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See The Lord In Everyone

July 21, 2023

A phrase often heard commands, “Hate the sin; love the sinner.” I’ve mostly heard the phrase pointed at homosexual people. But it applies, of course, more broadly.

I thought, how can one separate the two?

Does repeating that mantra imply that we have no sin? Since I am not a sinner, or maybe just brush aside my few feeble sins, do I now have the ability to judge others’ sins?

One interesting lesson from reading books from different eras involves seeing how other people think of themselves. Literature from the 15th, 16th, 17th, and 18th Century European point of view often talked of hatred of self. They beat upon themselves about how great were their sins.

Contemporary American literature more often tells us how great we are and how we can be even better. Maybe that is supposed to help us “hate the sin, but love the sinner.”

And, yet, depression is almost pandemic among our people.

This writing came from an anonymous source, but its message resonates with me. I think we talk too much of other people’s sins and not enough of God’s grace.

For the same reason, we are required to hate other people’s sins, but love themselves. It is easy to say that, and to point [out] the distinction in words, but very difficult to do it. You cannot separate a person from his faults that perhaps hit you in the eye, as maybe yours do him. How then is it possible to hate the one, and yet to love the other? We have to “see the Lord” in all people.

One Percent Better

July 20, 2023

A group of academic psychology researchers conducted a longitudinal study of children. It wasn’t long term, but did take place over a time period. They were curious about growth versus static mindset. A task was given to a group of kids. Some kids were given feedback that involved verbs—you worked well, you did your practice consistently, and so forth. Another group was given noun feedback—you are so smart, you are a good athlete, and so forth.

Later, the kids were given a similar task. The ones praised with nouns, did not perform better. The ones praised with verbs continued to improve.

I’m standing on the mezzanine at the FMC Natatorium in Westmont, IL. Soon competition at the Illinois club state finals will commence. I brought my granddaughter who made the 800 meter freestyle relay team for her club that qualified from the regional championships. There must be hundreds of young athletes here who have worked hard all season in order to qualify to be here. 

Starting at the beginning of the season when as a younger person in her age group she didn’t think she had a shot at the regionals. I told her every week, just be a little better this week than last. And at the end of the season she swam in eight events at the regionals. I’m sure all of the other swimmers have a similar story.

We adults pursuing the spiritual life may feel like these kids at the beginning of the season. There is no way we can infuse all this spiritual teaching and practice into our lives. But 1% better every day. We consistently read daily. We consistently meditate daily. We consistently pray daily. We perform acts of service as often as we can. 

Then if we pause at the end of a month or year, we can see how our life has changed. We don’t only know the fruit of the spirit, that fruit is even more present in our daily life. We feel at peace. We exhibit more patience. We live with a warm inner joy. People notice our love of others, our kindness, goodness, faithfulness, goodness, and self-control.

Practice. 1% better every day. I can tell you from personal experience—it works.

Practice Doing the Work

July 19, 2023

People with children in high school or even high school students have asked me about how to become a journalist or writer. I tell them to write. If you want to be a journalist, you can get a blog on WordPress or SquareSpace for free. A high school student can do it. Think about your interests. Observe what’s happening around you and write about it. Don’t wait around for permission or to be chosen. 

“A talent grows by being used, and withers if it is not used.” This is a thought from the James Clear 3-2-1 Thursday newsletter. He is known for the book Atomic Habits.

A large church developed a spiritual gifts assay. I don’t remember all the categories, but it will suggest you may be talented in teaching or serving kids or doing mission work or something. They suggest you volunteer in the area that comes up and try it. If it fits, wear it. If it doesn’t fit, try the next thing on the assay.

The point is try things until you find your passion, your talent. Then—do it. Practice writing, speaking (do your own podcast, I did, easy), serving, teaching. As Clear puts it, “A talent grows by being used.”

Chew More; Swallow Less

July 18, 2023

Chew more; swallow less.

I heard this phrase in relation to eating. The idea is to slow down. In slowing down, you’ll eat less. Eating less leads to losing weight.

What about using this as a metaphor more broadly?

Say with media. Perhaps if we swallow less, we will be less gullible and susceptible to believing lies and distorted truth.

How about with study? What if instead of gulping huge chunks of the Bible and perhaps just memorizing a few rules, we instead read a paragraph or a story and chewed on it for a long time? Maybe you wouldn’t read the Bible in a year. But you may become wiser with more depth of understanding. Maybe you wouldn’t swallow half-thought-out ideas that lead you astray.

Wisdom Factories

July 17, 2023

The publicist sent an early copy of a book for me to review. Wisdom Factory: AI, Games, and the Education of a Modern Worker by Tim Dasey, Ph.D. He is an MIT professor (Massachusetts Institute of Technology) thinking about the future of work. I wrote an introduction to this book last week.

Considering the media hype about AI and Dasey’s background  working in AI, and that the book’s subtitle includes AI, you might think this is a book about AI. You would be wrong. This is yet another book about how we need to change the way we educate youth and adults for work in the modern world. Building on the derisive caricature of schools as industrial factories churning out kids who can follow instructions and learn details, he turns the word factory on its head and talks of “wisdom” factories.

This is a good book if you want a new view on some new techniques. However, seeing the need to teach wisdom is hardly new.

3,000 years ago a king in Palestine, the Kingdom of Israel, compiled wisdom sayings into a book along with his many insights into wisdom. Solomon was reputed to be the wisest man who ever lived. Yet, he was a terrible father. He burdened his people with taxes and work for his insatiable need to build more buildings. He took the sons into the army in order to expand his kingdom’s territory. He worshipped foreign gods.

The book of Proverbs is like a school, an education, in wisdom. It’s why I recommend reading a chapter a day every January (31 chapters/31 days) just as a reminder.

I think every course at every time in school should really be teaching thinking. In math, logical progression of ideas. In history, not only when, but why and what if. In grammar, how to express oneself clearly. In literature, what did the author mean, how are the characters related, what if the author explored a deeper emotion. Of course scientific thinking in science classes.

And yes, in the spiritual life. Not just memorizing Bible verses or writings of Aquinas or Augustine or Luther, but asking why is this there, what if they went a different way, how did this affect the people there at the time, how should this affect how I act and feel when I get up from the desk.

Read our Wisdom literature carefully. How much is about memorizing? How much is about how we act? Wisdom is at the intersection of spirit, experience, knowledge, reflection. And it should never stop growing in us.

Doing Significant Work

July 14, 2023

Is what you are doing—in your organization, workplace, family, community—significant work?

  • Does it make a positive change in the world?
  • A positive change in some other human being?
  • A positive change in you?

As a leader, are you providing people with significant work? Or, just busy work? Maybe the work we’ve always done (and never thought about why)?

What significant work can you (and I) do beginning now that will make a difference?

Do it!

Wisdom Needed

July 13, 2023

The publicist sent an early copy of a book for me to review. Wisdom Factory by Tim Dasey, Ph.D. He is an MIT professor (Massachusetts Institute of Technology) thinking about the future of work. 

I’ve not finished it, yet, but I just waded through a chapter on left brain/right brain physiology. You may have heard about left brain detail-oriented analytical thinking and right brain generalist whole scene thinking. Of course, it’s more complicated than that, but we needn’t delve further.

Dasey’s argument is that we need less detail-oriented analytical thinking (not none, just less) like your typical engineer, I guess and more what he calls wisdom or thinking more generally about why rather than what. Future workers—and not only managers—will need to incorporate more wisdom into their work.

Have you observed the phenomenon of detail-oriented versus big picture amongst people in the religious or spiritual life?

Some people have memorized huge chunks of the Bible, yet seem to have missed the theme. They know lots of “what” and little “why.”

Even worse than missing the “why” is failing to infuse the why into everyday life.

One Little Comment Makes A Difference

July 12, 2023

It was my first week at elementary school. An older kid made a comment. It was probably one of those weak joke comments kids (and adults) sometimes make. That comment influenced a behavior during my next 10 years at school. And decades later I still recall the scene.

Take care with what you say. A word of encouragement can change a life. One derogatory comment can also change a life.

Which would you rather receive, even today?

Which would you like to say?

Be one who encourages at all times. Don’t be the person who destroys dreams.

Following the Flock

July 11, 2023

A flock of red-winged blackbirds with a few Brewer’s blackbirds covered the lawns outside my office window this morning. 

As if on a hidden signal, they all took off in flight.

Except for one. I saw a black head pop up above the grass. It looked around for a few seconds. The bird then took off in the same direction as its flock even though the flock was out of sight by that time.

How often we humans are like that. The flock takes off—say they all join an online social network. Those of us not in the main flock look up, wonder where they all went, then take off to join them.

I turned. On the bookcase opposite is a collection of books called the Great Books of the Western World. They are organized along a timeline from the ancient Greeks to William James and Freud. I noticed how some are grouped. There were Platonists/neo-Platonists and Aristotelians. Then the ones who shattered the idea of mind/body divorcing mind from spirit from body to those trying to reconnect. Sort of like following a new flock.

We think we have the final ideas, the final answers, the complete truth. Following a flock. Then the next generation comes along. A new flock that everyone will follow for a while.

Then there are those of us who just don’t feel like part of the flock pursuing new ideas.

Direction Not Destination

July 10, 2023

Kevin Kelly, author and writer, observed, “Looking ahead, focus on direction rather than destinations. Maintain the right direction, and you’ll arrive at where you want to go.”

I used to run, or jog, or whatever you call it. This was not so that I could run 5Ks or 10Ks or marathons. It was so I could keep up with play while refereeing soccer. Soccer is mostly sprints and jogs and walks. Going to the park and just going for 3-4 miles was not really enjoyable. 

I noticed that it was a better day when I just focused on the next step plus my breathing. Focusing on the end point bred frustration.

There are people searching for some sort of instantaneous jump from ordinary to heaven.

But life is one step at a time. Daily disciplines of study, prayer, meditation, service, reflection.

Focus on going the right direction. The destination will suddenly appear on the way.