Author Archive

Overestimate Good, Underestimate Bad

July 7, 2025

Research shows we consistently underestimate how much we eat and overestimate how much we move.

I once kept a food journal to record how much I ate. My Pedometer++ app lets me know how much I move. With accurate data, I can see where I’m lying to myself.

And, improve.

How about the consistencies in other parts of your life?

Social connection?

Service?

Study?

Think?

Without awareness, it feels like you’re doing everything right…and getting nowhere. With awareness, you start making decisions that actually move the needle.

Independence Day

July 4, 2025

Every year I suggest that all Americans take some time to read a few things to refresh our memories about the founding of our country. It’s probably not a bad practice for all of you who do not live here just for the ideals.

Read 

  • The Declaration of Independence
  • The Preamble to the Constitution
  • Actually the entire Constitution
  • If not all, at least the first 10 amendments—the Bill of Rights
  • Bonus points—read The Federalist Papers

These documents are full of compromises—something that has made it last so long. And something we seem unwilling to do this past decade or so.

Unless You Become Like Children

July 3, 2025

Learning is not compulsory…neither is survival—W. Edwards Deming, quality master

There are people who have a set of things they know and judge all events and actions against that set. There are people who have the continuous unease of not knowing. The former can be typed (perhaps too rigidly) as “FJ or Feeling Judgmental” on the Myers-Briggs Types Indicator. The latter as “TP or Thinking Perceptive.” Anyone who has read more than a few of my thoughts can easily figure out which type describes me.

At that time the disciples came to Jesus and asked, “Who, then, is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven?” He called a little child to him, and placed the child among them. And he said: “Truly I tell you, unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven. Therefore, whoever takes the lowly position of this child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven. And whoever welcomes one such child in my name welcomes me.—Matthew 18

As with all spiritual texts, this can be open to numerous interpretations. I choose in this context to reflect on “beginner’s mind.” Wisdom about as ancient as humans in community recognizes that if our heads are full of knowledge or “stuff,” then there is no room for growth, for learning.

Unless we change and become as little children, that is, unless we are open and fascinated to learn more, we will be stuck where we are.

Seth Godin remarked, “Learning is the difficult work of experiencing incompetence on our way to mastery.”

Unless we become like children—stumbling until we suddenly walk; needing an adult to keep the bicycle up until suddenly we are riding; stumbling over pronouncing a new word until suddenly we are fluent.

Where do you feel the tension of unease of not knowing that will entice you into trying until you learn?

Freedom and Constraint

July 2, 2025

Freedom, liberty. Concepts I was studying in graduate school when the faculty closed the program. I continue to ponder the paradoxes of meanings.

Some people think freedom is means to live without constraint.

I pondered the paradox of people who live in wild-fire-prone locations. Many grasp the freedom to landscape as they wish. Yet, when the inevitable wildfire occurs, that landscaping feeds the fire destroying their home and belongings and memories.

Freedom and consequence.

Paul, the apostle, wrote in his letter to the Jesus-followers in the Galatia region about freedom. It’s a short read. This time of year, freedom is on the minds of people in the US. Bev and I attended the Royal Nova Scotia Tattoo last week while vacationing out there. It was a celebration of freedom. A universal yearning.

Back to Paul. He explained that trying to follow all the laws promulgated both in the Torah and by generations of rabbis led to the opposite of freedom. Being so focused on not breaking any law bound you to the law.

In the paradox of freedom, he urged his readers to live in the Spirit since Jesus had died and been resurrected to fulfill the law. Now living in the Spirit paradoxically meant that you followed the important laws simply as a part of life. 

They (we) are free, yet we know where the constraints are, and that doesn’t bother us. We know that living outside the Spirit is deadening. But living in the Spirit brings true life. The fruit of living that way, 

Love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.

And, wow, don’t we need more kindness and self-control in this age?

Self-Help Industry in a Sentence

July 1, 2025

From Shane Parrish of Brain Food. The entire self-help industry in one sentence: Do what makes mornings exciting and nights peaceful. Will this make me excited to wake up? Will this let me sleep in peace? Everything that fails both tests is noise.

Health begins with good sleep.

Meaning comes from getting up excited to serve others according to your talents.

Thinking Past and Future

June 30, 2025

Some of us cannot move our thoughts beyond what happened, could have happened, or should have happened in the past.

Some of us dream only of the future, relationships to come, jobs and wealth we could acquire, places to visit.

Seth Godin has pointed out, “The best reason to think about the past is because it gives us the opportunity to improve the future.”

Most important—we live only in the present. This decision of what to do right now, in this moment, that is where life exists.

Fitness Isn’t Punishment

June 27, 2025

Arnold Schwarzenegger observing fitness behavior. The people who find joy in the gym are the most likely to keep showing up to the gym. Fitness is supposed to make us feel better, but many people decide to stress about it.

I see the same thing on the nutrition/weight loss side of the equation. People look at “dieting” in order to lose weight as punishment.

That won’t work. Maybe short term. But not for life.

Best is to find the joy of eating wholesome, tasty food in smaller portions. Thousands of recipes exist. One needn’t feel deprived. Heck, have an occasional ice cream.

These practices form the foundation for further spiritual practices. When we feel better, we are more awake to study or finding God’s voice in our prayers and service.

What You Become

June 26, 2025

Ancient wisdom—You become what you think about.

Shane Parrish writing in Brain Food, updated the thought. You become what you scroll.

Don’t be like the loser in Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade about whom the Last Crusader remarked, “He chose poorly.”

Freedom of Speech—With Responsibility

June 25, 2025

I was on a Board of Education in the 1980s. Another member and I pushed for restriction of smoking on school grounds. Another member was a purveyor of tobacco products at the wholesale level.

That member brought a stack of documentation at least a foot high purporting to show the positive health benefits of smoking.

They thought they had the right of free speech to promote ideas contrary to nearly unanimous research about the hazards of smoking—both to the smoker and to others around them.

My wife and I were considering European vacations. People in many cities of western Europe are rebelling against tourists. It seems that people are buying many apartments at a premium price in order to rent them to tourists through AirBnB or equivalent companies. The unintended consequences include housing shortages for natives and increasing prices for property rendering them too expensive for locals.

AirBnB issued a press release saying the real cause was hotels, because that’s where 80% of tourists stay. (Hmmm?) Do hotels contribute to the situation by buying properties? Probably some. But let us not be duplicitous.

Some oil companies just sued under the First Amendment right to freedom of speech to be able to contradict overwhelming evidence garnered from scientific research conducted globally that show direct links to burning fossil fuels, air pollution, and climate change.

The men who wrote the original documents of the US government including the First Amendment discussed the necessary corollary to free speech—responsibility.

An entire industry exists to massage words such that a client can appear to be innocent even when not.

Many companies and people, on the other hand, have discovered the fruit of the moral value of owning mistakes and improving.

Let’s hope that you and I can avoid the temptation of lying in favor of honesty—even if it hurts. And calling out those who fail. Be aware of what you read.

Be Kind To Yourself—How Hard It Is

June 24, 2025

Treating others with kindness can seem like a chore…or it can just be a reflection of who we are.

Spiritual practitioners and teachers have taught people to begin by treating themselves with kindness, practicing gratitude, recognizing our shortcomings with objectivity and desire for change.

Some people whom we might describe informally with narcissistic tendencies seem to be so assured. Yet, inside they cannot treat themselves with kindness while hoping for others to treat them that way.

Others of us have been brought up not to expect kindness from others. Those people are shocked or suspicious when someone is kind to them, since they cannot be kind to themselves.

Blessed are those who treat their shortcomings with kindness. They find spiritual growth. And the ability to serve others in ways great and small simply as an extension of that kindness.

We can all learn to step back, becoming aware of our situation, practicing loving kindness meditation. We become a spiritually integrated child of God.