Archive for the ‘Living’ Category

Do We Think Too Much

May 2, 2013

What if…?

What about…?

The guys in a small study  group I attend when I’m in town got to talking about what if? What if the crowd had not called for Jesus’ death? What if Pilate had not made a gutless decision?

I’m in other groups where people ask what about people of other cultures than their own. Will God save them?

I started to wonder–do we think too much? What if, when used in the context of stories about Jesus are pretty much just worthless mind games. Doesn’t matter. What happened–happened. Good thing, too.

Then I remembered all the stories in the Bible–both Old and New Testaments–where people from other cultures than the Hebrews contributed to the cause.

It can be all just idle speculation. Unfortunately, idle speculation sometimes leads to a line of thinking that leads to evil acts. You can talk yourself into feelings of hatred or jealousy. Too much thinking can lead to brooding. It can lead to personality disorder.

Jeff Moore, in his My Everyday Power Blog, just posted a video based on a Charlie Chaplin speech, “Let Us Fight to Free the World.” In this powerful, short speech, Chaplin states, “We think too much and feel too little.”

The word “feel” is in the sense of empathy. When we think, we become theoretical. When we feel for others, we move from theory to practice. People are not a theory. People are not a description in the “DSM” (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual, contains definitions of mental illnesses).

Thinking is a marvelous gift from God. It has helped humans make better lives. But it has also caused much suffering when diverted from its real purpose–that of improving society.

I started contemplating Jesus. I’m trying to recall any time when he was merely theoretical. Seems to me he was always in the reality of the present. He had both the standard of God and empathy for fellow humans within him.

Sometimes we think too much and feel too little. We need some of that empathy in our discussions.

Live With Intention

April 19, 2013

The word intention has recurred all week. In many conversations, people talked of praying with intention. And God sends the right people into your life.

I’ve done that. It’s amazing.

But right now, my intention is a quiet time with my granddaughter. She knows I get up early. She, in her own way for 3 years old, prays with intention that I come and get up early with my coffee and then sit and read and watch the sun rise.

You need those moments.

Mine starts off this way. Then I’m ready for business and work.

What is your intention for the day?

How Did I Get Into This Mess

March 25, 2013

Did you ever commit to something and then begin to wonder about it?

Maybe you agreed to speak to a large group. Maybe you are on a mission trip and about to go face the people. Maybe it’s a court case. Maybe a cross-country drive and the weather turns ugly.

There is a moment after the action is initiated and before the events take place where you wonder, “What did I get myself into?”

I’ve been there. Had that queasy feeling in the stomach.

We know Jesus felt that.

He told his friends that he was heading to Jerusalem for the Passover celebration. He had a feeling that bad things would happen. I think John did. Not so sure about Peter and the rest.

But Jesus, even through the celebration of the “Palm Sunday” parade into Jerusalem.

Later Jesus prayed. He had that feeling. Events had been set in motion and there was that feeling you get when you know you’ve got to carry on even though it isn’t going to be pretty.

That’s the pre-Easter feeling. We know the end of the  story for Jesus. But we still have to experience it for ourselves.

Achieving Balance in Spiritual Life

March 18, 2013
Balance requires focus and relaxation.

Balance, focus, awareness, relaxation

The idea of achieving balance in life came up several times the past few days. Our pastor spoke yesterday about how easy it is to equate busyness with doing something valuable. Someone told me that I was selected for a leadership position with our missions team. Others were talking about busy.

Balance requires focus. When I teach balance poses in Yoga (basically standing on one foot and doing something with the other one), I always begin by teaching focus. You must focus on one stable object.

The spiritual implications of this should be obvious. No matter what you are doing, you must remind yourself of your focus every day. First thing in the morning in your meditation and prayer time is best. Then organize your schedule (remember Hybels’ teaching?) to achieve the important things.

Balance requires emptying your mind. The second teaching point I give in Yoga is to empty your mind of all senseless chatter that goes on incessantly. I teach that after students try the first and discover that after a few seconds they begin to wobble and then have to drop the other foot. A quiet mind goes along with focus. Again this works for life, as well. And early morning quiet time–coupled with regular breaks for intentional breathing–help to quiet the mind.

[As an aside, “productivity gurus” advise working in 90 minute bursts followed by a break to refresh and renew. A few minutes of deep breathing, concentrating on your breath, letting the mind relax, all work toward spiritual and mental refreshment. You can do this sitting, walking, or laying down.]

Balance requires relaxation. This may seem paradoxical. But once you have achieved, say Tree Pose (pictured), you are focusing, clearing the mind, then relax your shoulders. Clear the tension. Settle in.

TS Eliot talked about the “still point” in his poem Burnt Norton. Follow these three steps to reach toward the still point where you find balance in your life.

Show Your Works Are Done With Wisdom

February 28, 2013
Moses representing Wisdom.

Rays of light, symbolically represented as horns on the head of Moses (Michelangelo), can be a graphic symbol of Wisdom.

“Who is wise and understanding among you? Show by your good life that your works are done with gentleness born of wisdom.”

James is known as a writer in the “Wisdom Tradition,” much like Solomon to whom is attributed much of the book of Proverbs. When I read this verse (chapter 3, verse 13), I thought, so what is wisdom?

Did you ever read a word 1,000 times and then stop and ask, “Just what do they mean by that?”

So, I looked it up in Wikipedia. Here are some things I learned. “Wisdom is the judicious application of knowledge.” I first have to know something. But knowing isn’t enough. I have to apply that knowledge somewhere in my life. Shoot, here we go with the parts of speech again. We start out with a noun (a thing) and then move to a verb (something we do). Kind of like when I just wrote about love as an action verb, wisdom also leads to action.

What!? We can’t just sit around being wise?

Wikipedia continues, “It is a deep understanding and realization of people, things, events or situations, resulting in the ability to apply perceptions, judgments and actions in keeping with this understanding. It often requires control of one’s emotional reactions (the “passions”) so that universal principles, reason and knowledge prevail to determine one’s actions. Wisdom is also the comprehension of what is true coupled with optimum judgment as to action.”

Sounds a lot like James. He asks, “Are you wise?” I bet that could be a trick question. I can imagine him in a gathering of Christians asking that question. And someone raises their hand and says, “Oooh, Oooh, I am.” You know that kid from school.

Then James says, “Good. But don’t tell me. Show me.” It’s not enough to be wise, you must show it. Doesn’t that sound like the entire Gospel? It’s not enough to know, you have to do.

Endings and Beginnings

February 14, 2013

Some things come to an end. Some things begin.

I was at the United Club at Washington Dulles airport Monday when I glanced at the TV and saw the “breaking news” that Pope Benedict XVI was resigning. That is a revolutionary move for the Roman Catholic Church–and a bold move. But it is also honest. Some corporations require CEOs to retire at 65, thinking that above that a person is too old for the rigors of travel and decision-making required by the position. Benedict is 85. He has huge responsibilities. Hanging on when the body says it’s time to stop just for the sake of tradition seems heartless and selfish.

I am not Catholic, but over the years I have had many interfaces with the church. One year I taught in a Catholic school (English and history to 7th graders), attended Mass with the class twice a week, actually got to play guitar to accompany a Mass once. It was a great experience.

Benedict has a tremendous mind. He is a great theologian. If you want to read something to begin to understand Jesus, read “Jesus of Nazereth” (published when he was Joseph Ratzinger). That is a book that has greatly influenced me.

Henry Cloud’s recent book is “Necessary Endings.” I’ve taken that book to heart, too. Ended one professional relationship so that I could move on to another growth curve personally. Feels great.

Maybe there is something that you need to end–in order to create a new beginning. Maybe a destructive or unproductive habit. Maybe a career. Maybe a relationship.

A traditional Catholic told me this week, “But the Pope is ‘God on Earth.’ How can he just stop?” Since I’m not in the tradition, I have no answer. But I think the so-called conservative (how he was described in popular media when he was elected) proved to be pretty revolutionary. I have all the respect I can muster for him.

Story of Ending Domestic Violence

January 28, 2013

In this TED Talk, Leslie Morgan Steiner describes what it’s like to be in an abusive relationship and how she ended it. Share this with anyone you think may be in such a relationship, or who may know someone who is in such a relationship. Obviously, it will be hard for someone to become close to God while living in such circumstances.

Leslie Morgan Steiner, Why Domestic Violence Victims Don’t Leave

Causes Have Effects On Our Lives

January 25, 2013

Paul wrote in his letter to the Romans, “The wages of sin is death.”

When I hear that, my mind pictures one of those hardhearted, judgmental types of people who aggressively invade your space and tell you you’re going to Hell.

Actually, I think he was trying to say that “what we sow, therefore shall we reap.” Jesus taught also about causes and effects in our lives.

We could call it the eventual burning in Hell with images evoked from Dante or Renaissance paintings. Better to think of it as the hell we live in if we don’t pay attention to causes and effects.

In America, many writers are exploring the increasing income divide  between rich and middle class-to-poor people. I wish to discuss neither economics or politics. Rather, I recently saw a talk where a graph was displayed showing the correlation of the decline of marriage and growth of economic inequality.

The decline of stable marriages with two partners pulling together has had disastrous effect on the quality of many lives. Life becomes a struggle, which you have to face alone–or with children mixed in a family where each have different parents. Years of political and economic policies along with business decisions to drive down wages makes it mandatory to have two incomes to live a middle class lives. Saw this coming in the late 80s. Now we have it full on.

I remember still being a rebellious adolescent. “You’re not going to tell me what to do. I don’t need those conservative structures.”

It’s not about conservative or liberal. We grow and observe with increased clarity. What  we sow, so shall we reap. Some confuse freedom–much like the so-called prodigal son. He squandered his inheritance–in the Greek his essence, his very being.

Responsibility, marriage, commitment. These are not conservative words. They are not slavery words. They are growth words. Only from a strong foundation can we grow into the peace of Christ. I think that this is a Spiritual practice that helps us toward ultimate freedom of a with-God life.

Knowledge and Experience

December 3, 2012

First a note. Last week I was at a large manufacturing trade show in Nuremberg, Germany. It was one of those weeks where I put in 18 hour days and had little time to think–or write. So my three blogs all suffered. Getting a good WiFi connection was a further hindrance.

Events this weekend started me thinking about knowledge and experience.

We study things–say the Bible–and put stuff in our heads. Perhaps we align with the dominant Christian theology that won in 325 AD (or CE if you’re a modern historian), where the definition of who is a Christian is one who agrees with a set of statements called a doctrine.

An example. I have some training in sports first aid, first aid, cpr and the Heimlich (used on choking victims). With a long career in coaching and refereeing soccer, I have a lot of experience observing many types of injuries on the soccer pitch and know what to do and what not to do.

Until Friday though, I had never been in a life and death situation where some of my training would have paid off. I arrived home late Thursday night from Germany. I had a dinner engagement on Friday evening. While at dinner, I witnessed a choking incident. Except that it didn’t look like one in the first 30 seconds or so.

Another man came by and thought the same thing for a few seconds, but he had experience and decided that there were enough symptoms based on experience plus knowledge to apply the Heimlich maneuver and save a life.

We are in a constant situation to save our lives. We know about grace. We know in our minds how Jesus and other teachers in the Bible taught us how to live. After all, most of the teaching we find there is about how to live–now.

But, do we have the experience to actually do the right thing?

Life is about being aware of our experience and our knowledge and then making the right decision when faced with a situation so that we remain aligned with God. It takes both experience and knowledge to grow into the life-with-God.

With God I Can Be Content In All Things

November 19, 2012

Discontent. How it can pollute our lives. And the lives of those close to us.

Paul says in Philippians that he has learned to be content in all things. The writer of the Letter to the Hebrews says also to not put your faith in money, but to be content.

Some people seem to be discontented due to some sort of feelings of inadequacy. They think the world owes them, but that they do not necessarily need to earn whatever it is that will make them content–possessions, respect, position. Some people seem to feel they have to “win” at all things. They can never be content until they have won it all and done the little victory dance.

I know both the passive-aggressive types and the active-aggressive types. Bet you do, too. Neither ever seems to have enough to be content.

Contentment comes from stepping back from your daily urgencies and seeing the big picture. Where do we all fit? Where is God in all this?

My career has been in business. Supposedly, the ultimate goal in business is to make as much profit as possible. That’s winning. I’ve been there. I remember one place where I worked. Marketing a consumer electronic product. Seemed like a cool idea for a product when I accepted the position. Very small company, but lots of politics. Several discontented souls.

One day at a trade show–Comdex, once the largest electronics show–I was contemplating on the fact that we were not generating much interest. In the moment, I could see the landscape of PC development, how we were now “old” technology even though it was less than two years old, and how all this fit in the overall scheme of life.

By stepping back and asking God for perspective, I could see where it was all going. I no longer cared about the politics. In the long run, we were doomed.

I’ve seen that twice since. Same scenari0.

By being able to step back and observe even myself dispassionately, I could glimpse God’s perspective on life. I could become content with what I had, with what I had been given.

I have seen that swirl of discontent in companies and in churches many times repeated.  More than 30 years ago I learned to just quietly keep on the path with God.

And I pray that all those people who just can’t seem to find contentment would listen to Paul, live like Jesus, and let God help you find contentment and peace within your life.