What We Are Responsible For

July 23, 2025

Dan Millman in Peaceful Warrior Newsletter – July 2025

It wasn’t until I met the Sage (Dr. David K. Reynolds) that I fully understood that neither I nor anyone else has direct control over arising thoughts or passing emotional weather — and therefore, no responsibility for random thoughts or emotions. (We can only be responsible for what we can control.)   In fact the only thing over which we have a good bit of control is our behavior — how we move; the actions we take. And we are responsible for our actions whether or not we happen to feel inspired or motivated or fearful or angry or sad.

Wisdom resides in our understanding of what we cannot control and must therefore live with and understanding what is in our control and working on it.

Are You Really Free?

July 22, 2025

I have a paper laying dormant that would have been a Master’s thesis on freedom. I think of it at times. It’s why I like the Letter to the Galatians above all of Paul’s writing. It’s about freedom.

Some people (many?) think freedom means to be without restraint. That may be a definition, but it’s not an attitude that will take you very far in life.

Ryan Holliday has carved a career as the premier writer on Stoicism today. These thoughts came from his newsletter, The Daily Stoic.

In Rome at the time, many people believed that only free people were capable of being educated. But the indisputable truth that Epictetus saw every day in the moral disorder and dysfunction of Nero’s court, where his master served as a high-profile secretary, was that it was in fact the opposite. Only the educated, he said, were free. 

This is something Seneca points out about that same period in Rome—how profoundly unfree many of the richest and most powerful people are. This is true twenty odd centuries later too: Most people are enslaved and controlled and directed by their ignorance. Their impulses. Their temper. Their desires and delusions.

People think they are free when in reality they are slaves to something not of their choosing—power, money, stuff, alcohol, sex, all of the above.

Epictetus’s definition of education would be different from ours. The point remains. Being educated in philosophy, theology, literature, psychology can inculcate an understanding and sympathy to live a life of freedom within our constraints. Like what Paul was trying to express.

Giving Permission

July 21, 2025

My “virtual friend” Jon Swanson wrote in his newsletter, Finding Words in Hard Times, Do what you can. It’s enough.

He told this story:

Yesterday at the hospital, a couple came up behind me. The guy put his arm around my shoulder. I asked why they were there. It was a different person than usual that they were visiting, worrying about. I looked into her eyes and said, “Go home. Get rest. There are people here to watch by night.” And then I said, “Most of what I do is give permission. To stop. To breath. To not work so hard to measure up. To stop expecting so much.”

Our church had a weak leader once upon a time. I was on a committee but assuredly not a “leader” of the congregation. For some reason people would come to me with ideas for a ministry. I didn’t have any power, but I simply told them, “Just do it.” Like a presentation from General Colin Powell I had, “It’s easier to ask forgiveness then to ask for permission.”

I give you permission—to be kind, to be generous, to start that ministry. Just do it.

What We Believe

July 18, 2025

Pondering “Everyone believes very easily whatever they fear or desire.”​— Jean de La Fontaine

Our mind will believe what we tell it to believe—or what we allow others to tell us to believe.

That means we all must pause periodically and perform a “gut-check.”

Are our current beliefs congruent with our real values? Are we on the path we should be following?

Thinking of Adam Grant’s Think Again.

Simple Surrender and Obedience

July 17, 2025

Sort of following yesterday’s thoughts on hate and divisiveness breaking my heart, is this meditation from Dietrich Bonhoeffer.

Humanly speaking, we could understand and interpret the Sermon on the Mount in a thousand different ways. Jesus knows only one possibility: simple surrender and obedience, not interpreting it or applying it, but doing and obeying it…. He does not mean that it is to be discussed as an ideal, he really means us to get on with it.

We waste so much energy arguing and defending some minute interpretation of theology. What would be Jesus’s reaction to all that? Would it be what Bonhoeffer suggested—that we take these teachings from Jesus and actually do something about them?

Perhaps we surrender our ego and greed and fear and pride—and serve our neighbor (see Luke’s telling of the Good Samaritan)?

Every evening before retiring reflect on where we showed kindness and where we were servants.

What Breaks Your Heart?

July 16, 2025

Andy Stanley asked in a recent message, “What breaks your heart?”

Discover that, then act on it.

I read the blog of Rich Dixon. An accident resulted in lower body paralysis. His story of overcoming his self-pity and riding a hand-crank cycle thousands of miles to raise money for a home that rescues children from sex trafficking. Those kids broke his heart enough to energize him to become a great leader.

What breaks my heart currently is the hate and vitriol and meanness of one group toward other groups. Even among people who identify as Christian. (If you think this doesn’t apply to you, then it probably does. Seems to be a human thing.)

 I have some understanding of the emotions that drive some of us to fear or despise people who are not like us. Perhaps even sympathy. But I don’t feel that way. I don’t know why. 

I remember meeting people not like me—or the people I grew up with—for the first time as a freshman at university. They all seemed like people to me. What’s the big deal, I thought.

From For What It’s Worth by Buffalo Springfield

There’s battle lines being drawn

And nobody’s right if everybody’s wrong

Young people speaking their minds

Are gettin’ so much resistance from behind

[Chorus]

It’s time we stop

Hey, what’s that sound?

Everybody look what’s going down

And to the point today:

Paranoia strikes deep

Into your life, it will creep

It starts when you’re always afraid

Step out of line, the man come and take you away

[Chorus]

We better stop

Hey, what’s that sound?

Everybody look what’s going down

Finding the Simple Path

July 15, 2025

We had a vision of a ministry to support people who had certain needs.

Simple. We copy from other ministries that people knew. We listened to someone with myriad ideas, powerful personality, a well thought out, yet complexly structured, ministry.

Not so simple.

We began soon discovering life doesn’t fit complex theories.

We found the path, the simple path, the path that led some toward health.

Isn’t that like our lives? We try to live by following complex theologies or philosophies. It really doesn’t work. We still haven’t found a life imbued with the fruit of the spirit. 

Love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.

Aren’t these the qualities of life we seek? Not through following complex theologies and philosophies. It’s the simple life in the Spirit.

Maybe pick one for the day. Perhaps try to intentionally be kind to yourself this morning and then to everyone and everything you meet along the way.

A Collection of Reading

July 14, 2025

This sampling of books from my library. I am an eclectic reader, infinitely curious about way too many things. My links are to Bookshop.org. Buying from this site supports your local independent bookstore. I do not have an affiliate link.

Influences

Simple Leader, Kevin Meyer

Bible, esp. Matt 5-7, James, Galatians, Romans as a spiritual formation guide

Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance An Inquiry into Values, Robert Pirsig (it’s not about Zen or about motorcycle maintenance—the motorcycle you’re working on is you)

Seneca’s Letters from a Stoic—probably never heard of Jesus but his thinking is so close to Paul’s that some early Church leaders thought he was a Christian (There are other Stoics including Marcus Aurelius and Epictetus)

Bird by Bird Anne Lamott

Stephen King—On Writing: A Memoir of the Craft

Recent books

Breath, James Nestor (about breathing, and more)

The One, Heinrich Päs, not for everyone, latest thinking about quantum physics and philosophy

Wrong: How Media, Politics, and Identity Drive Our Appetite for Misinformation, Dannagal Goldthwaite Young (one of several research studies about how we can be so easily sucked into a vortex of misinformation on social media and the web)

Misbelief:What Makes Rational People Believe Irrational Things—Dan Ariely

For the introverts: Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking Susan Cain

Religion: Red Letter Christians—Tony Campolo

Spiritual writing

John O’Donohue, Anam Cara and To Bless The Space Between Us (Irish writer, brings Celtic sensibility to his thinking)

The Way of the Pilgrim—How to live praying without ceasing

The Cloud of Unknowing—on contemplation

Morality: Restoring the Common Good in Divided Times, Jonathan Sacks (former chief Rabbi of England)

Thomas Merton, Thoughts in Solitude or New Seeds of Contemplation

Richard, J. Foster, Celebration of Discipline

Practical Advice

Adam Grant, Think Again

Oliver Burkeman, Four Thousand Weeks

Cal Newport—World Without Email, Deep Work, Slow Productivity

You Can’t Screw This Up, Adam Bornstein (nutrition)

Food Rules, Michael Pollen

James Clear—Atomic Habits

Charles Duhigg—The Power of Habit

Gregg McKeown—Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less and Effortless

Psychology

The Anxious Generation, Jonathan Haidt

The Narcissism Epidemic, Twenge and Campbell

Antonio Damasio, Decartes’ Error, The Feeling of What Happens, Feeling & Knowing

How to Know a Person, David Brooks

Facing the Fracture, Tania Israel, especially this flowchart about having conversations with those of different views. This is a very important book to digest.

For math Geeks, Eugenia Cheng, How to Bake π, The Joy of Abstraction

Creativity and Design

Design for a Better World, Don Norman

Creativity, Inc. By Ed Catmull (story of Pixar)

Fiction

Novels of Umberto Eco—The Name of the Rose, Foucault’s Pendulum, The Island of the Day Before, and others

The Chinese murder mystery novels of Robert van Gulik (brings 7th Century China to life…and death)

The Nero Wolfe novels by Rex Stout

Hermann Hesse novels

Colin Dexter—Inspector Morse series

Douglass Adams, Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy series

JRR Tolkein, Lord of the Rings series

Earle Stanley Gardner, The Perry Mason series (contemporary with Rex Stout, interesting comparison of Southern California with Stout’s New York City)

And, if you want to tackle something really difficult, Infinite Jest by David Foster Wallace

Four books of aphorisms, return to them often

Religious Liberty

July 11, 2025

We were members of a congregation affiliated with the American Baptist Churches, USA, for about a dozen years. One of the classes I taught focused on Roger Williams, the 17th Century Baptist preacher who was so upset with the Puritans in Massachusetts combining their church and the government, that he founded a new colony (now state) Rhode Island. He wanted a place for religious liberty.

The founders of the USA were likewise suspicious of state-sanctioned churches. The English government levied taxes on everyone to support the Church of England. The founders didn’t like their tax dollars going there. Religious liberty with no state-sanctioned church was baked into the Constitution.

But back to religious liberty and Roger Williams. That man had a lot of courage. And he determined a direction.

I studied the political concept of liberty (freedom) in graduate school. As my focus turned increasingly spiritual, I appreciated Paul’s Letter to the Galatians. It’s all about how we, you and I, can be free. 

When we live in the spirit, we are free. Not of all constraints, of course. That’s nonsense. But free to live with the fruit of the spirit: But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness,  gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. (Galatians 5:22-23)

Let us not take our eye off the goal. Don’t go down rabbit holes. Follow Jesus, live in the Spirit, enjoy the fruit.

Much Will Be Demanded

July 10, 2025

My “virtual” friend Jon Swanson introduced me to the life and ministry of Rich Dixon. His Freedom Tour bicycle trips every year raise thousands of dollars to support a ministry that rescues children from the brutal sex trade in southeast Asia.

Rich recently wrote on his blog this challenge:

For my generation, President Kennedy issued what became a seminal challenge during his inaugural address: “My fellow Americans, ask not what your country can do for you, ask what you can do for your country.” Many of us took him seriously. Public service, teaching… lots of us sincerely believed those were ways of answering Pres. Kennedy’s challenge. But, John Kennedy didn’t invent this notion. 2000 years earlier, Jesus said, “From everyone who has been given much, much will be demanded; and from the one who has been entrusted with much, much more will be asked.”

What have you received from God? What have you been given? What are you doing with it?

I was only 13 when President Kennedy issued his challenge. It influenced my future life.

Oh, and check out Rich’s blog and ministry. Perhaps you have a little something you can give.