Archive for the ‘Attitude’ Category

Our Mind

April 16, 2024

Our mind is the instrument of knowledge, but it is very imperfect and filled with all sorts of ignorance. John Climacus, The Ladder of Divine Ascent

“You think you’re so smart!”

How many times have we heard that? From teachers? Parents? Spouses? Children?

And that is not meant as a compliment, right?

Unless we have other problems, we do think we’re pretty smart.

But, are we really?

When we develop the attitude of continuous learning, then we can overcome that problem of ignorance. Partially, at least. The brain is malleable throughout our life. If we stretch it and use it.

Let us recognize our shortcomings and adopt the attitude of continuous improvement.

Living with Generosity

April 2, 2024

Generosity is not a specific thing that you do. Reaching into your pocket once to give a dollar for a street publication from a homeless person in downtown Chicago may feel good. Sending a payment to some cause you saw advertised may be a good thing. It may be a start. The beginning of a journey.

Generosity is an orientation toward life. You can live a life looking out in order to serve others. You can be intelligent with the way you manage your money. But you are not afraid to help out whenever you can.

The other life orientation is fear. You hoard all your resources from fear of being without. You don’t help because you feel that others are trying to get what you’ve got. 

The amount of wealth you have does not matter. Some wealthy people are generous. Some poor people are fearful. And the other way around. I have seen some “poor” people who are immensely generous people.

You can choose your orientation toward life. Generous or Fearful. Choose well.

Good Friday to Easter-A Journey

March 29, 2024

It is probably a character flaw. 

I wrote that sentence this morning. I could not concentrate. Then we left for lunch. I have no idea where I was going, since I have so many of those “flaw” things.

I know I was contemplating the death of Jesus.

And how some people apply layers of theological thinking to the event.

And how some people enjoy (?) wallowing in the gory details of how a person dies during a crucifixion.

And how some people avoid those negative scenes.

Then, only the shift in time from Friday to Sunday. 

They knew he had died and been buried. But he was missing. Then he appeared and talked with a couple. Then more. Then lots more. Later (we don’t really know how long) he cooked breakfast on the shore of the lake.

Once again, there are those who overlay many layers of theology on the meaning of the events. 

But there were too many witnesses to be ignored. And the story spread faster than any lie (well, today thanks to social media, lies spread instantaneously, but they didn’t have X back then). Within a decade thousands of people found their spiritual searching fulfilled in the person of the Jesus who came back to life.

You can involve yourself in a multiplicity of theological disputes. Or, you can simply say, “I’d like to live with that guy who died and came back to life.” It’s called following Jesus and living with-God every day.

Assumptions

March 28, 2024

A trade magazine trying to drum up subscribers at low cost ran an ad on Facebook. The magazine covers the automation market and featured some sort of robotic agriculture application. I noticed it because I was a co-founder of that magazine although I’ve been gone for 11 years.

A few people commented. I was shocked. Comment on an ad?

The comments immediately took off on “illegal” farm workers losing their jobs and sopping up free unemployment compensation.

We as humans really like to metaphorically take the ball and run with it, don’t we? We assume so many things about other people.

I’ve done that. Still do, in fact. See someone. Make an assumption about them. Then I meet them. Talk with them. Listen.

I’ve met the most interesting people that way. Sometimes opened my eyes to a whole new world.

Want to bet the first Jesus-followers met some of the same attitudes? First, suspicion from those around them. Then, a conversation, perhaps. Then, it was “I want what they’ve got.”

Feeling for Others

March 23, 2024

The woman told me, “People give us nasty looks as we park in a spot marked for handicapped people. However much on the outside my husband looks healthy, he has a heart condition that restricts his ability to walk far and fast.”

Sometimes we criticize people who appear healthy yet have a debilitating illness hidden from our accusing eyes.

Sometimes we must have an experience to nudge us toward empathy.

This past week, I suffered an allergy attack that sapped most of my energy provoked considerable congestion. I am prone to certain attacks from pollen, but seldom this bad this long.

Couple that with an abnormally busy schedule—meeting, early a.m. Blood draw, doctor appointment for regular checkup, dinner meeting, early meeting, breakfast meeting, finally two Zoom calls Friday afternoon to cap the week. It was all good. But when I wasn’t meeting, I was sleeping.

I thought, most people would not know how devoid of energy I was on the inside while meeting on the outside.

Further, I thought, how often am I guilty of judging someone on the outside unaware of the struggles going on deep within?

Ask the Right Questions

March 19, 2024

I am old enough now to reflect on successes and shortcomings. Of all the things I should have done was to learn to ask questions. Especially of others. I look back at a bad decision and think that I should have asked my professor for advice on where to go and what to do. I never thought to seek advice. People probably thought it was arrogance, but it was really out of debilitating shyness.

There are further reflections. How about the times where I feel the need to have the right answer. I bet most of you suffer from the same trait. Saying, “I don’t know” is akin to admitting defeat.

But saying “I don’t know, but let’s find out” is liberating. That is asking the right question.

The beginner chases the right answers. The master chases the right questions.

Aspiring To a Better Society

March 1, 2024

The part of the sermon that Baptist preacher from North Carolina that has gone viral concerning if he were on a jury of a trial of a man accused of raping a woman who was wearing shorts he would vote for acquittal disturbs me every time I think of it. When someone who professes to follow Jesus reveals such a lack of understanding and empathy, I hesitate to ever identify myself with their religion.

A sentence from my current reading, The Identity Trap by Yascha Mount, metaphorically slapped me in the face. In a different context but jarring my thinking here, he said, “In practice, universal values and neutral rules do often exclude people in unjust ways. But an aspiration for societies to live up to the standards they profess can allow them to make genuine progress in treating their members fairly.” (My bolding.)

Not everyone (in fact no one?) can live up to the standards that Jesus set. Reading his words in the gospels you get the feeling he knew he was setting the standard so high that no one could ever congratulate themselves for achieving them. But if many of us aspire to live up to those standards, then the Jesus movement should continue to progress toward the type of society Jesus envisioned.

Indeed, so many people responded to that pastor’s comments that the church posted an apology on its message board. I can hope and pray that the incident spurs some growth in all of us.

Where is your heart? My heart? Are we trying to live up to Jesus command of how to live—by loving God and our neighbor? Don’t give up. Every step in that direction helps.

Cynicism or Opportunity

February 29, 2024

It’s all about data.

I’ve written that on my technology blog. Maybe half of my topics have involved data—finding, gathering, storing, analyzing, visualizing, using to make decisions.

We may see data in our favorite news source. The trouble with that lies in the choices of which data to show and which interpretation to emphasize. Often that flows from the point of view of the writer/broadcaster. The same data will have different emphases on Fox or on MSNBC. (I assume; I watch neither.)

For example, many years ago there was much data about how emissions in the US going into the atmosphere returned to earth in the form of acid rain. Dire predictions ensued. Those events never happened.

Why?

First came the cynics. The world is ending.

Then came the people who saw opportunity. I was involved in more than one project to scrub carbon from refinery emissions. That happened all over the country. Many technologies were developed to clean emissions.

We have much current data on changing weather patterns dubbed Climate Change. It’s real, but it does not have to be the end.

All over the globe engineers and entrepreneurs are working to find solutions to the causes. 

We can choose how to react. We can choose to be cynical, dystopian, and fearful. We can choose to find solutions. 

This works for climate problems. It works for problems in your organization or family. Which attitude sounds better to you?

Privilege

February 26, 2024

Few arenas of life reveal as much as youth sports does about—parents. I remember my own good times and, with much chagrin, my bad ones. Thirty-five years working as a referee in youth and high school soccer revealed the growing trend of “helicopter” parents who hovered over their kids to protect them and “snow plow” parents who tried to pave the way for them.

I have written a blog on technology, leadership, and industrial applications for just over 20 years. Many, many PR agencies have me on their radar. Sometimes I get strange releases. Here is one I just received where a data company did an analysis of TikTok and Google search data.

Job Shift Shock is the most popular work trend with a total 1.7B TikTok views and nearly 121K monthly searches on Google. The trend leads the list as it describes the transition from initial excitement of beginning a new job to the disappointment of unexpected responsibilities.

I can think of few clearer signals about what happens to young people when they have always had someone there to smooth the way for them. I remember hiring a young man recently graduated from university. He wondered how long (a year or two?) before he would be in line to be president of the company.

The book of Proverbs contains some excellent advice for raising kids—as long as you are not a literalist reader. You must provide guidelines, guardrails, and discipline. And also appropriate and increasing measures of freedom to go play and learn to get along with other humans. 

Contempt

February 15, 2024

It’s not our disagreements that cause division. It’s contempt that causes division.

So often our attitudes define our relationships and actions. 

Can we have honest discussions with others about religion, faith, politics, or our community? Can we listen with holding someone who disagrees in contempt assuming lack of intelligence? Can we speak civilly without condescension in our tone of voice?

I come back to listening. Can we even listen? What are they really saying? What is the emotion they are holding? What needs do they feel that we should be hearing? Maybe not with agreement, but with empathy.

We have all known people who seem to look upon others with contempt. They assume such superiority.

We don’t want to be one of those people.