual ways–and study, meditation and prayer are excellent starting places–you will reflect one day about how your life has changed.

Be Someone Before You Do Something

January 8, 2013

Before a weaver begins weaving a pattern into the cloth she’s making, there must be a clear picture of what that cloth is to be. Is it a Tartan plaid for a scarf or a herringbone for a jacket. Regardless, the first priority before beginning to make the cloth is to know what the cloth will eventually be.

I’m still working out the idea of patterns in your life. Rather than resolutions or goals, I’m thinking more about what my life looks like and then living into it.

You must be someone before figuring out what to do.

Jesus wanted us to be the kind of person who “leans on” (translation of the Greek that John uses for believe in) or “leans toward” him. The first thing is to be a person with a relationship with Jesus.

Beyond that, what else would you like to be. Andy Stanley recently talked about writing the script for the talk the pastor will give at your funeral. There might be a little about what you did, but mostly it will be about who you were.

You might, for example, write down a few keywords that describe who you are/striving to be. Honest. Transparent. Servant. Trustworthy.

If you see yourself as a good teacher leading people into faith and knowledge, then your to do list becomes easier to figure out. You will do things that help you become a better teacher. And you will do things to put yourself in a teaching situation.

Even more foundational are the qualities that guide daily life. Honesty, for example, means when you are faced with a situation where you might want to squirm out through the use of falsehood, you decline that urge and deal honestly.

By striving to be the sort of person you envision–the whole cloth so to speak–you begin picking up habits that move you in that direction.

That’s where the Spiritual Disciplines come in. Developed over millennia, the practices of study, prayer, meditation, celebration, worship and the rest help you become that person you want to be.

 

Developing Your Life Pattern

January 7, 2013

This is the time of resolutions, goals, objectives. You tell yourself, “This year I’m going to (insert wish here).”

Many of us who  have lived through this, and observed others, and have pondered these things have developed the idea of forming habits rather than adopting goals or New Year’s Resolutions.

There was a man (I was told this story by a third person) who was always late. Late for appointments. Late with reports. Just totally disorganized.

One day, he decided that rather than lose his job and even his family he would change the way he lived. He adopted one small new habit–he decided to start getting up a half-hour earlier in the morning. He heard that if you fill your mind with the right things in the mornings it would set the tone for a better day. So he got up and read something that was educational or inspirational.

This worked so well for him, that he started getting up even earlier and reading longer. People noticed the change. He became a top-performing sales person in the organization.

Your story

What do you tell yourself about yourself? Do you say “I’m not” often? “I’m not a morning person.”

What if you changed your story? What if you told yourself, “I get up early so that I can read from the Bible and meditate before I go out to face the world”? Your mind believes what you tell it repeatedly. You can change your story.

What if you began the year looking at the pattern of your life? Do you feel defeated or insecure? Do you lack energy? Do you watch too much TV?

You can weave a new pattern that includes getting up early to start the day with God. Then you can go out and view every event and situation of the day as an opportunity for service. Where you set your daily patterns, your life and thoughts will follow.

Maybe this is the year you begin to live more fully. It’s your decision.

Finding and Following Your Call

January 4, 2013

Do you have a call? Are you sure you are following it?

Through different periods of my life, I’ve paused and asked God to let me know his calling for me. I’ve done many different things. I hope some of them were what God wanted. Listening is part of my daily routine.

So, it was either interesting or timely that I received a little brochure from an organization that I support financially called Lumunos. Sometime in the early 70s I ran across a little magazine titled after the organization that published it–Faith@Work. I never made it to one of their small group weekends, but the magazine was a source of nourishment for probably 30 years or more.

The organization has shrunk some. Finances forced the closing of the magazine. It still publishes a small version and has a blog. It’s worth checking out.

I searched the Website and didn’t find this brochure on it. So I’ll just give you some of the wisdom.

The Top Ten Reasons to Listen For and Follow Your Call

10. You will be less busy. (Following your call may mean saying no to many things that distract you from your call.)

9. You will have more energy. (From Isaiah 58:11, “The Lord will guide you continually, and satisfy your needs in parched places, and make your bones strong; and you shall be like a watered garden, like a spring of water, whose waters never fail.”

8. There will be less chance of burning out. (Henri Nouwen, “God does not want you go destroy yourself. Exhaustion, burnout, and depression are not signs that you are doing God’s will.”)

7. You will be more fun to be around. (As we do God’s will, we will have more joy.)

6. You will feel less stress. (Following call invites us to trust that we are not the ‘saviors’ of the world.)

5. You will be more creative. (When creativity is flowing, it is often a sign of call.)

4. You will be less fragmented. (Call is about the whole of our lives, and it brings the pieces together.)

3. You will have more good friends. (Common interests creates friendships.)

2. You will do less sleepwalking through life. (It requires that we pay attention to what is going on outside us and inside us.)

1. The world begins to look more the way God intends. (Frederick Buechner, “The place God calls you to is the place where your deep gladness and the world’s deep hunger meet.”)

Doing Your One Thing This Year

January 2, 2013

What is the one thing that is most important to you this year that you must work on?

I haven’t done New Year’s Resolutions for many years. That sort of thing simply doesn’t work. It’s like every January my Yoga class swells to triple its normal size from all the people who set fitness as a resolution. By February, they’re gone. Same in the fitness center.

Nehemiah (a man and a book in the Old Testament) had a task set before him by God. It was to rebuild the walls of Jerusalem. More than a hundred years earlier, the Babylonians had torn down the walls, looted and destroyed the Temple and carried away many of the people. He wanted to restore that.

When enemies tried to divert him, he replied, “”I am doing a great work, why should I come down?”

Andy Stanley has turned me on to the study of Nehemiah. Lots of interesting leadership teachings. In a recent talk, (here is a link to it in iTunes), he talked about our “one thing.”

What is your “one thing?” Is it a relationship that must be fixed? Or severed? Or a new habit you need to bring into your life? Or a new mission you’ve felt God calling you to? Or a destructive habit (drinking, smoking, anger) that needs to be replaced?

One Example

Sometimes the people of a nation get worked into a frenzy of war and hate. The Balkans had a period of that. But sometimes governments posture and provoke because of the personalities of the leaders, not necessarily because the people want it.

In the face of a pending war between Israel and Iran, a graphic artist did his “one thing” although he never thought it would be so big. In this TED Talk, Ronny Edry explains “Israel and Iran, A Love Story” and the results of posting a picture of a poster he created of himself and his daughter with a bold message: “Iranians … we [heart] you” on Facebook from people in Iran and eventually around the world.

What if the voice of all the people who want to live in peace were heard? Maybe that’s a big thing for this year.

Israel and Iran, A Love Story

Stay In The Moment

December 27, 2012

As we bring spiritual practices into the pattern of our daily lives, we become ever more aware of the forces that intrude into our balance. Perhaps relationships with dysfunctional people. Perhaps worries about what we did yesterday or what may happen tomorrow.

Every ancient wisdom and religion I have studied up to and including modern social science has taught the importance of living only in the moment. T.S. Eliot said in Burnt Norton, “At the still point of the turning world is the dance. And there is only the dance.”

That brings me to one piece of practical advice that just happens to be supported by a scientific study as reported by Matt Killingsworth in this TED Talk on Happiness. He found that happy people tended to focus more on the present and bring their thoughts back from their wanderings.

Science “proves” ancient wisdom

For years scientists have uncovered the many benefits of meditation. Here’s on on remaining in the moment. I discovered this many years ago. My hair stylist at the time said that we were worriers due to our German heritage. Don’t know about the truth of that statement, but I know I got it from Mom (didn’t we all get our phobias from mom?).

Then I discovered techniques such as when I caught my mind wandering into all manner of weird thoughts and worries and fears of what tomorrow may bring, I would consciously bring it back to the present moment. If necessary, I would consciously choose to focus on something else–usually something much more pleasant. In that way, I could change my mood.

Our pastor in a recent talk mentioned three Laws that he uses. Trust me, they work.

Law of Attention: Become aware of what you are focusing on.

Law of Exchange: As you become aware that you are focusing on negativity, exchange that thought with a positive one.

Law of Reversibility: If I don’t like the way I’m thinking, I can work my way out of it.

We must first be aware of what we’re thinking. Don’t go through life reacting to every passing thought. That’s a definition of insanity. Become aware of yourself. Then you can change yourself.