Consistency

September 5, 2024

A little at a time over time. A consistent approach.

Physical fitness and health link to emotional fitness and health link to spiritual fitness and health.

Sure, genes and traumatic incidents play a significant role in physical and emotional illnesses. But for as much as we can control, we can work on all of these intertwined parts of our whole life.

Arnold Schwarzenegger and his team call it the “Positive Corner of the Internet.” Their newsletter is filled with evaluation of studies and nutritional guides designed to help us improve our physical selves. 

Today’s issue reported three studies that all showed how consistency of even small improvements in diet and exercise significantly impact health and well being.

I add that the same approach to spiritual fitness works. Say you are starting from no spiritual discipline. Just getting out of bed five minutes earlier to read half of a chapter of a Gospel or to take those moments to focus on God done regularly leads to noticeable improvements in how you feel during the day. Soon you will find that five minutes expand to a half-hour. Perhaps half reading something that feeds the mind and soul and then meditating on that for the other fifteen minutes.

Make a subtle change in what and how you eat by cutting portion size

Park you car in the employee parking lot or supermarket lot such that you walk more

Rise early to spend just a few minutes of reading and meditation

Those three small disciplines at whatever stage of life you are in will improve your life.

Put Away Evil Speaking

September 4, 2024

Put Away Evil Speaking–John Wesley.

O that all you who bear the reproach of Christ, who are in derision called Methodists, would set an example to the Christian world, so called, at least in this one instance! Put ye away evil-speaking, talebearing, whispering: Let none of them proceed out of your mouth! See that you “speak evil of no man;” of the absent, nothing but good. If ye must be distinguished, whether ye will or no, let this be the distinguishing mark of a Methodist: “He censures no man behind his back: By this fruit ye may know him.” What a blessed effect of this self-denial should we quickly feel in our hearts! How would our “peace flow as a river,” when we thus “followed peace with all men!”

I was brought up in the Methodist Church and have spent most of my adult life as a member. I don’t remember any specific instruction on Wesleyan thought. Some recent reading suggested several books to read next, so I picked up Wesley’s Collected Sermons. 141 of them. When the book opened in Kindle, the note told me 24 hours remaining of reading time. I’m now half through. I stand amazed at how much my thought came from John Wesley.

The quote from John Wesley should be “inscribed on the heart” of all who call themselves Methodist of whatever flavor. Furthermore, the thought is good for all who claim to follow Jesus. Even further, it wouldn’t hurt every person regardless of religion or politics or whatever to follow this advice.

Getting Out Of Your Way

September 3, 2024

Pogo, a cartoon character from long ago, announced to his friends, “We have met the enemy, and they are us.”

We know the spiritual disciplines or practices that help us open up to God: meditation, prayer, study, worship, service.

The gap between knowing and doing can sometimes be easily stepped over and we proceed. Sometimes the gap is a chasm we cannot cross. Only to discover that the creator of that chasm is us.

We didn’t find that chair in the morning to sit and pray and meditate. We think we are not spiritual enough, and besides, we’d rather get another half-hour of sleep.

We set out that book to study and never opened it. We tell ourselves we are not smart enough to understand. It’ll be too hard. We’re too tired to think. We look at the book and then notice our phone. We pick the phone up first because it’s entertaining and easy. Then our entire study time just got sucked into the drain of nonsense.

We didn’t even bother to open a door for a mother struggling with a package and an infant or for someone handicapped struggling with a non-handicapped accessible door. We think that someone else will help. It’s not my job. Or like someone I was mentoring long ago, “I don’t care.”

There’s a word Jesus uses in the story of Martha and Mary. The Greek word of course can be translated with any one of a number of English words. I saw in one translation the word distracted.

That resonates. We allow ourselves (remember the story “the toy is broken” where we dodge responsibility) to be distracted by many things.

The opposite is focus. Sometime I sit before the laptop and find that I must take a deep breath and mentally bring myself into focus on the task. Or the same when I must repair something. It is my job to find that way to bring myself into focus on what is important at that moment. When something in you suggests an easy way out, tell it to take a rest, I have something important to do.

Cynicism

September 2, 2024

Does the feeling that cynicism invades your soul, surrounds your spirit alter you? It seems everywhere. Conversations. Media. Everyone has sinister ulterior motives. No one can be trusted.

Singer and songwriter Nick Cave observed of himself:

Cynicism is not a neutral position—and although it asks almost nothing of us, it is highly infectious and unbelievably destructive. In my view, it is the most common and easy of evils.​I know this because much of my early life was spent holding the world and the people in it in contempt. It was a position both seductive and indulgent. 

He later changed his outlook:

It took a devastation to teach me the preciousness of life and the essential goodness of people. It took a devastation to reveal the precariousness of the world, of its very soul, to understand that it was crying out for help. It took a devastation to understand the idea of mortal value, and it took a devastation to find hope.​

Blessed are those whose natural compass of life has guided them to hopefulness and helpfulness. It’s harsh to need a devastating event to change. 

You can find good people everywhere. You can find evil. Discernment is knowing the difference with enough distance to avoid being sucked into contempt and cynicism.

Perform The Basics

August 30, 2024

Arnold Schwarzenegger has exhorted people into a fitness life for his entire adult life. In a recent newsletter, he wrote this:

The basics are simple: Eat protein Eat vegetables and fruits Eat healthy carbs Train with the movements that have always worked Walk Drink enough water Sleep If you can’t check all of those boxes — and be honest with yourself, count this weekend where you ate wings and fries and drank beers and missed your workouts and never saw a vegetable — why are you worried about what supplement to take, or the perfect workout, or the “optimal” diet? You aren’t trying now. You’re stalling. You think one of these things might be a magic pill.

John Wesley taught his own set of spiritual basics:

  • Prayer
  • Study the Scriptures
  • Participate in the Lord’s Supper

My advice—do both sets of basics for a balanced and healthy life.

When We Wonder If We Are On The Right Path

August 29, 2024

Say you have chosen a path. On the journey, you have decided that Jesus is your best guide. So you try to follow him, do what he does, live like he teaches.

How is it going?

Ryan Holliday write in his newsletter The Daily Stoic something geared toward what they call the Stoic or philosophical life that is quite applicable to those of us trying to follow the with-God life. The parallels between the Stoic life and the with-God life are startling. We can learn from each other.

Holliday writes:

If you’re wondering if you’re getting better, wiser, more philosophical in this Stoic journey, here’s a test: How many arguments are you getting in each day? How often are you fighting with others? We talked about Elon Musk a while ago. Imagine having ten kids, billions of dollars, seven companies, tens of thousands of employees, a real opportunity to write a better future…and spending your time seeking out culture war issues to get sucked into. Imagine engaging with random trolls online, getting into spats with journalists and politicians. You might think that sounds pretty silly…but are we really that much better in our own, smaller lives?

Does that sound like your Christian life? Always arguing. Always proving a point that your theology is more scriptural? People avoid you because of that attitude?

Or maybe when you rise from your night’s slumber, you go to the bathroom, make your coffee, sit in prayer or meditation, and consider—what will I do today that reflects following Jesus on this journey with God? Will I show the kind of love Jesus talked about? Or will I be obnoxious and argumentative?

Striving or Not-Striving

August 28, 2024

Some people believe that we are born sinful and must live a life of striving toward perfection. Others think we are born perfect and develop illusions as we age requiring a life of recognizing and eliminating illusions.

I have no wish to plumb the depths of theological rationalism.

Somewhere along the journey we call life most of us will stumble on a large root across the path. The sudden realization like a stumble and fall on the wooded path that either we have been living a life wallowing in sin or that we realize that within us lies the capability of performing great sin needing only a trigger event to bring it out.

Perfection is impossible. Striving toward it leads to frustration and psychological trauma. Recognizing the possibility or actualizing of narcissism or cynicism or negativity or spreading hate and hurt can lead us out of the depth. Shedding each negative impulse one at a time by not-striving but allowing the Spirit to touch us (Romans 8:16) until we live the life defined by the fruit of the spirit (Galatians 5:22-23).

Grateful or Resentful

August 27, 2024

The tension of holding two things in your head could lead to a headache. Or worse.

If you are grateful, you cannot be resentful at the same time.

Choose wisely.

My Voice or His

August 26, 2024

We surely have all met people along our journeys who tell us that they have heard the voice of God. Then they proceed to do or say something bizarre. 

Paul wrote to the gathering of followers in Rome, “It is that very Spirit bearing witness with our spirit that we are Children of God.” Romans 8:16

John Wesley pondered that thought and wrote, “How many have mistaken the voice of their own imagination for this witness of the Spirit of God, and thence idly presumed they were the children of God while they were doing the works of the Devil!” 

This resembles the question, “How do you know that you are not self-aware?”

How do you know that it simply your own imagination, your own cognitive biases rather than the Spirit talking to you?

For me, the answer to the first question came from an incident where I suddenly saw myself as others saw me. Sometimes it takes an intervention by friends or a statement by a speaker where we suddenly have our eyes opened.

The second answer may have been provoked by a similar incident. We could also test our ideas with Scripture and/or respected spiritual writers. Conversations with mentors or professionals could guide us if we have strayed from the path.

Becoming aware of straying onto a false path or of deluding ourselves constitutes our life’s work.

Those Who Are Centered Upon Themselves

August 23, 2024

Narcissism is the shame-based fear of being ordinary.—Brené Brown.

We commonly toss the word narcissism to label those who seem annoyingly self centered. Usually we are describing someone we tire of easily due to their one-sided conversations.

There is a disorder listed in the psychologist’s diagnostic manual. Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) is a personality disorder characterized by a life-long pattern of exaggerated feelings of self-importance, an excessive need for admiration, and a diminished ability to empathize with other people’s feelings.

If you have met someone with the disorder and especially if you must work with this person, my suggestion is to run. Remove yourself from the situation.

Short of disorder, though, we should all reflect upon our own behaviors. How much do we wish to not appear ordinary such that our conversations tend to focus not only on ourselves but especially upon our exploits that make us appear extraordinary?

If as a follower of Jesus we incorporate his teachings into our lives to first love God and then also love those around us (our neighbor), then we are focusing our thoughts and lives on others. Sort of the opposite of common narcissism. 

Perhaps in being ordinary followers, we actually wind up being extraordinary as a byproduct!