Archive for the ‘Disciplines’ Category

Move The Ego Out of the Way

April 5, 2024

Why do we practice spiritual disciplines? Sit in meditation? Strain our mind in study? Try to focus on prayer? Go out of our comfort zone to practice bits of service to others?

Is it so that we can tell people at the next social gathering (or on our social media page) how good and dedicated we are?

Would that be our ego talking?

Ego gets in the way. Move it out of the way, and we can…

Sit with calm mind in meditation for many minutes or even hours;

Engage our curiosity to discover new meanings in our study;

Converse with God in a give-and-take conversation, talking and listening, called prayer;

Just help someone without thinking why—even a random act of kindness.

The comedian Flip Wilson had one of his characters often say, “Get behind me, Satan.” Adopt that phrase, “Get behind me Ego. Just let me be me, a seeker and a servant.”

Look To Our Own Improvement

April 4, 2024

Epictetus would say that just as a person delights in improving his farm, and another his horse, he delighted in attending to his own improvement day by day. (Quote thanks to Ryan Holliday at the Daily Stoic.)

When we arise following a good night’s sleep, where does our focus go?

Perhaps a cup of coffee and a walk or run outside becomes a perfect start. Our self improvement begins with that.

What will we do with the rest of our day? Will it degrade us? Or improve us? Will we be delighted?

Lessons for Life

April 3, 2024

Some Wednesday thoughts during an April (snow) shower.

Eating:

Emphasize vegetables over meat

Vinegary foods over salt

Whole fruit over juice and sugar

Chew more and swallow less

Eat food that looks like food and fewer ultra processed snacks

Health:

More sleep, Worry less

Laugh often, reduce anger

Act more, talk less

Give generously, reduce wants

Take long walks in nature

Walk more, ride less 

Resistance train, less time for social media

Read more good books, less time for social media

More good conversations over coffee

Living with Generosity

April 2, 2024

Generosity is not a specific thing that you do. Reaching into your pocket once to give a dollar for a street publication from a homeless person in downtown Chicago may feel good. Sending a payment to some cause you saw advertised may be a good thing. It may be a start. The beginning of a journey.

Generosity is an orientation toward life. You can live a life looking out in order to serve others. You can be intelligent with the way you manage your money. But you are not afraid to help out whenever you can.

The other life orientation is fear. You hoard all your resources from fear of being without. You don’t help because you feel that others are trying to get what you’ve got. 

The amount of wealth you have does not matter. Some wealthy people are generous. Some poor people are fearful. And the other way around. I have seen some “poor” people who are immensely generous people.

You can choose your orientation toward life. Generous or Fearful. Choose well.

It Doesn’t Have To Be Complicated

March 25, 2024

He decided we would eat at one of those Brazilian steak houses where they bring new cuts of meat as long as your little token on the table is turned to green.

Turns out he is on a “keto” diet to lose weight. Only eats steak. One a day. Protein and fat. Has lost 30 lbs. Many are on a program where they count points penalizing for eating sugar-laden foods and fat. They lose weight. Many count calories. Obsess over counting. They all lose weight.

This all reminds me of the laws God gave Moses in order to organize the newly freed slaves into a new society. Ten commandments. (Quick, can you name them?) And maybe 612 more laws. Most were designed to keep the Hebrews alive in the desert. They worked at the time—mostly.

But the society institutionalized those laws. And added more. By the time of Jesus, a group called the Pharisees went around trying to get right with God by following every law plus others they made up. And they enjoyed pointing out the difference between themselves and others.

Jesus said that wouldn’t work. He said it’s about the heart. And following him. Not his laws. Him.

When I read Paul’s letter to his friends in Galatia, I glimpse what freedom from the law is. If our heart is right and we follow Jesus, then we don’t have to obsess over the laws. We just do what Jesus expects of us. It’s in our daily walk of life.

It is like weight. It doesn’t have to be complicated. Keep the pantry and refrigerator stocked with good, whole food. Don’t stock overly processed snacks and meats. Try this:

  • Reduce portions
  • Purchase “real” food at the grocery (no junk in the house)
  • Eat slowly

Or as Dr. Michael Pollen put it:

  • Eat food
  • Not too much
  • Mostly plants

In spiritual life:

  • Reduce reading to real spiritual texts
  • Center daily life on prayer and meditation
  • Serve others

It doesn’t have to be complicated.

Prayer, Then Words

March 15, 2024

Something within me, whether intentional or not, brings awareness toward God to prayer.

Then words—maybe.

Slow Productivity

March 14, 2024

Are you the type of person who is known for getting things done? Is yours the first name that comes to mind when someone in the organization needs a report written or a light bulb replaced? Is “no” a seldom used part of your vocabulary?

In other words, do you always feel busy yet not accomplishing the work that would most boost your career or inner peace?

These thoughts are not specifically about spiritual practice as much as just practice practice.

When you feel the need to focus on the things that really matter needing a way to say “no” more—or better stop being the name everyone thinks of first—then you need to dive into Slow Productivity: The Lost Art of Accomplishment Without Burnout by Cal Newport (author of Deep Work, A World Without Email, Digital Minimalism, So Good They Can’t Ignore You, and more).

Influenced through reading about the Slow Food movement in Italy, Newport thought about how our decades long obsession with productivity has led to what he calls pseudo-productivity—busy-ness just for the sake of appearing to be, well, busy.

He will show you a few calendar tricks to help you say “no” or at least something like “I’d be glad to help if you see where on my calendar I could get to it.” 

How do I get to Slow Productivity?

  • Do Fewer Things. 
  • Work at a Natural Pace. 
  • Obsess over Quality.

If you do what you’re supposed to do and do it well, how can anyone complain?

The Practice

March 13, 2024

Best-selling author and screenwriter Steven Pressfield publishes a weekly newsletter called Writing Wednesdays. He often talks about the practice of being a creative. This is similar to the practice of entering a spiritual practice as we delve into a deeper spiritual life.

Recently he quotes a dance teacher, “This class is a practice. When you step inside this studio to dance, leave behind your fear, your competitiveness with others, your anger, your worry, your grudges, your complaints, your dissatisfaction with your lot, your greed for glory, your avarice for attention. You are here to dance as well as you can. Leave your ego and your problems outside.”

Pressfield adds his own advice:

In other words, when our motivation is grounded in our ego, we do not have a practice. Or to flip that statement on its head, the aim of a practice is effacement of the ego.

Whether we enter prayer, meditation, study, or even service, these are foundational words. Leave the ego behind—that part of us that seeks control and “me-first” attitudes.

Finding the Meaning of Life

March 7, 2024

A popular theme of cartoons from years ago concerned a seeker climbing to a mountain top to find the guru sitting cross-legged at the summit. “What is the meaning of life?” the seeker questioned. Then the cartoonist would riff on jokes.

The meaning of life is what happened while you were wasting time finding a guru hoping they would tell you the meaning of life.

We find meaning through what we do and how we act as we make our way daily through life. As Jesus-followers we follow the way he taught so that each day’s meaning plays out in our relations to other humans.

Transformation

March 5, 2024

This morning I am sitting at a table in a room full of tables populated with about 300 engineers. The presenters are talking about how to use digital data to transform product development and eventually business.

This is similar to our journey of developing and using spiritual practices—study, prayer, meditation, service, and the like.

When we pause and look back over our lives, we can observe how our practices have changed how we live. We have, so to speak, undergone a transformation from someone a little or a lot lost, directionless, drifting through life with the development and habits of our practices.

I have seen how many years of meditation, for example, have changed my inner workings from insecure and anxious to calmer (not perfect) with a broader understanding of people. I have learned tolerance and empathy.

It is never too late to begin a spiritual practice. Let the engineers talk about digital transformation. We can practice personal transformation. And it never ends.

[Side note: I just received a notification that 16 years ago today I started this blog on WordPress. That, in itself, was a transformation.]