Sometimes You Just Have to Say I Don’t Know

February 23, 2024

Sometimes You Just Have to Say I Don’t Know

Thomas Jefferson (and most of the other founders of the USA) were children of the Enlightenment, also known as the Age of Reason. They were suspicious of things that couldn’t be figured out by reason. Jefferson famously went through his Bible and cut out all the stories of miracles.

I knew a guy who (I am positive he was mostly joking but I love the metaphor) when he got to a difficult passage in a letter that Paul wrote would say that it was time to get the big black magic marker and just blot out that paragraph.

Aren’t we all very much like that? If there is something we read that is either uncomfortable or we cannot understand, we prefer to blot it out of mind.

I suggest another strategy.

Try saying, “I don’t know.”

Then cultivate curiosity and imagination.

There was so much contained in the letters of the Apostle Paul that I had trouble understanding. I thought about those issues often. Then I happened to come across an 1,800-page scholarly work that taught me more than I could have wished. 

But I was ready to learn.

Had I decided to just ignore uncomfortable passages and roll with my prejudices, I would have missed a tremendous education.

If the first step of personal growth is awareness of where we are, then the first step of learning is saying “I don’t know” and “I wonder why…”

Metanoia

February 22, 2024

Sorry for the Greek word as the title of this meditation. I have been thinking on this word since I heard it on a podcast recently.

I shun as much as possible to use traditional Christian words due to the historical and emotional baggage that often accompanies those words.

What is the first picture or thought that comes to mind when I say

Repentance!

I immediately think of the preacher who comes to No Name City in the play and movie Paint Your Wagon. He hopes to convert all the heathen to Christianity by shouting at them.

In your Bible, you may see the word Repent or Repentance. Translators often render metanoia that way for principally historical reasons.

Perhaps a better rendering of the meaning involves the concept of changing the direction of one’s heart. Or changing the direction of one’s life. 

Another concept would be transforming. This might mean becoming aware that our heart will not accept new things, new people, new ideas. It is “hardened.” Then it somehow becomes transformed into a generous, loving, peaceful heart. 

Metanoia. I was once that way; now I am this way. And I, as well as all those around me, am better for it.

Servant Leadership

February 21, 2024

Right off I will admit that I have no clue just what servant leadership means in practice.

Christian business leaders sometimes like to talk about servant leadership. I recently listened to an interview with a woman who was CEO of a turnaround business effort. She mentioned servant leadership but never really explained it. But I also heard how she built teams within the company focused on the essential factors that would lead to business success.

I also knew a man who was CEO of a small technology company. He gave people statues for their bookcases of Jesus kneeling before Peter while washing his feet. That, of course, is the hallmark of servant leadership. Jesus then taught a lesson that his followers had to learn the hard way about “if you want to be a leader, you must first be a servant.”

That man in the end showed no courage and disappeared when the investors forced a sale. That is an image that will always stay with me. And color my impressions when I hear someone say they are a servant leader. It’s not in the words. It’s in the actions.

Drawing on the stories of Jesus and reflecting on these two brief examples, I offer some thoughts:

  • Have a vision of the end—changing people’s lives, what a successful business/organization looks like
  • Inculcate a measure of humility in your life—recognize you don’t know everything and you just may not be king
  • Build teams that work with a focus on what’s important
  • Support and guide people
  • Don’t be the person who “Lords it over people”, but be a fellow traveler on the journey
  • Have the courage to tell people the bad along with the good

There is probably more. I will give it some more thought.

Wasting Time

February 20, 2024

“What fools call ‘wasting time’ is most often the best investment,”wrote Nassim Nicholas Taleb in his little book of aphorisms The Bed of Procrustes.

Some of us feel that we must fill every waking second with something. Work. Reading a book. Scrolling social media. Meetings. Shopping.

Sometimes boredom is a good thing. Just sitting doing nothing. Thoughts wandering like a summer breeze. 

Sometimes taking a walk outside. Going nowhere. No music; no podcasts.

Yesterday during my afternoon walk I greeted a number of people…and dogs. I watched two otters swim in the creek behind my house. I listened to Sandhill Cranes squawking until one that was in front of me decided to fly just over my head to join the others.

And I was refreshed. And percolated ideas for writing. And appreciated what God has created outside and in me.

Heroism

February 19, 2024

Historian Heather Cox Richardson writing in her newsletter Letters from an American on January 14, 2024 had this to say about heroism:

When I was writing a book about the Wounded Knee Massacre, where heroism was pretty thin on the ground, I gave that a lot of thought. And I came to believe that heroism is neither being perfect, nor doing something spectacular. In fact, it’s just the opposite: it’s regular, flawed human beings choosing to put others before themselves, even at great cost, even if no one will ever know, even as they realize the walls might be closing in around them.

When I was but a lad we were given many stories from World War II about men who performed heroic deeds. Those stories resembled the insight that Richardson expresses.

Heroism is not limited to war. Stories about regarding people who have put others before their own health and welfare. The Jesus Movement grew exponentially in the early days of the Roman Empire when a plague struck the city. Officials and leading business men fled to the hills. Christians crept from their hiding places in order to minister to the health and souls of the stricken. The courage and selflessness of these Jesus-followers served as inspiration to a generation.

In our own times, we can look to Mother Theresa who served the poorest of the poor in India.

Or think of the many women you may know who give up time and energy to serve food and clothing to the poor and homeless of your city.

What can I do today to put others before me in service? And you?

Encouraging a Routine

February 16, 2024

Steve Jobs co-founded Apple Computer and led it to greatness. He famously picked up ideas from many sources. He was in the process of dropping out of Reed College when he heard about a calligraphy class. He audited it. That led to the innovative fonts and interfaces of the Macintosh.

He traveled to Japan to observe manufacturing. All the workers wore uniforms. He thought, if I wore the same thing everyday, I wouldn’t waste any time figuring out what to wear every day. Therefore his trademark black turtlenecks and jeans.

My first job entailed a lot of walking around the manufacturing facility. After a few years, I was “promoted” to a desk job in a rather small office area. I didn’t notice anything until April when our church league softball team began practicing. I could barely run from home to first base. From then on I got up a half-hour or more earlier and went outside to run. One little routine which evolved to run (outside where possible), weight training, Yoga in the mornings followed by sauna then start the day.

Following a hectic six-week period in February and March 2020, we moved to a new city and state the first week of the pandemic shutdown. No more gym, but up every morning to run or walk around my new environment. Be outside in nature. Birds and a variety of little furry critters. It was the routine of up, exercise, breakfast, contemplate and write every morning that kept me sane.

There are things you can do that you don’t have to waste time thinking about every morning. And now you are prepared for your day. 

Contempt

February 15, 2024

It’s not our disagreements that cause division. It’s contempt that causes division.

So often our attitudes define our relationships and actions. 

Can we have honest discussions with others about religion, faith, politics, or our community? Can we listen with holding someone who disagrees in contempt assuming lack of intelligence? Can we speak civilly without condescension in our tone of voice?

I come back to listening. Can we even listen? What are they really saying? What is the emotion they are holding? What needs do they feel that we should be hearing? Maybe not with agreement, but with empathy.

We have all known people who seem to look upon others with contempt. They assume such superiority.

We don’t want to be one of those people. 

Second Guessing

February 14, 2024

American professional football just held its annual championship game. The two teams competed well. The coaches prepared the teams with skill and ingenuity. The players individually played with passion and athleticism. It was thrilling with one team winning on the last play.

I scanned my few news sources the next morning only to see some reporter propose that the losing coach blew one or more decisions at the end leading to the loss.

This is a person who never did the hundreds of things that bring a team together that eventually plays for the championship. But the headline received many clicks, and he got paid.

How often do we sit on the sidelines second-guessing the people actually making the decisions and doing the work? The pastor screwed up again. Or the committee or organization leader fails to lead—to our satisfaction. But how often do we stand up and take the chance to lead? This second guessing leads to dissension and division.

Worse  still is when we second guess ourselves. “If only” thinking can ruin our lives. We can live in despair for years with that thinking. Of course we need to learn from experience. How often we say “I’ll not do that again!” Beware living the “if only I…” life. It leads nowhere.

Fat Tuesday

February 13, 2024

Today is “Fat Tuesday” aka Mardi Gras. In the Chicago area it is Paczki (poochky) Day. That is a Polish treat, a jelly/fruit/cream filled pastry. Alas, by the time I arrived at the coffee house they had sold out. So, I won’t have that extra store of fat to take me through the fasting of Lent.

But then, I was not raised with an extensive Lenten tradition. Neither was my wife. 

I wondered why we are so much more Advent people than Lent people. Both are celebrations of crucial events foundational to the Christian faith. First must come the birth; then must come the resurrection which cannot happen without a death.

On one hand:

  • Six weeks of “Christmas” or “Holiday” music that brings a certain sentimentality?
  • Anticipation of presents?
  • Shopping?
  • Holiday parties and treats?
  • Joy?

On the other hand:

  • One party day (today)
  • Six weeks of somber reflection
  • Six weeks of fasting (for some)
  • One day of party—in America celebrated with piles of chocolates for kids and others and fancy clothing

Perhaps I am, as always, overthinking. There are different seasons to the calendar and to the church calendar and to our lives.

Now at the end of another long winter we look forward to spring. It is a somber time of reflection. What does it all mean? And pointing to the resurrection—which means everything.

The Practice

February 12, 2024

I have followed and taught on the work on Spiritual Disciplines by Richard J. Foster and Dallas Willard. Some people call them Spiritual Practices due to negative connotations of the word discipline.

If you have tried to develop a regular practice of study, prayer, meditation, and silence and found it difficult to sit every day, or even every other day, then you have met what the writer Steven Pressfield calls The Resistance. He defines it in his classic book for creative people The War of Art.

He discussed it recently in his email newsletter. “We have a practice in order to confront and overcome Resistance. A practice by definition defeats Resistance because it produces work every day with total focus and dedication. And a practice is lifelong, so we know we’ll never quit.”

He explains further with thoughts that should help us in our own spiritual practice if we but infuse them into our lives:

I was years into the act of having a practice before I even thought about its efficacy as a strategy to overcome my own Resistance. Resistance was (and is) a given for me. It wakes up with me. I know I will have to face it every day, and I know it will never diminish or relent or go away. But I have a practice. That’s all I need to know. I know at a certain time of day I will go into a certain room. I will enter with a very specific mindset, i.e. “Leave your problems (and your ego) outside.” And I will engage in a very specific (though infinitely varied in the moment) enterprise. I have left Resistance outside as well. It is not allowed into the space where my writing practice takes place.