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Merry Christmas

December 25, 2024

In the old tradition a Feast Day of Celebration. Not necessarily Jesus’s birthday, since that exact day was not recorded. But a celebration with a fancy theology word—incarnation. A special human was born who was filled with the spirit of God. God coming to earth.

Today is almost anti-climax celebration for us. The family gathered Saturday. We attended Christmas Eve 11 pm service last night. My wife is celebrating by making cinnamon rolls from scratch for breakfast. As an enneagram type 1, it warms her heart to cook special meals and treats.

This season brings out connections that may happen only occasionally. I reached out to a nephew in prison. He has no parents. My wife reached out to a former student who suffers from mental/emotional problems. She responded with a Merry Christmas text.

Those remind us that not everyone’s celebration is without a mixture of grief or sadness. To those we reach out sending the spirit of comfort.

Still, we send wishes of Love, Hope, Peace, and Joy to everyone everywhere. Pause, take a deep breath, and bring those into your spirit, at least for a bit, today.

A Blessing For This Day

December 24, 2024

I am writing this the day after the Winter solstice. For us in the Northern Hemisphere the days will be getting longer each day for the next six months. Christmas is a feast day celebrated in ancient times as the day they definitely knew that the days were getting longer and the optimism of light and warmth grew.

It is only natural that the early Church co-opted the day to celebrate the light of God entering the world. It’s a celebration. I hope you all can find a way to celebrate this year.

I leave you with this blessing for the day from John O’Donohue:

May I live this day

Compassionate of heart,

Clear in word,

Gracious in awareness,

Courageous in thought,

Generous in love.

What do you call “them”?

December 23, 2024

People seem to like to refer to others as part of a group. In this era of political correctness and cancel culture, how can someone refer to people of a group without hazard? We all grew up with a set of shortcut words to describe others. Are those words now deemed offensive? Sometimes we don’t know.

Maybe we need to get beyond typing people be some group characteristic.

Do you ask someone their Sun Sign and then type them as acting a certain way? (I’m a Scorpio. That’s supposed to be bad, I think. I married an Aquarius. That’s supposed to be the worst match. We’ll find out someday…but our next anniversary will be 55.)

Perhaps the Enneagram is your type of choice. Some people treat it similarly to Sun Sign. It’s really meant to help you understand yourself—your positive tendencies, how your negative tendencies appear. You don’t meet someone in a bar and say, “I hope you’re a 7.” Hint: you probably won’t meet a 5 at the bar 😉

OK, the obvious is race, color, religion (or lack thereof), ancestral homeland, and the like.

What happens if we just think of people as, well, people? Humans? Children of God?

I think of the varieties of people Jesus interacted with. He was from Galilee. That was a commerce crossroads area not as isolated as Judea. He could go from Greek to Roman to Syrian to Samaritan to Jew and deal with each individually according to their needs. The gospel writers may have detailed these out of amazement that a Jewish rabbi would interact with so many non-Jewish people and with women so familiarly.

Perhaps we could all take a hint.

Praying Reminders

December 20, 2024

My wife was raised in a Baptist church. They taught her you don’t “say” prayers. You pray from the heart.

I learned that while they may not be “saying” the Lord’s Prayer (the Our Father) they still had formulas or templates for prayers.

To me, it was a moot point.

Last night I contemplated what goes through my mind as we pray the Lord’s Prayer during church service.

I turn the center of my attention toward God.

I contemplate the meaning of the Kingdom being around me and in me.

I am thankful for that which sustains me every day—food, shelter, people.

I feel forgiveness and think of those I need to forgive.

What temptations drew my attention yesterday?

I am thankful for protection from evil temptations that arise from within.

My attention returns to center on God.

And I agree with God as God intended.

I’m sure there are times we recite the words from memory with just the comfort of ritual. As for me, I like the series of reminders of that which is important. It’s a good way to start and end a day.

Small Changes You Can Keep

December 19, 2024

We’ve all seen diets come and go, but the truth about weight loss is simple: it’s not about finding the “perfect” plan; it’s about making small changes you can keep — and eating foods that keep you fuller for longer.

The same is true in our spiritual life. Some people wait for a Great Spiritual Awakening to spring suddenly upon them. Others slide through life wonder if there is a better way.

But, small changes that you can keep—five minutes daily reading from the gospels, five minutes daily in meditation. These add up to a richer spiritual life.

It Looks Deceptively Steady

December 18, 2024

The Yoga practitioner in the classic tree pose standing on one foot, the other foot planted on the inside of the other thigh, arms raised above the head looks smooth and steady.

If you are the practitioner, it is not as it seems. The body may sway slightly as it adjusts micro balances. Toes grip the mat firmly. The mind maintains constant focus. The body feels energy from sole of the foot through the tips of fingers.

Someone meditating, perhaps you, from the outside looks so serene. But to the person, there are moments of serenity interspersed with moments of the mind wandering where it will.

The wise person goes deeper than what appears on the outside in order to understand the energy and dynamics.

Short, Jerky versus Long, Smooth

December 17, 2024

Years of teaching Yoga classes taught me to observe form. A proper form yields anticipated results. Improper form at best helps little and at worst leads to injury.

I’ve watched some people at the resistance training machines at my gym. Many move the weight in short and jerky movements. They are obtaining minimal results.

Others use long and smooth movements. They may explode up and slowly return. This movement gives the lifter maximum muscle benefit. Stretching afterward will not be required because they have already moved the muscle in its complete cycle.

Prayer life emulates these actions.

Perhaps we just have short exclamations of prayer as we remember something or see someone.

Perhaps we sit for a regular and sufficiently long period of time. That may only be 5 minutes or 15 minutes. But it could be long enough to stretch the prayer muscle.  Repetition leads to benefits of stronger prayer, better relationship with God, and even health benefits of reduced stress.

Repeating the Message

December 16, 2024

As Epictetus writes, “Every day and night keep thoughts like these at hand. Write them, read them aloud, talk to yourself and others about them.”

This is not my business blog, but I’d like to cite business legend Jack Welch, former CEO of GE. I dislike just about everything he did building the house of cards called GE at the time including the brutal way he treated people.

There is one idea that I gleaned from his book that I’ve found useful.

Repetition.

A leader must form a story for where the organization is and where it is going. He/she must repeat that story in every meeting they have within and outside the company. This is the only way to assure getting the message through.

This works also in meditation. Zen meditation teaches meditating on a koan, a thought that is usually physically nonsense. Christian meditation includes meditating on the Jesus Prayer (Lord Jesus Christ have mercy on me, a sinner). Recently I’ve picked up the focus phrase Be still and know that I am God.

Or, as Epictetus suggested, write them, read them, talk to others about them.

Are You Polite or Kind?

December 13, 2024

Think on the various conversations Jesus participated in as recorded in the various Gospels.

The rich young man, Nicodemus, the Syrian/Phoenician woman with a sick daughter, the Samaritan woman at the well. And more.

He was strong, but kind, with the rich young man who was a perfectionist regarding keeping the laws of the religion. But Jesus saw his heart. He pointed out to the man where he needed to grow.

Nicodemus, a religious leader, came with questions. Jesus answered directly, but also by giving him something to think about.

I love the way he bantered with the Syrian/Phoenician woman before telling her of healing.

The Samaritan woman, opposite of the rich young man who thought he did everything right, went to the well for water when the other women would be gone so as not to face them. Jesus did not pat her on the back (metaphorically) and tell her things could be worse. He saw also the condition of her heart, confronting her with how to grow becoming healthy.

Being polite is withholding feedback in order to make someone feel good today. Being kind is being candid about how they can get better tomorrow.

Let us ponder on how to be candid, yet kind, like Jesus.

Be Careful of Our Speaking

December 12, 2024

“Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret.” — Ambrose Bierce

“How great a forest is set ablaze by a small fire! And the tongue is a fire.”—James

“A gentle tongue is a tree of life, but perverseness in it breaks the spirit.”—Proverbs of Solomon

We can know all these thoughts, and, yet, still we can say hurtful things.. 

The most important moment in your life can be the pause before answering someone. Or the pause between a thought and a response.