Archive for the ‘Wisdom’ Category

Advice and Consultants

January 16, 2025

The first time I was hired as a consultant I felt so unfulfilled afterward. My career was management and engineering. The manager of a local non-profit agency hired me to help sort out a problem. I did the research and wrote a report. Then, I walked away. What I did helped him. But I was an implementer by training.

Yes, I’ve had consulting gigs (paid and not-paid) since. I’ve learned the role of researching and providing advice. Sometimes the results are rewarding.

Seth Godin packs a lot of wisdom into his writing. He’s generous giving it away for free. His recent blog post on Good Advice suggests

The cult of consulting suggests that if you simply had better advice from someone who knew more than you, your problems could be solved. Generally, the advice isn’t really the hard part. There’s endless good advice just a click away. The art is in creating the conditions for people to choose to act on the advice. Good advice unheeded is a waste for everyone involved. That’s why expensive consultants can stay in business, and why committing to a process before you’re sure of all the details makes it far more likely that you’ll succeed.

We find in the Book of Proverbs that a wise leader seeks multiple sources of advice.

Advice is only half of the battle. Committing to the process of implementation finishes the work.

It’s The Simple Things That Work

January 7, 2025

Among the subjects I study (and practice) are fitness and nutrition. From a newsletter I receive:

We’ve all seen diets come and go, but the truth about weight loss is simple: it’s not about finding the “perfect” plan; it’s about making small changes you can keep — and eating foods that keep you fuller for longer.

They found that increasing protein and fiber led to the most weight loss — and eating more of those foods ensured that you were shedding fat and maintaining more muscle.—Arnold Schwarzenegger

I find that if you shed social media gorging focusing on reading that provides the equivalent of protein and fiber, in other words, spiritual writing and wisdom literature that has stood the test of time, will reduce your spiritual, emotional, and mental fat maintaining or even growing your muscles in those areas. 

Culture Continually Changes

January 3, 2025

I’m at an age of reflecting over a long career. Many writers in the variety of media prefer to consider how bad things have gotten. I reflect on the many improvements I’ve seen.

I’ve completed a few trips in the past month. Several things struck me.

Drinking—Maybe I’m just not invited, but I don’t see the amount of extravagant alcoholic consumption of most of my career. I saw a survey noting that the share of companies hosting the “traditional” alcoholic party declined from 90% to 64% 2007 to 2024.

Once my eyes were opened to nuances of human interaction, I began to notice the number of pick up dances. Not that I was hit on much—women instinctively know a geek when they see one. But for a time I traveled with a guy who looked a lot like Harrison Ford. I lost count of women who came up to me when he left for the restroom and asked if it was true… 

On a recent trip I noticed a number of men and women at the hotel bar. Not a single attempt. Although at another trip I saw a guy who tried butting in to a girls’ night out group. He wasn’t getting anywhere.

These are but a few examples of change attitudes. I see others of people who have changed for the better over the years. Losing the edge and obnoxiousness of someone trying to achieve acceptance or notoriety; becoming more at ease in who they are.

Sure…I’m a long-term optimist. How could I be a Jesus-follower and be otherwise?

Understanding or Opinion

January 2, 2025

There is Understanding and Then There is Opinion

Try out some wisdom on yourself that is at least 3,000 years old. I guess people have been the same since the beginning of culture. From the book of Proverbs (18:2)

A fool takes no pleasure in understanding, but only in expressing personal opinion.

We experienced that often even before social media amplified it I seldom watch TV news, but what I have seen amplifies this with the appropriate (trained) facial expressions.

I catch myself—have I researched this appropriately or am I merely parroting some thought that originated in Russia or China?

Or, perhaps we violate this additional warning (18:13).

If one gives answer before hearing, it is folly and shame.

How often we impulsively blurt out an often stupid opinion on someone’s problem without ever fully listening and understanding.

I have that problem, too. Working on it…

31 Days of Wisdom

December 31, 2024

Let’s begin the New Year with a proper state of mind and attitude.

How about 31 for 31?

January has 31 days. The book of Proverbs in the Old Testament has 31 chapters. One chapter of wisdom a day for the month of January. That should orient us for success this year. 

As a special bonus for yourself, turn to the first book of the New Testament and read Matthew chapters 5-7 as a daily companion. Matthew is firmly in that Jewish wisdom tradition. Called the Sermon on the Mount, this is most likely Jesus’s standard teaching as he traveled the countryside preaching. Ground yourself this core teaching about how to live.

I retired from active soccer refereeing about seven years ago promptly gaining some weight. I started lifting weights which added muscle—and weight. Then Covid plus moving to a new state disrupted my routines not helping. 

This year I made slight tweaks in workout and diet. Nothing drastic. Just eating less. Cutting out or reducing greatly foods that add weight (chips and sugary crap). Increasing aerobic intensity a little. Dedicating more effort to resistance training. 104 deg hot tub four days a week (great for metabolic health and longevity). I’ve dropped 21 pounds and more than an inch from my waist. Steel cut oats for more than half of my breakfasts helped drop cholesterol to the low side of good.

You don’t need drastic lifestyle changes unless you need to drop lots of weight. Small changes done consistently make all the difference (assuming no other overriding health issues).

Here are two tips for subtle changes with big impact. Ten fruits and ten foods added to your diet replacing ultra-processed and sugary foods.

Ten Fruits

  1. Blueberries
  2. Apples
  3. Oranges (not juice)
  4. Raspberries
  5. Blackberries
  6. Prunes
  7. Tomatoes
  8. Bananas
  9. Watermelon
  10. Avocados

Ten Foods

  1. Quinoa
  2. Eggs
  3. Salmon
  4. Sweet Potatoes
  5. Potatoes
  6. Blueberries
  7. Almonds
  8. Spinach
  9. Lean Chicken
  10. Oatmeal

It Looks Deceptively Steady

December 18, 2024

The Yoga practitioner in the classic tree pose standing on one foot, the other foot planted on the inside of the other thigh, arms raised above the head looks smooth and steady.

If you are the practitioner, it is not as it seems. The body may sway slightly as it adjusts micro balances. Toes grip the mat firmly. The mind maintains constant focus. The body feels energy from sole of the foot through the tips of fingers.

Someone meditating, perhaps you, from the outside looks so serene. But to the person, there are moments of serenity interspersed with moments of the mind wandering where it will.

The wise person goes deeper than what appears on the outside in order to understand the energy and dynamics.

Are You Polite or Kind?

December 13, 2024

Think on the various conversations Jesus participated in as recorded in the various Gospels.

The rich young man, Nicodemus, the Syrian/Phoenician woman with a sick daughter, the Samaritan woman at the well. And more.

He was strong, but kind, with the rich young man who was a perfectionist regarding keeping the laws of the religion. But Jesus saw his heart. He pointed out to the man where he needed to grow.

Nicodemus, a religious leader, came with questions. Jesus answered directly, but also by giving him something to think about.

I love the way he bantered with the Syrian/Phoenician woman before telling her of healing.

The Samaritan woman, opposite of the rich young man who thought he did everything right, went to the well for water when the other women would be gone so as not to face them. Jesus did not pat her on the back (metaphorically) and tell her things could be worse. He saw also the condition of her heart, confronting her with how to grow becoming healthy.

Being polite is withholding feedback in order to make someone feel good today. Being kind is being candid about how they can get better tomorrow.

Let us ponder on how to be candid, yet kind, like Jesus.

Be Careful of Our Speaking

December 12, 2024

“Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret.” — Ambrose Bierce

“How great a forest is set ablaze by a small fire! And the tongue is a fire.”—James

“A gentle tongue is a tree of life, but perverseness in it breaks the spirit.”—Proverbs of Solomon

We can know all these thoughts, and, yet, still we can say hurtful things.. 

The most important moment in your life can be the pause before answering someone. Or the pause between a thought and a response.

Tilling the Soil

December 10, 2024

Thinking more on yesterday’s post (just scroll down one on the website). The Parable of the Sower and understanding when the soil is prepared for the growth of the Word.

Farmers in my area completed the harvest in a timely manner. The fields once hiding the view from rural roads now afforded a view across the way to the ponds and woods in the distance.

No sooner had they put away the harvesting machinery, out came the tillers. Soon most of the ground was tilled lying prepared through the winter for spring planting. Next May sprouts of corn and soy beans will green those dormant fields.

Returning to our church-going friend who wishes to share what a relationship with God means with another. I suggested beginning with a question. This acts in the same manner of tilling the soil. The soil (person) must be prepared for sowing the seed (Word). Otherwise, our well meaning person wastes time and effort, perhaps even alienating the other.

Let us now look at ourselves. We also must prepare our own soil for the Word to take root, grow, and multiply. We often find that best preparation is silence. Sitting in a supportive chair. Perhaps contemplating some story from Jesus. Silence. Allowing God to speak.

Walking in nature without Air Pods or headphones. Aware of the sounds of the season—birds, frogs, dogs, the wind, a train in the distance. In the silence of our head, we open ourselves in preparation for the planting of the Word. Or perhaps cultivating that Word already planted (maybe another contemplation from farming).

A Blessing for Today

December 4, 2024

May I live this day

Compassionate of heart,

Clear in word,

Gracious in awareness,

Courageous in thought,

Generous in love.

John O’Donohue

I posted this a year or so ago. But I needed a refresher. Bet you did, too.