Archive for the ‘Prayer’ Category

Teach Us To Pray

April 10, 2025

There was a marketing tag line for one of those gossip periodicals found in the grocery store check out queue—Inquiring minds want to know.

Well, I am blessed, or cursed, with almost infinite curiosity. Inquiring minds want to know.

Jesus’s friends had noticed how he regularly withdrew from them to be alone to pray. So they asked him, “Teach us to pray.”

Did Jesus give them a practice? No. He gave them words. Depending upon our tradition, we call these recorded words “The Lord’s Prayer” or the “Our Father.”

Of course, that is firmly in the Jewish rabbinic tradition. They were focused on words. Boys were accepted into what I call “Rabbi School” when they showed a proclivity as early as eight years of age for memorizing the Laws and the Prophets. They studied under a master Rabbi. They learned to debate the meanings of the words they had memorized.

Jesus surely went through such training. Check out the story of him at 12 in the Temple. Or the fact that everyone accepted him as a rabbi. Or that all his responses to questions except one reflected the teaching of the leading Galilean rabbi of the time. (One answer regarding divorce seemed to reflect the teaching of the more conservative Judean leading rabbi.)

So, he taught the disciples a prayer they could memorize.

I wish he had taught them his practice. Or at least, that his disciples had recorded it if he did.

I do like the prayer, though. As I pray it, I’m reminded of almost the entire gospel.

We are not alone but in the community of all God’s children (Our father). Remembering Jesus’s teaching about the Kingdom of Heaven being all around us, we recognize God as in heaven, that is, all around us, but spiritually not physically. We recognize God as being the leader/ruler/primary focus for obedience. We ask to be fed. We recognize we need to extend forgiveness as much as to ask for it for ourselves. We need help from succumbing to temptation. And it is all within God’s wishes.

But when I sit to pray, I may think of these words or the Jesus Prayer (Lord Jesus Christ have mercy on me, a sinner). But I  have a practice of time, place, posture, breathing, awareness, focus.

Frustration

March 7, 2025

Do you ever become frustrated while reading stories about Jesus?

I certainly do. For almost my entire life.

For example, they tell us that Jesus often went off by himself to pray.

Sometimes the writers tell us about what happened. Like in the wilderness when he was tempted. Did Jesus tell that story while sitting around the campfire in the evenings?

He dropped only a couple of recorded tidbits on us.

He observed two people praying at the Temple. One loud and ostentatious. The other quiet and withdrawn. He told us to be like the second one. Pray in private, humbly.

When his closest followers didn’t know what words to use, he gave them an outline that my tradition calls the Lord’s Prayer and other call the Our Father. I like that one, because it reminds me of things I need to remember.

Other traditions teach sitting and breath and focus. The Christian practice of meditation stretches all the way back to the beginning. 

But we only have about Jesus was that he withdrew to be alone. Even Paul, who had a deep spiritual experience and meditated on it for years, gave us no real instruction on the practice.

Sometimes I wish for something beyond metaphor and glimpses. Just come right out and tell us.

I guess there is a reason. Someday I will know it.

Sitting With God

February 20, 2025

I once had a favorite phrase responding to the way I saw the attitude many people had toward prayer—God as the Great Vending Machine in the Sky.

Put your prayer token in the slot; get your goodie in the slot at the bottom.

I’ve been meditating since I was maybe 17. But I am always searching for feedback for assurance I’m still on the right path. People recently recommended a new app. The leader/teacher refers to each session as a “sit.”

Then I pictured times when I may have dropped a few “prayer tokens” into the vending machine, then speeding off to my next thing to do expecting a few good things to drop out in the end.

Then I tried a different picture. Try this one on for size. See if it can fit you.

Rather than an agenda and to-do list, we just sit. We are in a comfortable posture on a chair or pillow that we can maintain for 20 minutes or so. We can have soft instrumental music or nothing in the background. We close our eyes focusing on regulating our breathing into a regular, easy pattern. We ask God to visit—which is easy because God is always around us.

Then, we just sit with God. That’s it. Just God and me. Sitting together. Sometimes God might say something to us. If we are not so busy with our own agenda, then we may hear the whisper of the spirit.

We can then gradually return to the present, refreshed and ready for whatever the day holds in store. Be assured that God has felt what is on our heart.

This daily practice can make all the difference toward our health—physical, mental, emotional, spiritual.

A Bad Meditation

January 31, 2025

The only bad meditation session is the one that didn’t happen.—Ancient Saying

Perhaps the same can be said for prayer. And contemplation.

Perhaps the three terms are closely related anyway.

Sometimes in meditation, I focus my awareness upon a certain person whom I know lies in pain or another whose circumstances cause struggle. Sometimes a bit more broadly such as those affected by wildfires, hurricanes, volcanos, earthquakes. No words are necessary. Simply stillness, breath, awareness, focus.

Sometimes I just sit with God.

Waiting.

Perhaps a whisper will visit.

Or, perhaps I am still, relaxed, yet focused on awareness.

Blaise Pascal — ‘All of humanity’s problems stem from man’s inability to sit quietly in a room alone.’

I think he captured the spirit of our time, as well as his.

Praying Reminders

December 20, 2024

My wife was raised in a Baptist church. They taught her you don’t “say” prayers. You pray from the heart.

I learned that while they may not be “saying” the Lord’s Prayer (the Our Father) they still had formulas or templates for prayers.

To me, it was a moot point.

Last night I contemplated what goes through my mind as we pray the Lord’s Prayer during church service.

I turn the center of my attention toward God.

I contemplate the meaning of the Kingdom being around me and in me.

I am thankful for that which sustains me every day—food, shelter, people.

I feel forgiveness and think of those I need to forgive.

What temptations drew my attention yesterday?

I am thankful for protection from evil temptations that arise from within.

My attention returns to center on God.

And I agree with God as God intended.

I’m sure there are times we recite the words from memory with just the comfort of ritual. As for me, I like the series of reminders of that which is important. It’s a good way to start and end a day.

Short, Jerky versus Long, Smooth

December 17, 2024

Years of teaching Yoga classes taught me to observe form. A proper form yields anticipated results. Improper form at best helps little and at worst leads to injury.

I’ve watched some people at the resistance training machines at my gym. Many move the weight in short and jerky movements. They are obtaining minimal results.

Others use long and smooth movements. They may explode up and slowly return. This movement gives the lifter maximum muscle benefit. Stretching afterward will not be required because they have already moved the muscle in its complete cycle.

Prayer life emulates these actions.

Perhaps we just have short exclamations of prayer as we remember something or see someone.

Perhaps we sit for a regular and sufficiently long period of time. That may only be 5 minutes or 15 minutes. But it could be long enough to stretch the prayer muscle.  Repetition leads to benefits of stronger prayer, better relationship with God, and even health benefits of reduced stress.

Like a Tea Bag in a Cup of Hot Water

November 21, 2024

Those of you who have followed my writing for some time know that I am an eclectic reader. I pick up ideas and wisdom from wherever I can.

Listening to an interview with Zen Master Henry Shukman on the flight to California this week. He mentioned that meditation is like dipping a tea bag into a cup of hot water. It infuses your life.

There is a rich history of Christian mediation. We also call it contemplation or prayer.

Sit for a moment or two. Let this idea of connecting with God infusing our life. How much better we would live if we let God infuse our life. Perhaps that is a part of what Jesus meant by the Kingdom of God surrounds us.

When I sit in meditation, the experience of God infusing my life is part of the whole.

(For a great book on the subject, try The Cloud of Unknowing by an anonymous 14th Century English Catholic religious.)

Prayer Mantra

November 12, 2024

The little book The Way of the Pilgrim tells the story of a Russian peasant in the 19th century who takes to heart Paul’s advice to pray without ceasing. He adopts the “Jesus Prayer” praying it constantly during his wanderings around Russia.

“Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God, have mercy on me” has formed the spiritual foundation for probably millions of spiritual seekers.

I have used it as part of my daily meditations for at least 30 years.

Musician Jon Batiste recently appeared on Tim Ferriss’s podcast. He mentioned his prayer mantra. I like this one, too. I’ve begun using it as a way to do something different in order to not be in a rut.

“Be still and know that I am God.”

It reminds me first to be still. That is so hard for us.

Next is know. Not “I think” or some other weak verb. I know.

Finally, “I am God.” The object of my knowing.

Holding On

November 6, 2024

The idea burrows through the conscious mind to the unconscious one. Sometimes we know not the source of the idea.

Ideas resonate with an emotion and stick.

Henri Nouwen wrote a little book on prayer called With Open Hands.

He thinks about how opening our hands opens us to God in prayer.

Have you ever become aware of clenched hands? You are trying to go to sleep. You realize your hands are closed into fists.

The very act of intentionally opening your hands brings immediate relaxation.

The same with our minds.

The very act of opening our minds opens our eyes to new possibilities. New ideas can bring us to a new level of awareness. 

We can leave the fixed mindsets of prejudice, opinion, bitterness, cynicism behind.

Open now to hearing Jesus’s voice calling to a better way of life.

Jesus Prayer

July 25, 2024

Lord Jesus Christ, son of God, have mercy on me.

This simple prayer formed the bedrock of meditation for Christians ever since the first century. I have found that it can be said silently (or aloud) with the rhythm of breath. It serves to regulate breathing into a slow, steady pattern.

The Apostle Paul once advised followers of Jesus to pray without ceasing. Many have used this prayer as a tool to assist in that discipline. Pause often during the day to simply remember this prayer. It helps.