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Excellence Is A Habit

February 6, 2013

“You are what you repeatedly do. Excellence, therefore, is not an act but a habit.” The Greek philosopher Aristotle wrote that 350 years before Jesus.

I started thinking about this thought in relation to Spiritual practices. Part of the idea of learning the different practices (study, prayer, meditation, service, celebration, worship and so forth) is to bring them into your life and make the practice of them a habit. Something you do regularly without stopping to wonder what you do next.

One of my small groups has been studying the letter to the Hebrews. That writer is most concerned about people who join the fellowship and then gradually slip away. The Willow Creek Association conducted a massive research project (we live in the scientific age, after all) that discovered that people get themselves out of the spiritual doldrums through developing an intentional Spiritual practice–most often beginning with immersing themselves in the study of the Word.

The writer of Hebrews said, “Do not, therefore, abandon that confidence of yours; it brings a great reward. For you need endurance, so that when you have done the will of God, you may receive what was promised.”

What habits have you slipped into this year, so far? Have you begun getting up a little earlier so that you can read and meditate? Have you been intentional looking for ways to serve? Is it time to develop a new habit?

I think Aristotle assumed that we would develop good habits that lead to excellence. I keep working on mine.

Adding Structure to Your Life And Your Kids

January 30, 2013

Structure is very important to how I live. I organize myself around it. That’s why I appreciate the Spiritual Disciplines (or Spiritual Practices). That’s why I practice rising early every morning and encourage others to do the same.

I often discuss structure in the life of kids. Beginning from just days old, kids need structure. They need to know boundaries. They need to know “yes” from “no”. They need a certain regularity. My daughter is a therapist who works with kids. She deals with the result of lack of structure many times a day.

Here is another TED Talk. Chris Anderson, the founder of the TED Talks, calls them “Ideas worth sharing.” I agree, so I’m sharing this talk from Colin Powell, “Kids Need Structure.” He’s the retired Army general and former US Secretary of State. He rose from rebellious kid to the top of his profession. Worth 10 minutes of your time. And if it causes you to help a kid grow, then it’s priceless.

Causes Have Effects On Our Lives

January 25, 2013

Paul wrote in his letter to the Romans, “The wages of sin is death.”

When I hear that, my mind pictures one of those hardhearted, judgmental types of people who aggressively invade your space and tell you you’re going to Hell.

Actually, I think he was trying to say that “what we sow, therefore shall we reap.” Jesus taught also about causes and effects in our lives.

We could call it the eventual burning in Hell with images evoked from Dante or Renaissance paintings. Better to think of it as the hell we live in if we don’t pay attention to causes and effects.

In America, many writers are exploring the increasing income divide  between rich and middle class-to-poor people. I wish to discuss neither economics or politics. Rather, I recently saw a talk where a graph was displayed showing the correlation of the decline of marriage and growth of economic inequality.

The decline of stable marriages with two partners pulling together has had disastrous effect on the quality of many lives. Life becomes a struggle, which you have to face alone–or with children mixed in a family where each have different parents. Years of political and economic policies along with business decisions to drive down wages makes it mandatory to have two incomes to live a middle class lives. Saw this coming in the late 80s. Now we have it full on.

I remember still being a rebellious adolescent. “You’re not going to tell me what to do. I don’t need those conservative structures.”

It’s not about conservative or liberal. We grow and observe with increased clarity. What  we sow, so shall we reap. Some confuse freedom–much like the so-called prodigal son. He squandered his inheritance–in the Greek his essence, his very being.

Responsibility, marriage, commitment. These are not conservative words. They are not slavery words. They are growth words. Only from a strong foundation can we grow into the peace of Christ. I think that this is a Spiritual practice that helps us toward ultimate freedom of a with-God life.

Excellence Is A Habit

January 23, 2013

This is the 500th post to this blog. I sort of played around with it for a while, then got serious a couple of years ago. I appreciate all the comments either here or by email or Facebook or Twitter.

Rummaging around for a quote for Yoga class last night, I ran across this one from the Greek philosopher Aristotle:

“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, therefore, is not an act, but a habit.”

You just need to keep doing the best you can and pretty soon that becomes a habit. Just like a morning routine. Or, like service.

In the U.S., we have stop lights at most intersections. To expedite traffic flow (well roundabouts are better, but we won’t go there), it is usually legal to turn right on a red light after stopping and checking for oncoming traffic.

I noticed some time ago that if the light is changing and I have space, I’ll move into the left lane if there is no one in the right. In that way someone behind me who wishes to turn right can do so without waiting for the light to cycle.

Someone else just wrote that they noticed someone else who does that. Out of habit. One little service to others.

So I wondered, do we make serving others a habit? Not necessarily one big annual go out and do something. But in several daily acts, repeated every day. In other words, is serving others an act? Or, a habit?

I think of all the times that Jesus served in little ways (well, for him little) even when it distracted him from what he was doing or where he was going. He stopped and served. It was a habit. Part of his life.

From these habits of service weaves a pattern of a Christ-like life.

Happiness Comes From Being In the Moment

January 18, 2013

What makes you happy? Big house? Expensive car? Large income? In the United States we have achieved this. Yet, there seems to be worry, fear, anxiety–everything but happiness.

Ancient wisdom taught that we are best when we live in the moment. We neither fret over what we did yesterday, nor worry about what may happen tomorrow.

Athletes report that when they are in “The Zone” they are exceedingly happy. When their entire focus is on the next  play, on just the moment, neither replaying the last play or thinking three plays ahead. They are just at one with the game, teammates, competitors and the game flows.

Jesus taught (see Matthew 6 for example) that we should not worry. It does us no good. I can’t think of anyone else I’ve ever read about who lived as much in the moment as Jesus.

I am trained in science and the scientific method. I have no conflict within me about science and religion. I do not thing they are separate spheres, either. But often they study different things. I also believe the ancients were scientists, too. They observed, thought about it, observed some more, and wrote what they learned.

But they didn’t have iPhones and a ubiquitous connection called the Internet with the Web to study things. Matt Killingsworth did. He set up a study with many thousands of people checking in with their iPhones so that he could study what people were doing when they were happy or unhappy at the moment.

He defined focus on the present and mind-wandering as the two variables to study. He found a significant correlation between mind wandering and unhappiness–or the other way around, a correlation of focus on the moment to happiness.

Ah, science, always there to prove ancient wisdom is correct.

I picked this up on a TED Talk. Here is his presentation:

Matt Killingsworth Be Happier Stay in the Moment

Wisdom Sayings Are A Guide For the Heart

January 17, 2013

“Happiness is something that multiplies when it is divided.”

A friend posted on Facebook yesterday. She “tagged” me (whatever that means). But it made me check it out. Then translate it.

This is an example of a Wisdom saying. It along the order of “Love grows when you give it away.” They are easy to say and forget. But they really should be pondered.

Jesus was fond of Wisdom sayings. He quoted Proverbs extensively. James (author of the general letter) also was in the Wisdom tradition. As it happens, I’m reading in Hebrews right now (end of chapter 3). That author says “Who is wise and understanding among you? Show by your good life that your works are done with gentleness born of wisdom. For where there is envy and selfish ambition, there will also be disorder and wickedness of every kind.”

You must “have” happiness in order to divide it (among others). Show it in your life. Envy and selfish ambition? Impediments to happiness. I have always found a smile is helpful even when I don’t feel like smiling (say at an airport when my flight is cancelled).

In this era of such divisiveness and hate in our society, we need to remember these Wisdom sayings. Not only remember, but live into them. Even when we fail (as I do far too often), we just need to refresh these and bring them into our lives afresh.

So, thanks for reminding me, “Happiness is something that multiplies when it is divided.” Smile at someone today.

Share Your God Experience Through Listening

January 16, 2013

Last weekend I heard a speaker who gave two presentations on sharing God with others.  Those who have read this blog for a while know that I consider listening a Spiritual discipline. He didn’t go that far, but as he talked about sharing with people, that point came through.

Someone said, how do you start a discussion on Spiritual topics. There didn’t seem to be a formula. I have not found a formula. But sometimes asking a question such as “how are you” and listening to the reply is a great starter. You can ask a follow up “why is that” type of question. Then “how does that make you feel”.

There are some keys. No matter to whom you are talking, it is important not to be condescending or judgmental. That will just turn people away and build a wall.

You build a conversation and watch for the appropriate opening. One thing I’ve found is not to give advice–exactly. But you can share what you’ve experienced. If people have been hurt or are cynical about “religion” just talk about the essentials. It’s not about religion. It’s about your life. How you live. What’s its purpose. Meeting the right sort of friends. Caring. Being cared for.

It’s not religion–it’s life.

Someone asked about different religions. When I was growing up, the different religion we worried about was Roman Catholicism. My, times are different. But I have friends who are Muslim and Hindu. Doesn’t matter to me. I can still simply talk about the Spirit and what it means in my life. People are interested in the spirit. If I can just encourage that, I’ve done them a great service.

It all starts with listening. With your heart. No agenda. Except to share what you have for where they are in their life.

Don’t be afraid. It’s fun.

Achieve a Simple and Pure Life

January 14, 2013

” ‘Tis a gift to be simple, ’tis a gift to be free.”

That’s a line from an old Shaker hymn known as “Simple Gifts.”

One spiritual practice that doesn’t always land on the charts up there with prayer and study is the practice of simplicity.

Clutter in your environment is a distraction. It impedes or prevents focus on what’s important. It is good in the beginning of a new year to take the time to clear out the accumulated clutter of the past year.

Some of that clutter may be physical. You may have too much stuff. We tend to buy things and add them to a room. It becomes like the metaphor of boiling a frog–if the water temperature is raised a little at a time the frog won’t notice when danger is upon it. Just so, a little at a time we add clutter until our living space is no longer simple and pure.

We can also clutter our minds and souls with clutter. Memories that need to be released. Poisonous relationships that need to be purged. Too much thinking, not enough doing. Focus and clarity must be our guides.

Matthew reports that Jesus said, “Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God.” Pure means not mixed. Not an alloy. Nothing added. This can be related to simplicity. Unadorned. Uncluttered. Focused.

Jesus was most concerned about the state of our hearts. Keep it simple and pure. You shall see God. Maintaining simplicity as a practice helps us on our way to God.

Pray With a Listening Heart

January 11, 2013

The most important book for my spiritual development that I’ve read in the last couple of years is titled simply “Jesus of Nazareth” written by Joseph Ratzinger, who is now Pope Benedict XVI. This was written from his personal quest to discover who Jesus is. Despite the fact that he is a fantastic scholar, this book is not a dense scholarly  tract, but a very readable tour through the gospels in search of Jesus.

Lately I’ve been discussing practical advice on starting the new year by starting new patterns of our lives. Firstly, by getting up early to study and pray. This lays a foundation for the day to keep us organized and focused rather than a day characterized by rushing from one crisis to the next mostly caused by our failure to focus and plan.

Ratzinger said something interesting while discussing the Lord’s Prayer (the Our Father in Catholic tradition, I guess). When we pray “Thy Kingdom come,” he says, we should pray with a listening heart. After all, the Kingdom is a relationship with Jesus. We should be listening, right? He knows more than we. He saw the face of God.

As you prepare your day by arising earlier, studying and praying, pause and listen. It may only be five minutes. I’ve gone as long as a couple of hours, but I can’t do that every day and still do my day job.

What is God trying to tell you today?

Practice Prayer As a Conversation

January 10, 2013

Funny thing about Jesus. He came as a human. He related as a human. He encouraged his followers to trust in him as in a relationship. He did not proclaim himself son of god, lord of lords, prince of peace (all titles Augustus Caesar gave himself). He reflected God because he had seen God face to face just as Moses and the prophets had foreseen.

When we come into the the practice of prayer, we come into a conversation with a person. We are not merely pleading with a distant, foreboding entity–on on the graces of the political ruler trying to make himself God. We are just in a conversation.

Sometimes in a conversation among friends, one of the people does all the talking. The other listens. One would hope practicing “active listening,” that is, actually paying attention to the speaker. God, we trust, always listens. We can do the talking.

Then a point of the conversation occurs when you stop talking. Then you listen. Sometimes the other can merely offer empathy. Maybe that’s all you need–someone to listen. Other times the other may ask a question designed to make you take a deeper look into why you feel that way. Maybe you mistook a comment to mean one thing when it was meant as another and you became angry or disappointed. Again other times the other may offer guidance.

Jesus says many times that we are to trust in him just as in our very best friend. Sometimes he just listens. Sometimes he asks a question. Sometimes he gives advice and direction.

Practicing prayer means finding regular times in a day (Jesus went up on a mountain side to pray evidently every evening; Daniel went to his room three times a day) to have a conversation. With a friend.

Listening is part of having a conversation. Sometimes I listen first, talk later. Sometimes all I do is listen. Usually I will concentrate on people whom I know that have needs and bring them into the prayer silently.

The hard part of faith is that I trust that God is there even when there is no answer. It’s not a matter of answered prayer. It is a matter that I trust God to be there.