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Infused

February 24, 2025

I read the word “infused” in Eugene Peterson’s Message Bible translation. That word and the concept held within it is fascinating.

Zen Buddhist monk Henry Shukman said recently during an interview, “Life is like hot water and meditation is like the tea bag.”

Try this thought for size.

You (me, everyone) are body living within the soul. We don’t know the true meaning of the Temple that Paul references when he says that our bodies are now the Temple where the Spirit resides. Ancient peoples built temples for a place where their god lived.

Jesus sort of blew up that entire view. He said that God was all around us. As a spirit. And Paul tried to explain it that God as the Holy Spirit lives in us. It would be like that tea bag that infuses the hot water of our being.

Before I get too nerdy in philosophy, let us just consider this:

What would it mean for us that we opened to the Spirit allowing it to infuse our entire being, our entire life, how we live, how we think, how we relate?

That I May Not Seek So Much to Be Understood as to Understand

February 21, 2025

Some people (often called husbands) tend to jump immediately to propose a solution during a conversation. Other people (often called wives) are fully capable of devising a solution. They just want to be understood.

The descriptions, of course, are somewhat of a generalization. I am not sure I can count the number of husbands who have expressed frustration at that above conversation whom I have counseled to withhold solution in favor of listening—with focus and intention. (I wish I were as perfect as I sound here!)

Let’s take that conversation to the next step when one person disagrees with the solution or any other proposal.

People don’t always care if you agree with them. They would like it if you tried to understood.

From the Prayer of St. Francis, a song by Sebastian Temple:

O, Spirit, grant that I may never seek

so much to be consoled as to console,

to be understood as to understand,

to be loved as to love with all my soul.

Sitting With God

February 20, 2025

I once had a favorite phrase responding to the way I saw the attitude many people had toward prayer—God as the Great Vending Machine in the Sky.

Put your prayer token in the slot; get your goodie in the slot at the bottom.

I’ve been meditating since I was maybe 17. But I am always searching for feedback for assurance I’m still on the right path. People recently recommended a new app. The leader/teacher refers to each session as a “sit.”

Then I pictured times when I may have dropped a few “prayer tokens” into the vending machine, then speeding off to my next thing to do expecting a few good things to drop out in the end.

Then I tried a different picture. Try this one on for size. See if it can fit you.

Rather than an agenda and to-do list, we just sit. We are in a comfortable posture on a chair or pillow that we can maintain for 20 minutes or so. We can have soft instrumental music or nothing in the background. We close our eyes focusing on regulating our breathing into a regular, easy pattern. We ask God to visit—which is easy because God is always around us.

Then, we just sit with God. That’s it. Just God and me. Sitting together. Sometimes God might say something to us. If we are not so busy with our own agenda, then we may hear the whisper of the spirit.

We can then gradually return to the present, refreshed and ready for whatever the day holds in store. Be assured that God has felt what is on our heart.

This daily practice can make all the difference toward our health—physical, mental, emotional, spiritual.

A Failure To Communicate

February 19, 2025

I vaguely remember a TV show from long ago where the main character’s line went, “What we have here is a failure to communicate.”

We think we said something witty or worthwhile or wise. We think we have communicated.

What in fact was communicated was what was heard.

Even in a brief cursory encounter a quip or witty saying can have unintended impact on the other. These sometimes cause hurt and lasting relationship damage.

Of course, some people intend to hurt. Avoid those people. They harbor deep issues.

Often the best response is to ask in a manner decidedly unlike a defense attorney cross-examining a witness, “I’m not sure I heard what you mean. Did you mean…?”

That is not exactly closing the loop. It’s an invitation to take the loop up a level, sort of like an upward spiral. Exploring meaning. Deepening the conversation.

Then communication occurs.

What To Leave Undone

February 18, 2025

“Besides the noble art of getting things done, master the noble art of leaving other things undone. Life wisdom also involves the elimination of nonessentials.” -Lin Yutang (early 20th Century Chinese philosopher)

Think of obsessive people you know who are trying to get too many things done, while accomplishing little of note and antagonizing others along the way.

Then look into the metaphorical mirror. Perhaps you can say with the cartoon character Garfield, “I resemble that remark.”

Author and podcast host Tim Ferriss recently revived work on a book on the power to say no.

Wisdom from ancient times tells us that only an empty container is useful. If you are filled with many tasks, many worries, many places to go, then you have no room for being and for doing the important work.

If this post seems a rerun of something I wrote a few days ago, perhaps God places certain reading in my awareness to send a message. I pay attention when similar thoughts appear within a short time period. Gotta be a message there.

Two Important Thoughts On The Insurance System

February 17, 2025

I’m taking a break from the regularly scheduled content for these important announcements!

Many years ago, my health insurance would not pay for a routine annual physical checkup. I thought that was just about the stupidest thing imaginable. Long a student (and practitioner) of fitness, wellness, and health, I viewed prevention and early detection as essential ingredients of what is now called a healthspan.

Then two emails came my way in a span of 12 hours on this topic and more. Please read these and spread the word. Our Congresspeople appear to be pretty powerless right now. Maybe some will have the courage to take up the battle. Maybe if enough of us continue to raise the alarm, some changes will happen.

And we do need change.

The Peter Diamandis newsletter came yesterday. I appreciate what he has to say even when I sometimes find him a little over the top optimistic or disagree with him.

He begins the newsletter with a story and a point:

On January 7th at 11:30am, I looked out my home-office window to see black plumes of smoke billowing over a nearby hill. My first thought: What the hell is going on?

That was the beginning of a 5-week forced evacuation from our Santa Monica home, on the boarder of Pacific Palisades.

I’m writing this from a friend’s home, where we’ve taken refuge. We’re among the lucky ones – our house is still standing. But more than 18,000 homes have been destroyed, and 200,000 Angelenos have been displaced. The devastation is estimated between $100 billion to $200 billion, and honestly, I think that’s a low-ball estimate.

But here’s what really pisses me off: This was preventable. ALL of it.

This is happening because we’re stuck with systems and institutions that are centuries old and business models that are sub-linear and fundamentally broken.

Take the insurance industry, it’s perverse and inappropriately incentivized.

Read the entire essay with his proposed solutions.

No sooner did I finish this essay when a similar one came from Seth Godin.

Godin provides a list of problems with the healthcare system. He concludes:

And so, a system that’s organized around treatments and status, that misallocates time and effort, causing stress for practitioners and patients. Historical bias in training leaves more than half of the population underserved and unseen, and, as a result, stress is high, many people don’t get the right treatment or hesitate to get any treatment at all, and costs continue to rise.

Systems change is difficult, because persistent systems are good at sticking around. They create cultural barriers that make their practices appear normal, and there are functional barriers as well.

When a change agent (often an external technology or event) arrives, the system must respond, often leading to change. All around us, we see systems changing, and often, that change agent is the smart phone. 91% of adults in the US have a smartphone, and it’s even higher among people under 65.

He then postulates a smartphone app:

The ubiquity of the connected supercomputer in our pockets has overhauled the taxi industry, the hotel business, restaurants and most of all, pop culture. But it hasn’t transformed the healthcare system. Add AI to the mix, and it’s possible that change is about to happen.

Imagine an app.

He continues with a list of possibilities. I’m not going to reproduce them. Visit his blog page. It’s thoughtful.

His conclusion.

The biggest information shift here is the more accurate collection and correlation of symptoms and treatments. The secondary (but ultimately longer-term) shift is finding threads of common interest and comparing doctors in their responses to symptoms. (And the side effect of giving patients agency and the solace that comes from insight can’t be ignored). Because both of these data shifts will lead to better patient outcomes (usually at much lower cost, with less trauma) the healthcare professionals who signed up for precisely this outcome will also thrive.

It’s not a panacea. But shifting information flows, improving peace of mind and the quality and timing of diagnosis are problems we can work to solve.

Putting It All Together

February 17, 2025

I close my eyes for meditation. In the gray mist of sight behind closed lids, I see outlines of jigsaw puzzle pieces fitting together.

I close my eyes preparing for sleep. Yes, I see arrays of jigsaw puzzle pieces.

My wife and I have had a project for the past couple of weeks assembling a jigsaw puzzle. The exercise requires focus, observation, patience, mental clarity. This puzzle did not come with a photo showing the completed puzzle. It came with a short murder mystery story describing a scene. You are to figure out the scene and then conclude where the body is hidden, who did it, and how.

We finished it last night. I took a commemorative photo. It will rest on our table for a while until we take it apart and put it away.

There are many puzzles I’ve experienced.

Two colleagues and I joined to form a new magazine. We hashed out ideas, sometimes with considerable passion. The pieces came together. We built a top-rated magazine for the market we served.

Like many people, I puzzled over Paul’s letter to the Roman followers. Some theologians wrote huge works trying to tease out subtle meanings from each Greek word. Luther, Calvin, Wesley all saw pieces of the letter and built theologies. 

I added some other study and thinking and the pieces fell into place. Don’t try to build grandiose theories. This letter is the ultimate spiritual development tract in the New Testament. Paul leads the reader from a state of being lost to a state of being in the state of God’s grace. Not stopping there, he continues with ideas on how we live in the state of grace.

I have been part of a team led by my wife for the better part of a year. Called Rise Above, the ministry hopes to reach out to people suffering from emotional hurt and support them on the return journey to wholeness. At our last meeting, the pieces came together. Just like after the pieces came together forming the magazine, I realized that now I had to get an actual magazine produced and into the mail. Now, we have to actually meet with those people.

When the jigsaw puzzle is done, it’s done. When we assemble the pieces of our project, that’s just the beginning.

Valentine’s Day

February 14, 2025

February 14. A day set aside in many countries for couples to express their love—usually taken to mean romantic love.

It began, as many of our holidays, as an early Christian feast day for a Saint Valentine (it seems there was more than one of those in ancient times). 

A chocolatier in 1868 brilliantly conceived packaging chocolates in a red, heart-shaped box.

Love takes many forms. Most of us really don’t need a 2-lb. box of chocolate candy while we deal with our health.

But it might be a good day to acknowledge someone special.

Choose Not Doing In Order To Do Better

February 13, 2025

Did you know that you can choose what media fills your attention? And affects your emotional state?

Arthur Schopenhauer wrote philosophy mainly in the early 19th Century. I’ve found much of his writing a chore to parse. This thought gets right to the point, “The art of not reading is a very important one. It consists in not taking an interest in whatever may be engaging the attention of the general public at any particular time. When some political or ecclesiastical pamphlet, or novel, or poem is making a great commotion, you should remember that he who writes for fools always finds a large public. A precondition for reading good books is not reading bad ones: for life is short.”

Compare this observation of the 1820s to our plight today where thousands of very smart engineers and managers work extraordinary hours to capture our attention with emotion-laden messages. We choose an application on the internet. Something served to us by the anonymous “algorithm” provokes an emotional response. We read more becoming increasingly incensed as we read.

Finally breaking away, we struggle to concentrate on family, work, study, even relaxation.

Remember our first premise?

It was your choice.

The old Crusader told Indiana Jones (Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade) regarding the villain, “He chose poorly” as he died a hideous death. Then, “Choose wisely.”

Mentors and Coaches

February 12, 2025

I am thinking about mentors and coaches today. News just arrived that one of my mentors had passed away over the weekend.

I had few mentors. Some of them I didn’t realize until later. There are a few who could have been if I had only known how to ask.

That asking is a key element. I failed to ask so many times. Not because I thought I knew it all. Mostly because I hate to bother people. Some because I just couldn’t formulate the right questions.

I have mentored a few people in my journey. Sometimes I didn’t realize it—it wasn’t intentional to any certain individual. I was just being helpful.

I was able to visit one of my mentors before he died. And another I sent a note being a considerable distance away. I hope he got it.

Think of people who have helped you along the way. Send a note (hand written is best) or make a call to those still with us.

If you see someone who could use some help, ask if you can answer a question. If you need some help, don’t be afraid to ask. I didn’t ask. And I have lived to regret it.