Faith Venture

I caught myself about to use the explanation “of course, everybody knows.” 

I don’t know what everybody knows.

Does everybody even know all the same things?

If I am looking for justification, does “everybody knows” justify anything?

I know what I know. (I’m content.)

Except for the times I know something and don’t know that I know. (I’m asleep. Wake me up.)

Then there are the times I know that I don’t know. (I need to learn. Develop curiosity.)

Sometimes I don’t know that I don’t know. (That is dangerous. I could be spreading false ideas.)

But I don’t know what you know—until you tell me and I listen.

Did I just trap myself in that endless loop that I know so much that I know nothing?

The political situation in the US has become so divisive this century that researchers have published several books on handling conflict or having difficult conversations.

Two additional thoughts:

1. Any reading of US history reveals that this period is not unique
2. This situation exists in many (most?) areas of the world

Writing is thinking. Since I claim to be a follower of Jesus, curiosity aroused within to discover how he handled conflict. I have been researching for some time and begun writing a slender volume of examples and thoughts.

Jesus was a rabbi. This fact is uncontested in the gospels. There was both a process to become recognized as a rabbi and a culture among rabbis. Part of the culture, I believe still today, entails deep memorization of the essential texts and the ability to debate your points versus other schools of rabbinic thought.

The gospels, especially John, portray these arguments often as attacks on Jesus. Indeed, he was different from the two mainline schools thus inviting debate.

But he also faced real conflicts. Internal (confronting the devil’s temptations in the desert) and physical (the threat of stoning the woman caught in the act of adultery).

What patterns have I uncovered so far in my thinking?

1. Jesus was secure in his mission given to him by God
2. He possessed the internal strength to confront others with God’s words
3. He possessed the internal strength, courage, and appropriate calm to face physical threats with grace
4. His “emotional quotient” was such that he could find the appropriate level of response

These are qualities that we can, through practice, also acquire. And we should.

More thinking to come. 

Thoughts?

A comic strip from long ago called Pogo where the main character remarks, “The hurrieder I go, the behinder I get.”

Perhaps we find ourselves on that great gerbil wheel of life. Running faster and faster, yet going nowhere.

Sometimes being still and waiting for God’s whisper to visit us is the best medicine.

First Law—no one wants advice, especially unsolicited.

Second Law—if you feel the urge to give advice, see First Law.

My dad used to give me unsolicited advice—every six weeks when school report cards came out—for six years. I had taken some sort of standardized test in sixth grade. My parents went to visit the teacher. After that, the lectures began. Like I told a professor at the fitness center this morning, I think my IQ as measured by a test is higher than my intelligence. At any rate, the advice never took hold. I didn’t start getting good grades until my third year at university. I always have pursued learning on my own initiative unbound by curriculum.

That bit of biographical discourse began by reading this piece of wisdom:

Philosopher Baltasar Gracián on giving advice: “When you counsel someone, you should appear to be reminding him of something he had forgotten, not of the light he was unable to see.”

Doing that will require listening to and understanding the other person. And being aware of whether or not they wish to improve.

Yesterday’s post considered inconsistencies in what some of us call ourselves and what we believe.

Sometimes we need to open our eyes to see past marketing and labels media pastes on things.

Consider:

• Social media is actually anti-social
• Health foods are mostly unhealthy
• Knowledge workers are often ignorant of what’s around them
• Social sciences are not scientific
• Christians sometimes do not look like someone following Jesus (predicted by Jesus himself)
• Listeners often are not listening
• Observers often fail to see
• Protein bars are often really candy bars

When I was young, people used a phrase about some other people, “They talk big.”

Translation—these people talked about what they would do, but they actually never got around to doing anything.

Certain professions lend themselves to this behavior. Certainly politicians. Sometimes preachers. Sometimes executives. Sometimes the neighbor down the street.

When I taught kids to play defense in soccer (I think it’s about the same in basketball), I told them to watch the hips. They weren’t going anywhere without them. They may do fancy footwork. Don’t get sucked in by excess motion.

Similarly, don’t get sucked in by lots of hot air escaping from people’s lips.

Watch what people do.

Happy are those whose words and actions align—especially if they are right and moral and helpful and kind.

Just as eating cow meat doesn’t turn you into a cow, studying philosophy doesn’t make you wiser.—Nassim Nicholas Taleb

We could say the same about those people who call themselves Christian, yet for all the Scripture they can quote they could not be identified by an outsider as a follower of Jesus.

Notice those who exhibit that delicate balance of knowing and doing. And others see them and think, “I’d like some of that.”

Poet and novelist Hermann Hesse on what we all can do: “To hold our tongues when everyone is gossiping, to smile without hostility at people and institutions, to compensate for the shortage of love in the world with more love in small, private matters; to be more faithful in our work, to show greater patience, to forgo the cheap revenge obtainable from mockery and criticism: all these are things we can do.”

Hermann Hesse’s writings have influenced some of my thinking. The early 20^th Century German writer published several important books including Steppenwolf, Siddhartha, and The Glass Bead Game.

Here he summarizes several things we can all do:

• To hold our tongues when everyone is gossiping,
• To smile without hostility at people and institutions,
• To compensate for the shortage of love in the world with more love in small, private matters,
• To be more faithful in our work,
• To show greater patience,
• To forgo the cheap revenge obtainable from mockery and criticism.