The Curse of Silence

November 11, 2011

Two major universities who are perhaps know more for football than academics among the general public are suffering through scandals right now. Each quickly (when the news became public) dumped successful football coaches–you know, those guys who bring millions of dollars into the institution.

Of course, I’m talking about Jim Tressel at Ohio State and Joe Paterno at Penn State. Both respected individuals until the scandals became public. Interestingly, it wasn’t what they did (although supervision of those under them was perhaps lacking), but it was what they didn’t do. They didn’t speak up when they saw or heard about wrong-doing. They chose to remain silent. They chose not to blemish their institutions and perhaps themselves publicly.

I imagine it was much the same in the Catholic Church where we’ve learned about many abuses and the fact that those in charge at some level chose to keep quiet.

Sometimes, in interpersonal relationships, it is better to maintain silence rather than hurt someone. But when the cases involve doing wrong, abusive or illegal things, silence is not golden. Jesus did not maintain silence confronting the religious leaders who were not following the path of God.

When another Christ-follower is off the path, we need not maintain silence but should gently correct them. But if the issue is serious, we should also tell authorities such that illegal activities are not condoned.

As we can see from these examples, maintaining silence only works in the short term. News eventually breaks out and then you are seen for what you are.

Ethics or Do the Evil Ones Win

November 10, 2011

I recently heard a message on Psalm 73 and the story of Asaph. He was looking around at the people in his region and thought to himself something to the effect of, “I’ve been a loyal God-follower all my life, yet I look at those around me who lie, cheat and steal and who seem to prosper. What gives?”

We look around and see the same thing. There is a little of that attitude (don’t know about the God-follower thing) in the current Occupy movement sweeping the country. People are seeing those at the top of the wealth charts prospering, avoiding jail when caught, and seemingly having it all while sticking it to the little guy.

Asaph was worshiping God at his version of church when God spoke to him and told him that he was in God’s care for eternity, while those outside of God were destined to a lonely eternity without God. He changed his attitude.

We see things and wonder if ethics matter. I was preparing this message yesterday when I ran out of time and had to get to a meeting. So today at 6 am Nashville time, I’m at the airport waiting for my flight home. Listening to the eternal drone of CNN airport news, I heard the conclusion of the Joe Paterno case. Here is a well respected, successful college football coach with something like a 67 year career who just went down in flames. He “didn’t remember” that he was told about sexual abuse by one of his staff. He told an administrator but didn’t take further action or notify police. So he was just fired in the middle of the season. A tremendous blemish on what was a great public reputation.

Then I hear a candidate for President of the United States who evidently had some sort of sexual problem (amazing how sex seems to drive people to scandal). It was enough that several people were paid off. When confronted with the reports of his actions by his old accusers, he says “I don’t remember.” Don’t know what he really did, but this “I don’t remember” thing is obviously designed to circumvent facing up to the situation.

Do you have an “I don’t remember” past? You can deal with it with God. Do you see others prospering when they have some of those “I don’t remember” incidents? If you are with God, that’s all that matters. You’ll be with God in eternity. The others? Well, chances are they won’t.

Your Actions Match Your Message

November 4, 2011

Paul had sort of a formula for his missionary campaigns. He’d show up in a town. Go to the weekly meeting at the local synagogue. Get to speak. Then he would argue from the Hebrew scriptures how the history of God’s interaction with the Jews pointed to the coming of a Messiah–but a different kind of Messiah than most had expected. Then he’d tell the story of Jesus and about how he did all the things that the scriptures said a Messiah would do. Then he’d proclaim the resurrection and life in Christ.

As I read all these stories in Acts, I’m struck by how people came to believe. I think that Paul’s message got him a hearing. Many people really seemed to come into belief not from the message as much as from Paul (and Barnabas and others) himself. His personality and presence reflected the reality of the new life with Jesus. Then he would perform some sort of sign that would show the power of God. Then more would believe.

We all have seen the studies that social scientists have conducted about communication–about how your actions and gestures need to match your message. We all instinctively know to beware the person with the smile on his or her lips but whose eyes aren’t smiling.

It’s actually sort of scary, isn’t it? That when you talk to someone about Jesus that they will be looking at your presence, your life, your personality? Does your presence invoke some or all of the fruits of the Spirit such that you are “smiling with your eyes while you’re smiling with your lips”?

Why Do You Work

November 3, 2011

I found myself in a profession several years ago where my work receives much visibility. It better. I’m the editor of a magazine which we all hope garners thousands of readers. One of my passions is technology and manufacturing strategy. I get to write about it and hopefully educate and motivate people.

The thing is–I am pretty recognizable. When I go to conferences most people say nice things about me. The thing I must continually remind myself is that I do this because of my passion, not because I want to be Lord of Automation or something.

Same thing in working for God. Do I do what I do because I want to be in charge, recognized as a leader, feel great about myself? How about you?

I’ve been reading in Acts for the past few months. There are a lot of nuggets of wisdom in this book that describes what people did in developing the early church. Today I was reading where Paul stopped at the port of Ephesus on his way back to Jerusalem. He didn’t want to go into the city–maybe he didn’t want to delay his trip or maybe he didn’t want to get into another scrape with “the Jews”.

He said good-bye to the elders of the church and reminded them he came to serve them. I got to thinking about that word–serve. Paul met lots of people. He converted lots of people from a life that was lost to a life that was full of grace. He taught, preached, developed leaders. What did he not do? He never set himself up as “the boss.” He was firm in his teachings–which he received first-hand from Jesus. But he never established an office–say High Bishop or something–and set himself up as the “political” leader.

Leadership is service. Paul remembered where his passion was. He developed leaders who could carry on and then he moved on to the next city and did it again. Most of his letters back to those groups were designed to strengthen the leaders.

Paul came to serve. And in serving, he received no earthly glory or power, but his legacy is strong even to today.

Why are you doing what you do? Is it a passion to serve? Or a passion to be popular, to be the boss, to be honored?

Disciplines of the Heart

November 1, 2011

 

Michael Hyatt, chairman of Thomas Nelson publishing and blogger, recently posted an interesting commentary on disciplines for strengthening your heart–meaning more about courage than health. But if you’ve felt overwhelmed and someone advises that you should “take heart,” here are some thoughts. Check out his blog page for complete explanations.

  1. The Discipline of Reflection.Intentionally pull away to a quiet place, pause, and reflect.
  2. The Discipline of Rest. One of the quickest ways to lose perspective is to cheat ourselves out of this God-given “off switch.”
  3. The Discipline of Recreation. Recreation involves any activity that gives us the opportunity to express our creativity.
  4. The Discipline of Relationships. Arguably, this is the most important.
     

Prayer and Fasting

October 31, 2011

I’ve been studying in The Acts of the Apostles for a couple of months. If there is a sort of foundation theme to the book, it lies in the spiritual disciplines of worship, prayer and fasting. In the first few chapters things happen when the group is gathered together in worship, prayer and fasting. Then decisions are made later as they are beginning to get organized only after prayer and fasting.

This seems to be a worthy practice for us to emulate–both in church work and in our personal lives. We tend to get so opinionated. We are capable of having a firm opinion on things even in the face of unarguable facts and evidence to the contrary. And we are capable of arguing that point forever. No listening. No compromise.

How refreshing would it be to have a process something like this–recognize a problem that requires a decision; formulate the problem clearly; stop, take a deep breath, pray, center your whole attention on God (something fasting will do for you); and then listen for God to speak.

The original apostles made momentous decisions that way. While fasting and praying, they were consumed by the Holy Spirit. Good things happened to those who gathered together for prayer, fasting and worship. I bet it still happens today. Maybe we should all try that.

Overcommitments Can Kill You

October 19, 2011

When something is on your mind, your subconscious brain is ever watchful for signs and suggestions. So, this thought came to my Inbox a short time ago, “Most of the stress people experience comes from inappropriately managed commitments they make or accept.”– David Allen, author & productivity consultant. (By the way, if you have never read a little book “Getting Things Done”, rush out, buy it, read it, practice it. GTDers, and I’m one, develop a practice of thinking and doing that is designed to reduce that stress.)

I’m in Los Angeles this week. Trying to finish a 2,500 word article and two 600-word columns for a magazine that is supposed to go to the printer in two more days. I’ve been on the road every week since Labor Day. Next week I go to Nashville before having a week off and then another four weeks including a week in Germany. Even though one of those weeks was vacation and another was family-related, it’s hard to feel in control. Then there is the class I have wanted to take for a few years. I’m finally eligible, but it occurs during all this travel. Can I fit that in? That, not the travel itself, is the stress point.

Ah, maybe I’m overcommitted? Probably so. Thanks David for the reminder.

It’s good to look at Jesus when things seem to pile up. He took a little time to himself, went off alone, and talked with God. He always returned refreshed.

Are you either overcommitted or about to be? Might be time to take some time away, even if only a half-hour, to listen to God. Then figure out what you can do. This kind of stress can kill you. Take care of yourself.

Discipline your emotions and your mouth

October 13, 2011

Have you ever been involved in youth sports as a coach or parent? If that was in the past, do you look back at yourself and your actions with fondness…or with a grimace? I started out in soccer as a coach. I knew nothing. But that didn’t prevent me from loudly expressing my opinions. I remember some times as a parent that now make me ashamed.

This was especially true after I became a referee and heard how bad all that sounds. Try it sometime.

I’m trying to draw a spiritual lesson from an incident that affected me deeply last weekend. There is a young girl (about 16 or so) who has worked as a referee for me for several years. She is good, if young. Last weekend I put her in the position of authority in a match of 12-year-olds. Should have been fine. But, coach went berserk. She should have ejected him, but she was too kind.

After the game, he approaches her and puts his arm around her shoulders. OK, that’s totally inappropriate in any situation. Touching a referee (unless you’re friends) takes the inappropriate to the next level. Then in this intimate setting, he proceeds to tell her how terrible she is. So we go to yet another level of inappropriate. Assistant coach then offers — if she doesn’t report them, they won’t file a report on how bad she is. Oh, by the way, if you haven’t guessed already, they lost the game.

Now, for all I know, the coaches are fine, upstanding Christian gentlemen. Or, they may not have seen the inside of a church since their wedding. But I’ve been at this for over 25 years, and I still can’t believe how people act. All sense of proportion is lost.

James instructed us to tame our tongues. What a simple little instruction in a good, but short, letter. But how hard to do. And nothing seems to bring out our inner anger than a sporting event–especially one in which our children are participating. I know better, and I’ve failed in my life. But what a teaching moment was lost on those coaches. Maybe we need to be reminded when we fall short?

Complicated Christianity

October 4, 2011

Do you tend to complicate things? You think too much. Come up with too many ideas? Or perhaps you think about what you or someone else should do for a long time before you ever do it?

I do that sometimes. I’ll think about a project. Plan it in my head. Figure out all the tools I’ll need. Visualize how I’ll do every step. Think about problems I’ll encounter. Then it turns out to be a simple 15-minute project.

I also think too much about life sometimes. Albert Einstein (who seemed to be really complicated–ever try to read through the General Theory of Relativity?) once said something like “it should be as simple as possible, but not too simple.” It’s easy to make things complicated in our minds.

Acts 2 describes some powerful speaking that penetrated the hearts of those who heard it. The asked the disciples what they should do next. That’s a powerful question–in our lives we should always ask what the next step is. What is the next action we should take.

In Acts 2:37 Peter answers these new Christians with three next actions. Repent. Be baptized in the name of Jesus. Receive the Holy Spirit.

I like to play with words. So much so that almost 14 years ago I made a career change from an engineer working in manufacturing to a writer and editor of a magazine. So, I worry about words. Take “repent” for example. What do you think of when you hear that word? An old-time evangelist thundering from the stage trying to frighten people into submission? The caricature of a man with a long beard and long robe carrying a sign reading Repent?

It’s actually a simple word with a simple meaning. Important, but simple. What Peter was saying was that you used to live in a certain way. Now you recognize that that way of life leads to spiritual wasteland. So you decide to change the way you live. That’s all. You used to live one way, now you live another. Easily said. Hard to practice. Right?

Now if you make that decision to change the way you live your life, you will make a public commitment to join a community of people also trying to live that life. You are baptized in a public celebration of your decision.

Then you will receive the Holy Spirit. In other words, God enters you (remember how we make God complicated by trying to explain that the one God has three forms–Father, Son, Spirit–and then think we have three Gods). Anyway, God enters you and you now live a new life in relationship with this God that you have found.

What should we do next?

Getting Disciplined

October 2, 2011

So, I’m preparing to teach a class on developing spiritual discipline. Meanwhile, I’ve been so busy that several of my disciplines—including writing this blog—have gone out of the window.

In the past three weeks, I’ve slept in my own bed a total of 5 nights. All this travel destroys my routines. As I’ve thought about this, I have concluded that I need at least one habit or discipline that I can do on the road even when I’m getting to my room about 11 after dinner and needing to shower to leave by 7 for a breakfast meeting.

That realy is what disciplines are all about. Making a conscious choice to do something every day that will move you toward growth. I have another one of those weeks coming up. We’ll see how I do.